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Ok well i reallly like flats and well i want a couple more of them but i don't know where i can buy them besides hottopic and journeys can you please give me a link or a place to go to get flats.



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try lord and taylor or bloomingdales. steve madden and nine west have a great selection. hope i helped!


i have EXTREMELY curly/frizzy hair and i can't find any straighteners that will work in it. Can anyone tell me any good ones (money is not a problem) (link)
imdont have a specific name, which i apologize for. but sephora generally carries great straighteners, as do bliss online. hope i helped!


anyone know where i can find some really cute, casual sundresses? nothing too fancy, just cute ones i can wear out with friends for a girls' night or at the beach and whatnot. and nothing expensive- just maybe $20-30? and preferably in a store- i want it by friday and ordering from the 'net doesn't get here in time. thanks (: (link)
try a store like forever 21, wet seal, h&m, or a vintage shop. h&m has especially cute sundresses, and are inexpensive, as are the other stores. hope i helped!


I want to know if this will work. I'm gonna wear these really cute ae jeans and they do look cute but the problem is they look slightly baggy and baggy is really a big turnoff in fashion but they ARE cute. I don't know what to do (link)
you can wear them. pair the jeans with some cute patterned ballet flats and a fitted polo. itll look great, as long as you have confidence in them. hope i helped!


Yeah this dick head made me and my best friend theme songs. she put them in her profile but spelled my name wrong. do u think i shud kill her like fast and in a public place? or shud i kidnap her and torture her for a while before i do it. IT'S SPELLED STEPHEN YOU ASSCLOWN! tickle my BALLLLLLLLLS with a toilet brushhhhhhh! (link)
well this is a tricky one lol...i think that you should consult this girl nicely about the situation and she would probably kindly go onto her profile to change it. then everyone can be happy
:-)



At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook? (link)
hey

in 7th grade, when i was 13 - 14 years old, i began not caring so much about the lesser things in life. i think you are wrong about people following fashions, because although people may wear abercrombie & such, they might just like wearing it for themselves, not cause everyone else wears it to be cool... & it also depends on the teenager. i'm not sure what i want to be when i grow up yet, but i do know that i have my own opinions about everything and don't just go along with what everyone else says or thinks.


1.can someone explain to me how it works?


2. & give me the website i can download it from?

3. do you reccomend it? (link)
hey

1.) you go into the side search bar & search for a song, artist, etc. and a new window pops up in limewire listing everything you found (sorta like google) and you click and download the one you want.

2.) www.limewire.com
http://www.download.com/3120-20_4-0.html?tg=dl-20&qt=limewire&tag=srch

3.) yes. i haven't found anything better than limewire. it's not illegal like some rumors say - only if you share files.

in response to feedback:
limewire is free.
http://www.download.com/LimeWire/3000-2166_4-10552048.html?tag=lst-0-2


okkay so i understand how guys like jack off...but how do girls do it?? (link)
hey

girls masturbate by either fingering their clitoral area (clit) on their vagina or by putting like, an electric toothbrush there or dildoing themselves, etc.

here is a website that really helps clear up questions like yours:

http://www.solotouch.com/contri.php?t=t&mo=200705&cat=13

http://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+females+masturbate&start=0&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official


I love my boyfriend to death and we've been together for a really long time but how do i know if he really loves me? But he never calls me back but tell's everyone how much he loves me? (link)
hey

maybe he doesn't realize that he doesn't call you back & is giving you hints that he doesn't truly love you! the only way you can know for sure is to talk to him about it. find him on a quiet night and say something like, "hey, baby, are we cool? i've noticed that you don't seem to return my calls very much anymore." don't say "you never call me back anymore!" you don't want to attack him.

if he tells everyone he loves you, he is probably very proud of the fact that you guys are together and truly does love you.

he might just be busy & unable to do the things he used to do, like buy you random gifts & reply to your messages. he is probably not doing it purposely, cause if he really didn't like you anymore, he wouldn't be telling everyone he 'loves' you.


hey i just wanted to ask and see about obortions my girl is pregnet and i dont know what to do and everyone said that it will be expencive but she dont want it eather what to do? (link)
hey

it depends. can you & her take care of the baby financially & physically? a baby is a LOT of work, and even adults call over their family members like mothers & sisters to help take care of a new born baby. if you feel that you can raise the baby, raise him or her.

however, if you cannot support the baby, either give it up for adoption so that you don't feel like you are "murdering" the baby, or have an abortion to do what's best for the baby. why raise a child that is depressed and not able to get education, food, and housing? do what's best for your kid.

if she doesn't want an abortion, there's always the possibility, as i stated above, of giving the baby up for adoption. that way, you and her can always visit the baby, and know he / she is alive and cared for properly without feeling guilty.

it will be more expensive and stressful to raise a child properly than to pay for an abortion. taking into consideration clothes, food, education & extraneous things like accessories & toys.



When i go pee it smells really bad , could this be because ive been eating alot of sugar?

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hey

it probably means you have drunk.. drinken... drank? a lot of random drinks in the last 24 or so hours. if you don't want your pee to smell bad, make sure you eat healthy and drink at least 64 oz of water a day to clean out your system. yes, sugar can cause your pee to smell bad. just make sure you drink water to clean our your system :] you should drink water anyway whether or not your urine is stinky cause water, as i accidentally stated several times, cause it cleans out your intestines & such. soda can also cause urine to smell bad.


What does the abbreviation lol stands for. I konw it's used after something funny, but notsure the actually meaning. Ur hint will be appreciated. (link)
hey

L O L means "laugh out loud." when someone says something funny, people say "lol" but i find that saying lol is stupid. so i just say hahaha.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=lol


Hya i jus want to no..is it ment to hurt when you get fingered ? Thanks =) (link)
hey

no. when you get fingered, you're supposed to feel pleasure. however, if pain is how you GET pleasure, then i suppose it's all right. if you get fingered and it hurts, he might be doing it too hard and you should tell him to calm down and not do it so hard. if you're fingering yourself, then it's okay - but if it's someone else, you should tell them to calm down.

it's like a handjob - if a handjob hurts, it kinda defeats the purpose of getting one cause handjobs are supposed to cause PLEASURE.


HOw do I use gmail to chat? I dont even know how to get to gmail IM, if there is anything like that. Cheers! (link)
hey

well it's kinda weird... gtalk [ which is what it's called ] can be accessed through a buddy list like on AIM or via email. this is what you have to do if you want the buddy list, which is what i prefer:

http://www.google.com/talk/

you can always access it from your google email too, but i never really understood google email, so i just use gtalk for the IM service.


I've liked this guy for a long time (I'll call him John) and my best guy friend I will call Bob. Bob and I used to be really close, we would tell each other everything. He liked me for a long time, a few years, and then told everyone he got over me. I never had feelings for him.
I told Bob that I really liked John. John and Bob were good friends. But Bob claimed that John was just a "funny guy" so he doesnt really like him, he just liked to laugh at him.
Anyway recently John asked me out =] and I said yes, I've been so happy I can't contain it. And a week or so ago Bob said he was done being friends with our group of friends. He ignored all of us but now he's only ignoring me. I'm not really making an attempt to talk to him because he was getting on my nerves a lot before.
Now if he hangs out with us he always gets drunk first then just sits off to the side listening to his ipod.
My good girl friend Liz talked to him and told me that the reason he has been drinking is because he hates seeing John and I together.
I think it's totally selfish and over dramatic. If he was such a good friend why cant he at least try to be happy for me? I've never been this happy before. Why is it all about Bob being so upset? It's not like if I wasnt with John I would be with Bob. I doubt I will ever like Bob.
John is absolutely worth it. Bob said he was done being friends with all of us a week or so before John asked me out. Since when he said that I have been mad at Bob. I really think John did nothing wrong. Bob said he was over me but then he gets all upset that I'm with John. It's not fair that I should have to feel guilty for something I'm really happy about.
What am I supposed to do? I feel bad but at the same time I don't mind not having Bob around and I'm really enjoying being with John. I don't think Bob is being fair. What do I do?? (link)
hey

i totally understand everything you said. but bob DID like you and the fact that you and john started going out must have really broken his heart, and that's why he's being so mean & "selfish." but imagine if you really liked john, but john liked another girl, haley, and john was so happy with haley. you would be jealous too.

so don't go telling everyone that you're mad at bob because honestly, bob has every right be mad, although he shouldn't be so immature. i completely understand his position, and sympathize with him.

however, just ignore him if he's being a jackass. i know you and him were really really good friends, but you're perfectly happy with john and that's all that matters. if you truly doubt that you will never like bob, ever, then just screw it. be nice to him, like if he says hi say hi, but just keep your space. try to look at it from his perspective.

i'm honestly quite surprised that john isn't being really mean to bob because john has you and bob doesnt. john is being quite mature, but i don't think either of you should be mad at him cause that's not helping the situation at all.

don't even bother trying to talk to bob - if he really really wanted to be friends with you, he would talk to you and such but if you try to talk to him, what would be the point? you know why he's mad, and there's nothing you can do or anyone for that matter because you're with john and john and you are perfectly happy.

just let it go. but be open to bob if he ever wants to be friends again & regrets what he did. okay? cause if john liked haley [random person] you would be really mad at john and ESPECIALLY haley and try to be like haley cause john likes haley so much. well if you get over john one day and haley is out of his life, you might consider becoming friends with john again.


now wat if dis dude asked you out rite? and so, you said yea, and den you told one of ya friends, and she told lyk 5 otha dudes who'll proly tell sum more ppl, and now you THINK dat if he f0und out dat sum people kn0 den h3'll get mad. wat would you d0? (link)
hey

well, if he asked you out, he took the risk of other people finding out. so um, no he shouldn't really be mad but i guess he CAN be if he really wanted to. if he's so self-concious of people finding out that he asked you out, then he shouldn't have asked you out in the first place, & probably isn't worth your time if he is embarassed.


14/f

my cycle has been regular for a long time, but i have issues with tampons. Every time I try to put one in (i'm inserting it correctly) and i get to the point where you have to start pushing the applicator in with your index finger, it will go in like 2/3 of the way and then there are about 3 centimeters of it that i can't push inside the tube and it feels like it's poking against the end of my vagina and it hurts really badly, then i just have to leave it where it is and pull the applicator out.


Is this my hymen? Because I do insertive masturbation a lot so I thought it was already broken. Or is it just that i have a short vagina? (link)
hey

okay the girl under me & keosha are really really wrong. it may very well be your hymen which is not yet broken. & i mean you can use whatever type of tampon you like, but playtex slimfits for the first time are really nice. tampax tampons hurt really bad, even for someone like me who has had her period for like three years and has tried lots of different types. tampax tampons are like square, and vagina's aren't square... so they really hurt, and i can always them inside of me. i def. suggest playtex. however, if you feel that it is already broken, you probably need to insert the tampon at a certain angle because otherwise, it will hit your vaginal walls and that is what causes it to really hurt. tampons do not hurt if used correctly. so, just try moving the tampon in a 360 degree motion until you feel it slide in easily. if it never happens, just push it in and break your hymen cause otherwise, you'll never be able to use tampons cause it will hurt too much. sweetie, there's no such thing as a short vagina cause honestly, the tampon can go way deep into your body - but it eventually stops when the plastic applicator stops. make sure you spread your legs REALLY far so it's nice and open & easier to insert. check out this website.

http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/azhealthtopics/ht/How_Insert_Tamp.htm

also- try using playtex tampons & NOT tampax! (as i stated beforee)


yesterday all i ate was a bowl of cereal, a little rice, and like 4 apples and 1 grapefruit. i really like fruits and sometimes thats all ill eat all day. is that bad? like will something bad happen to me if i keep doing this? (link)
hey

no, it's not bad because fruits have lots of vitamins and minerals, and they're really good for you. however, you may be lacking meats & protein in your diet if you continue to eat fruits constantly. maybe try having like a grilled chicken with sliced fruit so you get some more of the food pyramid in. anyway, fruits are really good for you, but just make sure you get the other food groups as well :]


what is the number one way you can tell if a girl likes you(besides hearing it from her friends because they can lie) like visual, body action, stuff like that. question would probobly be better answered by the ladies: what do you do to come on to a guy and show him you like him without saying it. this way i can look for those signs in her. 14 M btw (link)
heyy

okay, definitely eye contact for myself specifically. other girls might be different, but making eye contact is the first way i like get his attention. then i might like talk stupid stuff like, "can i borrow a pencil?" or even like smile at him and just light talk. if i really really like him i ask him for his sn and then things really go off from there... look for major flirting tips, like this:

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_find_out_if_a_girl_really_likes_you

http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-if-a-Girl-Likes-You

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Tell-If-A-Girl-Likes-You&id=395432

good luck ;]


Ok well Im getting my first car and I really really wanted a mustang and my parents said they would buy me one. But I got to thinking and I live in NY which equals a looot of snow and winter, and of course mustangs are pretty much useless in snow. So, now I'm thinking of getting an SUV. Does anyone know any cute, sporty, small, relatively cheap SUV's?

Or should I just stick with the Mustang? (link)
toyota rav4, suzuki XL7, honda CRV, isuzu axiom, land rover LR3, ford escape, saturn vue. go with those. you'll find something good.




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