Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
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ok, well i really care about someone and have strong feelings for them. I feel like I don't want anyone in the world but him. We dont really talk much, alls i can say to him is "hi" and he'll say "hi" back. He knows i like him but he doesnt like me. I really want to talk to him, but i'm scared mostly of what he'll say back. what should i do? (link)
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Well if he doesn't like you and you want to talk to him, what do you have to lose? Think about it, most guys aren't completely insensitive, you both could start conversation. What's the worst thing he could say if he's not an insensitive jerk? It's hard to cut off good conversation. Heck, maybe if you flirt a little you could actually get him to like you, cuz most guys don't like girls cuz either they don't know them, or they are mean to each other. You don't seem mean, so go talk to him. Best of luck!
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im sitting her bawling. heres the story, ok well my friend (matt) was talking to my friend (susie) and they were both talking to me too, ok well susie ims me and shes like matt just said im pretty lol. then i say to matt you think susies pretty and it was all like a joke and everything but susie got mad b.c i told him and all this stuff, so i apoligize 43 times (literally) and she dosnet even talk to me i know it might seem like it is my fault but u have to kno my friend, she stabs me in the back alot and this one little thing didnt even matter i think she just wanted to get mad or something so im like begging for her 4giveness and ive never even like been mad at her or showed me being mad b.c i value my "friends" and i dont like confrontantions...well eventually she forgave me but acted like it was a privilagge or something but now i just feel so small and used like i should have stood up for myslelf, i dont really have a ? i guess i just need some guidance or soemthing
thank you (link)
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Let me tell you now girl, she is not your friend if she thinks it's some kind of privilage to be forgiven by her! Who does she think she is anyways? Ditch her. She isn't worth wasting your time on, espesially if she gets mad at you for every little thing.
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ohkay i have been friends with this guy for a longg time like since i was in 3rd grade. (im in 7th now) i was in love with him ni 3rd 4th and 5th grade and we went out (lol) but then we broke up. after that i never had feelings for him but we were just really good bestfriends. now it is summer 05 and we hang out constantly (as friends) but im having feelings for him and i dont know what to do.. please help i rate 5 all the time!
-confused girl- (link)
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You went out, and you broke up. Why go back unless you know you will be together forever, (otherwise there is no point in dating, right?)My advice would be not to go back. It may make the guy feel uncomfortable since now you are friends, and you went out before. Unless you know things will work out, i wouldn't advise you to go back.
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i just found out my bf is gay! i don't have anything against gays but i mean... it's my BOYFRIEND! what should i tell him and how should i react. this is really hard for me!
please help!
I rate high (link)
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You should dump him if he has been hiding his sexuality for this long. If he just realized this, forgive him, but find a straight boyfriend. Try not to be weirded out by him because he's gay, just make sure you are both comfortable talking to each other.
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i think im under weight by a lot. Im 4"7 1/2 and im only 67 pounds!! Is this under weight? What it normal weight for me?
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Yea, you are severly underweight. The bmi chart I'm looking at says an ideal weight for you would be beetween 80 lbs and 100 pounds.
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ok well i kinda like this guy but mi like best friend likes him also so i dont no wat 2 do? should i tell her? or just act normal and say nuthin? not really sure wat 2 do (link)
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Don't tell her. Just snatch him. If he is single and all you both do is look at him from afar, remember, HE IS NOT TIED DOWN! Nobody is stopping you from having him, and if your bff h8's you for it, she wasn't your friend cuz she should be happy if you get the guy you like.
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okay I had a plant and it was growing real good then my cat that is allowed to go out side knocked over the whole pot and now my flowers are gone what should I do and saying not to let the cat out is not a option because we have a dog door and I am really disapointed what should I do (link)
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Buy a new plant and put your cat in a corner for 5 minutes as disipline. Without toys because cats are usually solitary creatures, so take away the toys and keep the dog near as severe punishment if it does that with a new plant.
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ok..if this is the second time i wrote this sry. it says i didnt ask a question and i need some advice. well i am 14 years old and there is this guy. we have been talking for about a month and a half now. he tells me he loves me and we almost had sex. everyone always asks me if we go out, i never know what to tell them so then i just asked him what were we?..were we just talkin or do we go out?..and he said we are just talking. i mean i like u but i want to talk to other girls.
should i keep talkin to him to see if things get better. or shut him outta my life? i just dont wanna get hurt. yah kno? (link)
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He doesn't like to be tied down, yet you almost had sex? Let me tell you girl, shut him out! All he wants is to be friends with benifits, and it seems like your not the only one. Trust me, you WOULD get hurt if u continued to go with this guy.
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ok..so there was this girl and she was like my best friend all thro 8th grade...then my b/f broke up with me and she went out with him a DAY later. how horrible is that?! well..he is so mean to her and he talks so bad about me and my other friends..but she wont stick up for us..AT ALL! she sits there and laughs about it. she said she was sorry and i was like.ok..and i have forgiven her and everything but now its like evrything she does gets on my nerves i cant stand this girl. and its hard because she still thinks we are best friends and i dont know how to just tell her..Hey girl..we arent friends...i thought it would be easier to forgive her but it keeps getting harder cause she is like the fakest person in the world. idk what i should do because now we are in a huge fight and she is making it seem like its MYYY fault.and ignoring her doest work because she is good friends with another one of my best friends so its like everywhere i go with my friends she is there too..ughhh please help! (link)
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She is not your friend. I would ditch her. Tjat had to bea huge violation about what friendship is suppost to be like.
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how come like in the middle of a kiss guys like to bite your lip a lil?..sorry if its a weird question. but please answer.thanks (link)
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The simplified answer would probably be because they think you're hot. I would take it as a complement!
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omg i like him a lot! i just wanna ask him out! okay well lets start from the beginning-this kid moved to town and i hung out with him cuz he lived across the st from my best friend..and we talked and laughed and joked and flirted and i told him i liked him but he said he was confused cuz he liked a girl from where he used to live but then he told me he would possibly go out with me in the future? do i believe that or is that something hes saying so he doesnt have to put me down and be mean and i jsut wanna ask him out but i dont want him to just be like no! what do i say to him to let him know that i like him a lot and i care for him and i wanna be his girlfriend!! (link)
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It's not about saying you like him, its more of acting like you like him. Either you can be innocent-basically avoiding boys, and whenever you do talk to them, flirt in an innocent way, as if you really don't want him, cuz guy love what they can't have. Next you can just go for it- talk to him often, and flirt like you really want him. Then you can play damsel in distress, and drop your books in front of him, trip over his feet, then start a converstion. Finally, the best way to get a guy is to be yourself, yet you have to ignition you like him, by flirting on ocasion. Flirt heavily. The second you leave the room you have to drag his heart behind you if you really want to leave dramatic affect. Trust me, this should work, unless you have pretend in the past to disliking him.
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does Fructis Long and Strong Shampoo really work to grow hair longer? any expeiriences? Thanks for any advice (link)
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People say all these things make your hair grow, but nothing can make your hair grow apparently. I in fact have been trying to grow my hair out, but the sad truth is that hair growth starts at the base of the hair follicle, wich is under the scalp. All the hair outside the scalp is dead. Anything applied to it won't help because its dead.
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Is it possible to be drinking too much water??? (link)
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Yes. If you drink too much water, you dilute your bloodstream and you become anemic, even though you have the same amount of blood. So your complection will go fair and you could die if you don't take iron- what produces red blood cells.
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hey kidss----
so theres these kids, theyre my really good friends, && they know im REALLY concious about my weight, && one day i walked in on thier convo && they were like, "i" really put on the weight && looked like i was a big round ball. i really hate getting called fat, but i think my weight is a little more than normal, but i just dont know where to see if its normal or very heavy...im 5'5, && i weigh 109lbs
thankss muchlyy
mucho luvo!
-------me (link)
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I'm 5'3, and I weigh 127 pounds, and the bmi charts still say I'm normal weight. In fact, you need to GAIN weight. I'm looking at mi bmi chart and you are underweight. You need to gain a few pounds before you are in the normal zone. Ignore your friends. I'm a doctors child and I'm telling you that you need to gain weight.
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how do i get a boy to notice me? (link)
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There are a couple ways to get a guy to like you. Either you can be innocent-basically avoiding boys, and whenever you do talk to them, flirt in an innocent way, as if you really don't want him, cuz guy love what they can't have. Next you can just go for it- talk to him often, and flirt like you really want him. Then you can play damsel in distress, and drop your books in front of him, trip over his feet, then start a converstion. Finally, the best way to get a guy is to be yourself, yet you have to ignition you like him, by flirting on ocasion. Flirt heavily. The second you leave the room you have to drag his heart behind you if you really want to leave dramatic affect. Trust me, this should work, unless you have pretend in the past to disliking him.
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Hi um...evertime my period stops i always have this goey white stuff come out of my vagina i dont kno if it is normal or if i should tell a docter. (link)
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Trust me, its normal. my dads a doctor and its normal. its the vaginas way to lubricate, and its way to self clan itself. if u have doubts, go to a gynecologist
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Ok, there is this one guy that I know likes me. But I don't like him. We are really really good friends. How can I tell him I don't like him without hurting him? (link)
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Same thing happened to me last skool year. let things run its course. if he aproches you, you HAVE TO let him down. make sure he gets the point that you don't like him. but dont be so harsh, or to final, by saying things like, " i will never like youu" or " dont talk to me i dont like u" or "leave me alone for good," because if you find yourself falling for him, theres no turning back.
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ok one of my friends ( well i thout she was my freind=( ) but she was my best friend 4 3 years and we never got in a fight and she got too be friends with another grl and we just sarted fighting i started doing drugs and now i cant stop and i have bin going throw so much right now and i just need too talk too her what should i do?? (link)
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Do exactly what you said.Talk to her. Tell herwhy you feel the way you do. Maybe your jealous,or you feel that you lost a friend. So talk to her.And another tip,DRUGS KILL. DONT KILL YOURSELF BEFORE YOU EVEN FINISH KILLING THE FRIENDSHIP.YOULL DO EXACTLY THAT BY DOING DRUGS.
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I have 6 tickets(10th row)to the Jingle Ball and i don't know what friends to invite!! i have 3 more tickets to give out to my friends cuz we are all gunna go together but im having a problem deciding who to bring...the people that im undecided with kinda leave me out sumtimes or i've just grown apart a little from them..i've made new friends but i don't know them as much as i know my other friends...and my friends would probably get mad at me if i didnt bring them...:-/ wut should i do??how do i know which ones to bring and which ones not to bring??sorry its sooo long! please help...xo! (link)
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Bring you new friends along because its a great opportunity to get to know them better.If your other friends get mad,try to talk to them and tell them why you brought your new friends instead of them.
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I have a few questions about getting shiney hair.
1. Does icy cold water really help make your hair shiney?
2. Are there any other techniques that help make your hair shiney?
3. What are some good products?
Thanks..I rate high! (link)
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There is one old way to make hair shiney. Vinegar. Put the vinegar in your hair,cover it with a shower cap,leave in for 5 min,take off shower cap,wash hair with Pantene,Condition with conditioner from Pantene,comb hair,and blind people with your shiny strands.The vinegar wont make your head stink:)
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