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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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So, a couple times a day, maybe like 5 or 6, I get this thing where it feels like to get a good breath I have to breath really deeply in and out for like 5-10 minutes. It also always feel slike my airway is a little constricted but more so during these "breathing episodes". I went to the doctor yesterday but he said everything was fine but yesterday I didn't have to breath deeply for 5-10 minutes to get a good breath, it was just to feeling of constant constriction. Anyways, the doctor sent me to radiology of the hospital to get x-rays which turned out fine. It's especially hard to sleep at night as well. During these "breathing episodes" I also get really light headed and dizzy. Does anybody have any ideas of what i might have or how to help it or what to do next? Btw, Im 14/f.
Hello,
I can't diagnose you, so I have to suggest that you ask your Dr for a referral to a pulmonologist
(a lung Dr.) or an asthma/allergy Dr.
I am in no way suggesting that you have asthma, but from experience I know that if you are not having an attack or an episode nothing will show up on a chest x-ray, and for most people it is worse at night or after exercise. This is why I suggest that you see a specialist because obviously what you are describing is not normal, and if you enjoy dancing you shouldn't have to worry about this happening.
Best of luck
16.Male Hey I'm not sure if it's becase of finals lately, but even before last week, I've found that I wake up and get a headache...really bad ones. When I go to sleep I usually don't have one, actually havn't at all. So why is this?
I have two pillows, a soft feather one that kinda sinks, and then one of those foam ones with the bend in them. I switch on and off, sometimes use both with a different one on top, but either way as soon as I wake up a headache hits me. Why is this? I can't take medicine on an empty stomach right away, so what should I do? Thanks.
If you've been having bad headaches that aren't typical for you, then you should see a Dr just to be on the safe side. You can take Tylenol on an empty stomach or a full stomach, doesn't matter. Ibuprofen or Aleve need to be taken with food. Usually just crackers & milk is enough, but follow the package directions.
I have allergies that didn't start until I was older and I used to wake up with headaches. More in the front of my head & around my eyes. I had to get one of those allergy free pillow covers, and I wash my sheets and pillow cases 2 times a week. I can't sleep with the window open either--and for sure a feather pillow would bother me. Also I found out if I drink a lot of water I am better too, even a slight amount of dehydration can cause a headache.
If the headache starts in the back of your neck and runs up the back of your head it could be your pillow or even stress.
Good luck :-)
14/f. sorry if this is realllyy long lol, ill try to keep it short.
ok so first off. i'm REALLY shy. like in school, everyone [well not everyone but some people who are really immature] tease me about "never talking" and this really pisses me off because just because i'm shy, quiet and well-behaved in school doesn't mean i never talk. infact at home and with my friends i'm so loud and talkative that they can't shut me up. =D but being shy is a huge problem for me that i can't overcome. anyone that i'm not really close to, i can hardly speak to. yeah if they say something to me i'll answer, but it's not like i'll go out of my way to ask them a question. and in school its the same way. so i'm gonna be a freshman. and like high school=new people. how can i overcome my shyness and open up to them so i can get more friends? because as of right now i have 2 best friends who i've know forever and i can totally be my true self around them, love em to death and can tell them anything. i also have a few other friends, not as close but i can still talk/hang out with them. i dont consider myself popular, even tho i think the cliques and everything are really stupid. this leads me into the second part of my question lol...
there's this boy i like. it'll be 2 years that i like him in july. he, unlike myself, is pretty popular. always flirting with other girls, hanging out with the guys, etc. now, this isnt one of those cases where the unpopular girl just like the popular guy because he's hot and everything and never talked to him before. i used to talk to him. he actually considered me his friend. he actually LIKED me. it all started in the summer before 7th grade.. when he actually wasnt as popular [this year he kinda changed and has been hanging out with a different group of people] anyway, he told me he liked me online and we talked. i started to like him, told him i did. in november of 7th grade, he asked me out [online and through my friend however]. and here's the turning point. i said NO. why ? well, he would've been my first real boyfriend, i'm really shy [as i said before].. you see, it was easy talking to him online, because it wasn't face to face. in school though, it was a whole different story
i dont know what happened. after i turned him down, we still talked for a while [which had to be really awkward for him] after a while though..he just lost interest in me i guess..and our conversations slowly got boring. and we didn't know what to talk about. and he hardly said anything. and i did most of the talking. it was the same in the summer before 8th grade. i became almost obsessive in a way. i was IMing him like everyday. and he would hardly say anything. then 8th grade started and i just said to myself "this isn't going anywhere" and i gave up. i seriously haven't talked to him online since like september or october.
but now, i'm going into highschool. and i really want to start talking to him again. do you think i have a chance left? i mean.. september was a long time ago. it would be really awkward iming him and i'd have no clue what to say. it would probably be like those days where he hardly say anything. "hey..hi..whats up..nm u..nothing..cool" and so on. that's what our convos were like. i dunno. would iming him again be a good idea? ughh there's like so much more to the story but it would prob. go on forever..what should i do? so sorry it was so longg!
In order to start a conversation with someone, learn something about them first. I mean what kind of activities they are into or sports, or what types of movies they like and so on. Do a little research on that topic learn about it, or if it is something you already like that's even better. Next time you are around that person ask them a question about that topic just to get the ball rolling. If you make a guy feel important, they like that. It's much more interesting than small talk--like about the weather or what they did in school that day.
Remember, even though you think someone might be too popular, they aren't. We all put our pants on the same way in the morning you know. Plus the people we deem as popular don't have as many people approach them first because of fear of rejection, which is what you are feeling right now. If you try to talk to this guy, or even go out with him and he turns you down, you are no worse off than you are now. So really you have nothing to lose! Go for it!
Ok. My horse Sullivan might be lame and I was just wondering if anyone knows a way to help heal lamnitis faster and how I can help pass time faster while I cant ride him.
Thanks!
♥♥♥♥Meggy and Sully♥♥♥♥
First of all I believe you are talking about
'Laminitis'. If I remember from my horse days, Laminitis is not a single illness or disease, but one symptom of disease or disorder. So therefore without knowing the root cause it will be difficult to tell you how to heal it faster. If the underlying cause is not treated the laminitis will most likely not heal properly.
"When you can start riding again depends on how severe the symptoms were and how good the treatment response has been. If there is any rotation it will take at least eight months for the damaged areas to grow out. If no rotation has occurred two months rest and correction of the predisposing factors should be considered. Your vet should direct you when it is safe to start riding again".
As far as passing the time faster try taking up a different hobby in the mean time.
I have really chubby cheeks and that like where all my fat is in my fat; no double chins fat forehead just chubby cheeks any way to get ride of the weight in my checks..I know to drink a ton of water helps. Thanks
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Since I don't know how much you weigh, I don't want to really tell you to lose weight--but sometimes people who lose a little weight seem to lose it in their face.
Consider the positive side to having "chubby cheeks" you will look younger for much longer because as people age they lose that round youthful face. Those with a thin face will look older sooner!
Do you guys think it's weird that my parents grounded my brother who's 21(I actually think it's funny)?
He's staying with us for a few weeks and he got a $300 citation for punching a guy on the beach yesterday. My dad didn't actually say the words "you are grounded" but he won't let him do anything. I mean he is an adult and everything haha.
My dad and brother have been arguing all morning because of it and I don't think my dad is right because my brother would have paid for it on his own. I want to say something but I just wanted a few opinions before I do so.
I don't think it's weird at all. 21 years old is legally an adult yes, but unless the person is living on their own & paying for everything they are not really a grown up just yet. If your brother is still under your Dad's roof, then Dad has a right to set some expectations. Staying out of trouble with the law is a reasonable expectation. So as far as the "adult" part that is probably up for debate.
Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my sister moved in with my 4 year old niece and my 2 year old nephew and now they are sleeping in my room since we only have a 2 bedroom house and now iam sleeping on the couch and they are sleeping in my room and I don't think that is fair and when I talked to my mom about it she said I was being selfish am I being selfish?I have no privacy whatsoever and I think as a teenager I need all the privacy I can get and I have none how can I get more privacy?
please help me.
Well, it really doesn't sound fair no, but I am wondering why your sister had to move back home. Maybe she is going through a really hard time or something. If it is only temporary then try the best you can to be understanding.
I think I would rather sleep on the couch because if the kids were sleeping in the livingroom you wouldn't be able to use that room when you wanted without waking them up. Personally I'd rather let a 4 yr old and 2 yr old sleep as much as possible.
If the room is big enough, or if you have a dining room perhaps there is somewhere you can partition off, put an air mattress on the floor, hang up a blanket for a curtain--anything to block yourself off from the rest of the house.
To get privacy when talking on the phone you may have to go to the car, or go outside, or on a porch, or even put a tent in the yard. Ask if you can stay at a friends a couple of nights a week. I know it will be difficult, but look at it this way. Years ago many people had two to three bedroom homes and raised 6-10 kids in them so everyone had to share everything, and somehow they got by.
hey! im 16/f and my cousin is 15/f! and well she really likes this cute guy (kevin) and he is also 15 but my other cousin (her brother) and me were talking to this gil (kristin) that kevin use to like and i guess he still likes her or would like to get back with her but you see kristin still likes kevin but said she would never go back out with him because she wants someone knew. this kevin guy seems really really nice too! but i dont know if my cousin has a chance..not to be mean to my cousin or anything because i love her to death but it just doesnt seem like he would go for a girl like her..!? it seems like he has different taste but im not gonna go tell her that she will get mad and it will break her heart. she always talks about kevin and this friday we are goin to one of his baseball games because he plays my friend. so me and her and my friend and her friend are gonna go.i said i wanna meet kevin. first because he is a hottie! lol and second because i wanna see what he is like and all. i mean im scared that i will kinda like him or whatever because to me he seems nice funny good personality. but i dont want to do that to my cousin!! i would never do anything to hurt her and let guys come between us. i really want to meet him and she knows that but she never talks to him when we see him "she is too scared" she says and embarassed and shy. im not just gonna go up to him either because she will hate me and also that would be awkward! since he doesnt know me. what if i talk to him and he like flirts with me or somethin? my cousin says he is a huge flirter. i would want to flirt back but i wouldnt because i gotta remember my cousin likes him! but as i said before i dont know if he is the right type for her. i can already tell that im gonna like kevin because he seems like my type and my cousin says me and him are alike..! and that im the type of girl he would go for. i would want to go for him or whatever or flirt but what about my cousin? we have had many talks about him but i just dont know. jokingly when we talk she is like "gosh you two are so alike you would love him! wait..you better not go out with him like not seriously but saying you better not because i want him" i know your gonna say dont let boys come between you two because friendship is the most important thing. but lately ive been guy crazy!! and lately there have been no guys around that are cute or that i am interested in and now kevin comes along. i just dont know sorry if this was long and confusing but if you understand will you please give me some advice on what i should do?!
thanks..i will rate 5
xoxo
It wouldn't be that unusual for cousins or close friends to like the same guy. You probably have similar taste in boys is all, after all you probably like a lot of the same things.
My best advice is to meet someone that you can claim as your own, not someone she had her eye on first. You don't want to be in competition with anyone over a guy because then you will always be worried about losing him. If he does flirt, just tell him not to or ignore it. It doesn't really matter if you think they are not the right type for each other, it's what they think that counts. So try your best to be happy for your cousin and then you won't have to be confused any longer.
What can I do to make it retractable??
You didn't mention if you are circumsized or not, if not this would help.
If you are, then you probably have what's called adhesions, this is basically scar tissue that has caused the skin to be connected where it's not supposed to be.
This can be prevented after circumcision by retracting the foreskin a couple of times a day during hygiene. A lot of Mother's don't know this, but it should have been in the circ instructions from the hospital (if done as a newborn).
Your best bet now is to see a physician that can remove the adhesions or do a circ. There is no other treatment that will actually correct the problem.
im not really sure if i am depressed so ill just tell you how i feel and you can tell me if you think im depressed.
how i feel and have been acting:
empty
alone
scared
havent been eating a lot lately
have been getting headaches and stomachaches
havent been hanging out with my friends lately
i like to sit in my room with the lights out
i have trouble sleeping lately
i dont really like to talk anymore
get annoyed at little things
a little bit dizzy sometimes
sad
dont like to talk on the phone anymore
dont really like going places
anxious over stupid things sometimes
please help thanks
one more thing i use to have thoughts bout suicide but now its like i dont care about anything and dont feel anything.
The best advice that I can give you is to see a Dr to rule out a physical illness first. You mentioned physical symptoms "headache, stomachache and dizzyness" these should really be checked. If you don't have a physical illness you should ask the Dr. to refer you to someone who can diagnose and treat you.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/depression.cfmreat depression.
My dog ate a half a pellet of rat poison. Will this harm her?
Before anyone can give an educated guess here we need more information. How big is the dog? What kind and size of pellet are you talking about?
Me and my bf has been trough a lot ....just to be toghether
I had a big fight with his parents...(I post it on advicenators)..The problem was only with his parents..so we had his brothers and sisters coming to visit us almost everyday and that is fine but now it is getting to much ..we don't have privacy in our home and it is costing us to much money to have 4 extra people in house using electricity ,food and water .I have to cook for 6 people almost everyday ....and this cost money!!!!!!!
Last week the brother of my bf desided to stay for about 4 days and my bf did't ask for my permision..the thing is we have our computer in the bedroom ..he stayed on the computer
(with the radio on)till 6 o clock in the morning 3 nights in a row..The fourth day I told my bf that this is gettin to much ...we are only students and we can't afford to be spending so much money and that I couldn't sleep for 3 days long because of the noice..He told me that he was sorry but he did't know that his brother was gone stay for so long
I don't know what he told his brother but....
he got all mad and stuff ..the worst is he came last night and did't say hi to me and today he wrote ..."I don't need your house anymore to chat...thank God I have my own house to chat till the time I want"....on his msn
I really tryed to stay in peace with them because I don't want my bf to get in a fight with his brother for my sake ..BUT THIS IS GETTING TO MUCH!!!!!
How can he has the nerve to write something like that..after all I did for them
The worst is I'm feeling very sad...and anger ..
I wrote back to him telling him he is a ungratefull dog....I was very mad
Did I do wrong ......what should I do next??
It should be your bf's job to stand up to his family in your defense. Apparently they have worn out their welcome and you have a right to feel the way you do. If the bf can't put you first and put his foot down and be firm, you might want to reconsider your relationship with him...because this means it probably won't get better if you get married.
If you are really set on staying with this guy, It might have to be you who does the talking to his siblings. Tell them you are hurt and angry, explain that you can't afford to support them or have them eat there and so on...Maybe you can say you'd like them to visit, but perhaps only one day a week. Sometimes partners are a package deal, meaning you have to accept their family too, but the family shouldn't ruin your life or run your life and it sounds like this is what is happening. Best of Luck =-)
Can giving oral sex cause white sores in the mouth? Are there other things can cause these white sores. What are they? Sorry it's 3 questions but they go together. Rates 5's to all
Well if they started shortly after the oral sex, then yes it's likely that is what it is from.
Sores in the mouth can be caused from a lot of things, like herpes, hand-foot & mouth disease, or thrush which is a yeast like infection.
Any STD can be transmitted through oral sex.
This is something that should be checked by a Dr.
My "friend" and I were wondering (well, he thinks he knows, but I don't believe him)...
I know a 13f who just had her 5th kid. She wants to keep breast feeding to keep from getting pregnant again. Is this a crock of shit, or does she know something I don't?
Is it valid birth control to prolong lactation?
A 13 y/o with 5 kids? If she had one child per year she would have had to start when she was 8 years old. She knows absoultly nothing about birth control so don't believe her!
Sometimes breastfeeding can suppress ovulation because of the hormones. However, this is not a reliable method of birth control. It doesn't always work to prevent pregnancy and the Dr's would recommend another method.
I asked my friend Erica to hold my camera the other day, cause I didn't have a purse. She claims she gave it back to me, but I don't remember her doing so. Now its lost, I've searched all the places we went that day twice, and my house several times. My other friend who was with us, [ Erica stayed at her house for the week cause she was visiting us from another state] has said that she hasn't seen the camera at all, and that she thinks Erica took it because she always complained about her crappy camera. I'm starting to believe she did take it, because Erica is known for lying, and had my camera last. I've tried confronting her about it, but she just keeps denying it. Idk what to do, I'm in huge trouble if I don't find it by the end of summer.
Have your other friend call Erica and tell her that you have reported the camera stolen and the police are doing an investigation. Tell the friend to cry and pretend like she is now being accused. The friend can tell Erica if she just mails the camera back that this whole nightmare will stop and no one will be in trouble. It sounds sneaky--but you need to put a guilt trip on Erica and take the heat off of her at the same time. If you and the other friend work together on this it could work.
someone i noe and care about deeply is doing pot. i want to stop him. i noe he's not like that but that it's probably pure pressure or something. it's really hurting me that all of these people are commenting on his myspace about how he's such a good drinking buddy and he prolly has to drive home after. and i saw pictures of him doing pot. i love him more than you could ever imagine! can someone please tell me a way that i could get to his head and have him stop all of this? please help me. i don't want someone i love in danger!
First of all I disagree with the advice that pot is not harmful or addictive. Some people do not stop smoking pot until they are forced to, even then some will start again. For some people, pot is a gateway drug meaning that once they are high--they will try other drugs. Pot will alter someone's judgement, slow their reaction time, decrease their motivation, plus it costs a lot of money. In addition if alcohol use is a factor, then the problem goes even deeper.
Okay what you are talking about is "peer" pressure. So in essence you are saying if he had different friends, or if his friends didn't encourage him to smoke pot, he wouldn't. If that is the case you'd think some pressure from the other group of people that don't do drugs would help, but it usually doesn't.
You probably won't be able to help him, but you can help how you react to the situation. So if you encourage him to seek help for the problem and he refuses, you probably should move on and "like" someone who knows how to refrain from destructive behavior.
If you see that he has the potential to harm someone else, such as by driving while using alcohol or drugs then you are obligated to butt in. Call the police if you have to, maybe the legal intervention will have a positive effect.
ok....this is hard to talk about but im going to try to get it out best i can.im in college, and i really like this guy( ill call him rob) for a while. we never hooked up or anything, but talked dont the phone here and there.sometimes he use to joke around about things he wanted to do with me sexually,but i always just thought he was kidding because we were kinda friends.so this one day, i was really drunk and he called me to come over to his apartment. i was so excite because i really like him and he alwasy told me what a great girl i was and how he liked me alot. i thought one day he was really gunna get serious with me. Anyway, i went there and he told me he wanted me to listen to some song in his room, i went in and when i did his roomate was in ther and i kind aheard him tell him to leave, then he left rob locked the door. i started to get nervous because i wasnt really expeting to hook up with im or have sex, but i just went with it because i was so drunk. we end up starting to hook up and then it just got bad. we started to have sex, which was ok with me because i thought he really like me and it was going to be so great.it ended up be the most hurtful thing i have ever gone through, pyshcially and emotionally. he was having sex with me really rough, and it hurt really bad, i was very drunk but i managed to say your hurting me, so he would stop, but then he would just do the same thing again. he was throwing me around the bed like a rag doll, and i was crying inside.i said stop it hurts, but he took that as "stop for a sec then start again" this went on for a good 20 mintues till i fianlly made up some excuse to leave.when i left i cried the entire way home. i got home and i had bruises bewtween my legs already.i was so hurt because i though he like me and he treated me so terribly....but what i always wanted to know was...is that considered rape or something close to it???sorry so long, i just pushed it out of my mind for song long becauseit really screwed me up in the head to the point i cant trust guys anymore and talk of sex with a guy totally scares me...advice please what do you think??im i blowing this out of poportion? because i didnt exactly say or scream stop like i was being raped....i dunno please advice
Oh wow, this guy was really a jerk wasn't he? The sex against your will is rape yes. I understand why you'd be so upset, he really took advantage of the fact that you liked him. I can see why you have trouble trusting again. Whatever you do, talk to someone or not, don't blame yourself. You didn't go there asking to be treated in a bad way, you would never want something like that to happen. It was his fault entirely! Basically he raped you and assaulted you, this is against the law of course. I can only imagine that this guy will do this to someone else. Rape is not even about sex, it's about control and power.
When you meet the right person just take it slow. If you don't want to go into any details, just tell them that you were treated badly by a guy and will need time to trust them. If the guy really likes you he will be patient and understanding, and can actually help you to trust again.
I asked a question before about my mother and how she's divorcing her 3rd husband--// Actually, they're separated but you KNOW it's leading to a divorce.
Well, my wonderful mother wants me to see a freaking therapist for the way I've been acting towards her and number 3 (irresponsible, disrespectful, ungrateful, demanding, blah blah blah).
SHES THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO GO SEE A DAMN THERAPIST NOT ME!! I KNOW why I act the way I do and I don't need some fag bag shrink to tell me. She's my problem. Who gets married AND divorced 3 different times by the time they're 36?? She should be seeing someone about that.
Plus I know the only reason she wants me to go see one is because I told her I wanted to move in with my dad (number 1) at least until number 3 is gone. Which he will be, soon. Then she'll move on to number 4.
So how do I get out of this??
I wouldn't try to get out of it. Keep an open mind and listen to what the therapist has to say. Yes, your Mom apparently has a problem, but a good therapist will help you deal with your Mom even better than we can. So in otherwords, if your Mom is the problem...you still have a reason to go.
okay well i want to give my boyfriend a BJ
but we have no way to get comdoms
and i would rather do it without one
and like we are both virgins. b.c we have known eachother since we were like 11 we are both 14
so with us both being virgins and not having no kinda sex with anyone just you know kissing each other
can i get a mouth infection giving him oral without a comdom?
Well even if he doesn't have an STD all kinds of bacteria live on the genitals...think of what it's used for! I can't believe that any young girl really WANTS to do this. I really think it's the guy that wants it done. My motto "These lips were made for kissin"...
Hi. I have a kitten (named Shadow) who's 2 months old. She used to be very fluffy, but as of late she's been losing fur. We know it's not shedding for several reasons (we don't see fur all over the place, or have it on us after holding her, etc.) We thought it might have been soap from giving her a flea bath, or maybe something else that got on her. We have five other cats, one of them as young as she, and they're all fine. They eat the same food, drink the same water, and since Shadow is still pretty young, she doesn't go anywhere out of our yard when outside. Does anyone know anything that might be causing her fur to thin, but not spread to the other cats?
Hi,
This happened to a cat of mine, she was also a little smaller that the other cat, and a lot more active. I took her to the vet and he diagnosed her as having hyperthyroidism. She got put on medication--which would be needed forever. Later the cat got tired of taking the pills and ran away from home! Anyway the fur was thinning like you describe and not falling out in patches or clumps. You need to take the cat to the vet and if he doesn't check the thyroid you might suggest it.