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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

I'm psyching myself out on trying to try a tampon. I tried them like a year ago and haven't since... Ahh.

Im 15 1/2 and Ive had my period for about 4 years now and i just dont think they are for me. But i would love to go running with out a stupid pad. Hellp.

First off, if you can feel it go in, you're doing it wrong. Second, if you put it in & you can feel it still, you're still doing it wrong. Make sure it goes in painlessly & easily. If you're having trouble, you're doing it wrong.

You might wanna try one that goes with your flow [heavy, ultra, super, jumbo, etc] because if you get the wrong one, it won't absorb everything. You might wanna wear a pantiliner too just in case it doesn't absord everything & you have protection from it getting all over you. Also, take some tylenol or midol so your cramps don't own you everywhere.

And as for the girl below me, if you're cramping because of your tampon, then you probably did it wrong & you need to try again. Also, remember not to leave it in too long because you could get TSS. Read the box for the tampons and it'll explain TSS and how to insert a tampon correctly.

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can bulimic people get ulcers???

Anyone can get an ulcer so yeah, that includes bulimics.

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i dont see whats wrong with sitting on a boys lap...i havent done it...of course not because everybody makes such a big deal out of it but isnt it sorta just like sitting next to eachother?

Did you come here to whine about why people make a big deal out of it, or are you actually asking a question?

If asking a question: It's not a big deal. Sit on a guy's lap whenever you want.

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stupid
stupid
my mom wont let me hav a boyfriend
and i am fourteen a female
14
14
14
14
pretty lame last yr i went bhinf
her
bac
and had a
boyfrend
it lasted over 6months
it was steady but u
jst 4 my age
and mature
{i say!}
enuf
but she says hav;n a boyfrend is having
is like a SIN
or in dat matter
dat ill b
considered a slut
whore those filthy names
and she punished w/ those names
wen she found i had a boyfriend hurt mor
bcuz she distrust
i aint a bad kid ive matained a 4.0 since 4th and
play sports
and even wen i was w/ him i controlled the
relationship and me and all the
stuff
wat should i do
i can't wait 'till i am 16
yes i can but wen i broke up w/
it was cuz of
dat
we've known each other 4 a long time
but i dont know
wat goes thru her head
*err
wat should i do!!!!

You don't have to stay stupid whatever amount of times you did, nor did you have to say your age like 5 times. I doubt you're as mature as you say you are. You're sitting here bashing your mom because she won't let you have a boyfriend until you're 16. Just accept what your mom says, and obey her rules. The more you go behind her back, the more she's gonna ruin your life & make it hell for you. She makes rules for a reason -- follow them.

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theres this song on a burned Cd and it heartbrack radio

and i really wanna kno whos it from and stuff so if you could help

You could always just use Google.

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14/f About a month ago a boy who I liked asked me out and I said yes, but it's like as soon as I said yes I realizied that's not what I wanted! I want to break up with him but I don't want to just tell him I don't like him anymore. He knows my parents are okay with it. What do I do?

If it's not what you want, then you need to tell him that. Tell him that the relationship was fun, but you think you'd be better off as friends. And when you become friends, don't completely blow him off, actually mean what you say & stay friends.

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im 13/f hes 15/m. my brother sleepwalks ALOT. he is 2 years older 3 feet taller about 100lbs stronger. in the day we get along really well not like most siblings. he tries to hurt me and soon gona kill me in his sleep. every night so im scaared to sleep i only sleep for about 3 hours. just last night he got up on my bed and was kicking me and started punching me. night before he was trying to strangel me. the night before he was trying to pull my head off and hitting my head. something happenes almost every night. i fight back. i dont want him to kill me but i fight back hard i dont wana kill him. i knocked the air out of him when he tried to strangel me. i dont want it to hurt either of us. does it mean something. how do i stop it. he went to the doctor. my mom can not stop him im stronger than she is. what do i do.

When your brother's awake, try talking to him about it. Ask him if he remembers it, and if he doesn't, refresh his memory. Tell him everything that's been going on, and if he does remember it, ask him why he's been coming after you. Your parents need to take your brother to a doctor to get his sleepwalking under control, especially because his is out of hand. Good luck.

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ok so i just got back from a trip to paris for a week and the whole time from the minute i got to the airport i could not stop thinking about my best guy friend. so yeah i like him alot but its alittle more complicated than that. me and him are friends with benefits but because we're best friends we've always said "i love you" but just as friend. so now i think i really love him. i havent seen him in like 2 and a half weeks and i miss him alot. then yesterday we were talking online and he told me how much he missed me too. i dont know how to tell him i like him and i cant tell if he is interested in me as more than a best friend or a friend with benefits.

He could like you, or he could've just missed your company & the sex. Try hanging out with him more than usual. Talk to him more, become closer [although I don't think you can get any closer, haha], and just become like best best friends. When you get to that point, just tell him how you feel. The worst he could possibly tell you is that he's gay, taken or doesn't like you.

I doubt he's gay since he's been sleeping with you, and if he was taken, he definitely wouldn't be sleeping with you. He might not like you in that way, but there's always a chance he does. Take it, or you'll regret it forever. Trust me.

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Ok so im like best friends with tis girl and i have feelings for her. how can i tell her without having the chance of ruining our friendship?

Flirt with her as much as possible. Hang out with her, and become close friends. See if she likes you, and if she does, go for it & ask her out.

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OK so i spend pretty much all of my time at my sister and her boyfriends apartment, but like theres really no where else to go around here. But it think maybe theyre getting sick of me. i dunno i feel like shit. and it makes me not want to go there anymore. but instead of just not i get mad at her.. i duno what should i do.. id die if i didnt leave the house

If you think you're getting on your sister's nerves & you wanna get out of the house, try going to a friend's, or go to the mall. Spend a day by yourself going places like shopping, or out to eat or the movies.

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i only know like one verse... YOU DONT GOTTA CALL ME YOU BOO AS BAD AS YOU WANNA FUCK I WANNA FUCK TOO ... who sings it? or what is it called?

Who didn't use Google?

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month.. and recently hes just been trying to get me to have sex with him. i dont want to. im 14 and just not ready. i like my boyfriend alot. we live next to eachother and hangout everday. but in school he barly talks to me when hes with his friends.
then theres my good friend, mike. he has a girlfriend but ALWAYS flirts with me. honestly, i flirt with him alot too. but usally we are always joking around. then today we started getting serious. today he texted me and i texted him back but he didnt text me back yet and i went to my boyfriends house and i was waiting for him to text me back. it was weird. then i started to think what if i told my boyfriend i think i like mike alittle. but i couldnt immagine breaking up with him. which i dont like, cause me and my friend told eachother scince were only 14 and got a long way to go, were not going to get attached to guys. and i dont want to get attached to him because what if we do break up? like i would not want to just cry and cry. =[ i have no idea what to do. should i try telling my boyfriend whats going on? but how? i dont know =[

If your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex, and you're not ready, an alarm should definitely be going off to you in your head. That's a definite sign he's only in it for sex, and that you NEED to break up with him. If you're not ready -- tell him, but if he doesn't respect it & keeps pressuring you, then dump him.

Do what you want for the Mike situation. If you want to tell your boyfriend, that's fully your own decision. I personally think you should tell him. Yeah, he'll get pissed, but you're probably not gonna be with him for long anyways. And you can't always tell yourself "I won't get attached." & have it work out. It's not as easy as it sounds, because I've been there/done that & failed.

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hey im jackie and im 15. and there is this boy eric.. who i really like. I met his a while ago. But we never really talked.

Friday, we hung out with a bunch of our guy frinds and my twin sis. while there he and i played pool and he won. then we all went iceskating, and Eric skated with me the whole time. and was teaching me to skate {he does ice hockey} then on the way back to his house after the ice rink we both sat in the back and he sat really close to me and put his arm around me and covered me with a blanket then we hugged right before i left.

also, tuesday {yesterday}, me sister and i went over Eric's house.a nd the only other person there was matt. and eric and i were like fighting over his cell and to get it outta his hand i was like all over him. and the same when he was trying to get it from me and then we went to his room. and he was showing me everything. and he went to kiss me but for some STUPID reason, i didnt kiss him. and im mad at myself for that... but then we were lying on his bed and and he was lying on his side and my head was on his chest and we were holding hands.

i think from this he likes me too. let me know if you think im wrong. and also do u think he will ask me out. i know its only been two real hang outs. but at this rate i dont know if he will let me know wat you think

thanks a billlion!

I think he likes you, and there's a definite chance he'll ask you out.

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Hi, lately I've been the opposite of insomnia. Meaning I won't and can't wake up. Like, I will wake up and be wide awake, but when I start to move, or sit up I fall back asleep. I haveal tried everything I can think of: going to sleep earlier, not eating late, thinking of things, excersizing before bed, sleeping with no electronics on (t.v., lights, etc.), and the opposite of all of those things. What else can I do?

ps. I have been almost late for school 3 times now!

You might have a sleeping disorder. You should see your doctor so they can figure out what's wrong with you.

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well theres this guy i like and i dont know if he likes me or not i mean we dont really talk that much but i really really like him. also there his a school dance(middle school) coming up and im wondering if i should ask him or not? should i? is it okay for a girl to ask a guy to a dance or should he ask her? im mean what if he doesnt like me would it be akward then? sshould i ask him?

It's fine to ask him. It sort of takes the pressure off of the guy, and ask him. If you like him, then go for it. =)

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alright well theres this guy that i like and he likes me too and when we hug i wanted to whisper something really like sexy/sweet in his ear...any ideas?? thanks

If you really wanna mean what you say, you probably shouldn't ask what it should be on here. It needs to come from you, not someone on an advice site.

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okay so theres this guy, steven. steven is really popular, smart REALLY smart but not in a have no social skills way he just is very studious, he is nice to everyone, and he has a hot body. he has only been living in SC for a year and is moving to COLORADO! i really love him but he just likes me as a friend. he knows i like him too. it started when we slow danced at a dance. well my friend asked him to ask me, he asked me and we danced it was the happiest moment ever! but i feel like he was just doing it to be nice and it made this boy robert REALLLY mad becsue he likes me. i want to stay in touch with him he is leaving at the end of the school year and i have already started crying and we're not even dating! i wish we were but he doesnt like me that way. our lockers are next to each other, we sit by each other twice a week in town meetings and he is in my homeroom and in 2 of my classes. hes everywhere. but he is so popular his friends are always all over him or hes with the teachers bc hes just so smart! i cant bear to let him be gone forever.
i want to still keep in contact with him when he leaves i was thinking give him my street address. im afraid he wont write to me and if he doesnt, i wont know his street address :[ he doesnt have im either! im so worried.
and i want to invite him out to lunch with me and my firends [as a group thing so its not akward for him] but how do i ask him if he wont give me a chance!
im so sad i have no idea what to do!
please give me answers! im so distressed.

If he doesn't have IM, give him your phone number & address & try to keep in touch that way. Or you can encourage him to get IM & maybe email/IM you.

When you talk to him one on one, just be like "Hey, me and my friends are having some lunch together, would you like to come?" and see what he says. I'm sure he won't turn you down to lunch. =) Good luck.

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I really really like this guy, but I'm not sure about how he is feeling at the moment.
We had been aquaintences before we met at Prom, but began to pay attention to eachother when we both were in the same picture party group, and found out that neither of us had dates. So we spent the evening together getting to know eachother and found that we're quite similar! He called me the day after telling me that he liked me and wanted to see me again. That week he called me everynight on the phone and we talked for hours.
About a week after prom, we went on our first date. (this date was also my very first date too! so it was special) We had a great time, and I let him kiss me. (It was also my first kiss!)
We see eachother sometimes at school and he always seems happy to see me.
But heres the thing, it's been two weeks after our date, I see him less and less at school now, and and he hasn't called me once! He told my friend that he really really likes me but might possibly be too busy to make things official.
Of course I really want us to be Boyfriend/girlfriend, but I'm also fine with going a little bit slower to accomodate his schedule.

So, what should I do? Its killing me how sparsely I see him, and I feel like some of the magic is being lost with less and less contact. He makes me incredibly happy when we're together, and I really like him and don't want to lose him. This is my first 'relationship' so I have no idea what to do!

Thanks so much!

If his friend told you what he said about his schedule, then you need to talk to this boy yourself. Tell him you like him & wouldn't mind taking things slow for him. Although he might think that you won't wanna be with him, you would have to reassure him you do, but you don't wanna rush him into anything if he's not ready for it. If he likes you the way he says he does, then he'll understand & things will work out fine.

Good luck. =)

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im dating this guy and have been for a year in june. we've had sex 3 times, but the last time we did, i got pregnant. i had a miscarrage, and it was hard. we have'nt had sex since then and he has been very understanding. but now i want to and i won't get to see him till the day of our 1 year anniversary. but i think it would be cliche to have sex then, after so long. but i want to show him that i care about him and love him and i think by giving myself to him again after what happened will show him that. i lost my v-card to him, and want to be with him, we talk about it everyday of what it would've been like having that baby. we know god did it for a reason, and that we weren't ready, after it happended matt was sent to iraq. he is 19 and im 17. how do i let him know im ready to have sex again, without sounding whorey

You won't sound whorey telling your boyfriend that you wanna have sex again. Just say "Even though that happened, I'm ready, and I'd really like to try & have sex again."

But this time use protection. Even though babies are cute & fun, they're expensive, a lot of work & could potentionally mess up your life if you're not stable or ready for one.

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sorry i didn't know which category to put this in.
what are those sweats that zip up all the way and cover your face called? like the zipper zips up the hood.
thanks

I'm not sure what the hoodie is called, but I know you can get them at Finish Line or a store in the city, like C3 or something like that. =)

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