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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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So my boyfriend is almost positive he got genital herpes from an ex-girlfriend. However, he hasn't been tested and he hasn't had an outbreak. We've been having sex, intercourse and oral, protected and occasionally unprotected. I'm wondering what my possible chances of catching or having caught herpes are. Thanks in advance.

If he does have it, you have a high chance of getting it too.

The both of you need to get tested immeadiately.

oh my goodness. my period keeps flowing so fast, it wont stop. I have to keep changing the pads. does anyone know any ways to make it stop or go slower.??? I heard eating chocolate does i think? Is that true, or are there other ways?

There unfortunately isn't anything you can do to stop your flow from being so heavy, but you can get like the Super Ultra Jumbo pads. Haha, they might feel a bit diaperish, but you won't have to change them so often since they're made for that type of flow.

13/f. hey i get manicures alott, (french) and i was wondering how to make them last longer?

I don't do a lot with my hands, so mine usually last longer than other girls. If you're doing something like sports, or you're just really good with your hands, or you're sort of handymanish, they won't last as long.

Or you could just dry them for a super long time.

so.. basically.

im 13. turning 14. and i have been thinking alot about sex, but i dont want to yet.
and i tend to like guys alot older then me.

so.. [3] queations.
1) How old were you?
2) Do you regret it?
3) Did it hurt?

[1] I was 15 when I lost my virginity.
[2] Yeah, I do. I regret not waiting til it was with the right person & not waiting until I was older, and if I could, then I'd change it in a heartbeat.
[3] A little bit. It didn't hurt so much mainly because there was foreplay first, but if we didn't do any of that, it probably would've hurt a lot, and I wouldn't have went through with it.

My advice to you though: Wait. Wait a really long time to have sex. Possibly til your 20's. You're so young and sex can complicate things a lot for you. Just wait until you're older [a lot older], and until you're positive you love them. It'll be a lot better for you. And always use protection.

Okay. 15/f. I have a guy friend...and he JUST got a girlfriend. And I never really liked him in that way. But now, since he talks about her IN MY FACE...And he ALWAYS does that these days, it annoys the SH*T out of me. OH MY GOSH. I just want to go over there...and tell her off or something. (the thing is...I don't like her that much). I'm jealous. I'll say it right away. And it's an icky feeling. How does one overcome it? Ugh...it's so gross!

Just let him know you're happy for him but you don't wanna hear about her. But remember that you've got it all, so you've got nothing to be jealous about.

I would like to dress really pretty for when I get back from spring break which is Monday to school!!! Have any ideas as what I should wear, my make-up, my attitude, my hair, shoes, and everything else?? I would like to get started soon:)

If you've got money, try & go shopping. Go to places that have bright colors such as Wet Seal, American Eagle, Hollister, and Abercrombie & Fitch. They have everything you should wear. I'm not gonna tell you what, because my style might be completely different from your's, and what you might like, I might hate, & vice versa. So go there, and pick what you like.

If you can, get a hair cut, or dye your hair. Anything different. If you can't totally dye your hair, try highlights since it only goes in certain parts of your hair.

As for your attitude, if you're usually quiet or shy, try to be outgoing & friendly. Trust me, no one will expect it, and they might actually like it more because it could be easier to approach you.

And for makeup, just get some brighter springy colors. You can usually get that at Wal*Mart for really cheap. =) Good luck.

Im reallllly bored. And my dads not home. But its just him and he just moved out here so i dont know anybody. And like the only thing i can do is talk on AIM and go on myspace. Does anybody have any ideas so i can not be as bored? Please and thank you?

Since you just moved out there, try going around town. You might get lost, BUT you'll be seeing what there is to do. Check out the mall, or the movie theatre. Though it might be what you usually did back where you used to live, their malls could be a lot different.

But if you want game sites:
- addictinggames.com
- candystand.com

Have fun. =)

I have to throw my sister a baby shower does anyone know any good game ideas.

My cousin just recently had a baby shower in November for her son, & for some odd reason, I don't remember although I should.

I remember there was a game with safety pins & if someone said the word baby, you got to take their pin. And there was another where you guess how big her belly was. You took a piece of ribbon, made your guess, and if you were right you won a price. There was another one where you couldn't cross anything, like you arms, fingers, or legs. Even your eyes, haha. Just fun little games like that.

Have fun at the baby shower. =)

a lot of the jeans that i own will fit and be tight when i first put them on, but as the day goes on they get all stretched out and it is so annoying. sometimes they get so stretched out that they get all baggy in but and are so big in the waist. i know it is normal for jeans to stretch a little, but does anybody know anything i can do to prevent them from stretching soo much to the point that they are too big? thanks!

I would just wash them constantly so you can put them in the dryer. The dryer is the one that makes them tighter. And if that doesn't work, take them to a tailor & they can fix the problem for you. =)

where mite i get a piercing earing and can a saftey pin work as well? oh and how much would it cost? thanx again =]

You can get a piercing earring at Wal*Mart, KMart & Target in the jewlery section. A safety pin isn't so safe to use as a thing to pierce yourself with. It'd work, but it probably wouldn't turn out as good, and it'd probably hurt a lot more. A piercing earring ranges from about $10-15 bucks.

Recently my boyfriend introduced me to his good friend say...'D'. Now D and I became friends but we aren't that close...I mean all we do is just say hi... Now I think D likes me because he just tries to avoid me and my friend told me that its because he likes me and doesn't wana hurt his friend... Fine...that didn't bother me so much..but now like im always on his hi5,myspace profile...Looking at his pic... leaving comments...he doesn't reply to any of my comments... BUT I LOVE MY BF LIKE ANYTHING...I FEEL SO ... IMPURE...wat SHUD i DO??

If you're obsessed with him, then you obviously like him, and if you can't be commited to your boyfriend, then you need to leave your boyfriend and re-evaluate yourself.

Hi.
http://i14.tinypic.com/4bfso4k.jpg
So here's one of the most recent pictures of myself I've got.
I've just gotten to feel fat anymore. =)
I'm about 4'9' and about 110 lbs. I'd asked a question earlier, and got a few responses saying I should lose some weight, so I was wondering how people thought of this visually. I've really gained alot of weight lately, and I'd like to get back to 90 lbs, maybe even eighty?
I don't want to be super skinny, just skinnier than I am now.
The problem I've got is my stomach. I seriously look pregnant or something in all my shirts, anymore, if I'm not wearing a jacket, and it makes me feel really unconfident.

So.. help? lol.

I seriously think you like fine. You're pretty, and your body is good for your height.

If you'd like to lose a couple of pounds though, just drink lots of water & exercise for 30 minutes a day everyday.

About 5 or 6 months ago I had sex for the first time and did all the foreplay and stuff, but with a friend of mine.[we werent going out]
Ever since, Ive wanted to do it so badly again with him and I think about it all the time.
We dont really talk anymore at all, and he now has a girlfriend.
But about 2 months after we did it, he brought it up and said he would do it again.
It was his first time too, and I know him and his girlfriend havent done anything.
Do you think he still thinks about it?
or what?
Its driving me crazy!

Since you were his first, I think he still does think about it. I mean, you never really forget the person you lose your virginity to. Talk to him about it & get some closure to it, or at least some answers. If he admits to still thinking about it, then you know you're not alone.

im going out with this guy for like 3 weeks now.i liked him like in the begining of the school year. sow now that were going out he tell me he loves me and stuff how can do i no if 2 believe him??

Ask him if he means it. It might seem to him as if you don't love him back, but it's the only way for sure.

Mmkay. 15/f So my boyfriend and I have been going out for like... since september. We're really close because of what we've been through before our relationship. But now we've both noticed we're drifting apart. When we talk, there isn't much to talk about so we barely talk. Maybe even not speaking to each other for days. Yesterday we talked about all this. What we should do about our relationship and stuff. We both understand why we don't and why we do. He says he'll be happy as long as I'm happy, so I have the final say about ths whole thing. Should I break up or not?

Give it another chance, and if it doesn't work out, then consider breaking up. If you break up now, you could regret it later & end up hating yourself.

i have a problem. ive been friends with this kid 'tom'. we're really, really close, and i just recently found out he likes me because he told one of my friends, who eventually told me. i was shocked, yet happy at the same time. Ever since i found this out, we have been together all the time in school. [in the halls, ect.] we also have a couple classes together and we text all the time in class. =X, ha, anyways, i have concluded that i really like him, alot, which is great for me because ive had trouble likeing someone ever since my last relationship i was in.[it was terrible.] But, theres one problem, hes 100% mexican, and pretty dark. Im irish, and my dad has a huge problem, and won't let me date anyone who's 'not white'. This bothers me because he is honestly, one of the nicest, and best friend i could ever ask for, and i really, really like him, and would love to date him. But i know my dad wouldn't approve. How could i try to talk to my dad about allowing me to be with him ? =/

Just sit him down one day & tell him you have this really nice friend. And although he isn't white, he's a nice guy, and you really like him. Ask your dad to meet him so that he won't be so harsh.

If your dad still says no, then follow his rules. Although it's a little bit rude, your dad makes rules for a reason. Also, when you get a little bit older, try & date whoever. If your dad can't accept it, that's his problem.

i want more guy friends. like, it's not even about getting or a boyfriend or flirting or anything. i'm just SOOO tired of all the stupid, immature, catty drama that comes along with girl friends. i have a couple guy friends, but not alot - only one really good one. how do i make more? i really want more really good guy friends. any advice? thanks so much!

Talk to your guy friends some more, and become friends with their frineds if at all possible.

I agree with you about girls.

ok guys her's the deal. i think i like my best friend as much more than a friend. I just dont knwo what to do because i know there is another guy that she likes and if something did happen between us, id be worried in case something happened our friendship would be ruined. i dont know what to do. please help me

Tell her you like her. The worst she could tell you is that she's a lesbian, that she doesn't like you, or that she's taken.

Ok so, im going out with this guy right? Ive realized that i basically cant stand him anymore!I mean sure, he's sweet,nice,and there for me but i dont know, its getting old. I have another guy in mind who i really like, and i cant get off of my mind! but...this guy is mad at me right now for going out with this guy in the first place...anyway i can convince him to not be mad? and if so, how am i supposed to break up with this guy as well?HELP!!

If you don't like him, break up with him. If you didn't, you'd just be leading him on & you'd end up hurting him so much worse in the end. Just be his friend, & if you don't wanna be that either, then don't.

If you like this other guy, let him know that you & your boyfriend are no longer together, and then go out with him.

i have this really bad rash under my left armpit. it burns. its red and irritated and they look like pimples!!! im joining a sport next year and i have and i have had this rash for a year. what can i do to get rid of it.

See your dermatologist. He/she is the only one who can tell you what it is & give something to you for it.

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