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God gave us two ears and one mouth so we could listen twice and speak once.
Hello Sunshine!
My name's Jamie..call me what you prefer.
I'm not here to judge, just to help people with their problems.
I love helping people out, it's one of the most satisfying feelings.
When you rate me, I'd prefer if you put a reasoning behind the rating, just so I know how I'm doing/how I can improve.
Feel free to leave me questions!
XOXO.
>> PS. If you plan on asking me a question, please, type grammatically correct and put punctuation marks where necessary...instead of like this: "muh boyfran lefff meh nD eye dunno waddado. halp?" (haha okay maybe that's a little exaggerated.. but you get my point!)
advice
How in the world are you supposed to tell a guy is being mean, or mean flirty nice.. you know?
This guy has been well mean/flirty? to me, since the sixth grade, and I find it cute.
But I dont know if he really is just being mean, or if he likes me.
THe easy answer would be that he does,
maybe i'm over analyzing?
Well, you didn't say what he does, but...
If it's been 4 years since he started doing this, and he still hasn't stopped, then yes, he DEFINITELY likes you :) If he didn't, he probably would have gotten bored already & would have stopped.
Good luck! :)
Hope I helped..
-Jam
okay, so heres the deal. i want to lose weight, maybe like 20 pounds-ish [im like 165 right now] by spring break, or sometime around there.
i dont have access to a gym or anything, but at my house i do have an ab lounge, a total gym, a treadmill, and a weight lifting machine thing [[its called the "weider pro" or something.. it has three arm workout things, and one leg thing]].. and i know my mom has stretch band things, and like two 2-pound weights..
so basically what i am asking, is what kind of work out things can i do to get more in shape and everything.. that can include going for runs or whatever outside.. but any suggestions? please & thank you
Do what every one else is saying on this page, but don't forget...
*Eat breakfast
*Don't eat 3 hours before you goto bed
*Get enough sleep!
Contrary to what people think, eating breakfast WILL NOT MAKE YOU FATTER. Instead, NOT eating breakfast will make you fatter. This is because your body automatically stores fat for when you do not eat.
Hope I helped!
-Jam
please help me. I don't know what to do anymore! ok. here's the deal. My best friend has been like "doing things". Today she called me and said that last night she peirced her nose (BY HERSELF). I was SO shocked and started to think I shouldn't hang out with her anymore. She went close to s*x but didn't. And she ALWAYS says that she's fat but she isn't. One day she told me she threw up her food but only once. Should I still hang out with her?
ps. I DON'T (OR DIDN'T) DO ANYTHING SHE DOES (OR DID)
Hey,
What you gotta do is talk to her. Tell her that all that she's been doing is all very dangerous, and some of it can potentially ruin her life.
But just because you don't believe in what she does, doesn't mean you shouldn't be friends with her any more. (UNLESS she wants you to start doing things like that. That'd be the last straw for me.)
If you need any more help, leave me something in my Inbox and I'll be glad to help.
Hope everything goes well,
-Jam
well on this site i answered a persons question and even elaborated on it and they gave me a 2 what is that?
Well that's stupid.
File an abuse report!
you as a favorite =)
Thanks :)
I added you too!
he's always been an assertive charming guy, texting me or calling me or iming me first, and making plans.
currently he's going through a tough time. he lost a lot of his friends and seems to be antisocial at this time.
occasionally he will come online to talk to me for an hour or possibly hours, and he'll always ask why it is we don't hang out because he really liked me. though, i'll text him and he'll respond in very short sentences that sound closed off and borderline rude. i'll ask if he wants to hang out, he won't respond.
he still is always the first to im me, meaning he still wants to talk to me. sometimes he'll send me random text messages after we haven't been talking for an extended period of time, asking how i am, or wishing me a happy new year, or telling me random things about his dream.
i still kind of like him, and have never really gotten over him although i always get over people easily. i'm sick of waiting for him to come around, i'm sick of him ignoring my phone calls but whenever he feels like it he can contact me. i'm sick of that, i'm sick of the mixed messages. if he really wants to be friends like he says he does, then why doesn't he follow through with plans? he always either doesn't respond or says i don't know now, i'll call you...
this last time i called he would've had no excuse not to respond, like last time he said he didnt get the message, but this time his phone was turned on. i left a short message asking him to call me back, but he hasn't.
he'll come online in a couple of days and pretend nothing happened, still being like, i wonder why i never see you.
what should i do, should i confront him (what do i say, without making it seem like i care too much?) or do i ignore him from now on?
HELP!
Hey,
If he talks to you in the first place, he probably does have feelings for you. Maybe not as many feelings as you'd like, but they're there. He may not like to text message which is why he doesn't really write much. He also might not like to talk on the phone. From what it seems like, I think he likes to just talk online. He may be comfortable doing that other than anything else, for some reason.
You should definitely confront him. Ask him why he's being like this, why he doesn't live up to what he says (IE: doesn't call you when he says he will, etc.), and why he doesn't ever follow up with plans.
And next time he says "I wonder why I never see you"...tell him it's because he never responds.
Hope I helped, good luck!
-Jam
My grandpa died recently, and I am not sure how to deal with it. I feel like I have everything, grief, sadness, still inside me, but it wont come out. I think I have not come to terms with my feelings, just pushed them aside. What should I do?
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that! I know exactly what you're going through right now.
The whole thing probably hasn't hit you yet..'cause that's what happened to me.
You should talk it out. Talk to a family member-they're the people that helped me the best.
Listening to songs, looking at pictures of my Grandpa helped all my feelings come out...
Some songs that I listen to are:
-"You were there" BabyFace
-"You'll be in my Heart"
-"Every Step You Take"-Remade by P Diddy & Faith Evans, originally by Police
-"Hero"- By Mariah Carey
-"Grandpa told me"-Kenny Chesney
-"Dance with my Father" -Luther Vandross (Even though it's about a dad.)
Hope I helped
And if you need anything, leave me something in my Inbox, I'll be happy to help!
Sorry again,
15f. I met a guy at a party who I liked at the time and wanted to hook up with, and I didn't tell him, but he told me he doesn't hook up with girls because he doesn't want his parents to find out. Now he calls me every so often and we have long conversations, and he tells me that asking this one girl out was the biggest mistake of his life. He and I flirted a lot at the party, which was about two and a half months ago, and grinded. Do you think he might like me? What should I do about it? I kind of still like him. He's not hot but he's very cuddly.
Hey,
I think he likes you-he likes you enough to have grinded with you!
GO FOR IT!!!! :)
Looks don't matter, it's what's inside that counts! (That sounded corny..but really. lol)
Good luck!
-Jam
I was just wondering , what would be a good present to get a boyfriend for valentines day? Cause i never know what to get them. Hes soon to be 14 and i would really like some ideas. Thanks!
http://www.mydearvalentine.com/gifts-for-him.html
TONS of ideas on there :)
Hope I helped! Good luck!
-Jam
I am a Junior this year and finally get to go to prom. The problem is, neither me or my parents can afford me a dress. I'm not extremely concered with how elegant it has to be. I was wondering if anyone knew of one of those "clinics" that gives prom dresses away to teens that can't afford one located in Central Illinois.
Last year they had one in Champaign, IL but I can't find any information on one.
If anyone can help me find out when or where a clinic in Central Illinois is, I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks
Hey,
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that!
If you can't find one of those "clinics" -- go to a GoodWill store. They always have dresses there.
Hope you find something!
-Jam
okay so last year i was like pretty popular with a bunch of friends. and this one girl, lets call her layne, we were like best friends. She would steal my sayings and my ideas and use them as her own. Shes a MEAN GIRL..mainly REGINA GEORGE. b/c if she knows you like someone & she likes him too, she gets him ALWAYS. She does this thing..its called flirting...and i cant do that. I've tried to hard to understand & ive tried it, but boys just like her the most. ANYYWAY
This year i only have two good friends. Compare that to last year. Last year everyone wanted to be around me and stuff. YOU KNOW?
is there any advice that helps me get better friends or anything? I want to be fun to be around and i want to have people who want to be around me.
Hey,
If you want more friends, join sports or other after school activities. Be friendly, start up a conversation with anybody.
Hope I helped, good luck!
-Jam
i should learn to spell that word epilepcy well as you guessed i am epileptic i have been for 18 years well i was thinking if you had it in child hood into adulthood can it be cured when it is not getting any better
Hey,
My dad has epilepsy, and while there is really no cure except for surgery, there are tons of meds out there to help this condition.
Hope I helped!
-Jam
im 14/f
my face is REALLY pale.
and im going to las vegas in may.
so im thinking about going tanning a couple times before going to las vegas so that my face will become a natural color, and so that i wont burn really badly in las vegas.
is this a bad idea?
im not really for the tanning bed, i know that they can cause skin cancer, but so can the sun. and im not going to get TAN.
and about how many time would i need to go just to get my fae a natural color?
Hey,
Well, since tan people DO burn, and you're not for the tanning bed (I don't blame you!), just use a spray on tanner! Try these products-they work great!
http://about.pricegrabber.com/search_attrib.php?page_id=1276&form_keyword=Neutrogena+Instant+Bronze%2C+Deep&mode=about_teenadvice&skd=1&rd=1
Hope I helped! HAVE FUN AT LAS VEGAS
-Jam
I am a 16-year old female, 118llbs, 5'3. I want to know how old I will be before I stop growing. I've had my period for about 3 years now. I've only grown an inch in those years and my breast seem to be getting smaller. Please leave me with some knowlegedable(SP) answers
Hey,
You bascially will stop growing at the age of 17.
And don't worry! Your boobs can't be shrinking; that's really not possible unless you've been losing lots and lots of weight.
http://coolnurse.com/puberty.htm
^for more information :)
Hope I helped!
-Jam
I like a guy and we're really good friends. Sounds okay right? Well the kink to that is that he's gay...what do I do? And I will NOT talk to him about my feelings
Hey,
Unfortunately, you can't change the fact that he's gay. HE can't even change that. Sorry to say, but you probably have to find someone else :(
Hope I helped!
-Jam
ok so i have a lot of zits lately
and i barely EVER got them!!!
and i got this really ad one on my nose
and the type where its under the skin and its hurts REALLY bad
i dont wanna get pro active cause i dont want to have to spend that kind of money when it only works on some people
and i have this clean and clear fighting pimples all day stuff- that doesnt work
and i have this neutroguena rapid clear 8 hour thing and it doesnt work either
i dont know what to use!!!
but i want it to go away
anyone have good stuff that i can use??
that like you can buy at walgreens or jewel
something like that!!
not that you have to order and all the trouble =]
Hey,
There's something LIKE ProActiv at Walmart for $20. It's called AcneFree, and it's worked wonders for me. ( http://www.acnefree.com/af/products )
** You can get a Trial pack, for free (pay $6.95 for Shipping and Handling): http://www.acnefree.com/node/17
For Some Home Remedies:
http://www.fatfreekitchen.com/beauty/acne-home-remedy.html
my hair looks kinda redish from how i changed the colors in the pic, so the bottom part of my hair is how it really looks. but anways what is it called when you dye you hair underneath? i was thinking about getting black underneath or a reddish color, what do you think? and when you get a color underneath do they put it in the top of your hair too like highlights are? please scroll down to get to my pic!
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v245/Sara223/?action=view¤t=1463341078_l.jpg
i hope that works
Hey,
[Yes your link worked, lol]
-They're called lowlights. I don't suggest it because if you don't like it, it stays in your hair for a very long time.
And I don't think they put the color underneath on top as well. You have to instruct them not to if you don't want that.
Hope I helped!
-Jam
im 15/f and i know this guy whos 16 or maybe 17, not sure, but i like him alot. like i cant stop staring at him, he's gorgeous, but he's really popular and im not sure if i have a chance. i have lunch and math class with him and we talk and laugh and joke around, so i would consider him a friend. he would buy me ice cream if i asked but thats besides the point. i really like him and i dont know if he ever noticed it or if he's just ignoring that i like him. he's just started a new relationship with this girl from the next town over, but its not really serious and i know my age isnt a problem, but i need some better ways to flirt with him that arent too bold, but will help him really get the hint that i like him, ALOT!!
#1: Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.
#2: Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?'
#3: Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.)
#4: Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.'
#5: IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world.
#6: Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out.
#7: Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them.
#8: Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested.
#9: Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile.
#10: Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun!
Good luck!
-Jam
I'm not big, but I'm not small. I weigh 118llbs and I'm 5'3. I don't have a HUGE Gut, but its big enough. I do run track, but I need to loose my gut fast, at least by the end of February. Please help! Thanks
Hey,
Well, what I do is 50 sit ups before I go to bed. Sounds crazy, I know, but it's a good work out!
Pilate's are great. I use those work out videos whenever I decide to work out, lol. Mine's a Denise Austin (I love her, she's great!) one, & I got it at Walmart.
Hope I helped!
-Jam
about a month ago i started using crest whitestrips but they started like burning my teeth so i stopped using them and now when i eat chocolate or pretty much anything that has sugar in it hurts my teeth. is there anything i can do to stop my teeth from being sensative?
Eeeek :X
I was actually watching a show about this this morning;
Sensitivity toothpastes containing potassium nitrate can also help reduce tooth sensitivity. Sensodyne is the #1 Dentist recommended toothpaste for sensitive teeth and is part of the our Sensitive teeth Kit. These toothpastes desensitize the tooth nerve directly. Treating teeth with fluoride mouthwashes also can help reduce tooth sensitivity.After a few weeks of use the sensitivity usually goes away.
***Highly acidic foods (citrus, soda pop, tea) can increase sensitivity and work against the sensitivity toothpaste.***
If you cannot get relief by brushing gently and using sensitivity toothpaste, your dentist has several options for relief. Your dentist can use "oxalate" compounds that, when rubbed on the root, will reduce if not eliminate the sensitivity. Many dentists prescribe high fluoride content mouthwashes which can help reduce tooth sensitivity. Dentists may also apply "bonding agents" to close the pores of the tooth root.
Hope I helped! :)
-Jam