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Annoying person.
A few years ago, I met this girl in one of my classes. I talked to her for maybe five minutes a day. Now, she still talks to me all the time and it's getting annoying. Before you call me a jerk, let me finish. Normally, I'm all for having new friends and people to talk to in school, but she is so incredibly annoying, not to mention rude, that it's driving me insane. It's hard to ignore her because she literally tracks me down in the hallway and she found where I sit at lunch. I try to humor her and I'll have a conversation with her, but it pisses me off when I'll be talking to another one of my friends and she'll appear out of nowhere and demand to know what we're talking about. I don't like having her around because all she does is talk and talk about things she's already told me before. It'd be different if I could get a word in edgewise or if she would at least listen to what I had to say every now and then. So my question is, how can I deal with her? I don't want to completely blow her off, because she doesn't have a lot of friends. Is there a nice way I can point out how rude she is without hurting her feelings tooo much? I'd have no problem with her being around if she wasn't so talkative and rude.
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Wow, you sound just like me...
well Last year I met a girl, and she would never shut up!
So here's how I dealed with it-
Talk to her in PERSON!!
writing notes, emails, or phone calls can cause a distraction, get lost, or misunderstood.
its best if you tell her in person. find somewhere where theres no interruptions, no distractions, just the 2 of you.
Now, try being yourself and when she does something anoying or rude, say "can you please stop?"
for example- lets say she's talking during a movie and its the part where you HAVE to listen...
and she starts talking and you can't hear, what do you do?? you say "can you please be quiet, I can't hear what they're saying"
The main idea here is to be polite! If you shout in her face and pull your hair, she's gonna get pissed and thats not what you want.
If she interrupts you in school while you are talking to someone... Put your index finger up and put it on your lips, to indicate that you are talking.
Its kinda like the "dog book". You know when you get a dog... you also buy a book of training ideas... well in one book it says "YOU are the boss of the dog (in this case... her). In the book it also says that you should be the first one for everything... winning a game of tug-of-war, walking through the door, etc.
Don't tell your friend that you are the boss of her... just make signs with your hands saying " I am talking, do not interrupt"
Gestures are more poilite than actually yelling in her face.
Sorry if this is super long
Hope everything goes great
-volleyball2150
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imma suggest you some things that you can do and you decide whats best....ok first of all you can try to have a talk with her one day and tell her what you dont like about her is that she says stuff that are impolite OR you can just give her the feeling that you dont want her around WITHOUT saying anything...THis is how you do it...like be talking with one of your freinds and when she comes stop talking..shell get bored of following you around when you dont even show interest in her at all.It is mean but its the nicest way you can tell her you dont want her around without actually saying anything.You dont want to have to live with an anooying person in your face every second of your life now do you^_^
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Just talk to her about it. Be up front & honest with her. You might her feelings, but she deserves to know that she's annoying & rude.
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