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i hate university
19 England
I hate uni, ive been here since sept, i just feel like im invisible especially in my block in halls (dorms) :(
i just hate it.
my boyf is in the same city which is awesome but, my family live a good 90 miles away.
but i do love the city im in.
i just dont like uni. my dorm friends. i dunno they just make me fell like shit and i dont think they know it.
I wanna know what to do about this.
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Friends are nice to have there's no disputing that. However, you aren't there to make friends and have everyone like you. Your focus is on studying and making something out of yourself.
Keep proceeding on that path as half the people you know now will be in your rear-view mirror or permanently forgotten afterwards. Put it into perspective like that.
It seems to me that this is a foregone conclusion. If you love the city and you have a supportive boyfriend that lives there than MOVE IN with him and share the rent. Either that or find your own apartment or move in with family if you have a car. Do what makes you feel best.
When it comes to people making you feel like shit nobody can do that unless you give them the power. They probably have no idea that something they did or didn't do was interpreted that way.
If people make you feel that low than don't get involved with them.
If you constantly feel depressed where you didn't before it's okay to admit being overwhelmed. Seek support for it and perhaps talk with a professional to see if there's anything they can do to ease the anxiety and feelings of helplessness.
We can't make decisions for you but rather suggest ideas. You have to figure out for yourself how to continue university but to be happy and away from the negativity of living there. Let me know what transpires in my inbox.
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Hello. I too am from England. Nice drought we're having, right?
I had 2 friends that had the same problem. This is what they did:
Friend 1: Stuck at it. Found people she knew in the same city, and started to be friends with them. Eventually, she hated it so much, she dropped out after 4 days of being there.
Friend 2: She just got stuck in to the whole experience. She organised dinner nights with everyone in her halls, so they can all get to know each other. Maybe pop a dvd in, and ask if people want to join you. Go out with people from your halls that have no plans. And generally, go out and meet new people. Remember: Everyone is in the same position. Or they were, in the beginning. You are at a disadvantage, in that everyone has made their friends and so on. But it's not late. Just be friendly, and meet new people by joining clubs, societies, going out and so on.
Also, find people you used to go to school with, that may be in the same city. Meet them for a catch up.
Friend number 2, actually found her living arrangements of going out all the time, living in a party house to be *too* much. So she was asked to move to other halls, closer to the university. She doesn't know as many people, but she recognises the most important reason that she was there: To get a quality education. Ans that is why you are at university. People say, its great to make new friends, to have the best years of your life and so on, but you're really only there to get your degree. That is paramount, and everything else comes second.
The people in your halls may also be wierd about meeting new people or so on. So therefore, you need to do your best to come across as nice, friendly, and someone who wants to socialise with them.
Good luck, and enjoy your course! :)
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