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why would an organisation block a website under the heading of coached? (link)
I've seen this question for a while.

I don't really understand your question. I feel other's also don't, hence the lack of answers. Maybe you could re-post the question, or add some detail?

You sound very cryptic is all.


what does it mean if your boyfriend tells you during an argument "why do you think that you haven gotten pregnant" but you don't want a baby (link)
I don't know. It's not something people say. Like, if he turned around and said "I hate you", then we can easily tell you that he probably just got angry, and doesn't actually hate you.

"Why do you think that you haven't gotten pregnant" is not something people just say. I've never heard it. The best thing is to ask him what he means buy it. Just ask in passing what he means, as you genuinely don't know.

Good luck!


I am from India.I have been married for 3 years. everytime when we both have sex sperm does not go completely into my vagina. sperm remains at the wall of vagina.I want to become pregnant.please assist me so that sperm travels through my ovary and i can become pregnant. (link)
When a man ejaculates, millions and millions of sperm cells are released. The liquid (semen), is only the liquid that carries the cells. You cannot see the cells. They immediately travel towards the egg. You will not feel the sperm travelling in your body, as they are so small.

So yes, if you are really worried, you should see a doctor. But apart from that, it's not a problems as so many cells are released.


Does hot water open pores? (link)
Yes, hot water, and hot steam helps to open pores. A cleanser also helps to do this. Be sure to use a toner afterwards, and splash your face with cold water (which closes the pores), otherwise your pores will get blocked up with dirt and so on.


how can i get horny? (link)
Being horny is an emotion. This is like asking "how do I become happy/angry/mad/sad" and so on. You can't force an emotion. Some people find that watching pornographic material on the internet helps. But be sure only to do this if you are aged 18 or over (21 in some cases).

Others fantasise and so on. But yes. You can't really force it on. If you don't feel it, you don't feel it.


I need advice on boys. 13/f. So I've like this guy for about 5 months now right? And I know he likes me because my friend overheard him talking his friend about me. So now it feels kinda awkward around him. I get jealous when he hugs his female friends. We barely interact during class and outside of class. I'm tired of waiting for him to make a move. I want action! What should I do???!!! (link)
Is it not clear? You need to talk to him! If he isn't making the move, then what's stopping you from doing it? I know some people believe that it's all down to the guy. But how does he know that you like him? What if he's too nervous to make a move?

Don't go in all guns blazing, i.e. ask him out the first time. Just say hello. Ask him how he's been. Ask if he's made plans. Just take part in small talk. This will maybe give him the confidence to ask you out. And if not, then you ask him. Just ask if he wants to come out: make it a group thing, so it's not just you two.

Good Luck.


So, My boyfriend dumped me a few months ago, and i still want him back. Which method would make him regret dumping me more; going around acting like I don't care about the breakup, and flirt with a lot of guys, OR be more reserved and chilled out, and look like I miss him? Your advice is deeply appreciated. (link)
Just because you want him back, doesn't mean that he wants you back. This sounds harsh, but you should just get over it, because it sounds like he has.

If he likes you again, he'll tell you, as it was him that broke up with you. But if you get together again, it probably won't work out, as it didn't the first time.

My advice: Move on. Find someone else, don't think about it, and be friends with him if you can.


A couple of days ago I felt a hard lump in my right breast and it is still here. I am 13 adn this is the 1st time my mom is actually a little worried about something that is wrong with me. Could this just be a cyst? Or breast cancer? I know a 13 year old girl was once daignosed with breast cancer. So I know it's possible.And I do wear a pretty tight bra every night which I know increases your chances of it. I wear the same bras I had 2 years ago. But my mom might bring me to the doctors soon. Please Help. Thanks! (link)
It could be a cyst, but it may also be cancer. The only way to tell is by getting it checked out. And it's not a matter of your mother "might" be taking you to the doctor, you *HAVE* to go as soon as possible to get it checked out.

It's the only way you'll know.


19 England

I hate uni, ive been here since sept, i just feel like im invisible especially in my block in halls (dorms) :(
i just hate it.
my boyf is in the same city which is awesome but, my family live a good 90 miles away.
but i do love the city im in.
i just dont like uni. my dorm friends. i dunno they just make me fell like shit and i dont think they know it.
I wanna know what to do about this. (link)
Hello. I too am from England. Nice drought we're having, right?

I had 2 friends that had the same problem. This is what they did:

Friend 1: Stuck at it. Found people she knew in the same city, and started to be friends with them. Eventually, she hated it so much, she dropped out after 4 days of being there.

Friend 2: She just got stuck in to the whole experience. She organised dinner nights with everyone in her halls, so they can all get to know each other. Maybe pop a dvd in, and ask if people want to join you. Go out with people from your halls that have no plans. And generally, go out and meet new people. Remember: Everyone is in the same position. Or they were, in the beginning. You are at a disadvantage, in that everyone has made their friends and so on. But it's not late. Just be friendly, and meet new people by joining clubs, societies, going out and so on.

Also, find people you used to go to school with, that may be in the same city. Meet them for a catch up.

Friend number 2, actually found her living arrangements of going out all the time, living in a party house to be *too* much. So she was asked to move to other halls, closer to the university. She doesn't know as many people, but she recognises the most important reason that she was there: To get a quality education. Ans that is why you are at university. People say, its great to make new friends, to have the best years of your life and so on, but you're really only there to get your degree. That is paramount, and everything else comes second.

The people in your halls may also be wierd about meeting new people or so on. So therefore, you need to do your best to come across as nice, friendly, and someone who wants to socialise with them.

Good luck, and enjoy your course! :)


Hi everyone,

I was just wondering if you all could give me your opinions on this question. Both men and women are welcome to answer. Just seeking some understanding and feeding my curiosity regarding our current society. Oh, and this question is in relation to Western society.

Thank you all for your time. (link)
The answer below is good. Also, some other issues, e.g. Women not going into politics, or struggling to get on to high positions in the work place, simply because they want to start a family. I.E. if a woman leaves work for a while as she is pregnant, what is stopping a man from taking this opportunity to 'take that promotion' that the lady would've been perfect for?

In regards to Politics, USA still hasn't elected a female president. Seeing as how 1/2 of the population is female, it's odd. Here in Britain, we of course had Margaret Thatcher as the first and only female Prime Minister. When women do get high positions in politics, they are usually assigned to the "Home Office", as "Secretary of State for Home Affairs" or the equivalent, because traditionally, the Woman looks after the home, and this is seen by the public as safe. They may not even recognise this, but it happens. Men however, are appointed to roles such as "Foreign Secretary" or "Defence Secretary" because they are seen as tough men who go out and fight i.e. warriors. This of course is all very primitive, but it stays with society.

Of course, sexism is still obvious! "Women can't do that" or "Women wouldn't understand" unfortunately, is still often heard.

In regards to rape and sexual assault, A woman is blamed because of the way she dresses, almost for 'inviting' the rapist. How backward is this? A woman -or man- can dress however they please. How is it their fault if they are raped? They are the victim, the *rapist* is not a victim of the woman's 'seduction'.

Of course, we could go on forever. There is only one society in the *world* that I can think of that is not patriarchal. This is a small town in/near India. Women rule. They are in politics, they rule their families, they are the doctors and so on. I heard a story where in the hospital, a woman gave birth to a baby girl, and the family burst out in cheers, happy. Another lady gave birth to a boy, and the family actually looked upset! the grandmother said, "We are happy with whatever God gives us"! Also, In the same place, they interviewed a household. The Wife/Mother spoke the whole time, while the husband sat behind her in silence. The Husband was asked a question, about whether he liked the situation, and as the man was about to answer, his wife gave him a certain look. He smiled, and looked down. The crew were then asked to leave. Of course, here, Men are trying to be equal to women. So it's the polar opposite of what we see everywhere in the world.


Good question: I hope I helped :)


my shy crush always looks at since 6th grade. now i'm in the 7th grade and he's moving this year and i never got to talk to him or anything :( (link)
You'll have plenty of crushes in your time. Just consider yourself lucky, that it was just a crush!

It'll be easier for you to move on that way. But it is never too late to talk to him! What is there to lose? You embarrass yourself? Well, atleast you won't see him again. Just say hello. But be warned: If you get even more in too deep, it'll be harder when it's time to say goodbye.



I'm 17 (female) and me and my boyfriend have be really eager about sex we've fooled aroud and have had protected sex twice and recently he wanted to feel how it was with out one and I let him and wel he got Pre-cum in me and I've attempted to clean it out (even though everything says that that's next to impossible) then today he did it again but pulled out and almost came in me I try to clean it out again but, we are both alittle nervous, I know it was dumb, I don't need preaching, but the afterwards he fingered me and well there was some blood and he thought it was for sure period but i know it's due next week, any help? (link)
You asked for people not to preach, as I'm sure you probably know how stupid you are (you state it), and so I will answer your question directly:

Yes, you may very well be pregnant. Take a test a couple weeks after the incident.

Good Luck (you'll need it).


What is a virgin
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Some people have varying answers on this. I.e. is a girl a virgin if she has been fingered? Other's believe that you are a virgin until your hymen has broken. This is nonsense however, as this process can occur during any vigorous exercise, horse riding etc.

The normal, generally accepted definition is: A virgin is someone who has not yet had sexual intercourse.


I had dierria and pain in my lower abdomin for 7 days then no more pain and normal poop then on Tues again had soft poop and then dierria Wed blood on my poop
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This is clearly a problem. Diarrhea occurs because there is something in your digestive system that your body is trying to get rid of. Blood in your poop is also a worrying sign. Usually, it is nothing, but it can be very serious e.g. bowel cancer.

You will lose a lot of water with diarrhea so be sure to drink plenty of plain water.

More importantly, you should see a doctor As soon as possible to get it checked out, as this is not normal.


Can I get pregnant after he came in me pushed them in Andd after 5miin that He came he washed them outt (link)
Yes you can. Sperm is so small, you can't even see it. Millions and millions of cells are released. So you cannot wash it all out. You cannot simply wash 'them out'. If it was just two or 3 visible cells, you easily could. And also, you waited 5 minutes. The second sperm is released, they start to make the journey to the egg.

Letting your partner ejaculate into you, and then washing it out is NOT classed as good sexual health. protecting your self is good. Washing is not good.

So, you will have to take a pregnancy test a week or two after the incident: do a few. Also be sure to wear a condom next time.


Can anybody tell me what dog breed or possible mix this is? Thanks!
http://tinypic.com/r/16k5big/5 (link)
It looks like a small Akita or Husky puppy?

I'm no expert though.


is it true that when someone appears in your dreams, it's because that person misses you? (link)
If anything, someone appearing in your dream, is because you are thinking of them.


I know people believe that dreams mean something, but most rational, people don't believe that. If you do believe in it, then asking whether it is "true" is a flawed question, because you yourself believe that a dream has a meaning. Key word: Believe. Belief is not fact, or fiction, and so truth cannot come into it. Its like religion, you can't say that "jesus was the son of god. That is the truth" - you can not be dogmatic about that, or dreams.


In short, what I am saying is, there is no evidence that dreams have meanings. Dreams are usually just your mind playing with subconscious thoughts.


i am a 58 year old man i am good looking and in good physical shape.i like to smell my morning breath.i will put off brushing my teeth as long as i can.i enjoy the smell of my morning breath.i am single.what causes that (link)
Do you enjoy it in a sexual way? Or you just like the smell? Is it something you can stop?

There is really no condition as such, and doesn't really have a cause. It's just a personal thing I guess.

Can you stop? As in, can you just brush your teeth the moment you wake up? Because this is a personal hygiene issue. If you can't stop this, then you may need to see a doctor i.e. psychiatrist. Because, if you don't brush your teeth, because you like to smell your breath, and because of this, you struggle to speak to people because of this, then it's clearly taking over your life.


Good luck.


So im a female of 16 years, and recently I tried too masturbate, but i didnt reach orgasm, is there any way of being able to reach orgasm while masturbating? Is there ah best way too masturbate? I wanted to ask my boyfriend to finger me for the first time, but im scared i wont be in pleasure, or wont find it pleasing. What can i do? (link)
Hello,

Masturbation is a very personal thing, and only you know what will stimulate you. Explore your body, and figure out what you like. Just experiment.

In regards to you boyfriend, just try to relax. Try to enjoy yourself, and you may enjoy it, as it's someone else rather than you. If you don't enjoy it, don't pretend, and tell him the truth. Its not something to be worried about: its totally natural.

Good Luck


My mom checked out a book for me a month or so ago and I have never lost a book but she tld me it was due a while ago but can't find it and the fee has reached ten dollars so far. I cleadned out my closet, desk, under my bed, drawers and looked in every single little spot in the house and my mom has looked quite a bit too. I can't find it anywhere and she yells at me about it. I also looked in both cars we have. I never took it out of the house and my mom won't stop bothering me about it. Everytime I talk to her no matter what it is about, he always ends up dissapointing me because she goes on and on about the book I can't find. It's the first time I've lost a book and there is literally no where else to look but she doesn't want me to do anything else until I find it. What should I do? I don't have money to pay the fine. Please and Thanks. :) (link)
Hello,

In regards to the book, you should just ask your mother to pay the fine if she can. Usually, libraries charge you until a maximum. E.g. they will charge you 0.10 every day, for every book, until a maximum of a certain amount e.g. $20. So the maximum you can pay is $20.

So yes, you should Ring the library and ask how much the maximum is, and just tell the the truth: that you have lost it, and ask what you can do.

In regards to your mother, it sounds that she is disappointed with you, not because you can't find the book, but the fact that you lost it in the first place. She probably knows that she will have to pay the fine, because otherwise, you will not be able to take books out.


Next time she asks, just tell her that you've looked everywhere, and still can't find it. Ask her if you should just tell the library. Remain calm though, i.e. don't scream or whatever.


Good luck :)




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