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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i was just wondering a idea for my screen name
i hate screen names with my name but i guess it would be okay (( Kayla ))
i dont like numbers in my screen names either
i am a prep not a emo kid or anyof that that so nothing with like black and die. i am usally happy for something cute and happy. & not a lot of x's. thanks !!!!

whoasnap KAYLA
ohkaykaykayla
werd kaylas on

So I've been on Depo Provera for a year or so and I was previously on it for another year. I always gain weight from it and I always have trouble losing the weight. Does anyone who has been on it have any advice? I don't overeat and I exercise 3x a week for 1 hour. I'm 5'7" and I'm about 140. I was 120 when I got the shot. Any suggestions?

I know a girl that gained 60 lbs from it. And she lost 40, but she never told me how. However, she recommended that if I decide to go on any type of birth control, not to go on that one.

One of my best friends is on it, and she said that the pill makes you hungry, and you only gain weight if you give in to the cravings & urges. If you don't, you should be fine.

140 at your height isn't a lot, but just eat healthy & drink lots of water with the same exercise you're doing, and you should be fine. =)

wat are some flirting tips i can do??...starting off as friends then working up...i don't want anything to dramatic...i want little steps then work my way up...

When you're friends, laugh at their jokes, touch them gently, make eye contact, smile a lot. Talk to each other, hang out. Get a mutual closeness.

When you get to be more than friends, hugs are always nice. Talk a lot, hang out more than usual.

And when you're more than friends, it's basically all of that except with kisses & dates. =)

about 20 minutes ago, i went to the bathroom, and there was so much discharge! enough to fill up a bottle cap, no joke!
in my underwear i saw a whole big glop of it, and hanging from my vagina was a long string of it
i am so worried right now about this this is new and has never happened to me before...
im also in a foreign country with my dad, no mother, so thats really awkward
could it have been the traveling that caused this? because i have no idea and im worried i have an infection

ps: fourteen female>virgin!

Every girl gets dicharge, it's normal. It means you're gonna get your period soon. So don't think you're a freak because you have discharge. You're not, evey girl has it.

Ok so I'm usually a fairly polite kid to adults (exceopt my parents but w/e) Ne way, my b/f and I have been together for about a year but his mom hates me. She often says harsh things hidden under sweet comments and I know my b/f hears her but never stands up for me. I always want to rebel and say something back but I'm not sure. Is it better to take it and show her I'm a good person? Or talk back and show her I can defend myself? Please help.

Take it and be the bigger person.

Ok, I'm not sure if this is the right catogory but it seemed good. So, I do hate my weight and want to be skinny, but I don't think I am aneroxic. People have called me that before but because I hate eating a lot, and 3 meals a day is a lot to me. I usually eat an egg for breakfast, nothing or an apple for lunch and a regular dinner. Is that bad? I don't want to eat just to please ppl but I don't know how to tell them that I just don't like much food. What can I say to them?

I wouldn't say you're full out anorexic, but I do agree with people when they urge you to eat. Your eating habits are dangerous, and you're probably really skinny. As weird as 3 meals might be, that's the recommended amount of meals you should eat to be healthy. Try eating some junk food so you can gain a bit of weight. I'm not sure how tall you are, how much you weigh & how old you are, but I know you're not very healthy.

I'd see a doctor too just to be safe.

Ok so this is pretty simple. whats the best "trick bike" or bmx i can buy
i like the condor, matt hoffmans signature bike but i just want some feedback on what you all think is the best bike. thanks.

Honestly, I've got a Mongoose. I think it's got really good handling, and it's good for the tricks. But the condor may be good too, although I've never tried it.

I fell for this guy pretty bad. We got along great and I looked foward to seeing him everyday... But Now I don't get to see him anymore.

There was no chance we could be together anyhow, and I understood that. But I still miss him anyway, I miss him a lot. I keep thinking about him.

Now when I sleep at night, I dream about him, nothing weird, just exactly how it was when I got to see him... I can't get my mind off him. I miss him a lot, and it makes me sad. Sometimes I wish I didn't wake up, because the dreams feel so real. When I do wake up, I feel sadder.
Is this normal?

What can I do?

Yeah, it's normal. You just miss him, and I do that too. Like if I haven't seen a friend in a long time, I dream of them & wake up sad because it made me miss them more. Completely normal.

Try calling him, or IMing him, and asking him to hang out. Or just talk like old times so you feel some relief. =)

how do you know if you orgasmed or not during sex?

If you don't cum, you probably didn't orgasm. But most people don't; so it's not anything to worry about.

how are you supposed to feel after having sex?

That's a really hard thing to explain. You usually feel relieved, happy, & tired. Sometimes you feel like peeing.

i really like this guy who i met in my school. He's really popular, good-looking, and has the cutest personality ever. i go up to him say hi everytime in the halls near his locker. catch eye contact. im really friendly around him. i do a lot of body langauge too. Not to mention I always try to play hard to get. It's just im not exactly sure if he likes me. I feel that he doesnt because hes so popular and i know that i would never get him. But Im trying and its getting no where. I have confidence in myself that I can talk but small. Its just I never know what to do when Im around him, I need to make a big move (not ask him out yet or anything) just something you know? Im always unsure of what to do. I want him to like me. But I need to know HOW? HELP!!

Flirt with him, and ask him to hang out. And be confident. If he does like you, he's not gonna wanna listen to how fat, ugly & stupid you think you are. Love yourself, and other people will too.

Hey. Ok so I've been dating this guy for over a year and I'm crazy about him. The only problem is that he is very sheltered. I'm his first girlfriend, he won't kiss me, and we're freshmen! It's because his family is extremly religious and his mom doesn't like us dating (she basically hates me). Idk what to do. My friends say make the first move or dump him but I can't cuz I like him too much. What should I do?

Signed~ Clueless

Wait, you've been dating this guy a year, and you haven't kissed yet? That's upsetting. If I was in that situation, I would've ended it.

Although your boyfriend is shy, kiss him. If you like him as much as you say you do, you'll kiss him. I'm not trying to pressure you into it, but you've been dating for a year!

Wow, that kid must really hate his religion.

i got my period twice the first ime .. waz in october and the second time was in the begining of january and since then i haven;t gotton my period at all... whats wrong with me??!! help!

Nothing. Since you just got your period, it'll be irregular for the first couple of years. You won't always get your period every month, but once you get older, it'll regulate itself. No worries. =)

I am only 5'0 and I'm 13. I wear a 32 DD! Boys at my school tell me things about my boobs, and it kind of makes me happy. I would just like for them to start touching them. What can I do to draw even MORE attention or ask them if they want to touch them, but not be like " hey you wanna touch my boobs? " I know i sound like a slut, but i really like being the center of attention. Thanks!

Wait, you're 13 years old, and you WANT guys to touch your boobs?

Why in the world..?

i am fourteen years old and i am a 32A, i got my period in october. is there anything i can do without pills surgerys or medication of sort that can help make my breasts bigger naturaly?????

Don't wear an underwire bra to bed. If you wear a sports bra to sleep, your boobs have space to grow.

Other than that, wait it out. You're 14 years old, you've got a lot of time to grow.

i heard you were bi, but im not sure if i am.

lets see. i love guys, just not sex, or penises. thier ok. but when im horny or something i really like girls. but after im like oh gosh i love kirk or something. is this normal

Yeah. I mean, one type of gender can get you horny, but then when it comes to dating or whatever, you would go with one gender more than the other.

It's normal.

hey.

i get really pissed off when i get a 4 or lower.
i get mad because i spend SO much time on each
question & try to answer it the best i can, but
some people are just mean! i dont feel as bad
when that person gave EVERYONE a 4 or 3,
but when other people got 5s with answers that
i think are worse than mine, i get really upset.

like, i know it's "just a website" but i really would
love to have a really high rating, like 4.95 or higher.
but i went through a chain of 5s & got up to 4.9 &
now i got ONE four & i went back down to 4.89!

do i have like, OCD or something? why am i
so obsessed with getting a 5? can someone
try to make me feel better? & i know i can get
into trouble for this - but i always give people a
5 even if their answer was TOTALLY not relevant
to my question! i just think, "omg but if I got a 4,
i would be soooo upset!" i know it's not fair or
anything but i just can't help it.

thanks in advv. :]

YG told me that 2's, 3's & 4's were okay ratings. A 5 should be a rare thing. Don't let it bother you so much. It's not about ratings, it's about helping them.

hi.. is there a way to like, message other advicenators without like getting into trouble / breaking the rules? like you know how on myspace you can send messages & no one sees them but the two of you? besides IMing / emailing them, of course... like is there a way to do it THROUGH advicenators? thanks!

I doubt it. I believe all the questions are screened, whether asked in private or not. I may be wrong, but I think it'd be better if you resorted to email, IM or myspace.

I want to raise money by sending the message to my school about an event. For instance someone at my school had bands come in for free and the public had to pay a certain amount of money and that money went to support breast canccer. I want to do that but I don't want to have bands come in and I've tried googling in event fundraising but I couldn't really find any ideas. Theres carwash and stuff but I want something so the public would be entertained and interested to come. I was thinking maybe a dance and the crowd would pay 10 dollars and that money would go towards preventing HIV/AIDS. But I don't think a dance would be that great and I wouldn't know where to hold it because I can't at my house and I think it would turn out to be a disaster. What are some ideas.

I think a dance sounds like a good idea though. Have an dance that lasts from dawn of one day until the dawn of the next day. Kind of like a dance off seen in the video Dark Blue by Jack's Mannequin. But, bands playing is a good idea too. Not as original since somebody else did it, but I doubt the bands would have a problem playing for such a good cause. =)

i can't do this anymore.

living and all the crap that goes along with it.

I don't want to live, but I can't bring myself to commit suicide. So i'm stuck in-between life and death. and i hate it. i hate having to be alive. i bet things are so much better when you're dead.

don't ask me what my reasons are, and don't say anything like "oh things will get better" or "don't kill yourself" or anything liek that.

I can't do anything at all.

I can't even get a boyfriend- which is my main reason for wanting to commit suicide. everyone is automatically unattracted to me. I'm not even kidding.

I'm "obese" and i hate it. I can't even help it because I work out every day and I eat the right amount of calories. But i'm still fat and that won't change. it never can. I have a problem.

I'm not a christian- I don't believe in any god and i never will again. i'm not a satanist either. i'm an atheist.

Like you, I'm also an athiest, and I can't get a boyfriend either. So, you're not alone.

If you're obese, then see a doctor. They can prescribe maybe a medicine or a type of eating plan that can help you lose weight. I think you can beat weight issues without surgery. Surgery can be drastic & dangerous. Why not lose it healthy rather than go under the knife? You can do anything you set your mind to. You just gotta believe in yourself, and work for it. There is nothing you can't do. And whether you're overweight or not, that doesn't mean you're not pretty. No matter what the media or the hype may say, you don't have to be thin to be beautiful. There is no such thing as perfection. And imperfections & flaws are what make people beautiful. Remember that.

If the way you're eating doesn't work, try exercise as well. Although you already do, try going to a gym. The trainers there can help you figure out good foods, and good exercises you can do to lose weight. Like I said, you can do anything you just set your mind to it.

Don't say you can't do anything. Everyone can do something. Some people are musically inclined, some people are good at sports. Some people are really smart, and some people are good at science, or math. Everyone is good at something. Some people are good at lots of things. Who knows what you're good at? Pick something that sounds interesting, and try it. And if you're not good at it, don't get discouraged because you won't be good at something as soon as you try it. Things don't come easy like that, nothing does. You've just gotta keep your head up.

As I said that everyone can do something, it's true. If you were to end your life today, think of what you'd be missing out on. It doesn't seem like much [especially because your outlook on life is extremely pessimistic.] but there's a lot you can do. If you die, you won't be able to do anything you set your heart to. If you keep living, who knows what you can do? You can find the cure for cancer, or AIDS. Anything. But if you die, you wouldn't be able to do that. Just keep living, and take the good with the bad.

Life is amazing, so cherish it.

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