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Hi! i am from India. my baby is 2 yrs old and since me and my husband are both working i have arranged for a babysitter for her for 8-9 hours. my question is : how does baby sitting help her and how does it harm her? i am very confused and require advice on babysitting and what should i look in a good babysitter?
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Dear,Worried You should look for a babysitter that is kind,nurturing,caring and is willing to take responsibility..a good sitter should have children of his or her own or at least watch other children,children at this age need to interact with eachother..for example a bad sitter would just sit them down letting them watch tv all day a good sitter would play with them and interact with them making sure they learn they're abc's and colors...children at this age are like sponges they soak up everything around them.The baby sitter will determine weaither it harms or helps your child..as a parent you have to be careful on who you trust with your child..remember your child's development lies within your judgement..I would highly advice you get some feed back on the sitter so you can make the right choice.Wish you luck. Your friend Violet
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Dear mommy,
I guess this is more of advice than anything. I think you should make sure the babysitter is helping your child.
--At 2 they should be talking, or at least saying something. Tell your babysitter to work with her/him on speech.
--Incase your baby stops breathing or starts choking ..you might want to see if there CPR certified.
--If your really nervouse try requesting a background check or put up video servalence in your house.
--There are some negetives about babysitting....You might get a babysitter that appears friendly and someone whos going to watch after your child well...But when you leave, your child may get neglected.
--AND offcourse there is always a chance of someone stealing your baby. SO becareful of whos babysitting your child.
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Babysitting will help her, beacuse she will have someone to care and nurture her, when you arent able to be there for her.
I think the only thing that would harm her is, that she wont get to spend as much time with you as she needs, or as you would like.
To find a good babysitter, you need to have someone that you trust, and is reliable, and kind friendly, and fun!
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Here is a site where you can come up with an interview script for each candidate:
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Have the person sign a consent so you can do a background check (there are sites on the internet). Do not just take their word on the criminal history because some people will lie.
Check references (people that are not related to the person). Past behavior will be your best indicator of future behavior.
Before you decide, have your best candidates spend time with your child with you present. Observe their interaction, but keep in mind that your child may be more anxious with you present and want little to do with that person. This is normal, but the person should understand that & know ways to help your child become more comfortable.
If you have a good babysitter, the experience can be positive. It can teach your child social skills with others and independence from her parents. The child will grow up in an environment where he/she sees you going to work everyday and realize that work can be a positive experience. The babysitter should be a mentor and a teacher to your child which will be of benefit to her future education. If you choose the right sitter there should be no negative effects and should bring no harm to her. You will need to watch your child's reaction when you spend time with her. If she becomes withdrawn, or acts out in ways that she did not before you probably don't have the right sitter. Don't blame it on yourself, just find a new sitter.
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Don't be afraid to ask questions, ask them 'Do you have any criminal records' or 'How long have you been babysitting?'. You need someone that is experienced and mature, not someone who's just going to be sitting around and making the 2 year old watch for itself. Ask if the babysitter knows who to call incase of any emergencies. A babysitter can be good for your child to interact with others instead of its parents. It can't necessarily be bad unless the babysitter is evil and doesn't give the child any food or something.
Good luck.
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dont just hire any babysitter..hire one who has the same ideas,morals, and concepts as you and your husband. you dont want to hire someone who will teach your child wrong..because lets face it..when the babysitter is around your child so much like that...she/he is bound to rub off on your child and your child will pick up her habits..sooo make sure the babysitter seems responsible and has the same foundation as you and your husband. Ask her questions about what she would do with the child..if the activities would be something educational like looking at a childrens book together, etc. find someone with maturity and intelligence. if you find yourself hearing things out of your child's mouth that are inappropriate..it might be the babysitter's doing. whats helpful before hiring..get references on her..if you see the babysitter was fired in the past for having cursing fits, etc..then maybe the person is not a good choice. follow your gut feeling and use good judgement,.and you will be fine
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Here are some basic tips. I want to add that if you EVER feel something isn't quite right...trust those instincts.
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Babysitting can be a real good advantage for the child. If you get a person of high standing in knowledge and morales, she can learn these knowledges and moralities from another influence. You would need a good babysitter though, and you would need to tell her to teach her something while she is there. On the other hand, it could result in less time you have with her. The less percentage of time you stay with her and help her out, the less she learns from you, and the more she conforms to society.
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Look for somebody with experience. And age! An eighteen-year-old would be better than a thirteen-year-old. Ask them to show up early so that you can go over household rules and the sitter and child can get to know each other. If they get there late, they'll probably make other mistakes, too, so I would decide to stay home in this case. They should also know first aid and CPR, so ask that.
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Please, please make sure you have checked very carefully into the background and suitability of your chosen babysitter. Your daughter is the most precious thing in your lives and to trust her with someone else needs a lot of careful thought. You need to know that the person looking after your daughter is trustworthy, proficient and capable of looking after her. They must know what to do in an emergency and how to soothe her if she is ill. You must also ensure that your home is safe if they are caring for her at home, or if she is at someone elses home then check it out to make sure it is within legal guidelines. Should you be lucky enough to have a place for her at a nursery, check into their safety records and ask other mothers how they feel about it. On the plus side, she will have one to one care at home, or if she is at a nursery she will have company of her own age. You must trust your instincts as her mother to know what is best for her and you. If you have any niggling doubts then try someone else or another nursery. I wish you all the best.
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