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me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month.. and recently hes just been trying to get me to have sex with him. i dont want to. im 14 and just not ready. i like my boyfriend alot. we live next to eachother and hangout everday. but in school he barly talks to me when hes with his friends.
then theres my good friend, mike. he has a girlfriend but ALWAYS flirts with me. honestly, i flirt with him alot too. but usally we are always joking around. then today we started getting serious. today he texted me and i texted him back but he didnt text me back yet and i went to my boyfriends house and i was waiting for him to text me back. it was weird. then i started to think what if i told my boyfriend i think i like mike alittle. but i couldnt immagine breaking up with him. which i dont like, cause me and my friend told eachother scince were only 14 and got a long way to go, were not going to get attached to guys. and i dont want to get attached to him because what if we do break up? like i would not want to just cry and cry. =[ i have no idea what to do. should i try telling my boyfriend whats going on? but how? i dont know =[
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first off: do NOT get too serious with a guy if he keeps pressuring you for sex. if he really cared for you, sex wouldn't matter to him. too many times i have had friends who gave it up to the guy because they were scared he'd break up with them if they didn't have sex. so they would, and if it wasn't the next day, it wasn't long after that he broke up with them...
my first time i thought i was ready cuz i was 17, but all it did was attach me to him and make it sooo much harder for me when we broke up after only 7 months. i don't exactly regret it, but i do wish i woulda waited like i planned
secondly: you're naturally gunna get attached to a guy you're dating...it just happens. yeah when there's a break up it hurts, but take what you've learned from him and apply it to the next guy. consider your ex giftwrapping you for your future beau =]. and if you're with a guy but you're looking around and other guys, it's not fair to keep holding on to him. my boyfriend was lookin at other girls after being with me for 7 months and ultimately dumped me for one he'd only known 2 weeks. it hurt like hell yes, but i have a new boyfriend and just applying what i've learned, has made us have one of the strongest relationships i've ever had. be honest with your guy =]
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If your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex, and you're not ready, an alarm should definitely be going off to you in your head. That's a definite sign he's only in it for sex, and that you NEED to break up with him. If you're not ready -- tell him, but if he doesn't respect it & keeps pressuring you, then dump him.
Do what you want for the Mike situation. If you want to tell your boyfriend, that's fully your own decision. I personally think you should tell him. Yeah, he'll get pissed, but you're probably not gonna be with him for long anyways. And you can't always tell yourself "I won't get attached." & have it work out. It's not as easy as it sounds, because I've been there/done that & failed.
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Seems like your bf only wants your sex. if he loves you and wants to be with you no matter what he'll respect you and not try to get you in bed. As for your friend mike seems like something is going on here. first talk to mike see if he likes you too, if yes and you want to be with him but dont want to hurt your bf you have to make a choseic of who you want. its hard but if you seem sooo confused you'll blow up! belive me i almost did.
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