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Anoying brother of my bf
Me and my bf has been trough a lot ....just to be toghether
I had a big fight with his parents...(I post it on advicenators)..The problem was only with his parents..so we had his brothers and sisters coming to visit us almost everyday and that is fine but now it is getting to much ..we don't have privacy in our home and it is costing us to much money to have 4 extra people in house using electricity ,food and water .I have to cook for 6 people almost everyday ....and this cost money!!!!!!!
Last week the brother of my bf desided to stay for about 4 days and my bf did't ask for my permision..the thing is we have our computer in the bedroom ..he stayed on the computer
(with the radio on)till 6 o clock in the morning 3 nights in a row..The fourth day I told my bf that this is gettin to much ...we are only students and we can't afford to be spending so much money and that I couldn't sleep for 3 days long because of the noice..He told me that he was sorry but he did't know that his brother was gone stay for so long
I don't know what he told his brother but....
he got all mad and stuff ..the worst is he came last night and did't say hi to me and today he wrote ..."I don't need your house anymore to chat...thank God I have my own house to chat till the time I want"....on his msn
I really tryed to stay in peace with them because I don't want my bf to get in a fight with his brother for my sake ..BUT THIS IS GETTING TO MUCH!!!!!
How can he has the nerve to write something like that..after all I did for them
The worst is I'm feeling very sad...and anger ..
I wrote back to him telling him he is a ungratefull dog....I was very mad
Did I do wrong ......what should I do next??
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It should be your bf's job to stand up to his family in your defense. Apparently they have worn out their welcome and you have a right to feel the way you do. If the bf can't put you first and put his foot down and be firm, you might want to reconsider your relationship with him...because this means it probably won't get better if you get married.
If you are really set on staying with this guy, It might have to be you who does the talking to his siblings. Tell them you are hurt and angry, explain that you can't afford to support them or have them eat there and so on...Maybe you can say you'd like them to visit, but perhaps only one day a week. Sometimes partners are a package deal, meaning you have to accept their family too, but the family shouldn't ruin your life or run your life and it sounds like this is what is happening. Best of Luck =-)
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I agree that it is too much for students definetly to pay for extra people around the house. You also cant be staying up because of distraction. I think you had every right to say what you did! I agree with you, he was an ungratefull dog! Don't feel bad, you had to do what you had to do. Make sure your boyfriend is okay with everything! Good luck & please rate.
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You had every right to say something if you hadn't then he would think it was ok with you for him to use the computer at all hours of the day. You job as a student is to support yourself and your spouse or in this case your b/f and thats it. It is not your job to take care of everyone else unless they become ill or something. But since he is not ill or anything it shouldnt be your job to take care of him and the rest who is staying in your house. Your b/f should be more understanding. But maybe calling him an ungrateful dog may have been a little much. Simply telling him that you let him use the computer til really late he should show more respect towards you. But you shouldnt have to apologize for his behavior so wait for things to run its course. Try and relax and talk to your b/f about it. You will feel much better when you talk to him about the situation.
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