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i want to loose ten pounds.
i have the motivation and the willpower but i just dont know how to do it.
can someone give me a guuarenteed eating plan to make me loose ten pounds in the shortest amount of time?
i have till october to loose ten pounds.
dont just give me a diet name, tell me a percise diet i should follow!
thanks. (link)
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The way to lose weight and keep it off is to exercise more than you eat. This means burning off more calories than you consume.
With this idea, you can eat absolutely anything you want as long as you exercise plenty.
Before I moved I joined Curves for Women. I ate chocolate ice cream every single night and lose over 20 inches in 3 months. Just exercising! I did absolutely no dieting.
Look at what you eat and try to mimic the food pyramid. Then exercise. Run, walk, jog, or whatever it is that you love to do. Play sports every evening. Ride you bike. Whatever.
Here is a database of activities to help you figure out what burns lots of calories:
http://www.fitwatch.com/database/searchexdb.html
The average woman needs to consume about 1,500 calories a day. Eat lots of "natural" foods like fruits and vegetables to help you fill fuller without all of the added junk and calories.
There are lots of websites available online for free to help you figure out the calorie in content of foods without labels (like apples, for example):
http://caloriecount.about.com/calories-fruits-fruit-juices-ic0900
There is no special diet or special diet plan that is going to get you results. Eat right and exercise. Seriously. You'll lose the weight fast and keep it off for good.
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Slut! (link)
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You know...
It's pretty disturbing that you include "Grandma" with the "slut" term. Since my grandmother from my father's side was murdered when I was young and my grandmother from my mother's side died of tuberculosis when my mother was young, I will assume you are talking about your own grandmother. If you are not talking about your own grandmother then you have obviously sent this message to the wrong person.
Being in the psychology field, I suspect you have a bit of a torn home-life. If your grandmother slept around a lot when she was in her younger days it can very well disturb the entire family later. I highly suggest you sit down and talk with your grandmother one-on-one about this mental problem you're having over her past. She may offer some apology of some sort--after all, she is an adult now and may see the error of her ways.
If you're considering purchasing her a birthday gift and feel she is on the "slutty" side then I still suggest you talk with her about things. If you cannot bring yourself to do that but are wanting to find her an appropriate gift then give her something plain-yet-provocative. A great gift idea is a Chip 'n Dale Calendar. This way you won't be too uncomfortable but will still please her.
Thanks for the question! Please take the time to phrase your specific idea into a question formulation next time so that I know just exactly what you're asking. I had to sort-of guess here so I hope I've answered appropriately. Thanks.
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So me and my boyfriend have been dating just over 3 months and it's going relatively smoothly for the most part. Well last night I find out that one of my newer friends dated him a while back which is totally fine until she told me something bout they're ending. She thought they were fine and everything and had no problems well one nght he got off work and went over to a girls house not telling anyone where he was going or anything. He's 3 years younger than me so his mom was def wondering where he was at this point. Once they got him home him n his ex talked n he dumped her for the girl whose house he was at. It turned out he was "talking" to one girl while dating his ex so it was almost like he was dating 2 ppl at once until he decided who he wanted more. He has never told me this and never told me anything close to it. I've always asked him why his mom never let's him stay out at night and obviously this is why but he never told me. His ex who is also my friend told me not to ask bout it because she slipped when she started telling me it anyways. I don't know what to do. I love him with all my heart but now I just feel like I can't trust him as much. I want to hear it from him but don't know how to go about it because i always thought he was never hiding anything. Ugh please help!! :( (link)
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You need to flat-out confront him about this.
Tell him what you know and that you're very disturbed that he hasn't trusted you enough to tell you.
Talk to him like a reasonable, mature woman. Don't belittle him about his past mistakes. Just tell him that you're hurt he didn't share this information with you before. Tell him that a relationship means investing full-trust in your partner and you feel he isn't able to do that at this point since he hasn't told you "everything" yet.
There could be a very good reason he hasn't told you. Maybe he's really ashamed. Or maybe he is waiting to do it again in the future. Either way, you absolutely need to know. Confront him like an adult and have a serious talk with him. It's now or never, as they say. You need to take that first step forward and either move on to someone who is a better match or bring your relationship to the next level (meaning: complete trust).
Decide if you want to stay with him or not. If he is "the one" then you are considering staying with him for the rest of your life. That is really what dating is all about. Finding out what you like and dislike about the opposite gender so you know what "the one" is for you--and then settling down when you find your match.
If you cannot see yourself with him 20 years down the road then it's time to call it quits. Simply end the above discussion with something like, "I love you a lot and really care for you deeply but I absolutely cannot see myself with you in the future. I need to move on and find the person who is right for me. This hurts but it's the right thing to do." And then do exactly what you say. Move on.
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Well im 13 and i still have not started my first period, ive had some REAL cramps about a week ago and they hurt so bad! It was on the first day of school an di was in Career Managment. Its lasted for a day or so. Well i have boobs and hair down yonder' and discharge and i have had all this (plus armpit hair) for almost 3 years now and i still have not gotten my period... Me and my friend are in a contest to see who will start first and she is sure it will be me. I hope it is me, even though shes a few months older she just started developing boobs and has not gotton pubic hair or alot of armpit hair like i have. Shes really jealous. I try to encourage her about it and make her feel better. I dont want to feel like a bad friend to her though by thinking i will get it first. But is there anyway to make it come faster? I want to tell her about it and use it myself... I just really want some help. By the way we are in the 8th grade. And what do i do if i start in the middle of class??? (link)
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There is no way to make your period start faster.
This is a part of life and a part of growing up. You will start your period when your body is matured enough to have babies.
Stay active in sports and maintain a healthy weight.
Since you're of-age then carry a pad around in your pocket or purse. If you start in the middle of class and haven't gotten it on your clothing (like you go to pee and it's on the toilet paper when you wipe) then just put the pad on. You might want to practice putting pads on panties around the house a few times before venturing out.
If you start your period mid-class and find you've bled through your clothing then calmly ask to call home. Call your mother (or father, whoever is home) and ask them to bring you down a second set of panties and jeans because you've started your period. Everyone will understand and will try not to make a big scene of it to avoid embarrassment. It's a part of being a grown-up woman so things like this are expected anyway.
Just be healthy and your period will start when your body is read. Eat right. Exercise plenty. Maintain a healthy weight. Do some things to relax and de-stress. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Let your body be itself. You'll start your period before you know it and you'll be wishing it would just stop ;)
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hi im kayla and i have a really important question!.. can a guy go to jail for being 20 yrs of age and dating a girl who is 14 turnin 15 right before he turns 21 can he go to jail an is that ok cuz to me it sounds fine as long as they dont do anithing are they wrong for this?? please answer as soon as possible .. thanx i would really appreciate it !!!!!! (link)
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Only if you two are engaging in any sort of sexual contact. This includes "dirty talk" just for the record.
Otherwise, it will become your word against his if your parents decide to press charges. If they even THINK he might be touching you sexually your parents can call the police and go to court for a hearing.
Most of the time, a judge will believe the parents (who care for their daughter) more than a 20 year old that is seeking a youngster to date.
Talk with your parents before dating this guy to get an idea of how they feel about it. You don't want to get into a 6 month relationship and then your parents freak out when they learn his age. Talk with them first and ask them if they'd like to meet him before you two go out. Be mature and upfront with your parents and they're likely to understand and may even be able to bond with the guy.
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Can somebody tell me about Tennessee State University. Is it a good college? Is it hard to join a sport like track there? How is the college life? Classes hard? Thanks I very much appreciate it. (link)
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Your best bet is to visit the campus :)
While many of us may live in TN we may not be into the college scene yet. If you call the campus you can ask to speak with a guidance counselor and arrange a time to view the campus and speak with the instructors and students. Call them up and ask them if there is a time you can come visit and tour the campus. Add in there that you'd like to know more about the classes and overall structure of the environment there. The guidance counselors can help A LOT on this because they've answered these very questions at least 10 times over.
Here is the number to start off with: 1-888-463-6878
Ask to speak to a guidance counselor about enrollment and information about the campus. They will then direct you to someone else (take note of their name and their extension if you need to call back later). Then, discuss! :)
Just ask them about all of this. Ask them about campus life. Ask them about the sports and what that is like. Ask them about how classes are and is many people fail. Ask them if you can come in person to the campus and talk more about this sort of thing.
They'll be glad to help and while you at the campus you'll get a chance to talk with the professors/instructors and students about the university.
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My teeth are horrible. I didn't take care of them when I was a kid, didn't drink much milk when I got pregnant and now I have one rotted out and the other top teeth are starting to do the same. They also hurt. It will cost a lot of money to get them fixed and I do not have that kindof money right now. I am very self concious about it and I won't even smile anymore. Is there anything I can do to make them look a little better until I can get the money to have them fixed? I want to be able to smile again! (link)
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I understand this pain but, to be quite blunt, once the tooth has rotted there is nothing that can be done to reverse it.
Lots of people have this problem and I understand how shameful you must feel but relax. If you haven't yet, call up a few local dentists and ask about this. Many of them will allow free consultation and first exams. This will give you an idea of just how much money will need to be dished out in the long-run, if there are payment plan options (many dentists offer this), and if there is something else that can be done for cheaper (such as capping a tooth or just a full removal of the rotten teeth).
The longer you allow this to happen, the more odds it will spread to your other teeth, unfortunately. The bacteria will attack what it can and won't stop just because it rotted a tooth or two.
Call up a few dentists and discuss the matter. Tell them how ashamed you are and that you just haven't had the money to get this problem solved before. Ask them if they offer any sort of payment plans. Ask them if they offer free first-time examinations to see how bad this might be. Ask them if they know anyone cheaper--sometimes they will "feel your pain" and help you be guided to someone who is a little lower cost.
If you're on low income, see your local health department. Many of them aren't going to offer a lot of "nice" dental arrangements but might cover the cost of a few teeth to be removed, to reduce your discomfort. If you are not low-income then call them up anyway and ask if they could help you find a reasonably affordable dentist location--and then call that dentist and discuss the issue with them.
There is help out there but you have to take the steps to find it. Dental work doesn't come cheap and everyone knows that so start making your calls. Be honest and let them know how bad you feel about the situation. Ask them the above questions. Be nice and polite. If they agree to do a first-exam for you on low cost or free then it's definitely worth it because they will be able to give you a closer estimate to the work that needs to be done.
The welfare department may also be able to sign you up for a special low-cost health-care plan even if you're not very low income. I did something like this once and they have great arrangements with all sorts of health-care professionals. Just ask if there is anything they can do to help you out.
Until then, mouthwash a lot. Brushing might be too painful for you so make sure you use a good mouthwash to cut down on so much bacteria. Natural Dentist is very good and soothing:
http://www.vitacost.com/The-Natural-Dentist-All-Natural-Antigingivitis-Rinse
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Ok iv got this problem where my back and neck will get stiff and soar like a sharp pain and the only way to make the stiffness to go away is to pop my neck and back but I constantly have to do this several times a day my question is does anybody know what my problem is is there a doctor in the house??? (link)
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This very well could be the start of arthritis or some other form of join inflammation, especially if you are "popping" your joints in your back frequently.
You absolutely must see a doctor to diagnose this problem. They can do x-rays and see if something is out of alignment. They can also refer you to a good chiropractor that can help you find some long-term relief without having to frequently "pop" your bones.
The popping noise can actually be made by fluid being pushed out of the joint. The fluid is there so that there is no bone-on-bone action that can grind on the bones themselves and cause severe discomfort. The popping can push this fluid out of it's usual place and decrease the amount of "cushion" between those bones, leading to further discomfort.
With that being said, stop popping your back and just see a doctor to get this taken care of properly. Nobody wants to turn 30 and have arthritis in their back because they couldn't stop "popping" the neck and just see a doctor.
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can you get pregnant if yu swallow sperm from giving a guy a blow job? (link)
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No.
You can only get pregnant if the sperm comes in contact with your vagina. If you put the sperm from your mouth on your hands then to your vagina then there might be a possibility but swallowing sperm is not going to get you pregnant.
The stomach, where food is digested, has absolutely nothing to do with your uterus, where babies grow. They are not connected in any way so sperm are not able to travel from the stomach to the uterus (aka "womb").
You can still contract a multitude of STDs and STIs from engaging in oral sex. Choose your partner(s) carefully and then use a condom to help lower the risks of contracting an unknown STD from the partner. Get tested regularly and require all partners to do the same--even if all you're doing is oral sex. Oral sex spreads disease just like sex so take care of yourself.
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I am 20, female, average.
I have noticed for the past few days that my poop is pretty much non existent, and in its place is green slime. It doesn't smell like anything, it basically looks like mucus, but green in colour, almost a bright emeral green. Sorry for the details, but I was hoping by providing more I might get a better answer.
I am trying to figure out what is causing this variety of poop/slime, and what I can do to stop it.
I do plan on seeing a doctor if it hasn't resolved itself in a week; I'm just trying to find out before having to explain this to a person live... It's just that much more embarassing. (link)
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Evaulate what you're eating each day. Write it down. Keep a "food journal" so you know if there is some sort of odd allergic reaction going on in your bowels with some of the foods you eat. Make note of things like color--lots of fruit loops or tons of greens can cause green colored poops.
Also take note of medications you take. If you take an aspirin one day and notice more "green slime" then it might be correlated to it.
Make sure you watch what you eat still. Cut down on the sugars and drink lots and lots of pure, clean water (nothing added to it). Help replenish the fluids you are losing by drinking lots of water. It might not seem like the mucus is taking a lot of fluid out of you but you are losing more than you normally do, if you think about it.
Beyond that, you may have a candida (yeast) overgrowth within your gut. A lot of people experience this and it's pretty difficult to get rid of on your own. I don't know much about it but I do know that taking Grapefruit Seed Extra (GSE) as directed on the back of the bottle can help kill it off. After it's killed off you would need to pick up some acidopholis or probiotic supplement to replenish the good bacteria within your gut and intestines. You can find both of these products on the VitaCost website as very good deals.
Other than that, we're simply not able to help. A doctor will help you get this solved by taking some samples, probably, but we're not doctors here so we can't pinpoint your exact problem. I suggest you see your doctor even if the problem clears up to make sure nothing else is disturbed within you that you're not aware of at the moment.
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My doctor says birth control is fully effective after a month. I've been on it for 2 weeks, how effective should it be right now? I usually use 2 methods for birth control (condoms and spermicide) because it makes me feel more comfortable. I just want to know when i can just use just one.
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It's not.
It varies by pill brand, your weight, and where you begin the pill on your cycle.
The pill changes the mucus within your vagina so that it makes it difficult for sperm to survive in while trying to travel to an egg to be fertilized.
It also stops the release of eggs from the ovaries so that if sperm are able to reach the uterus then they cannot fertilize anything.
We're human though and sometimes it doesn't work.
Your doctor is absolutely right. You are not protected after only 2 weeks of taking the pill. Your egg could have already been released and it is entirely too early for your cervical mucus to have altered enough in your body to slow down sperm movement.
After two weeks, it's likely that very little has changed enough to merit unprotected sex.
Wait a month before going without condoms or spermicide. You should still use a back-up method because, again, we're human and these sorts of things are not 100% effective as it is.
Listen to your doctor. He/she has been doing this for years. They know what they're talking about. When they say it'll be 1 full month to fully effective then it means before that you are not protected. Don't risk it. Use your head. If you cannot use condoms and spermicide for just 1 more month (now less if it's already been 2 weeks) then you might want to reevaluate where you're going in your life. If you aren't ready for a baby right then have self-respect and do what is necessary so that you don't put yourself in such a situation.
1 month will pass in no time and then you are safe to cut down on your methods if you so choose. You will never be 100% protected though so keep that in mind.
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What would you say are the chances of pregnancy while on birth control? Like, if you have sex with no condoms and he doesn't pull out, etc.? (link)
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Hormonal birth control pills are only about 92% effective on preventing pregnancies.
That's about an 8% chance of actually getting pregnant while using the pill.
This percentage is taking into account regular human changes and abnormalities. This includes daily stress, irregular eating habits (not eating the same exact food at the same exact time every day), various minor hormonal fluctuations, growth periods, etc. The 99% effective percentage they advertise is from clinical studies in laboratory settings. There is absolutely no way you're going to mimic those results while leading a regular life.
So...
Chances? About 8% chance when using no back-up method.
You must also take into account that many women never even know they are pregnant because of very-early miscarriages. Many women who end up pregnant while on the pill may never know they lost an early term baby. Remember miscarriages can happen as early as 1 day after fertilization of the egg. The percentage given is not perfect because of this but it give you a better estimate in real life.
Note that no contraceptive, oral or otherwise, will protect you from STDs. You're still at full risk of those.
You should always use a back-up method just to be safer. A condom is about 83% effective on preventing pregnancies. If you used a condom AND an oral contraceptive then the risk of pregnancy is dramatically lower.
Nothing is perfect though and nothing is absolutely 100% safe when it comes to preventing pregnancies. Each time you have sex you will be taking the risk of possibly getting pregnant. Accidents happen. Condoms break. The pill fails. It happens and you should be prepared to deal with those consequences if you are ever faced with them.
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Does anybody know what song Michael Grimm sang in hollywood, i think it was. His second song? (link)
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Hi there!
Michael Grimm is a great 2010 America's Got Talent contestant. Did you know he actually won an award in Nashville, TN for a performance previously? Really! It was the Christian Country Music Association "Star of Tomorrow" award in 1997 for singing "John Wayne and Jesus."
Anyway...
In Michael Grimm's last performance for America's Got Talent in Hollywood, California, he sang:
"Tired of Being Alone" by Al Green
Before that particular performance, Michael Grimm played on stage in Las Vegas, Nevada, for the judges of America's Got Talent, singing:
"Try a Little Tenderness" by Otis Redding
And, of course, his very first audition for the America's Got Talent television show was:
"You Don't Know Me" by Jann Arden
In the proper order he has sang these songs on America's Got Talent:
"You Don't Know Me" by Jann Arden
"Try a Little Tenderness" by Otis Redding
"Tired of Being Alone" by Al Green
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what does you're a touch overrated mean?
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Overrated means, in very simple terms, people think too highly of you.
When all of the girls are going ga-ga over a cute football player that you don't think is THAT hot or THAT cool you might say, "Wow, he's overrated!"
If someone gets a friend to tell a possible employee how amazing their friend is and that they should hire them immediately...and then the friend shows up at the interview and totally blows it then the employer might think, "That person is way overrated."
A "touch" overrated would mean "just a little" overrated. This might mean something like:
That football player IS cute but he isn't THAT cute. You can understand why a few girls would be really into him but cannot understand why ALL of the girls are.
He's a touch overrated. He's a touch liked-too-well-for-little-to-no-reason.
this particular lyric:
"you're a touch overrated"
is called You're So Last Summer by Taking Back Sunday
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Okay. Well last night I was at my boyfriends house & we were making out, then I went down on him & gave him oral.
This morning I noticed a little red dot on my tongue. It's about the size of the tip on a #2 pencil I guess.
It doesn't hurt, & when I was brushing my teeth it didn't come off like blood would.
Any ideas on to what this may be?
Please, please tell me it's not like a disease or something. (link)
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It could really be anything.
It could be an inflamed tastebud. (Kind of doubtful since it isn't painful though.)
It could be oral thrush (an oral yeast infection).
It could be oral herpes that you didn't realize you had contracted a few weeks (months, or years) ago. Just now popping up from the friction of last night.
It could be a number of STDs or STIs that were contracted previous to this particular incident. You can contract things like herpes through kissing even so keep it in mind.
Your best bet is to call your doctor today. Today, as in, right now. And make an appointment to get it checked out.
If it's thrush then you might need antibiotics to get rid of it or you can pass it onto your partner or end up with some really, really nasty side-effects in your mouth.
If it's an STD then you'll need to get treatment. If there is no treatment, then you'll know so that you can decrease chances of passing it along to your partner.
See your doctor today. Go on and give them a call and explain about the weird thing on your tongue that you want to get checked out. They can make a quick appointment to do a little scraping on it to see if it is anything at all.
We can't really give you a for-sure answer. We aren't able to sit down and check this out at all angles. We can't scrape off a few of the cells for testing. Heck, we're not even doctors. We wouldn't even know what we were doing if we were able to examine the issue ;)
Go on and call the doctor for a very-soon appointment.
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ok so im desperate here. im 14 going 2 have my 1st kiss on wednesday. it is currently sunday night so i have 3 days to get rid of this cold sore. it is almost gone! you cant pop it because it looks more like a scab now. im taking about 4 lysine pills a day (thats how many you can take) and 2 little bottles of the liquid lysine. i am using every medicine i can think of on it. lip balms, liquids, creams. and i put hot tea bags on it. ive had it for a week or maybe 8 days now. please give me something that will work :)thank you so much for the advice (link)
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Coldsores are herpes. Ususally the HSV-1 strain or oral herpes.
Coldsores are highly contagious and non-curable.
The peak times to be contagious is 2 weeks before a breakout and 2 weeks after a breakout has cleared.
Your sore is just now clearing off if it is scabbing. You're still highly contagious.
Be nice. Skip the kiss. Your boy will thank you for the respect later on.
There's no way to make these sores go away faster than what you're already doing. Take care of your body. It's a disease, not a cold you caught. Sometimes you just have to deal with things like this yourself. It's just a part of life.
If you happen to kiss him and he winds up contracting HSV-1 from you then he can sue you for bodily damages since you are well-aware of the coldsore outbreak being herpes now. I wouldn't risk it. Not at all.
"Yeah...I'd really love to get a kiss right now but I have a coldsore healing and it's really contagious so...I was thinking...maybe you should owe me one in a couple of weeks? (wink, smile)?"
Be cutesy. He'll like it. He'll understand you not wanting to give him a life-long disease he'd have to deal with too.
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so i am a 13 year old female. i have been talking to this older guy (16). we flirt a lot. i thought that he liked me but then when he asked me if i liked him and i said i dont know. he told me that he didnt really know either. now things are a bit weird. did i mess things up by saying that i dont know when i kinda do. (link)
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You previously asked a question about this guy, too.
I refrained from answering it, hoping that someone would answer it and give you a clear message as to what was going on there. I looked back and saw a wonderful, blunt answer.
The truth is:
He does not like you.
You didn't do anything wrong. He's 16. He's horny. His hormones are driving him. He's looking for a little no-strings-attached "fun" in some way. That's why he's 100% fine with you flirting but is a little standoffish when you approach him about more (ie: "Do you like me more than as a friend?")
Sure, he might continue talking to you so that you two can keep the sexual-tone of the "relationship" going but you won't ever be someone special to him.
He's giving you the not-clear answer in hopes that you stick around to continue giving him some sort of sexual amusement. He knows if he says, "No, not really..." that you might cut-off communication and won't text sexually to him any more.
When you give off the impression that you're a sexual creature then guys assume that you're easy. You might be saying, "No, I don't do that sort of thing..." in person but online or through the cell phone you are screaming, "Yes! Please!" It gives off the impression that you're easy and fairly desperate. It's very disrespectful of yourself even.
He thinks you're easy. That if he keeps you around that he'll somehow get into your pants. 99% of the time this seems to be true for all women. You talk the talk and, eventually, you just start walking the walk.
You're talking the talk. He's sticking around because he is pretty sure you'll soon be walking the walk.
He thinks he's getting laid soon if you two keep talking. Of course he isn't going to be straightforward and honest about not liking you. He thinks he might actually have a good chance of deflowering you, popping your cherry, or just getting down and dirty.
Maybe he feels a little weird leading you on. He might feel a bit guilty because he has led you to think he's interested so that you two could continue a sextual conversation. He has led you on so that he can, hopefully, get into your pants. Guys do have brains so it's possible he felt a little bad for a moment. This feeling usually passes and they usually get back into their hormone-driven routine again. Don't let it fool you.
If he really, honestly liked you then he would have said, "Yes." There is absolutely no reason in the world for him to not tell you that he has feelings for you. He just doesn't have them. That's why he gave you that answer.
He may have asked if you really liked him so he knew if he still had a chance to get into your pants. You said you weren't sure and, since he doesn't like you, the only other options to say back were: "Yes," as a lie, "I don't know," as a half-truth, or "No," which would absolutely demolish every chance he had at bedding you. Most guys aren't going to say, "No, I don't really like you..." when they want sex.
Please, move on now. Save yourself the heartache. Don't let yourself get hurt. Get away from this guy now and find someone who isn't after sex.
It is not you.
It's him.
All him.
Move on now while you can.
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My boyfriend and i are fed up of just making out so we want to get touchy feely with each other.
I sed i would give a hj which i thought he would say yes to, but he sed he wont let me touch him anywhere unless i let him finger me and im not sure what to do coz he wants to do it while we are in the cinema and i dont know if i should say yes.
BTW i am 14 and he is almost 15 (link)
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I wouldn't do it.
Being "fed up" with making out is leading you to start actually having sex. Being fingered and giving handjobs isn't going to stop there. It's likely that within the upcoming months you will lose your virginity to this guy.
Second-guessing yourself is key. You are clearly uncomfortable with this idea. Deep down inside you don't want this sort of thing.
If making-out isn't doing it for you then you might want to think about your relationship. You can make your relationship a lot more fun by just doing regular activities with your boyfriend. Sex doesn't make a relationship or create love. If making-out is the only fun thing in your relationship then there is something wrong and you're probably setting yourself up for some deep heartbreak.
Your handjob/fingering adventure will go further. If you're not ready to be engaging in sexual intercourse then you're not ready to be engaging in sexual stimulation with a partner.
Getting fingered can introduce harmful germs, bacteria, and even some strains of HPV (and herpes, actually) into your sensitive areas. This is especially so if your partner's hands are not thoroughly cleaned (especially under the nails). I don't know about where you live but all of the theaters I have gone to don't scrub down their seats after each movie viewing. There are a lot of germs harbored on those clothed cushions--and we're not even talking about getting butter on your fingers before touching genitals--we're talking straight-up germs from other people.
Getting caught there is also not going to create such a good memory. You would probably wind up very embarrassed. You may be kicked out of the movie. You may even be told to never come back to that theatre or that they will refuse service to you if you ever come back. Having sexual play in a theatre is absolutely inappropriate.
Think things through. Is this really where you want things to be headed? Do you really want to push things like this further in your relationship?
Talk to your partner. Ask him why he thinks doing this in a public place is so exciting. Express your feelings about it toward him. Let him know how you feel about this whole thing and talk about other things you two might be able to do instead of sex for fun.
You're only 14. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't screw things up now.
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at 72 should I do strenuous exercises? (link)
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At any age you should exercise.
It depends on your overall health. If you feel like you can jog 3 miles every day, and are in relatively good health, then there's absolutely no reason not to.
If you're concerned about overworking yourself then see your doctor first and discuss the activities with him or her. They will know what your body can probably handle safely and what they feel might be going overboard with exercise.
I joined a Curves gym a couple of years back and noticed there were quite a few elderly women that also exercised along with us. I think the oldest was approaching 90. Her doctor had given her the OK that Curves was a good form of exercise for her and she absolutely loved it.
So, yes, you should exercise but only do what your body will allow you. If you have a heart condition, have had strokes, or any serious illness before then you definitely need to speak with your doctor before just in case you're contemplating something that might turn out to be risky for you. Exercise is needed at all stages of life so work with your health care providers to find what is most appropriate for you. Take care of yourself in all ways and you'll have many years ahead of you.
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Is it easier to get prego when you have sex and your on your period? Or is it the same? (link)
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Your easiest to get pregnant during ovulation.
During a typical 28-day cycle (from the exact day you start your period until the exact day you start your next period) a woman usually ovulates around day 14.
Ovulation is when an egg is released from an ovary and travels down into the uterus. Your temperature will very slightly increase around that time and you will secrete a little extra discharge to help sperm swim the to the egg easier.
Ovulation usually happens about mid-way through your cycle so if you had, say, a 20 day period then you might ovulate on day 10. If your period comes every 40 days then you might ovulate on day 20.
During a period most women are not ovulation and are not as fertile then.
The problem is that fertility is not the same in all women.
Take me for example.
I have an exact 28-day cycle. That being said, I should ovulate about day 14 just like "average" women.
According to all of the tests I've taken (you can buy the over-the-counter version at various stores like pharmacies or walmart but you need to take 6 months worth and that's well over $100 of testing) I ovulate on day 20.
Day 20 is much different than day 14 when you take into account:
Sperm live, typically, inside of a woman between 3 and 5 days. There has been live sperm found in women after 7 days though.
It takes only 1 sperm to fertilize your egg. A full ejaculation can contain as many as 100 million sperm at a time.
So, anyway, my peak fertile time is different than most women. I wouldn't have known at all if I hadn't of spent the money to see doctors and do some testing.
It isn't as common, but it happens.
For all we know, you ovulate when you're bleeding. We don't know that. You'd have to buy the tests or see you doctor for testing.
It's best to always use a condom, spermicidal lubricant, and birth control pills. Be as protected as possible all throughout your cycle and you probably won't wind-up with an accident.
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