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should i tell her?
Ok, so my friend dyed her hair red and someone told me that a couple of her other 'friends' were making fun of her. I'm really mad and I want to say something to her about it, but I don't want her getting mad at me so she thinks I'm rubbing it in her face and I don't want to make her upset because sometimes things like that are better left unsaid. But I don't want her getting mad at me if she finds out that I knew about it the whole time.
Also one of her other friend said some pretty mean things about her behind her back to me because she was mad at her. I'm really jealous of this one friend because I think that she favors her. I really want to tell her so they can get mad, but thats not the right thing to do. What should I do? Thanks!
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Some things are to leave well enough alone, however, this is something you may want to tell your friend about. So you can warn her about her so-called friends, that are talking about her behind her back. Just don't do this out of spite, because she seems to "favor" another person over you, because no, that wouldn't be the right thing to do.
Think about this -- would she tell you if you were in the same situation? If the answer is yes, definitely tell her. However, I cannot lie, you do risk her being mad at you. But if you feel it's better to tell her, and know that you didn't keep anything from her -- the best thing to do is tell her about it.
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Stay out of all of it. Believe me. I've been there, done that. It will come back to bite you in your behind. Stay out of it all..
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You can tell her that you know that her appearance is her personal business and that every one has a different sense of style and opinions about fashion. Have a real conversation with her about how she feels about the reactions she has been getting. Chances are that she already knows that some people will hate her hair. There is no reason to tell her what she already knows, so find out from her first. If she is really clueless, then help her figure it out carefully. You are really a good friend to be concerned about her feelings and you should tell her this. I am so proud of you that you did not use this opportunity right away to diss the girl that said the mean, even though you wanted to. It would have hurt the friend you really do care about and might have even backfired on you. I wish you luck, but I think you will do a good job of this without it.
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ok so in this situation.. it's hard to tell what the right thing to do is.
Honestly, If I were you... i would tell your friend who died her hair red that people were making fun of her behind her back. Its not right to just leave the situation alone because then it starts to become REALLY bad, and you'll regret your choice. Tell her when you 2 are alone and when there are NO distractions and NO friends around.
for the other part, if people are making fun of her behind her back, you should also tell her. however, make sure you tell her calmly. If you don't want to do this, you can make simple clues about it... so you're not ACTUALLY telling her.. just giving out clues about it.
So you're jelous of someone because you think your other friend favors her??? WE ALL FEEL THAT WAY! every person in the world has felt jealousy. Its normal. How do you even know that your friend likes her more than you???
Did you even ask her? Don't jump to conclusions... it may seem like she likes this one friend more than you.... but she may not even notice it. Calmly tell her that you are feeling left out and would appriciate it if she could include you in more things.
I hope I helped and all goes well!
-volleyball2150
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