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ahhhh.
so.. basically.
im 13. turning 14. and i have been thinking alot about sex, but i dont want to yet.
and i tend to like guys alot older then me.
so.. [3] queations.
1) How old were you?
2) Do you regret it?
3) Did it hurt?
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i was fourteen. i do not regret it. and it didnt hurt so much physically it hurt more mentally, because its such a big step in a relationship. just make sure you are ready before you do anything. and if your truely in love with the person it wont hurt as much as you think it will. good luck =]!
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1. I was 14
2. I do not regret it
3. It did hurt
Regardless of how old you are when you loose your virginity, it is most likley going to hurt. I don't regret loosing mine when I was 14 because I'm still with the guy who took my virginity. But, a lot of people are different. Make sure you really care about the person you want to have sex with, and make sure you're ready. :]
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1- I was 16
2- Yes... Then I thought I loved hima nd that we would "be together forever" but he was the first real bf I had, and looking back at it now, he was a complete dumbass and I wish I never had done that. So think about it long and hard, because you can never get that back
3- A little, but not bad
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14 and yes I regret it and it did hurt a little.
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i was 13 when i lost mine. i was not going out with the boy but i thought i was in love, but i wasnt. i now have a wonderful boyfriend of 6 months who i am madly in love with & i wish i would have waited and lost my virginity to my boyfriend. it hurt alittle but no so bad. hope i helped =]
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im 13 too and i think about sex alot.but its just our hormones and we are growing up.some people says that maybe if you masterbate it might help but personally im not gone on the idea.but its surpose to help.oh ya ive liked guys older than me too but my older sister adviced me not to go out with anyone alot older than me even if they ask you out and seem really nice.but maybe guys about a year to two years older maybe.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx
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It's great that you are not giving into peer-pressure and have decided to wait until you are ready. That is the responsible approach but hard to do when guys are looking for one thing only.
As far as your question on does it hurt it depends on the person you ask. Most girls experience a bit of pain if their hymen is being stretched for the first time and hasn't been done so through masturbation or using tampons.
They also may feel friction and discomfort from the man thrusting if they are not properly lubricated. I don't regret the choice to have had sex but I regret the person it was with and the set of circumstances. No, in my case it never hurt but I'm not a girl. You'll get different opinions on that I'm sure from everyone.
My only recommendation is that you find the right person and make sure your brain outweighs your heart when it comes to distinguishing if they're worthy and use protection above everything and get on a good form of birth-control. I'm not trying to preach but you have to be very careful.
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[1] I was 15 when I lost my virginity.
[2] Yeah, I do. I regret not waiting til it was with the right person & not waiting until I was older, and if I could, then I'd change it in a heartbeat.
[3] A little bit. It didn't hurt so much mainly because there was foreplay first, but if we didn't do any of that, it probably would've hurt a lot, and I wouldn't have went through with it.
My advice to you though: Wait. Wait a really long time to have sex. Possibly til your 20's. You're so young and sex can complicate things a lot for you. Just wait until you're older [a lot older], and until you're positive you love them. It'll be a lot better for you. And always use protection.
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I am still a virgin and I am 17. No, I am not one of those people that are waiting for marriage (I definitely won't be doing that), but I believe that at my age I am not yet emotionally mature enough for sex. Sex has so many attachments, it can ruin so many good friendships and complicate so many things in your life. It's not the simple act that many young people think it is.
And so, at 13 I definitely think you should wait for a while. It's perfectly normal to be THINKING about sex, we all do. You're beginning puberty and hormones are raging. Even at my age sex is on the mind a lot, you know?
I just think that if you make that decision, no matter how much preparation you go through, there is a very good chance you will regret it. And yes, it will hurt. Your body isn't even close to being done developing, so it could quite possibly hurt more now than it would in a few years.
It's a big deal, and not an issue to be taken lightly. And being with older guys has pros and cons...someone with more experience will know how gentle you need to be with a virgin girl but with someone who's had sex before, there's always a chance of getting an STD.
That's a BIG deal. Condoms aren't enough. My sister has herpes. She's been with two guys sexually her whole life: one was her finance and one was a long-term boyfriend. She thought both were fine...they had no break out and didn't tell her anything. Now she has to live with this her whole life. Herpes alone has a 50% chance of being contracted WITH a condom. That's not a very good statistic. No matter how "clean" you think a person is, you just never know.
And if the guy were also a virgin, trust definitely has to be there...MAJOR TRUST. He has to move so slow and some guys just don't know how to go about doing that. You have to be very careful.
I hope you think more about this and make the right decision...and I hope I helped.
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