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We want to get touchy feely with each other
My boyfriend and i are fed up of just making out so we want to get touchy feely with each other.
I sed i would give a hj which i thought he would say yes to, but he sed he wont let me touch him anywhere unless i let him finger me and im not sure what to do coz he wants to do it while we are in the cinema and i dont know if i should say yes.
BTW i am 14 and he is almost 15
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Trust me, I had a mate who got fingered at 14, never let him finger you until your ready and sure you can take the criticism if that got out. Stick to the getting off and other things until your ready. Tell him that your not ready for that yet. If he breaks up with you he may tell everyone because people will think he is cool, whereas they'll brand you a slag. Names like that can stick for life. good luck x
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Don't do it , you'll regret it one day , if he says that to you , don't leave him , he's not treating you right with respect. Goodluck girl!
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I wouldnt And i Dont Think You Should Because If He Really Like You HeWill Wait To You Are Ready And If He Cant You Should Just Move On.Its Your Body Do What Makes You Happy Not What Makes Everybody Else Happy
Signed Yasmine
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Your ages aside, doing much of anything touchy-feely at a cinema is a bad idea. Doing things like that in public places can get you in some serious trouble if you get caught, and there's a likely chance you would. There are people there whose entire job is to make sure that these things don't happen in the theaters!
Also, I wouldn't trust a guy who wont let you touch him unless he gets to touch you first. Personally I think that sounds really suspicious.
I remember being 14, not all that many years ago, and forgive the mother in me that says you should hold off a little while before getting too sexual! You're young and you've got to give yourself time to be young without the sexual drama that comes with taking that step. Some people are ready for it at your age, some aren't. I won't tell you you can't, because it won't do any good to tell you what to do. Just remember, don't let him do anything you're not comfortable with - any decent boy will respect your boundaries and limits, and only push forward when you let him know you're ready.
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Hey there,
Yea, I am going to say 14 and 15 is young... but if you want to go to the next level, I would not do it in a cinema. There are quite a few consequences that come with doing it in a public place: people catching you, somebody taking a photo, getting kicked out, or your parents finding out. If you want to do this, do it somewhere private. It will also set a 'mood' for you both since its one on one.
I have to say going any furthur then touchy feely has major consequences as well. You don't want to end up having a child, not being able to be a kid, supporting the child possibly by yourself, and having your parents involved.. just saying since you sound as if you want to keep moving this relationship forward physically.
Do it somewhere private. If he truly appreciates you, he will respect your wishes and not just do this for some fun. Same with you. <3
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I wouldn't do it.
Being "fed up" with making out is leading you to start actually having sex. Being fingered and giving handjobs isn't going to stop there. It's likely that within the upcoming months you will lose your virginity to this guy.
Second-guessing yourself is key. You are clearly uncomfortable with this idea. Deep down inside you don't want this sort of thing.
If making-out isn't doing it for you then you might want to think about your relationship. You can make your relationship a lot more fun by just doing regular activities with your boyfriend. Sex doesn't make a relationship or create love. If making-out is the only fun thing in your relationship then there is something wrong and you're probably setting yourself up for some deep heartbreak.
Your handjob/fingering adventure will go further. If you're not ready to be engaging in sexual intercourse then you're not ready to be engaging in sexual stimulation with a partner.
Getting fingered can introduce harmful germs, bacteria, and even some strains of HPV (and herpes, actually) into your sensitive areas. This is especially so if your partner's hands are not thoroughly cleaned (especially under the nails). I don't know about where you live but all of the theaters I have gone to don't scrub down their seats after each movie viewing. There are a lot of germs harbored on those clothed cushions--and we're not even talking about getting butter on your fingers before touching genitals--we're talking straight-up germs from other people.
Getting caught there is also not going to create such a good memory. You would probably wind up very embarrassed. You may be kicked out of the movie. You may even be told to never come back to that theatre or that they will refuse service to you if you ever come back. Having sexual play in a theatre is absolutely inappropriate.
Think things through. Is this really where you want things to be headed? Do you really want to push things like this further in your relationship?
Talk to your partner. Ask him why he thinks doing this in a public place is so exciting. Express your feelings about it toward him. Let him know how you feel about this whole thing and talk about other things you two might be able to do instead of sex for fun.
You're only 14. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't screw things up now.
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