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easily affected by wat people think of me
Hi I'm 18/f.
I get affected easily by what people say about me. (I know, at this age I should already be very confident) When I spot a new haircut, initially I'll feel really good bout it but when other people start to criticise it, I start to feel ugly and feel that my new haircut sucks too when i look in the mirror.
Sometimes I think I'm pretty , sometimes I'm not. I get upset when people don't think I'm pretty. I will try means and ways to get them to say I'm pretty. Or when I ask someone, "she's prettier or I'm prettier?", I'll keep bugging him or her to say them I AM prettier. I know its bad. Can someone help me to be less affected by what others say and be more confident bout wat i think of myself?
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Okay, first dont let people critizise you, if they do think in your head.. and it matters what they think because? I mean, they arent the ones who got the haircut, or they arent the ones who spent money on the outfit. Its how what you do makes you feel! If it makes you feel good, just dont let them walk all over you!
Or when they are doing what htey are doing, like trying to critique you, confront them right on the spot, tell themm.. you know what, I really dont care what your opinion is because I like it, and if you dont, too bad.
You shouldnt try to get people to tell you your pretty, dont put them in awkward situatoins like you said "She's prettier or am I prettier?" because if they are your friend, of course they are going to say you are.
I mean honestly, I dont have a problem with my confidence, its always been pretty high.
Butwhats helps is when your happy with youreslf, the first step is learning to accept that your not perfect and neither is anyone else. With that being said, it should help, your not perfect, you are who you are, and you're not going to change to fit other peoples molds :)
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Hi!
My name is Stephanie so you know!! ok I think that you shouldn't really care what people think! i dont anymore!! i used to so this is a PERFECT subject for me!!! ok you can get your BEST picture that you have of you and you can hang it somewhere where you can see it every morning (like on your mirror) and look at it and pick out your best features and then think about that all day and you wont think about the parts that you hate on your body!!!
I hope i helped!!
- <3 Stephanie-
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This may sound weird, but most of the time if you know you're pretty, then you are. You don't need any friend to tell you that. I'm like you for the most part, I want people saying stuff like that about me but they don't unless I ask. But I think I look good most of the time (except at school where it matters most). If you think you look pretty sometimes, and if you think don't sometimes, then you should try to evaluate yourself in general: are you pretty or aren't you. Don't say "Well, in the mornings I am but during the day my hair gets messed up...". GENERALLY, are you pretty? Then keep that mindset. If you meet someone who's nice but not "pretty", you usually don't think anything of it unless they ask you "Am I pretty?". The same goes with you.
If you decide that you don't think you're pretty, then that's fine, just try to look better =) Try losing weight if you could lose a few pounds, get a new haircut (which by the way, you can't please everyone with anything, including your new haircut. Some will love it, some will hate it. It depends on what YOU want to see in the mirror every day), tan, gain a few pounds if you are too skinny, etc.
You shouldn't spend so much time asking if you're pretty. If you think you are, then you are. If you think you aren't, then only you can change that. No one can determine who looks good and who doesn't because everyone has a different opinion.
I hope I helped.
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First off, remember, just because someone thinks your ugly doesn't mean you are. For an example: your at a party and two guys come up and say "Which one of us is hotter??" and you say, "Jason". Then Brandon is going to be upset. Just like you.
When people say your ugly just say something like, "I'm prettier than you." and walk away. Get counseling if you need to. Sometimes your surface problems are not what they seem. They can be deep down inside of you. =]
-GD
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Alright, so I use to do that now. && I realized, why waste my time!!! If I think that a new haircut is cute, then I will stick to it. DONT let anyone change your mind about something. Because after a while it changes you as a person.Stay Truee =]
I hope I helped
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I think that you should concentrate on your problem and not your age that this problem is occuring. I think that it honestly doesn't matter how old you are when it comes to your self-esteem, so just get that cleared up first.
Obviously, you do really care what other people think of you. You thought your haircut was really good and you felt good about it until someone else didn't. I think that whoever really cares to say something that hurts you or says something flat out ugly about you, then they really don't have much confidence in themselves either because that's usually who those kind of people are. They feel bad about themselves so they put others down to make them feel prettier or higher on level than you.
Another thing is just a matter of opinion. Some people will dislike things that you do like. If they don't like it, they shouldn't say anything, but apparently people are like that and you will hear it even though it's wrong. It's something you have to put yourself through the test. The way I see it, it's life's way of testing you of what you really see yourself as. If you thought that haircut was pretty in the first place, then you know for sure that it was pretty and always has been. What you have to do is just look in the mirror and remember those good thoughts you had about the haircut before someone ruined it. Another thing is don't let someone ruin it for you.
If you let them get you down and upset about your appearance, then you're letting them get what they want from you. Don't you think they should be feeling bad about themselves because of how bad of a persn they are? If you've got the looks but not a good character or personality, then you've got nothing. You need to just develop the good thoughts you have about yourself one moment, and say nothing bad about yourself. If there is something you dislike about your appearance and you can't change it, then it's ment to be there to make you yourself.
-TheTeenGirl
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