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clingyness is driving me INSANE
I have this friend, let's call her L and I met L just this year, [I am 15/f freshman in high school] and she comes from a different school, is really nice but driving me up an insanely high wall. In the beginning of our friendship, she was shy and I did most of the talking because I hate awkward silences and then she started talking more and we had only known eachother for a couple of days and became oddly very trusting with me, expecting the same from me, but I've been burned and backstabbed badly in past friendships and I'm not as trusting as her. But this was sooo wierd, she like just told me all of her secrets and life story in like 3 days of knowing one another. And now like, 5 months later she is driving me insane. I will be on AIM and L will IM me, but I'm not there and she will get mad at me like..."are you mad at me??" constantly IMing me and I can't take it. THEN in school she will be like, "Are you mad at me? What did I do?" and it pisses me off soo badly. And then she will text me, and if I don't text her back she thinks that I'm macd at her!! So then I just get fed up with her immaturity and the complaining about how her best friends are like avoiding her now and I CAN RELATE BECAUSE I WANT TO IGNORE HER. Like in the hallway, I pretend I dn't see her ebcause I just need SPACE.
I'm sory this is sooo long, but I don't know what to do. How do I deal with someone like this? We are in 2 of the smae classes and she like clings to me for dear life because she doesnt think she has any friends, but I do and I want to branch out with other people. She annoys me, and I want to be friends with her, but then again I don't.
So, what should I do? What would you guys do? And thanks in advance to whoever was willing to read all of that, because it really means alot to me that you did.
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you should talk to her about how she makes you feel if you don't eventually ull reach the tip and say something that you didn't mean to and hurt her.
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well seems like L does have a problem , she thinks you may be her newest best friend . there are a couple ways to do this . you can tell her to her face , ignore her , or you can talk to her at school and not hang out with her . it seems as if she is clingy and well she also seems like the crazy ex-girlfriend , like the one that gets mad and plotts revenge . i say you just ignore her and talk to other people at school or pretend like your busy otherwise if she doesnt get the hint tell her hey your cool and all but its not working out your just to immature right now .
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well i think that you should just talk to her about it. i mean, that is what i would do. i would just tell her that i am not always online when you talk or able to get to my phone or able to say hi when you say hi. i Have other friends that i need to hang with not just you. i don't ever get mad at you so don't think i do. I'm sry if this sounds mean. but you got to do waht you got to do. Just try and be nice her your friend but get to the point to. My best advice for this is to just talk it out..and tell her the truth, i mean..friends should be understanding with whatever you say and if they are not, then you don't need them as a friend. Good luck and i hope everything goes well between you guys and hopefully you stay friends!!
~sealgirl~
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