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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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i like this guy we have hung out a few times he's in one of my classes i have givin him head before and almost had sex with him i like him a lot he talks to a lot of girls but doesnt mess around with them hes actually still a virgin.. im not. he told me that he liked me but then i heard that he said the same exact thing to my friend a month back. before the first time we hung out he told me that he didnt want a relationship because he wanted to not be tied down to one girl.. i was upset and we stopped talking for a while cuz this girl got on him aim and acted like him and pissed me off. i started talking to him again after he appoligied to me.. i really like him and he told me that he likes me hes just afraid of commitment but then my friend told me that he told her that same stuff when he hungout with her a month or two ago .. he tells me that he doesnt like her at all they are over for sure because her dad doesnt like him but they were never dating.. what should i do? how should i act?

You should just be yourself keep hanging out with him in time his commitment issues will fade away and will ask you out. hope everything works out.

does any one know any cool rockish pop songs. something like what all american rejects would have. but not like them and fall out boy, p@td those kinds of bands.

3 doors down
snow patrol
eve 6
boys like girls
buckcherry
cartel
chris daughtry
creed
disturbed
everyclear
fuel
goo goo dolls
howie day
incubus
Iron & Wine
lifehouse
linkin park
matchbox 20 or rob thomas (same singer)
metallica
Red jumpsuit apparatus
Relient k
Stained
Switchfoot
The Fray
The killers
Three days grace

ok so im the only girl on our schools basketball team and im the biggest tomboy in our whole school actualy im the only one anyway my friend (who is a boy all of my friends are boys except one) and i were shopping for school suplies and he asked me out i was so nervise i said that i would think about it i dont really like him for more as a friend he is cute but i wouldnt date him i just want to know what to do can you guys help thanks

I believe everyone deserves a chance its only one date who knows he can suprize you if it doesn't turn out so good you can always say that you just want to be friends try not to make it a big deal it may just lead to you 2 separating.

Picture This:

You live in a 8000 sq foot home. You have a 13 year old, a 10 year old and a 5 year old. You've been married for 15 years. However, you're married to a man who calls your daughter a stupid bitch, and your sons dumbasses and idiots on occasion. He's called you a lazy, ungrateful, fat, stupid pig. You've been fighting since you met, and it only gets worse. He's abandoned you without a car, locked you out of the house, and is distant and shows no emotion for your kids. Your kids are upset.
You're an english teacher, and there's no way you could afford the house on your own, but you're not sure what to do with it because it's on your parents land and you don't want to sell it to someone who isn't family. Your struggling, considered divorce, but you know you love him even though your kids get upset.

What do you do?

I recommend marriage counseling think of your kids if there own father doesn't believe in them who will it can only hold them back you want them to have a happy childhood. You need to talk to your husband about the way he makes you and your children feel it can only get worse if you don't. You only live life once make the best of it. You are a great person don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

I need a slow song that truly is beautiful.
I am helping my brother propose to my best friend
And basically I need a really beautiful song (a slow song)
Its going to be playing in the background
And its going to be the song that they’ll have for the rest of their lives, you know?
These are the two people I love the most in the world
It really needs to be beautiful

He’s 26 and she’s 24 and I’m 22 so we’re not ancient but we’re not teenagers either.
So as long as the song is slow and beautiful, it will be fine.
Help!

Edwin McCain- I'll be. Very good song.

I found out my mom was snooping into my life about two weeks ago. She had an Xanga of mine bookmarked and in it I wrote as if it were a private diary .. which I thought was on a private setting in fact.

There was a lot of very bad stuff in there and when I realized she was snooping I deleted it and made a new one. Well, she managed to find the new one too! Once again, its bookmarked as well as my Facebook. My diary has since gone missing as well. She has not told me about reading any of this but I know its her because its on her personal laptop.

What should I do?
My privacy is gone and I feel violated by my
own mother. She gets very offended if I don't tell
her everything in my life anymore, which I hate to do because she makes everything too much of a big deal.

... btw, I actually get punished if I don't tell her everything going on such as who the guy I like is. Its ridiculous.

Confront your mother and tell her that you don't think its right that she is invading your privacy. Tell her that she doesn't have to worry about you even though its kind of her job. Tell her that its time that you make decisions for yourself and what you thing is best for you. Best of luck

My bf and I have been together for about 3 months now, and I am worried that we are losing our spark. We would hang out a LOT when we were first together, and text and IM all the time. Recently we've both been busier with our lives, with school and sports and all. Sometimes I go for 3 days without talking to him, and we basically only see each other on the weekends. He doesn't text or call anymore "just because" and I miss the way it was. Is our relationship wearing out? Is there anyway I can help this?

Just try to talk more tell him how you feel more then likely he feels the exact same way bring the spark back don't give up.

wow okay so this might be a weird question.

so okay im 14/ f and my boyfriend is 13/m

so we've almost been going out for a year, and we have barely(like 1 month ago) started saying we love eachother, because we wanted to wait for a time when we both actually truly meant it.
and noww..
i dont know. like i can never stop telling him i love him and i looked at him way more then the movie we watched together the other day and.. time seeems to stop when im with him, i know that sounds weird but its so true, when im with him that alll i can see, i want to spend every second with him and nomatter how long we do hang out its never, ever enough. i get in a bad mood when we have to say goodbye. like i get realllllly sad idkk why. its so crazy hahahaha ive never ever ever ever felt this way
its weird to say that im in love with him, because we're still so young, but wow i feel like it. Its so weird, but.. i want this to last forever. and i know he feels the same. we do everything together, and i would drop everything to be with him or be there for him. id do anything for this boy.

so my question is, if im really in love with him. I know its odd to ask this, i mean, we're young, but.. i dont know somone help me

thankss so muchh

All the things that you say how you feel and what you would do make it pretty clear that your in love with him. If he feels the same it will never end. Best of luck in relationship not that you will need it.

okay im a 16/f and there's this really mean girl at my school who won't leave me alone. i had problems with her over the summer and before that. like over the summer she started saying shit to me on myspace and i said shit back to her. and over Christmas break i added her on facebook and on myspace. because well i forgot about what happened between us and i don't hold grudges against people. well on myspace she messaged me and was like don't send me a friend's request because i don't want to be your friend or whatever. and i cussed her out and got mad and then i told her i didn't care if she wanted to be my friend and she needed to leave me alone. and then i blocked her and then after that i sent her another message telling not to ever start shit with me over the internet and if she had something to say to say it to my face. well she said she will at school the nest day and i assumed that she didn't go to my school anymore because she stopped going. well the next day she was at school! and to make things worse she's in my health class 5th period!! and she saw me and when she did she turned to a bunch of other girls and was like omg nikita is in this class ugh i hate her and she and the other girls said a bunch of shit about me.. and now all she does in that class is talk about me and stare at me and give me mean looks. and then she started calling me a bitch in the hallway but i took i as a comliment and then after tht like today after school i walked passed and she was like you better watch youself bitch and i didn't say anything. well i was wondering i man i ignore but she still says mean things to me. and im not sure if i should tell the school what happened since i message her last time.. so what should i do? sorry its really long but please help me!!

Just ignore her she will get over it and if she doesnt just remember this she is a loser she would rather be spending all this time bringing you down then trying to better herself.

Hi. Okay to get to the point, I like this guy and he's turning 20. The problem is.. I just turned 16 in August. I'm working part time with my brother and the guy i'm talking about is the boss's son. He's really nice, not your average 20 year old. We have every last thing in common.. is it wrong to like him.. or even expect a relationship with someoneof this age?

I've seen bigger age differences then 4 years alot bigger and the reason they had relationships was because they saw it just as a number. I think you should tell him how you feel but expect the unexpected not all people view it as a number getting it off your chest is a lot better then keeping it on because you always wonder what could have been. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship rather just be friends don't make it a big deal because it will just make every situation a awkward one.

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 15 months i'm 16 he's 17 and we've done everything....but lately he's been acting weird....sometimes when we hang out he is amazing but last night we were with my best friend and her boyfriend watching a movie and he was being sooooo weird most of the time he was high and i know that but idk if that really changes anything...he has cheated on me 2 time possible three...the last time he doesn't know if he did or not cause he was drunk...blacked out drunk....but last night i went to look at his phone and he had deleated his call log..and he recently changed his password so i can't get on his myspace...can anyone give me any insight on what is happening in this relationship? and can anyone give me any advice on what to do with those sercumstances?

ohhhh p.s. yesterday is the last time he could smoke weed cause his parents caught him saturday when he came home high..

You should talk to him about the drinking and the smoking its not healthy and it will only cause problems between the 2 of you. Ask him to stop especially now that he is about to graduate and his parents aren't always going to be there for him (money wise). If he really loves you he will quite. As far as the cheating on you even if it was just once doesn't mean he wont do it again as you've already seen it may never end. And the privacy with the phone and myspace is him pretty much saying that he has something to hide. Be careful and the best of luck.

16/f, i have 2 best friends who i can be my complete and utter self around. ever since last year, our first year of high school, (we'll call her A), A has changed a lot because of joining sports. all 3 of us have always been shy, quiet, and that is probably why we came together in elementary school. so last year A played sports all 3 seasons in school and made "friends" or people she talked to because she had no one else to talk to. this has made her more outgoing, but sometimes she acts as though she is better than me & B (my other best friend), since we have not played any sports and especially last year, didn't much many new friends.

now, this year, our sophomore year, A is still more outgoing, and out of the 3 of us i do believe she is the most outgoing,.. B and me being on pretty much the same level. last year luckily we all had lunch together, but this year, i'm left alone. A & B have lunch together. thankfully there's people that i can eat with, and although i am not my self around them because i'm really only like that with a select few who i feel most comfortable around. i am surviving.. well here's the main reason i'm writing this.

last night, apparently A & B have been doing some serious talking at lunch without me, becasue last night as all 3 of us are hanging out in my room, they decide to give me this sort of pep talk about my shyness and how they think the way i respond to people makes me seem bitchy sometimes. NOW, in some ways i see this. the other day in class this girl next to me asked me if i went tanning. i was pretty much caught off guard, because i don't go tanning, and just simply said no, so she said my face looked pretty or something and i said a simple thanks. ok didn't tell you this: i have FOUR classes with B. only one with A. but B pretty much sees every interaction i have with anyone else. when i asked her for examples last night of how i come off as bitchy, she gave me the tanning example. she said she didnt even hear me say anything. does it matter if SHE didn't hear me say anything? no. i wasn't talking to her.

another example she gave me is in another class my teacher assigned a few people to be "master quizzers" and we would quiz people as they came around to each quizzer. B and i were picked as these people and of course stood close to each other. she claims that i looked so uncomfortable quizzing people. she's not me. how does she know how i feel? really. she's shy too. i bet she felt the same way as me.

it sucks since we have so many classes together it's like we're always comparing or competing or something. i just don't understand how she could say all those things when she's just like me. and she did most of the talking too. A just kept saying how i'm such a good friend and she wants people to be able to see the real me. which i want that to happen too, but it won't happen overnight. and she kept apologizing, especially when i started CRYING. like i know i'm shy, this has been going on for years, i'm just a SHY person. i want to change and let people see more of my personality, and if i'm coming off bitchy i don't want people to think that. but i'm so fed up with also being known as the quiet girl that i really don't even care if people think of me that way. i'll talk to the people i need and want in my life and i'm fine with that. i don't know, everything they said last night just made me feel depressed sorta. i know i'm shy, and i was dealing with it fine until they said everything. now i feel kinda worthless. i'm just confused. and now it's gonna be awkward in all my classes with them because they're probably gonna expect me to be all talkative. maybe i'm just overreacting, maybe i'm just pmsing or something, but i have no clue what to do. i really don't even know what i'm asking, i just needed to let that all out.

sorry this was overly exceedingly tremendously long, thanks if you actually read all of that, and thanks if you give me a good response too.

I had the same problem don't jump into being very talkative just try to talk more. extend how much you would normally talk to someone in class and your shyness will fade over time. as far as your friend B there are just some friends that are like that don't worry about it she will stop acting like someone she is not.

ive been in a relationship for 2 years now. at first everything was great, we even got engaged! since then hes been acting like a jerk! he hates my job and threatens to leave me if i dont quit,everytime we fight the first thing he does is tell me to find another place to live! he puts me down alot and he is getting more controlling. he seems to have little respect for me and when i confront him about it he just turns it around. im emotionally drained! is this the real him?

I doesn't seem like your happy maybe because your seeing the real him for the first time love does not fade when its the right person for you. you should get out of this relationship before it can get to physical abuse. And don't give up on finding the right guy for you.

I have this friend, let's call her L and I met L just this year, [I am 15/f freshman in high school] and she comes from a different school, is really nice but driving me up an insanely high wall. In the beginning of our friendship, she was shy and I did most of the talking because I hate awkward silences and then she started talking more and we had only known eachother for a couple of days and became oddly very trusting with me, expecting the same from me, but I've been burned and backstabbed badly in past friendships and I'm not as trusting as her. But this was sooo wierd, she like just told me all of her secrets and life story in like 3 days of knowing one another. And now like, 5 months later she is driving me insane. I will be on AIM and L will IM me, but I'm not there and she will get mad at me like..."are you mad at me??" constantly IMing me and I can't take it. THEN in school she will be like, "Are you mad at me? What did I do?" and it pisses me off soo badly. And then she will text me, and if I don't text her back she thinks that I'm macd at her!! So then I just get fed up with her immaturity and the complaining about how her best friends are like avoiding her now and I CAN RELATE BECAUSE I WANT TO IGNORE HER. Like in the hallway, I pretend I dn't see her ebcause I just need SPACE.
I'm sory this is sooo long, but I don't know what to do. How do I deal with someone like this? We are in 2 of the smae classes and she like clings to me for dear life because she doesnt think she has any friends, but I do and I want to branch out with other people. She annoys me, and I want to be friends with her, but then again I don't.
So, what should I do? What would you guys do? And thanks in advance to whoever was willing to read all of that, because it really means alot to me that you did.

you should talk to her about how she makes you feel if you don't eventually ull reach the tip and say something that you didn't mean to and hurt her.

I started Middle school this fall. I made a lot of friends this year. My best friend and I are in the same lunch and she keeps giving off this vibe that she is angry with me. Z (my bff) and I haven't fought at all this year and I didn't spread any rumors or snub her or anything, but she seems mad at me. Neither of us are part of the "in" crowd, though we have friends in it. We sit at the same lunch table, but she barely speaks to me. We used to be really close. Sorry for the length, but any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I think the next time you meet that you should ask her if anythings wrong maybe theres something going on with her family that you don't know about and she cant leave it at her house. Another possibility is that you did something wrong and didn't notice it i see it happen all the time.

my best friend is a boy
we're 16
we've gotten really close the past 3 years
and ive completely fallen for him, even if ive promised myself i wouldnt
hes amazing
i cant even explain it
and i dont know if he feels the same way about me
but whenever he sees me in the morning his face lights up
and everyone says that hes the happiest when they see us talking
and he listens to absolutely everything i say
he takes care of me. not just the giving me his jacket in the rain type thing, or covering my eyes and holding my hand during a scary movie, or the carrying me like a princess when i hurt my leg type thing, but its also the staying on the phone with me for 6 hours after i had an argument with my mom on vacation, and walking 6 miles to my house in the pouring rain to visit me when i was sick.

i was talking to him about my english class, and how i didnt expect him to ask me to homecoming because there were a lot of people thatd be mad about it (his other friend, this girl who likes him, this guy who likes me, some of his friends that he isnt really close to but get mad at him for hanging out with me, all of which are in my english class) so i told him that i didnt expect him to ask me because of all those people. and the next day when i was sitting in english class and he appeared with my galpal with this huge banner outside the window saying janie. homecoming?
and i was so happy
and i didnt think i had fallen for him until i was sitting in the library doing my hw and i saw him walking over out of the corner of my eye but pretended not to and he put his hand on mine and i looked up and he looked into my eyes and i looked into his and even though all he said was "hey" really softly i just knew

i love this guy
and i dont know what to do
i want to tell him
but i dont want to freak him out
what if i totally destroy our relationship?

help

It seems like you really like him and about what you said about all those things he has done for you there is no doubt in my mind that he likes you. I think you should go for it and tell him its gunna get worse everyday not knowing if you 2 could have ever been.

Hello, all.
A few years ago I tried contacts, but had a hard time getting them out.

Now, three years later, I feel like I want to try them again, but I feel kinda iffy because this year I've gotten A LOT of compliments on how I look (over the summer I resolved to swallow my shyness and be outgoing so I could show people who I really am instead of hiding it away).

I know if I get contacts, I'm going to look weird, because people aren't used to me without glasses. Also, my crush has seemed to be showing more interest in me (I've been hanging out with him more lately, a rarity this school year because of our busy schedules...I've been so happy!)

I've asked some friends whether or not I should get contacts, and some of them say I look adorable in my glasses. Basically I'm afraid of losing my compliments and possibly my friend's increased interest in me if I get contacts...so any advice would be WONDERFUL!

Thanks so much, and sorry it's so long!

I think you should get contacts if you find your glasses annoying if your perfectly fine with them and they don't bother you at all then you should keep them. But remember its different for everybody getting use to taking contacts on and off. For me it was about 1 week or 2 ive been wearing them for about 3 years now and i have no complaints.

I am in 8th grade and 13 years old. I want to learn how to play a sport. I think Volleyball is pretty cool or Tennis. I want to play sports in high school but I want experience before I go there. Where can I learn it where it isn't to expensive and what other sports do you think would be good for me? Thanks a lot!

I think that you should try to play as much sports as your school has to offer and when you get to high school choose the one that you liked the most.

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