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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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summer is here and i live in a really small town.my friends always want to hang out, but theres only so much we can do on a limited budget. what are some fun, creative things we could do?
I grew up in a very small town too. We found a lot of things to do, but one of our favorites was camping in my backyard. Now mind you our yard was about 10 acres..but it doesn't matter. This is something my kids enjoy too and our backyard now is small.
Hi
Thanks for your time.
I have Tinnitus and am always careful with medications. I have just had a flu vaccination and I see that it contains a minute amount of neomycin.
I know in its full antibiotic dosage this substance can be harmful but in the small amount in the vaccine can it harm my ears?
The Dr says know but wanted to double check for future reference and peace of mind.
Thanks so much for your help
PS Do you know a good website that lists drugs and harmful effects on Tinnitus?
Ask your pharmacist for last year's PDR. They often give them away for free. It will list the adverse effect thousands of drugs, and will be a much better reference than the interent.
hi !
i love to eat sweets and brownies and candyy and all that good stuff. but i also wanna look good and healthy. iam not overweight (( and don't wanna get that way either)) but i want to be a little more healither. my family does not eat very much sweets at all because my mom is a doctor. but sometimes my dad will come home with a box of brownie mix --and well, i just can't help myself (if ya know wwhhat i mean). how can i stop eating all these sweets every time they come my way?
thaks a bunch!
Hi,
The problem with people and giving up sweets is that when they think they HAVE to give them up they crave them even more. Allow yourself a little, all things in moderation you know. Instead of having a whole brownie have a half of brownie. Instead of having several pieces of candy only have one. If you want to cut it down even more--just eat one special treat one day a week. Good luck, and best wishes on your journey to improving your health.
My cat has been gaging like he's going to puke but then he dosn't and he does it especialy when you pick him up. Also he's breathing out of his mouth. I know for sure that theres nothing stuck in his throat... and the weirdest part is that my other cat is starting to do it now too. Does anyone know what might be causing it. Im really woried and dont have the money to go to the vet. Please Help.
If you don't have money to go to the vet, buy the hairball relief medicine at the petstore and give it to your cat. If this doesn't work, you have no choice but to take the cat to the vet and ask to make payments or something. I know of a cat that did the same thing and she had a tumor on the upper part of the stomach. Don't give the cat alka-seltzer (it could be very dangerous to do so because the alkaseltzer contains medicine like aspirin).
My friend is going to kill herself next Friday.
She seems happy about it.
I've tried to change her mind, but that didn't work.
She doesn't eat, she's an insomniac, and she is very stressed.
She's been to shrinks but she says that they were a waste of her time.
She hates her parents because she can never talk to them, I guess.
I don't know what to do.
Call the police and tell them what she told you. Someone who is really suicidal does seem happier because to them, their decision to die brings them some relief. She sounds serious about this. The police with either talk to the parents, or take her in custody so she can get help. Tell the police that you believe she will honestly do this...they should take you seriously. If the police do not take you serious, call a suicide hotline or the local emergency room.
I cant take it anymore
I really cant.
My parents are so overprotective.
Whenever I go out, they always want me to be home by 10 PM. latest
I need revenge
dont you dare say its cuz they care about me. i know that and im sick of all this shit
i need help now
I cant take it anymore
Maybe you can add something to your post, please answer this which will really help.
Have they given you a reason that they want you to be home by 10:00 PM? --that would be important to know here.
ok, I've been goin out with this guy for a little over 3 months, he's 16 and he can drive and I'm 15. It's summer so he's always tellin me how he's really buisy, I never see him anymore b/c he says he's always gone... in someways he sounds a little "overly" buisy. He lives like 8 minutes away from me, and he's only come to see me one time ALL summer. When we first started goin out I liked him sooo much that I made the mistake of telling him i would never break up with him... Things aren't working out and I don't feel the same about him, but I don't want to hurt him and I don't know how to break up with him in the right way. I don't want him to think I'm a liar and I regret tellin him that cuz I should have known it wouldn't last forever... What should I do?
Even people in the most committed relationships such as marriage believe in the beginning that they will make it together forever. Once we really get to know the person we often find out differently.
Tell him that you made a mistake and now feel different. There is no really right way to break up with someone, but the best approach is to be honest. If he is head over heels for you it will hurt no matter what, but it also hurts to be with someone who doesn't love us the way we love them. So really, in the end you are doing him a favor if that is how you really feel.
ok today was my 1st day at driver tranning and we had a road drive already, and i really need to inprove my turning. Any tips??
A tip that may help is don't over turn or over steer..a lot of new drivers do this. Once the car is in the direction that you need to be in you need to lighten your grip on the wheel and allow it to go back into a straight position--sometimes the steering wheel will even slide through your fingers.
okay well im 13/f and I KNOW i have a problem...#1 i have REALLY bad anger issues...for example once i punched a wall and fractured (spelling?) my fist all because i couldnt see my cousins for a week or so longer. i've also threw things around just because i was told something i believed in strongly about was wrong. i take temper tantrums and yes its immature but the thing is i dont really realize what im doing..when i have my little fits its like all this energy and i dont know its just weird, it freaks me out a little. OK now heres the thing as soon as im done takin my fits or throwin somethin punchin a wall i will b perfectly fine 5/10 mins later i will act like nothing ever happened sure i'll have a headache but i wont be pissy or anything. Im also like that throughout the day...i'll be really pissed off for god knows what 5mins later im the happiest person in the world...5mins after that im mad again or im sad and depressed or something and hey maybe theres nothing wrong with me but maybe there is and its starting to get annoying when im all happy and then im depressed....
- thanks and sorry if you think im crazy -
~ Rosemarie
Dear Rosemarie,
I will probably say some things that you don't want to hear, but I promise it's not meant in a bad way, but hopefully will open your eyes to what's going on. It's good that you understand that you have a problem, it's the first step to getting better. I do think you realize what you are doing, because you told us all about it.
Remember, if whatever you are angry about is not going to matter 10 years from now, it's best to react in a calmer way. It's quite possible that you are more addicted to the adrenalin rush, than you are to the angry behavior. Our body's naturally have a "fight or flight" response to danger, but even when you are in no danger...you key yourself up so much you get a similar feeling. That's why you feel good afterwards. You need to find a more constructive outlet for your emotions..something that gives you that rush, but is not destructive. If you can change your reaction into something positive, you've solved the problem.
What I would suggest is trying a fairly intense physical activity, such as jogging, bike riding, jump rope, trampoline jumping (or whatever you like) each time you feel that "need for speed" coming on. (in otherwords the need for a release of your frustration). If you do this activity on a daily basis you will be less likely to snap when you feel angry.
Try these suggestions, because it "can't hurt"
i really just want to commit suicide. i just can't stand my life anymore. i just feel like i would be better in heaven where i would have no worries. someone please help. i can only take so much. i don't know how to cope. i'm just going to end up killing myself. i know i am. i have no reason to live.
We don't know what "life" after death is like. So maybe you would still have worries, maybe you would still have pain. My favorite saying is, as long as we are still breathing there is hope. If you quit now, you may never know what it feels like to feel better, and you deserve to feel good. If you believe in Heaven, you probably believe in God, if you end your life now, you are interupting his plan. So yes, even though you don't see it now, you have a reason to live--we were all put here for a reason. Perhaps that reason will be to help others who are going through a similar situation as yourself. Sometimes, even at 40 some years old we aren't sure of our purpose in life, but one thing we can all be sure of is that we were chosen to be here. Think of the millions of potential sperm/egg combinations--and they didn't happen, but we did! So that makes us special..and important. There is no one like you, and no one that can replace you.
Call the number that another advice giver posted and you will be greeted with a friendly voice that will not think you are crazy or wrong for feeling the way you do.
Please let us know how you are doing. People--all kinds of people really do care.
alright so im (15/f) and all of my friends have done stuff with boys. i havent. is that wierd? i think im just scared because once i find someone i really like i dont wanna be like hey yeah i dont know what the heck im doing! lol soo what should i do.
No actually that doesn't make you weird at all. It shows that you have more self control than your friends. When the time is right, the person that is right for you will understand and even appreciate that you haven't had sex yet. Hopefully he won't know what he is doing either--because it would be best to be a mutual "first" Back in the old days many girls saved themselves until marriage...and things worked out. Even though your friends act like they know what they are doing, not many 15 year olds really do. People like to talk big when the conversation turns to sex..so don't worry you are doing fine!
I just got my finger web pierced (between my thumb and index finger)
Does anybody know what the healing time is and what is best to clean it with? I completely forgot what the piercer said. I know not to use alcohol or peroxide but does bedadine work? or sea salt dissolved in warm water?
I suspect the healing time may be 10-14 days provided that you don't get an infection. You can buy antiseptic wound cleanser at the pharmacy, betadine is rather messy and if you don't get it all off will it leave your skin orange. Since the webs of our fingers are not as exposed as the remainder of our hand the most important thing would be to keep the area dry and open to the air.
I babysit an 11 year old boy and an 11 year old girl 3 days a week for 4 hours a day. The boy is very sweet, but the girl is a brat. She doesn't listen to me and always does mean stuff to me. She has poured water down my shirt and refused to help with stuff. She trys to make my job very difficult. I don't know why, since I'm very nice to her and I try to help her and do what she wants to do. My family is in a lot of debt so we need the money a lot. What should I do?
The girl is working to get your attention. To some children, negative attention is better than no attention. She probably feels neglected by her parents, and therefore is taking it out on you. On a day when you are not babysitting, ask if you can spend some time alone with her. Her special time..take her to the park, play games etc. Once you get to know her one on one and can give her some individual time, her behavior will probably get better. Make sure you don't leave her out or treat her differently than the boy, kids sense this and will respond to this.
Hi! i am from India. my baby is 2 yrs old and since me and my husband are both working i have arranged for a babysitter for her for 8-9 hours. my question is : how does baby sitting help her and how does it harm her? i am very confused and require advice on babysitting and what should i look in a good babysitter?
Here is a site where you can come up with an interview script for each candidate:
http://www.babysitters.com/interviewsitter.aspx
Have the person sign a consent so you can do a background check (there are sites on the internet). Do not just take their word on the criminal history because some people will lie.
Check references (people that are not related to the person). Past behavior will be your best indicator of future behavior.
Before you decide, have your best candidates spend time with your child with you present. Observe their interaction, but keep in mind that your child may be more anxious with you present and want little to do with that person. This is normal, but the person should understand that & know ways to help your child become more comfortable.
If you have a good babysitter, the experience can be positive. It can teach your child social skills with others and independence from her parents. The child will grow up in an environment where he/she sees you going to work everyday and realize that work can be a positive experience. The babysitter should be a mentor and a teacher to your child which will be of benefit to her future education. If you choose the right sitter there should be no negative effects and should bring no harm to her. You will need to watch your child's reaction when you spend time with her. If she becomes withdrawn, or acts out in ways that she did not before you probably don't have the right sitter. Don't blame it on yourself, just find a new sitter.
I'm 15/f. I have selective mutism. So it's an anxiety disorder. I've had it since I was little.
And I haven't talked in school for like 9 years. I tried talking this year but the whole "heart beating, my voice cracking, my voice sounding different" didn't help. For some reason I feel like that but half of the time.. I really want to say something but I can't because then I remember "I dont talk to these people". I get weird reactions from people. "OMG, YOU TALKED!" and they scream and stuff...
So do you think there's some sort of medication for me? I really want to start talking. But my anxiety is holding me back. I have the whole summer to deal with this. Because I feel like I'm wasting my life away and I'm having no fun.. and I really want a job too... Help?
Hi,
Some people have to live their life in silence because they can't talk..these people wish they were you. There is always hope for all of us as long as we are breathing. I would suggest finding a psychiatrist that you are comfortable with and work on the reasons that you are afraid to talk, therapy may include medications, but should not be the only treatment.
Best Wishes
What can I do for my cat while she is in heat. She has not been spayed.
Keep her in the house 24/7. After the heat cycle take her to get spayed. Unless it's a purebreed cat with a pedigree..I wouldn't recommend breeding her. Kittens are abundant and free because there are so many in this world!
i'm getting braces soon. i don't know what color to get. i like the colors baby blue, light green, and baby pink, although i'm afraid those colors will bring too much attention to my mouth. will they? what colors are good so the braces arn't as noticeable. nothing vibrant like hot pink right?
I just can't imagine the color green on teeth..would look like it goes with a Halloween costume. If you don't want the old fashioned silver, I'd go with the baby blue.
Hi, i am 15 nearly 16 and my teenage years which i should be enjoying are being ruined. ever since i was young i have had an obsession with babies and at one point i almost slept with someone i had only just met, to get pregnant. luckily i couldn't go through with it and after a while and a great deal of thinking i managed to bottle these feelings up and get on with my life and hopefully get a degree to become a high school teacher. Since i have entered year 10 i have been taking child development which is 90% about babies, also a girl in the year below me is pregnant and is really excited and I'm just so jealous! everyone i have talked to said "it just my hormones" or "its just a faze" but its not, its more than that. it is making me depressed and my GCSE's are suffering because i cant tell the teachers why i am always so down and moody so they just assume i am being immature, then cocky when i say that I'm not being immature. I'm not a big clubbing fan so if i did get pregnant that wouldn't bother me and my best mate had a child at 16 (she is now 19) and she says its great and she hasn't missed out anything she wouldn't sacrifice anyway. please help me, i just don't no what to do!
It sounds like you are thinking of having a baby to satisfy your wishes or desires, that is actually a selfish reason. Girls like you live in the fantasy world--"I want one because they look cute" and you can dress a baby up and show it off. It's kind of the same reasons little girls play with dolls. It sounds as if you have an obesession, because it is affecting every area in your life. You might need to see a counselor or therapist to get to the bottom of why you are doing this. Perhaps it is because there is something else lacking in your life, like a close relationship with your parents.
I remember thinking about Motherhood at your age, but I spent a lot of my time babysitting with nieces and nephews..and that cured me real fast! I could see the reality of what it would take to raise a child! I knew I had to first provide a good life for myself, and then I could think about having children. In addition, I was smart enough to know that teenage pregnancies were high risk and I wanted to start with the best set of circumstances.
So if your future goal (in your 20's) is to become a Mother, that's okay. Everything we want in life that is worth having, is worth working & waiting for. If you want to be the best Mother possible, you will get good grades now and stop the obsession!
Okyy. Well,, i better state thhat my handss are shkking unconttraolbly, whichm akes it hard to typpe well, buttt ill tryy my hardest.
Well, today, the doctor said I have strep throat. 2 dayys ago i started feeling siick with a head achhe & stomach problems. I didn't eat after 2:00 ppm that dayy.
The nnext day, I diidnt eat anythinng. It was more head ach and stommach problems.
Yesterdayy, all i at was a cressent roll& a little bit of noodle soupp. My stomach & head still.
Today, I wentt too the doctors office & they siaid ii had strep thhroat. Now, my throat & head & stomach hurtt. All iive had to day wass half a frapp from starbucks.
I've loost 10 lbs so farr, noot onn purpose.
quuestions:
1. Iss this really unhealthy?
2. Am i supoosed to be SUPER coold?
In teens and children one symptom of strep throat is a stomache ache. The good news is, most strains of strep can be cured with antibiotics. Try eating popcicles, sucking on ice cubes, letting jello slide down your throat..and all that will help. The unhealthy part is you are not getting enough fluids! If you have a temp over 100, and I assume you do if you have the chills you might try a tepid bath or an over the counter medication for a fever. Ask the pharmacist or your Dr which would be best..if you can't swollow a pill, you can get liquid form. Once the antibiotics kick in, you should notice a great deal of improvment in 3 days. As a general rule strep throat that get's treated is not dangerous.
i'm getting eye surgery to make my eyes bigger because i think they'd look more pretty that way. umm people tell me after i do the surgery, for 2 weeks my eyes are going to be all puffy and stuff and it will look bad and it will take around 2 weeks to heal - is that true? umm and how old do i have to be to get the surgery done? and like are there any cons of getting the eye surgery? or any side effects? thanks.
If this is a cosmetic procedure, personally--I'd use cosmetics instead of opting for surgery. Aside from a possible fatal reaction to the anesthesia, the major risks are, nerve damage, blindness and infection. Then there is the possiblity of a thickened scar, drooping due to tissue that is manipulated and stretched..and actually looking worse than before the surgery. One eye can look different from the other too.
http://beauty.indobase.com/cosmetic-surgery/risk-in-cosmetic-surgery.html