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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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ok my dad tells me i have extra muscle on my calves, im average size as in about...114 pounds and im 5' 1" well, theyre lower and bigger than normal calves.... how can i get them higher n thinner?

I think you're normal. Just run a bit.

one of my best friends, who also happens to be the guy i like is going out with another . Me and his friend don't really get along, and we don't really like each other. He decided to stay with her and he just stopped talking to me. we used to talk everyday, but now we don't talk at all. is he right to chose her over me?

No, it's not right of him to ignore you for someone else. You've been there, and probably always will be. Talk to him about it & tell him how you feel. If he's really your friend, he'll take what you have to say into consideration.

How long do handjobs usually last? does anyone have any good websites that help you learn how to give a good one? thank you.

It depends on the guy. Some last for minutes, some for seconds. You usually stop when the guy cums.

beauty tips porfavor =]
on anything.

- Wash your face everyday.
- Don't cake your makeup on.
- Wash your hair every other day.
- Avoid straightening/blowdrying it a lot because it'll damage your hair.
- Get your hair trimmed maybe every month-2 months.

And that's all I know.

bigger boobs. thats what i want. im pretty flat and i know that im kinda pretty right now but i just need some .. boobs.
okay i know like pretty much all the tricks but like.. idk if i can do any.. like does any one wear two bras to make there boobs bigger.. like on this site? and umm well i would never get a boob job... im 13 haha. =] (im a 30 A) and uhhh. yeah. just tell me a WHOLE BUNCH of ideas even tho i know alot already =] thankss.

There's only one trick I know of: wear a sports bra to sleep. It gives your boobs room to grow & expand, where as a underwire bra does not.

But basically, just wait it out. You're only 13 years old, and you've got plenty of time to grow. =)

which on do you like better. (just so i know) list them in order .. the first being the one you like the most
-thongs
-bikini underwear
-boy shorts

For me? In this order:

- boy shorts.
- bikini.
- thongs.

when u shave..down there...do most people shave the lips of their vagina or what..and if so..how? i've always been afraid i'd cut myself rly bad

Yeah, haha. Why shave one part but not the rest? When you shave that part, just go slow & steady so you don't get cut. =)

my dad says im going thro a growth spurt because im sleeping so much. do you think that might be it?
i mean like im already really tall and have long legs but peopl are sayign that im taller and stuff so yeah. and umm.. =] yeah. i havent been eating all that much tho. so idk. =[
could someone tell me like.. what are some signs of growth spurts... thanksss.

I've never heard of someone grow because of sleeping habits. I've heard of growing because of eating healthy.

You usually grow throughout puberty, so you're still in puberty. Completely normal.

I live in las vegas and my boyfriend lives in henderson which is about 30 minutes away without traffic.
i'm only 14 so i can't get a license or even a permit yet to drive.
my boyfriend is 16 but he doesn't drive or didn't get his license yet either
I'm not really busy or anything so I can see him everyday if I could.
since its 25 miles away I don't want to take the bus or walk down there.
I can't really find a ride and we always want to see eachother
to be honest I don't really know what question I'm asking i just need advice on anyway to see him but i pretty much already told you i can't find a ride but if you have anything to say even though this might be pointless then say it please
haha thanks :]

I would say the bus is a better idea. You're getting there safe with only a small fee.

alright so i want to give myself a make over.
i got my eyebrows waxed. i gave myself a pedicure and manicure. i went to target and got facail masks. and now i dont know what else to do. im thinking about tanning beds because im really really pale and like. i look SOO much better when im tan. i never went tanning before... in a tanning bed ha. dont even suggest dying my hair because its not ganna happen. haha =] serousily tho. ha. ummm... i dont really know anything else to do. like my make up i like the natural look.. my clothes. there like hollister type of clothing. i just want to look diffrent over this week.
please any advice or tips tell me.
anything it doesnt matter. like anything from info about tanning beds to diffrent types of masks or beauty tips. =]
please&&thankyou.

I've actually never been tanning, because I'm naturally tan, so I don't need it, but that's something you could ask LadyH about. All I know about it, is that you go naked & it doesn't lock.

As for makeup, natural is better, so you're fine there. I honestly like making my eyes stand out though. So the only makeup I really use is eyeliner & mascara.

As for your clothes & stuff, you're doing well because the stores you shop at are good. Just make sure you don't look sloppy in your appearance, and have some cute accessories.

As for you hair, don't dye it, but maybe get a new style. =)

im think about going clothes shopping there. i know thats weird because i shop at like hollister and stuff but some of there things are cheaper and like.. kinda have a hollister look to them (both walmart and target) problem is they dont have alot of clothes that fit my size. ah. =[ im sure i could find something. but
do they have good stuff there. like
if you look can you find some really
cute stuff? thanksss. =]

I like both of their clothes. Target is more up to date about the fashion, but it's a little bit more expensive than Wal*Mart is if you compare the prices. But they're equally just as cute.

which is better target or walmart for bras?
im a 30 A right now. ha. and um i was thinking victorias secret but not sure if i would fit..
thing is i want something supportive and padded to make me look bigger.
i have only ONE bra that i was everynight (because its the ONLY one i like) and so i really really really need some new ones.
any more advice about this tell =]
thanks.

For quality, walmart. I bought two bras from Target, but the underwire ended up coming out, so definitely Wal*Mart. I still have most of my bras from them that I've had for years. =)

so my delema is that whenever i really fall hard for a guy he's a total jerk (like my current crush who cheated on his ex who he said he was in love with, is constantly ignoring me, then showering me with attention, and treats girls like they're nothing and can get away with it) and when i'm going out with a really nice guy... or just a guy that doesn't treat me like a total piece of shit i loose intrest and want to break up with them... and do. i already have a couple ideas to why i do this... but i'm not sure... and i just want to know so i can get over this fasination with really really shitty guys... anywho i think that i either
1.) still blame myself for alot of the really fucked up things that happend in my childhood and am subconcesly punishing myself
2.)have always had to look after imature guys that don't really respect women and now that's what i go for
3.)like a guy that will push me around cuz it reminds me of when i was little
4.)i'm just stupid...

please tell me what you think so i can try to get over this facination with horrible guys soon thank you...

I think you need counseling, honestly. If something bad happened to you when you were little, they're having a bad effect on you now, and you need to get help for them.

When you date a nice guy, don't let him go. There's a lot of guys out there, but the nice guys are usually the best ones [obviously]. So keep them.

And it's normal to go for assholes when things have happened to you & those are the guys you've been exposed to. Just try & stay with a nice guy. You shouldn't lose interest. If he's nice, you should be loving it because you're not getting screamed at, or accused, or fucked over.

Hi Everyone! I'm in a pageant and we have to raise money, what can I do to raise money?

Well, you could always raise money for a charity. Or sell chocolates. Sell anything you think/know people would buy.

ok for english we have to memorize at least 30 lines from Romeo and Juliet. Mine is Act 4 scene 3 lines 14-58. it's where juliet's about to drink the sleeping potion the Friar gave her. i really want to do a good job on it but i don't know what emotion i should read it in. (scared, upset, depressed?) thanks in advance!!

During that act & scene, Juliet is scared [mostly worried, but scared] because she doesn't think the potion will work, it'll kill her, or she'll wake up before Romeo comes. Do it in a worried/frightened tone for the best type of outcome. Good luck!

Phewf. Okay. 15/f. (This is coming from a girl who has NEVER had sex...and won't for a long time)

Okay. I like guys. I like girls too, though. I would love to have a relationship with a guy. ANYTHING EXCEPT having ANYTHING to do with male genitalia....It just GROSSES me out COMPLETELY. Yet, I don't find myself a lesbian. I just CANNOT imagine being penetrated by a guy/oral sex, etc. I find it utterly disgusting (forgive me If this is offending). But....on the other hand, I would also LOVE to have a relationship with a girl..and the thing is - I DON'T MIND being sexual with a girl at all! It's like - BRING IT ON. (lol)...I find this very strange. But I get extremely aroused when I see a picture of a naked woman....or something. But, when I (if ever) get to see a naked man...I'm just grossed out. It's as if, with a guy....it's only everything ABOVE his pants, that I am "optimistic" about. AND HERE'S ANOTHER PROBLEM - I don't want sex with a guy, But I want a baby in the future! With a girl...it's flat out, straight - "BRING IT ON". Am I normal?

Help, please?

You're definitely bi-sexual. And that's fine. It's completely normal to like one sex more than the other while being bi. As I'm also bi-sexual, I tend to go for the guys more than the girls, but I honestly wouldn't mind hooking up with either. =) You're completely normal hun, so don't even worry about it.

15/f.

Sometimes, I get REALLLLLLLLLY horny...and just want to like rip my clothes off and start doing stuff to myself. I start touching/pinching my boobs...and get even more aroused. But when I reach down there, I just kind of stop. Because other then touching...I'm scared to do anything else. And the temptation feeling goes away. Is this normal?

Yeah, that's normal. Everyone gets horny, everyone has urges, & most people masturbate. There's nothing wrong with it. It's healthy & totally normal.

Nothing to be ashamed of. =)

the past week i have had this rash on both on my arms. They itch like mad crazy. it a bunch of lil scab dots all over and if i scratch my arms i end up scracthing the scab off and it bleeds. I have no idea what it is going on here i never had anything like this and its driving me crazy.

if anyone has ever had this before or if you have any idea what it could be please let me know

thank you

I would definitely see a doctor about that. That doesn't sound normal to me because I've definitely never heard of it.

Okay I met this boy and he's straightedge and he said he doesn't date girls who drink,do drugs, or smoke. well when i first was with him I didn't do anything of the stuff and well I've fallen in love with him and I started doing drugs for about 4 months ago and i'm still doing them. i also drink sometimes. I want to be him so bad I'm afraid to lose him. I know he loves me and he still doesn't know that I've been doing drugs and I know he'd care but I don't want him to leave me. please don't tell me about how drugs are bad because really I don't need that.
If you were my boyfriend and i told you would you be mad or do you think he'd be really mad and just break up with me.

I've tried to stop a lot of times really I've tried so many times the hardest I could but really I can't stop at least not right now its really hard for me. i'm going to keep trying but even if I did stop I don't want to have that be a lie I want to actually let him know if its a good idea.

Please give me your full honest anwser it means a lot to me.
What should I do?

If you really love this guy, you will respect his beliefs & his thoughts. He wants to date a repsectable girl. Not a druggie who's also drinking & having promiscuous sex [not saying you are]. You knew he disliked those things from the start.

If you want to keep him around, stop drinking, and stop doing drugs. If I was him, I definitely would be mad. Because like I said, you knew how he felt, and you still did it anyways. And when you feel like doing drugs or drinking, try & think about how bad it'd hurt him if he ever found out.

But you need to tell him the truth because I think he deserves that much, don't you?

19 f
so im trying to see what most nice guys are attracted to in a girl. i know that it varys from guy to guy but i would just like to know. do they like it when girls show a lot of skin? i dont but sometimes i think i have to look more barbie like to grab there attention.

Well, you're right, it definitely does vary from guy to guy. Some guys love it when girls show some skin, and some guys think it's slutty. Personally, if I was guy, I wouldn't mind a girl showing skin, but showing too much would be weird.

You don't have to be barbie to grab their attention. Most guys go for personality. All you have to do is be a nice, respectable girl, and guys will be attracted to you. And confidence is big for them as well. No guy wants to be with a girl that calls herself fat, ugly & stupid.

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