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Ode to Divorce
My parents recently got seperated. I feel like everything is falling apart. Both of my parents aren't eating very much anymore and my mom is showing some strong signs of depression, nothing suicidal though. My mom has started "re-inventing" herself. She's cut her hair short and highlighted it red and got a tatoo of a butterfly on her lower back. When I asked her about it, she said "I'm not a caterpillar anymore." My sister came home from college for spring break and basically avoided everyone the whole week. I saw her for maybe 15 minutes the whole time. I haven't been sleeping in the last couple of weeks. I've been staying up until 2 and waking up at 7 and have been unable to nap during school or anywhere else(which I usually do if I stay up too late). All of this, alongside my obvious dilemma of parents getting seperated, is just crashing down on me and I can't really handle it.
I don't expect all of my life answers to be solved, but does anybody out there have advice to help me get through these times?
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Wow, funny i should say this but I have a personal love one in my life.. that has depression too. Lets just say this.. my parents are getting a divorce and yes, it is not the brightest of the brightest colors.. meaning: Your life isn't full of happiness possibly.. it sounds.
You need your personal space and i can't function during the day. Sounds like you have ALOT on your mind. To tell you the truth.. I am going through the same exact things. I am a bit depressed myself. But maybe possibly you could go to a counselor? I personally can't sleep at night b/c i have to much on my mind and a loved one in my family is highly depressed... I went to counseling and and they suggested an anti-depression pill. Or some kind pill to relax my nerves. With all this commotion in your life. You may be quite confused and don't know how to handle things! Cheer up!
Do something you personally like. If your sister is being an ignoramus.. b*^ch.. then possibly try to open up to your sister! Maybe your sister doesn't want to be caught in the middle with everything. Thats how i feel.. with my parents divorce.. I want to stay neutral as possible! I have an older brother.. that is feeling the same way.. but he doesnt avoid me.. He feeds me with advice.. SO maybe possibly you could try to open to your sister and give us each ADVICE!!
Hope that helped! <3
Your mom is going to be perfectly fine! She needs her space and maybe she needs to talk to her family..
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aww, you poor thing!
If this really bothers you, I suggest you go to a school psychiatrist and explain everything! They'll help a lot!!!
Talk to your mom and tell her that you are feeling really sad and depressed because of the divorce. you can even start crying to get her to feel sorry for you and pay more attention to you.
As for the sister part... don't worry you're not the only one who hasn't seen much of their college sibling. When ever my brother comes home from college, he's always with his friends and not with the family. So i guess its normal for college older siblings to do that. If you want to see your sister more often, write her a note that says "I feel we aren't spending enough time together. I really miss seeing your face."
Thats what i did.. on my brother birthday card I wrote something like that... then after the party we went to a movie, just the 2 of us and spent the night together. Now we see more of each other everyday. Just keep reminding her that you love her a lot and that you miss her like crazy.
Oh another thing... when you mom is doing all of this stuff... just remind her that just because she has given up on her husband, doesn't mean she should give up on her family. Give her some time to think and when the time is right, she'll come and talk to you about this.
I hope everything goes great... and if not, talk to another adult about this
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