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called and he didnt call back...
he's always been an assertive charming guy, texting me or calling me or iming me first, and making plans.
currently he's going through a tough time. he lost a lot of his friends and seems to be antisocial at this time.
occasionally he will come online to talk to me for an hour or possibly hours, and he'll always ask why it is we don't hang out because he really liked me. though, i'll text him and he'll respond in very short sentences that sound closed off and borderline rude. i'll ask if he wants to hang out, he won't respond.
he still is always the first to im me, meaning he still wants to talk to me. sometimes he'll send me random text messages after we haven't been talking for an extended period of time, asking how i am, or wishing me a happy new year, or telling me random things about his dream.
i still kind of like him, and have never really gotten over him although i always get over people easily. i'm sick of waiting for him to come around, i'm sick of him ignoring my phone calls but whenever he feels like it he can contact me. i'm sick of that, i'm sick of the mixed messages. if he really wants to be friends like he says he does, then why doesn't he follow through with plans? he always either doesn't respond or says i don't know now, i'll call you...
this last time i called he would've had no excuse not to respond, like last time he said he didnt get the message, but this time his phone was turned on. i left a short message asking him to call me back, but he hasn't.
he'll come online in a couple of days and pretend nothing happened, still being like, i wonder why i never see you.
what should i do, should i confront him (what do i say, without making it seem like i care too much?) or do i ignore him from now on?
HELP!
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Hey,
If he talks to you in the first place, he probably does have feelings for you. Maybe not as many feelings as you'd like, but they're there. He may not like to text message which is why he doesn't really write much. He also might not like to talk on the phone. From what it seems like, I think he likes to just talk online. He may be comfortable doing that other than anything else, for some reason.
You should definitely confront him. Ask him why he's being like this, why he doesn't live up to what he says (IE: doesn't call you when he says he will, etc.), and why he doesn't ever follow up with plans.
And next time he says "I wonder why I never see you"...tell him it's because he never responds.
Hope I helped, good luck!
-Jam
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i don't think he know's what he wants and he is confuzed. because he's going through a lot and maybe he doesn't want to talk to anyone about it and if he talks to you he'll end up having to say something about it. i think he is scared to talk and that when he comes on line it is easier for him to talk to you there. i think you should confront him and just say 'listen i know you're going through a rough time right now but if you don't want to talk to me when i call just tell me, i'll understand' or something like that. just kind of let him know that your here for him. and that you're nto going to make him talk about it or whateverr. and then just ask him the next time he comes online and ims you why he didn't call you back and you know that there is no beating around the bush and tell him just to tell the truth
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Hey,
seems like he's going through a really tough time... i lost all my friends last year too but i had a bf, he's the one who got me through everything... Maybe he feels he needs you and he may even like you but he might be afriad your going to turn on him too like everyone else. I believe you need to talk to him as soon as your can, by text, phone call or internet... I think you need to tell him exactly the way you feel, try and get him to open up too you... say your there to talk to etc, if he brushes you off i think you should move on, it may take time but you gotta do it... life isn't going to stop and wait for this situation to sort out, it keeps rolling on by and you could be missing out on opportunities because of this guy!
Hoping you sort everything out
Elle
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