about

Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

advice

So... the weather has warmed up
and the snow has for the most part melted all away in our dog run,
and now our puppy will not pee or poop outside, we assume its because the snows gone,
and shes not used to the grass.

But, she will go to the bathroom inside! argh!
and she was doing so good, as to going outside, until now..

What should we do?

Please help!

hmm...

well when we got our first puppy, she wasn't potty trained either. Now she's 3 years old and we made her a private spot where tree's are and she always goes there to the bathroom.

Try doing this: when your dog goes to the bathroom inside, say NO and shake your finger. Get your puppy to know that going to the bathroom inside is very bad.
first you have her get comfortable around the grass.
carry her out in a nice grassy spot and sit there with her. Pet her and be very soothing and nice... then reward her with treats. That will show her that the grass doesn't do anything to you.

Another way is let her eat, and then after a few minutes, put her on a leash and just walk around the grass until she eventually HAS to go the bathroom... then she'll HAVE to go on the grass, because there's no where else to go.

I hope I helped and all goes well!
-volleyball2150

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ok where cna i get some really cute dressesfor junior prom? and senior? im a freshamn. im bored so im just looking. but my bf is a sophmore. so if were still together i will be going next year... so help? we go to diff. schools

DEB!! Its an awesome store to buy dresses.

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so theres this guy i like but we never hang out i guess u can say we're from different crowds but i love talking to him but i cant tell if he likes me too we have so much in common and he makes me laugh so hard so how do i tell if he likes me

hmm.. well you have to watch his body language... when he talks to you, is he different than what he normally is?

I am reading a magazine and theres a quiz on it that says "is he into you"

I will type it on here


1. Has he ever called you?

YES- does he IM you flirty Messages?
(yes- go to 2, No- go to 4)

NO- Does he have a girlfriend? (yes- go to 3, no- go to 5)



2. when you talk face-to-face, does he touch your hand, shoulder or hair?( yes- go to 6, no- go to 8)

3. Has he ever complimented you? ( yes- go to 7, no- go to 9)

4. Does he have a reputation for being a player? ( yes- go to 10, no- go to 11)

5. (same as 4)

6. Do you think your friends think he likes you? (yes- go to 12, no- go to 13)

7. read final answer on the bottom

8. (same as 4)

9.(same as 4)

10. Does he seem shy around you? (yes- go to 14, no- go to 15)

11. (same as 6)

12. has he ever shared a secret with you? (yes- go to 16, no- go to 17)

13.( same as 10)

14. ( same as 7)

15. (read answer on bottom)

16. (read answer on bottom)

17. (same as 7)

FINAL ANSWERS-

#7 answer- maybe... He might be into you, but it's tough to tell. He could be distracted by sports, homework, or his buds. hang in there and stay busy!

#15- Not enough info!... are you admiring this guy from afar? move closer! talk to him about school, movies, music and get something going! don't be shy!

#16- ITS ON!... He's sending you all the signals- its just a matter of time! be patient: good things come to those who wait. Just do what you're doing






I'M SO SORRY IF THIS IS QUIZ IS CONFUSING... IF IT IS, JUST TELL ME AND I'LL SCAN IT ON THE COMPUTER.

-volleyball2150

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im trying to forget about this boy i have really really liked for so long but i cant i talk 2 him but only about stupid things i cant get over him because i still love him soo soo much what shall i do ? :( help

same thing here!
I feel like you too, but now i'm over him because..
I found another guy to like. If you really want to forget about him, find some distractions... like friends
Have your friends shake you out of the "i love him" mode.
Try to find another guy to like... or just focus on other more important things in like. Like education, or sports.

-volleyball2150

PS: sorry if i wasn't much help

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ok, just as the title, i do NOTHING! right when i get home,Bam,on the computer. i only have school friends,and no one wants to hang out with a uninteresting person. omg,no lie,im so boring! i dont even do anything,i just feel like i cant!the only thing i do is on wednesday,musical theater,but thats not even school related. i really need to be more social,and happier. how can i do this?! help?! i need to do something with my life!

go to your City hall.... find a sport or an activity that you sound interested in. Talk to people and you will make friends.

Don't go to them, let them come to you!

the most important thing to happiness is-
BE YOURSELF!!!!! DON'T EVER FROWN BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHO MIGHT BE IN LOVE WITH YOUR SMILE!

i hope i helped
-volleyball2150

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hi thanks for helping mi but i cnt do it im really sorry but i am madly in love with him i cnt do it he plays football with me i dunno wat id say cos hell tell every one if he says no and im shamed becos i think he like sum 1 elses :(:( i love james soo soo much thanks

you're being negative again!
STOP IT!

I'm serious....
you CAN do this!
If he plays football with you, just be your normal self and ask him one day "we should get a large group of friends and play football at the park"

Ok i just realized something-
the first step to getting someone to like you is to actually TALK to him.. which you've already done

2nd step is to get together outside of school(or where ever you normally see him). You can do this with a large group of people. Like one big party... so its not just the 2 of you.

3rd step is asking him to do something... but not with other people, just the 2 of you.

you CAN do this... you just have to stay positive. this is one 1 guy, out of a million that you are going to date in the future.

If you HONESTLY think you cant do this... then stop liking him. Its either you like him and ask him out, or its you don't ask him out and stop liking him. There's no other choice... choose 1.

He's only 1 guy, out of a million. Mr. Perfect is out there... so if you think you can't do this, stop liking him and let Mr. Perfect come to you.
Don't look for mr. perfect, let him come to you.

-volleyball2150

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14/f


ive had my best friend since kindergarden and we've been off and on since then. when were off we just dont talk and arnt friends at all, when were on we are the best together. ive had my other best friend since 5th grade and were inseperable. me and S (5th grade bf) are still together and always will be probably. but with K (other bf since kindergarder) she has other friends from tennis and she seems to love them more than us and she always just leaves us for them and never can hang out. shes done this alot of times over the summer over atleast 5 times. me and s and her were like a trio but now were not. i love k so much and i cry because i miss how she was.. but not she is hanging out with the fake girls in our school acting like one. i dont know if i shouldnt try and get the friendship back togther or what. i mean i dont think i did anything wrong she always leaves us. please help so i cant stop being a baby and crying about sometheing that i probably shouldnt feel horrible about.


ignore her... the other 2 advincenators said it all!
she's doing this to herself.

I had a great bestfriend since 1st grade... now she's part of the "popular" group.. and i'm just being myself. but you know what? when all of us grow up...the "popular" people are going to be stuck in their life because they will go through so much drama... but then the people who are themselves, always happy and never frown... they are going to be the successfull ones in the future.

Leave her! She will realize how fun it was when she was with you... don't try to win her back, let her come back to you.

right now.. you're only 14 and you should be happy that you are with S.

-volleyball2150

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hi im madly in love with a boi named james like ive told you.im really shy and dont want to ask him i do talk 2 him nut ive really really like him for a long time my friends are winding me up to but i like him so much ill try ask him but its really hard :(:( help me

well, if you are too shy to ask him out... have a friend do it. BUT MAKE SURE YOU TRUST THIS FRIEND... or else she'll probably take him for herself.

if you don't have any friends who want to help you, or you don't trust them... ask him out yourself. I know that its hard but you never know what can happen. Its worth the risk. What if he likes you back??? You'll never know unless you try.

heres a tip- don't drop the bomb on him... add clues.

Like... "have you seen (movie name)? I heard it was good."

you don't want to use the words - Date, Boyfriend, Girlfriend,

instead use words that mean the same thing like-
movie, hang out, chill, friends

If you have any more questions, talk to me!
-volleyball2150

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I'm 5'2" and 170 pounds.

I know I should weigh about 130.

I have dance classes 3 days a week- but I'm still 170. I really don't eat too much (at least I don't think I do). I want to develop and stick to a regular exercise program outside of dance classes but I don't know what to do.

I have a treadmill and an elliptical trainer.
How do I develop my stamina so I can run a mile without stopping?

The MOST I can do is 5 minutes (about 1/2 a mile) at 5 mph without stopping... and then I have to walk for a while.

ok so you're getting there...

dance classes is a great way to lose weight. running too!

now you said that you can only run for 5 minutes straight... thats good! what helps me is to listen to music while i exercise. Choose some really loud and pumping music to get you energized. do something to get your mind off of exercising.. like run on the treadmill while watching tv.... you'll be amazed at how long you can run

if you think about exercising while doing it, you wont get that far... instead choose some distractions so that way you won't realize how long you've been doing it.

eat a lot of proteins... You SHOULD eat... don't go bulimic or anorexic.

Eat small amounts of food every hour or so. Like a banana.

Dring LOTS of water!
70% of your body weight is water, but trust me... my mom went on a diet and she's been drinking lots of water and she lost a lot of pounds. Go to a local gym and experiment the machines there. Lift weights and don't do too much too soon.

-volleyball2150

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i really really like this boy named james i cant stop thinking about him its just i know he will never be interested in an ugly girl like me. and all my friends know i fancy him and they wind me up. ii dont know what 2 do cos i really really like him but i know he wont be interested in me :( can you please help me :(

STOP BEING SO NEGATIVE!!!!!!!

negativity will get you NO WHERE in life!!!!!!!!
you HAVE to stay positive and look at the bright things in life. How do you even know that he doesn't like you???

just try to be around him, talk to him about small things like the homework for a class.... then talk to him about interests.

Get to know him! then after a while, ask him out.

Its OK to ask a guy out. So what if he rejects you!! build a bridge and get over it. There's going to be PLENTY of guys who you are going to go out with. This is just 1 guy! YOU CAN DO IT!

-volleyball2150

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My parents recently got seperated. I feel like everything is falling apart. Both of my parents aren't eating very much anymore and my mom is showing some strong signs of depression, nothing suicidal though. My mom has started "re-inventing" herself. She's cut her hair short and highlighted it red and got a tatoo of a butterfly on her lower back. When I asked her about it, she said "I'm not a caterpillar anymore." My sister came home from college for spring break and basically avoided everyone the whole week. I saw her for maybe 15 minutes the whole time. I haven't been sleeping in the last couple of weeks. I've been staying up until 2 and waking up at 7 and have been unable to nap during school or anywhere else(which I usually do if I stay up too late). All of this, alongside my obvious dilemma of parents getting seperated, is just crashing down on me and I can't really handle it.

I don't expect all of my life answers to be solved, but does anybody out there have advice to help me get through these times?

aww, you poor thing!

If this really bothers you, I suggest you go to a school psychiatrist and explain everything! They'll help a lot!!!
Talk to your mom and tell her that you are feeling really sad and depressed because of the divorce. you can even start crying to get her to feel sorry for you and pay more attention to you.

As for the sister part... don't worry you're not the only one who hasn't seen much of their college sibling. When ever my brother comes home from college, he's always with his friends and not with the family. So i guess its normal for college older siblings to do that. If you want to see your sister more often, write her a note that says "I feel we aren't spending enough time together. I really miss seeing your face."

Thats what i did.. on my brother birthday card I wrote something like that... then after the party we went to a movie, just the 2 of us and spent the night together. Now we see more of each other everyday. Just keep reminding her that you love her a lot and that you miss her like crazy.


Oh another thing... when you mom is doing all of this stuff... just remind her that just because she has given up on her husband, doesn't mean she should give up on her family. Give her some time to think and when the time is right, she'll come and talk to you about this.

I hope everything goes great... and if not, talk to another adult about this

-volleyball2150

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Ok, so my friend dyed her hair red and someone told me that a couple of her other 'friends' were making fun of her. I'm really mad and I want to say something to her about it, but I don't want her getting mad at me so she thinks I'm rubbing it in her face and I don't want to make her upset because sometimes things like that are better left unsaid. But I don't want her getting mad at me if she finds out that I knew about it the whole time.

Also one of her other friend said some pretty mean things about her behind her back to me because she was mad at her. I'm really jealous of this one friend because I think that she favors her. I really want to tell her so they can get mad, but thats not the right thing to do. What should I do? Thanks!

ok so in this situation.. it's hard to tell what the right thing to do is.

Honestly, If I were you... i would tell your friend who died her hair red that people were making fun of her behind her back. Its not right to just leave the situation alone because then it starts to become REALLY bad, and you'll regret your choice. Tell her when you 2 are alone and when there are NO distractions and NO friends around.

for the other part, if people are making fun of her behind her back, you should also tell her. however, make sure you tell her calmly. If you don't want to do this, you can make simple clues about it... so you're not ACTUALLY telling her.. just giving out clues about it.

So you're jelous of someone because you think your other friend favors her??? WE ALL FEEL THAT WAY! every person in the world has felt jealousy. Its normal. How do you even know that your friend likes her more than you???
Did you even ask her? Don't jump to conclusions... it may seem like she likes this one friend more than you.... but she may not even notice it. Calmly tell her that you are feeling left out and would appriciate it if she could include you in more things.

I hope I helped and all goes well!

-volleyball2150

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A few years ago, I met this girl in one of my classes. I talked to her for maybe five minutes a day. Now, she still talks to me all the time and it's getting annoying. Before you call me a jerk, let me finish. Normally, I'm all for having new friends and people to talk to in school, but she is so incredibly annoying, not to mention rude, that it's driving me insane. It's hard to ignore her because she literally tracks me down in the hallway and she found where I sit at lunch. I try to humor her and I'll have a conversation with her, but it pisses me off when I'll be talking to another one of my friends and she'll appear out of nowhere and demand to know what we're talking about. I don't like having her around because all she does is talk and talk about things she's already told me before. It'd be different if I could get a word in edgewise or if she would at least listen to what I had to say every now and then. So my question is, how can I deal with her? I don't want to completely blow her off, because she doesn't have a lot of friends. Is there a nice way I can point out how rude she is without hurting her feelings tooo much? I'd have no problem with her being around if she wasn't so talkative and rude.

Wow, you sound just like me...

well Last year I met a girl, and she would never shut up!
So here's how I dealed with it-

Talk to her in PERSON!!
writing notes, emails, or phone calls can cause a distraction, get lost, or misunderstood.

its best if you tell her in person. find somewhere where theres no interruptions, no distractions, just the 2 of you.

Now, try being yourself and when she does something anoying or rude, say "can you please stop?"

for example- lets say she's talking during a movie and its the part where you HAVE to listen...
and she starts talking and you can't hear, what do you do?? you say "can you please be quiet, I can't hear what they're saying"

The main idea here is to be polite! If you shout in her face and pull your hair, she's gonna get pissed and thats not what you want.

If she interrupts you in school while you are talking to someone... Put your index finger up and put it on your lips, to indicate that you are talking.

Its kinda like the "dog book". You know when you get a dog... you also buy a book of training ideas... well in one book it says "YOU are the boss of the dog (in this case... her). In the book it also says that you should be the first one for everything... winning a game of tug-of-war, walking through the door, etc.

Don't tell your friend that you are the boss of her... just make signs with your hands saying " I am talking, do not interrupt"

Gestures are more poilite than actually yelling in her face.

Sorry if this is super long
Hope everything goes great
-volleyball2150

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are there any websites that you dont have to download anything and you can make youresef look skinnier

ummm... well I think you can use Paint which is automatically on Windows

Just open paint and then go File, Open, Insert picture name, Open

then when the picture is on paint, use the little dots on the edges of the picture to make it smaller Horizontally.... So for an example if the picture is a square, use the dots on the side to make it a rectangle and not so big horizontally.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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I play on my school's soccer team, and next week we have a game that I am dreading. When we played the same team last year, one of my teammates had dribbled the ball down the far sideline, and then passed it towards the center of the field. I was running for the post, and as I ran full speed, their goalie jumped and tapped the ball straight up. He saw me coming, and we both knew if he had control of the ball and I ran into him, I was red carded and gone. If he didn't have control of the ball and I ran into him, oh well. I was still a few steps away, and the ball came down, and he bobbled it straight up again. As soon as he could tell that I wasn't going to be able to get stopped or turn around him, he grabbed the ball with both hands. I was really mad and did something terrible. I didn't slow down, lowered my shoulder, and drove him into the goalpost as hard as I could. When I stood back up, it was the scariest moment of my life. He looked dead, he wasn't moving, and he wasn't screaming or crying. I got thrown out of the game and suspended for the next 5 games. I heard that his skull was fractured, and his jaw and both collarbones and eye socket bones got broke by what I did. Well, he and I were both juniors last year. He's recovered fully, and starting for them again, and I'm still starting for us. We play them, and it's at their place this year, and they are a really good team, and always have a lot of their students show up at their games. I know that I am going to have to see this guy for the first time since what I did to him, and I know his teammates and their fans are all going to have it in for me. I'm a tough guy, but man...this is going to suck majorly. What should I do?

WOW... ok well it sounds to me that you got really angry at this guy, so you attacked him and he got seriously injured.

I know it must be really hard to face him again... but honestly you've got to do it.

If you don't, then you might as well be considered a wimp because you won't face him.

This time, when you meet him face-to-face... say sorry! It might be scary, but trust me... they say that you should keep your friends close, but keep your competitors closer.
Sometimes your competitors become like friends because you are always trying to win against them.

Say sorry about what you did, he's going to feel soo much better. If you don't say sorry, he's going to think that you are a big meanie who just injures players and has an anger management problem.

Stay strong! thats the most important thing. Even though you did this to him, doesn't mean you can feel sorry and just suck at the soccer game. Play hard... but don't get too intense that you do this again.

I hope I helped and everything goes great!
-volleyball2150

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At school we play volleyball. I love to play and i am going to try out for to team in high school. but at school every one yells at me when i go for the ball. they dau that i am not staying in my spot. However, they are not going for the ball so if i dont the other team will win. what should i do?

Belinda

ok so in Volleyball.. you don't have "SPOTS". Sure there are 6 spots in a rotation.. but seriously, volleyball is all about the footwork. You are EVERYWHERE when you play volleyball.

Tell them that there is no such thing to stay in a spot in volleyball. GO FOR THE BALL! Most importantly say "MINE MINE MINE!" 3 times... very loudly!
if they start yelling at you and they say that they were going to get the ball, just tell them that you said MINE, 3 times, very loudly and that means you are going to get the ball.

I agree, some athletes tend to be ball hoggers and they want to be the Star of the team... but that is how everybody is.

tell them that this is a Competetive sport and they shouldn't be yelling at you.

If it continues, go the opposite way and just stand there. Act stupid and then when they don't go for the ball, YOU start yelling. Teach them a lesson about attitude.

If they won't let you go to the ball, let them get it... however if they won't get it... tell them that it's their duty.

-volleyball2150

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how do you know when your in love with a guy? like i dont know him all too well meaning as to i dont talk to him alot of times, but i really like him i think! but idk if its love..

13/f

lol

you are wayyy to young to be in love.
love happens when you are having strong emotions for a man.
not when you are day dreaming about him and don't know much about the guy.... thats just a crush

you'll know when the time comes. Its mainly when you both are comfortable around each other and talk to each other about things you can't talk with others.
i can't explain it because i'm not in love.
but trust me.. you'll know

-volleyball2150

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Well, I really like this guy and i have been likeing him for a lonnnnng time now! And i went up to him and i told him that i liked him and he really didnt responde just kinda said thanks. But i mean it just seem like fate has been bringing us together even my friends notice it!!!
i mean he said i was cute but thats it. I have tried to move on by liking other guys but thoese guys arent really intreasted in me but when ever a guy likes me there usally not my type! when will mr.perfect come along. and i havent even had my first kiss and all my friends have already done that actually i think ever one in my school has had there first kiss.

and its not like im an ugly duckling i guess im pretty since my friends and ppl i dont even know say im and the guy i like thinks i am he's just not intreasted!

WHAT DO I DO TO GET THIS GUY!! BECAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE I TRIED EVERYTHING!! HOW DO I GET MY FIRST KISS???? WHY DO I ALWAYS GET THE GUYS IM NOT INTRESTED IN BUT THE GUYS I LIKE ARENT INTREASTED IN ME???

to tell you the truth...
its better if you wait your first kiss out.
Hon, if you rush into your first kiss.. its won't be as exciting and passionate. Many of my friends have already had their first kiss, but i haven't yet.
But i'm not scared to admit it. a first kiss is a thing you will remember for the rest of your life. you don't want to regret it by rushing into it.
trust me, it's totally worth waiting for.
having a boyfriend isn't everything. I think its better to have a 'crush' than a 'boyfriend' because boyfriends ruin everything. You love the guy... but then you NEVER have time for yourself. You're always around the guy and you never get to do anything you want to do. then one day it comes and he'll dump you and you're heartbroken.
its not a fun feeling.

having a boyfriend isn't that exciting
i'm 14/f and i've never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. heck! no guy has ever asked me out. I'm not saying i'm ugly or anything... its just that guys at this age are soo imature they don't even know what love is. they just want a girlfriend asap so they can prove to the world that they are a true man, but honestly they are just being stupid and will break your heart

wait until the right moment, with the right guy.
it's like my best friend says
"never frown because you never know when someone is in love with your smile"

keep your head up and stay strong. main idea is to be yourself and then some guy will meet you.

just make me a promise that you won't be one of those girls who act like prima-donna's and act all prissy just to get a guy to like them. because really.. all they are doing is showing the guy who they are 'pretending' to be.. then when they start going out.. she's herself and he doesn't like her anymore.

its heartbreak after heartbreak.

I hope you make a wise decion and wait it out.

-volleyball2150

PS: guys aren't everything.. who says you need a guy in your life to be happy?

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This year our "girl asks guy" dance's theme is 'it takes two' aka matching outfits and what not. The dance is tomorrow and my date and i still cant think of anything creative besides 'color coordinating'. Any suggestions? What have people gone as before? nothing too elaborate or time consuming please, because the dance is tomorrow (short notice i know). But please help! its my first and last sadies dance.

Try going as a movie couple... from a movie
like grease.
or maybe from the movie Step Up, nora and tyler

-volleyball2150

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Ok so as you all know summer is coming up =) and i found a super cute bikini that im gonna try to look good in. You know them people at the beach who wear them little bikinis and just look awful well i dont wanna be one of them. I'm 5'3 a little less than 110 im thinking. So im not saying im over weight its just my stomach is not toned. Its kind of gross...if i stand up its mostly flat its just kind of is flat | like that then go in / like that you know what i mean well not that drastic but just basically i could be alot skinner and toned. I wanna get like this because i have a hot new boyfriend and i wanna look good when i go to the beach with him. How do i get my stomach looking real good??

PLEASE HELP!!!!

If i have to ill stop drinking pop :) thats the extent ill go to :)

PLEASEEEE HELP

well I'm pretty strong and I have a 4 pack (or 6 pack?) but here's how i make my abs stronger

do situps. Do about 25 and then repeat 5x.
http://www.nocheatabs.com/images/exercises/series1.jpg

then once you've done those... try doing the same thing except have your legs up in the air.
http://www.gimme20.com/files/images/crunches_legs_up.preview.jpg

then you could rock the boat.. which is kinda hard but it works really well!!
for this one the only thing touching the floor is your tailbone (upper butt bone) and your legs and arms are up in the air, so your stomach is scrunched. sorry if its hard to explain.

then the last exercise is like the boat thing, but instead you have a ball that weighs like 6 pounds or so, and then you touch the ball on each side of you (right side, then switch and touch the ball to the left side)

do about 25 of all of those and repeat 5x and do them for about 2 weeks and you should get strong abs

have fun and good luck
hehe

-volleyball2150

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