When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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alright. here's the sitch.
i have this boyfriend, who i've been dating for
2 days. and i love him very much.
now that probabbly sounds rediculous,
but me and him dated once before, for about
7 months. he treated me like gold. i loved it.
but after a while he seemed to lose interest.
he broke up with me. and he said upfront that he
started to like another girl. i was very hurt, but
i appreciated his honesty.
after like a week of us being broken up. he called
me at 2am. crying. saying he made a big mistake,
and he cared about me yada yada. and i believed
him, and took him back.
then literally 2 days later, he told me he thought
he was making the right decision by asking me back.
but he just realised he doesnt feel the same.
and i felt stupid for taking him back.
now, weve been good friends for about 4
months now.and the other day i went to his
house andhe told me he liked me again, he
claims he never stopped. he ended things
with this girl for me. which must mean something.
he asked me back out when i went to his house.
and we didnt do anything sexual, he just held me
tight and said how much he missed holding me.
and he would kiss my forhead and such.
now,weve been pretty good these past days.
i just feel kindof paranoid ya know.
like when hes gone and i dont know where he is
i'll be all nervous and such. i hate this feeling.
i dont think he would do anything, but its still
a weight on my shoulders. i'd like to learn some
advice on how to not be so paranoid, and learn
to trust him. so our relationship will be stronger.
anyone know any REAL advice on how to do that?
thank you so much.
xxxoxoxo (link)
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Hi,
You want real advice? i'll give you some.
First of all, every single word of advice is said from past experience.
Now, you said that you wear dating for 7 months and he treated you like gold and then he started losing interest in you and gaining interest in another girl. Does that sound like a true boyfriend? Does that sound like someone who really loves you and cares for you? Lost interest in you? That doesn't make any sense, because if he really did love you, then he would never lose interest. Because i know and i have heard of people who date for years and years, and only really tough problems stand in their way, but they never break up because one of them lost interest in the other.
Ofcourse, his honesty should be appreciated,but he hurt you after he made you love him like crazy all these months.
Second of all, after a week from that,when he probably had gone to that other girl and things hadn't worked out between them and she probably turned him down, thats when he came to you cry and knew how much it hurts to turn someone down and dump him, so he came back apologizing and begging for you to be with him again.
And then the rest of the story makes completely no sense, because he keeps hesitating ,and its just like he doesn't know if he loves you or not, and that i most definietely do not call a boyfriend. Because a boyfriend, should love you and care about you and be there with you and for you, but not lose interest in you and hesitate on whether to love you or not.
Third of all, i am telling you all this because there a certain something that always ruins out lives and we can't just see it except if someone points it out to us. Love is a good thing, but it sometimes blinds us to see the truth and the reality of things.
Now you love him and you are crazy about him, thats why you forgave him all these times and thats why you are still dating him, but you are also blinded by your love to him.
And do you want advice? do you want real advice? This person you are dating is not trust worthy and is really mean and broke your hurt alot and is practically hesitating whether to love you or not. so what would you tell a really really close person to you if she had that same boyfriend and he let her down all these times before? i am sure that you would say exactly what i just said. Because that is the truth and that is the right thing. I am not sure if i am telling you to break up with him, because that is up to you. But i am just telling you that because if he comes the next time and says that he lost interest in you ,you will regret that you ever forgave him about anything he did.
And i wouldn't be telling you this if i hadn't experienced it myself.
so goodluck and try really hard to consider what i said once and twice and maybe even three times, but think straight and think right, because you don't deserve to be treated like that, and you deserve for someone to love you and treasure you, because in just one situation, you made me the impression that you are the kindest person i have ever seen . And thats something really good, but use it right.
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People make fun of me and my friends and call us "emo" just because we wear black.
They say stuff like hey emo go run home to your mommy! Its so annoying! What do I do? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, i would like to clarify a point for you. Now, everyone is free to do whatever he wants in this life, no body can judge you on your actions except maybe your family or god. But other than that, no body has a word on you. And just like how you sometimes wear black and people make fun of you for that, they probably do something else that makes you feel like you want to make fun of them. But i am not telling you to fight back. i am just telling you that these people who make fun of you and your friends are lame people which do not have anything in their lives to do but sit on the benches at the sides, and point out anything embarrasing or say anything mean that would send them rolling on the floor from laughter.
So do you really want to waste your time fighting with such people or would you rather just leave them in their lame lives, where the joke would one day be on them and people would make fun and enjoy a good laugh.
There are always the good people, like your friends for example, who stick beside you and wear black too and are always there with you and for you.
Then there are the people who see you, and are cool with, and they keep there negative opinions to themselves.
Then there are the mean people and the bullies who come and tease you and make fun of you and just want to start a fight for no reason.
More an more, i just want to tell you that there are about a thousands of lesbians, and bisexuals and gothikas ...etc, these people don't get any kind of respect and they are hated so much and people don't want to be friends with them or even seen with them, and yet they are self confident about themselves, and they don't allow anyone to get in the way. And then in your situation, can't you be self confident about wearing black? i don't get it.
Look, when a person wants to do something and he is happy with it, then i am sorry, but screw the rest. You want to wear black, and you also have your friends by your side, and you are satisfied with what you are doing, and you don't find it strange or different to be wearing black, then screw the rest, because as long as you are happy then don't let anyone let you down. Live your life and be free and do whatever you want, and stand up for yourself and don't let anyone get in your way. Your cool and you have a unique character, then hold on to it.
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i have a friend named mandy and ive known her for about 3 weeks and she is lesbian. well in the past three weeks, ive gotten to know alot about her and before that i was trying to figure out if im straight or bisexual or lesbian. and now, im pretty sure im bi, cuz i really like my friend mandy. we have alot in common we talk for hours. the other night me and my sister were talking about bisexual and stuff like that and she thinks she is attracted to girls and guys too. i wanted to talk to her soo much about it but i didnt want her to hate me or anything. so yeah, im still somewhat confused about me being bi or not. (link)
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Hey,
I have read your problem, and i have a point of view on that. Not just because a person has a friend which he likes so much, then he is for sure a lesbian or a bisexual. i know alot of girls who have girls has friends, and they love each other so much, actually crazy about each other, and they kiss on the cheeks and hug alot, and always walk hand by hand, but they know that they are not lesbians or bisexuals,and everyone else also knows that.
But in your situation, i think that it could be because mabye you feel a little strange when your around mandy. i mean i know that you are good friends and have alot in common,but what i meant is that , since she is a lesbian, then maybe you get these weird feelings about yourself , that you could be one too. But a person has to be self confident about himself, and you shouldn't let people affect you. Because before you knew her, you would have never said about yourself bisexual or a lesbian or anything of such, and the thought wouldnt' have even crossed your mind. YOu are a good and straight person, but all you need is some self confidence in yourself and what you want to be.So you could be great friends and share alot in common and go out together and talk on the phone and do all you want, but when it comes to holding each other and moving to a higher level, then i think you'd enjoy it more in the arms of a boy,somone who would really love and care about you and be there for you, and people wouldn't have weird thoughts about you. Because i know alot of people who are against lesbians , and wouldn't want to be seen near them.
So i have given you my point of view, so goodluck and if you need any further help , please be free to contact me.
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were u doing this acne thing for a while
sis321 (link)
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Hey,
Actually, i don't mean to brag about myself or anything, but i don't have acne. But it was my best friend who had lots of acne, and she asked me what she should do, so i said i'd ask my mom for her. So we went to the pharmacy and consulted the doctors there,and they showed us some creams, like facial washing and things the clean out the pores, and we used them and it was just fine.
On the other hand, the one which i said that it had a great effect, was the treatment medication, the one which would be expensive. My friend used it after that to try and completely get rid of the acne,and in a month or a little more, her face was totally clear, and she applies it whenever acne starts spreading on her face again. You could always check websites , and mabye there would be some creams which are not that expensive,or you could consult a pharmacy or a doctor. Its not wrong to ask for someone's help, besides they are experienced and they know what to do.
so if you need any other help , please be free to contact me.
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Hey!
Does anyone know any ways that can help you from stop biting your nails? I have this nail polish that tastes horrible but it always comes off either that day or the next. I have a really bad habit of it and I hate it so much. So if anyone knows anything please tell me.
Kthnxbye. :] (link)
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Hey,
Everyone has a different habit in which he struggles to get rid of it. you can't just quit the habit like that, it needs time. All you have to do is to put in your mind that you shouldn't bite your nails, therefore everytime you make an attempt to bite it, you would remember and stop yourself. And by time you will find yourself practically quitting that habit.
Moreover, you could also make sure to cut your nails on time and every now and then, so that they would always be cut and short.
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hi this is si321,
I need to know if anyone out there has any advice on how to clear acne without using expensive treatments i neeeeeeeeeeed to know as soon as possible
thanx sooooo much
Sis321 email me at sis13@neo.rr.com (link)
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Hey,
You could always go to a pharmacy where there are those certain creams which could be applied after washing your face, they really help in cleansing and getting rid of some of the acne. and they are not expensive at all.
More and more, you could always just buy the expensive treatments, because they really do have a great effect. But as you like ,and if you need any other help ,please be free to contact me.Goodluck.
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I'm 15 and i need at least 350$ before thanksgiving can someone tell me a fast way to make a lot of money? I really need help! (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and i have suggestions that could help you.
You could take a part time job somewhere. Mabye as a waiter, or in any shop just to help out. And some places actually pay good money if you work hard. You could also make a garage sale and sell some old toys and magazines and stuff ,and people would mabye come and buy.
Finally, you could do a bake sale and sell cookies and cakes and good food and drinks. These things always work and people always buy from them. so goodluck, and i will try and think of other suggestions for you.
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My boyfriend's birthday is coming up in early August and I need some gift ideas.. We will have only been going out for a month and a half by then so it cant be too too serious. Id like it to be something he can use and still get a laugh out of. [hes a funny person and likes to laugh] Any ideas for a funny but sweet gift for this boy??
Turning 14 years old. (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and would like to give some suggestions, but i'm not really sure about the funny part.
You can usually give a boy a wallet or perfume or silver chain( necklace),one of those which boys wear. Or if he has one of those play stations, you could get him some really cool cds for it. Or if you know what music he likes, you could also get him cds.
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ok i need a diet just to lose like 5 or 6 lbs
i need it to include running and a healthy food diet and any tips for getting "pumped" to exercise
p.s. include running i love to run!
thx MArylynn (link)
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Hey,
You can go to the club everyday and run the track twice, and then go to the gymnasium and do some exercises.
About the healthy food diet, you can not take anyone's opinion, because you must consult a doctor to write you one himself.
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Okay, here's what's going on in my life right now - I just recently got out of a relationship, and I'm reacting to the breakup kind of strangely. I never really cried, but I keep feeling my eyes burn and my throat tighten. I never cry for more than like, 30 seconds.
I've always had kind of a habit of forcing myself not to cry, and I'm worried that it's gone too far. I feel like, emotionally numb. I'm not upset or angry, I'm just kind of...there.
Physically, I have no appetite, and no energy. Thing is, I'm trying to lose weight. I weigh about 130 and I'm 5'4". My goal is 118, and I've been doing like, Atkins and South Beach - both work really well, by the way.
I know anorexia is not the way to go and it's insanely unhealthy, but I don't want to eat if I'm not hungry...and I'm never hungry. The other day I didn't eat until around 3pm, and picked at what I got. I'm also having major sleep problems...
I'm basically falling apart, and I don't know what to do.
I NEED to lose the weight, is my main thing. I hate my body and I always have. I want the image I have in my mind...but I don't have the motivation to work out recently. What I thought I might do is try to lose fat and hit 118, then start toning. I know I'll gain muscle, but at least if I hit 118 first, then tone, I'll know it's muscle.
Anyway, I don't know what's going on with my reaction to breaking up, and I don't know how to fix it. I actually tried to make myself cry, and I got like, one tear. I was with this guy for quite awhile, and we had an amazing connection. Why am I not more upset?
I don't understand it.
In any case, I wanna hear what you guys have to say, so speak up.
Pay attention to your spelling and grammar, please. I'll rate you down if it's incorrect. (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem, and i understand how that must be really tough on you. But while reading this, i figured that what you are going through is simply a feeling that a person gets when he loses hope in himself and in his life and all that surround him. Its this really strange feeling... its like you are hurt to the extent that you can't even cry, talk,sleep, go out, eat or do anything of what you always used to do. you just feel that everything is tasteless and has no meaning anymore, and you just feel really lonely in this strange way, like you are in a world of your own. And i am telling you that,because i had that feeling before, and went through all that. I may be 13 years old, but believe it or not, i went through it all and i felt it all and saw it all. Its horrible and terrible, and all this misery and depression the person feels,and how he keeps all his emotions and feelings locked up inside him, because he simply doesn't want to talk to anyone or see anyone. This may happen when you breakup a relationship or a friendship,or when you simply lose someone really close to your heart, someone that you cared about and loved dearly.
Now i know how you feel, and how this person must have been really special to you.
You may not cry now, or feel any kind of depression or misery for what happened, but its all inside you, and after a couple of days, or maybe weeks, it will all come out, and you will cry so hard for hours and hours to come.
Thats what happened to me when i passed through all this and thats what any other person also passed through.
You know i always had this idea about life, that its like a race and all you have to do is to keep on running , but then sometimes we face a problem, therefore, we fall down on our knees and we cry out loud"oh my god! i fell down and i can't get up!",but then eventually we get up and move on with our lives, but there are some people who just end there lives right there and commit suicide ,because they think that its there ticket out of this life, but they are so dead wrong, thats why i don't want you to ever think of doing such a thing, because people who do these things are simply cowards and are running away from their problems.
So you fell down, and it hurts to the extent that you didn't even cry ,and you simply feel numb, not angry nor mad nor sad, but simply numb and emotionless, and then you start feeling really bad and you get all depressed. But then you get up and move on and make up for the time you wasted in the race.
Listen, i don't know if you are buying anything from what i am saying, but i need to tell you something. you are an incredible fantastic and truly amazing person, and i may not know you or know no shit about your life, but i have read enough and learnt enough, to know that you are a strong person from inside, and you are strong willed and determined.
Don't ever come to think that your life is has come to an end, just because you broke up a relationship.you may have loved this person dearly, and you may have been crazy about him, but there comes a time when a person has to give up the things that he likes the most in his life for his own good and for others good too.
And there also comes the time when a person has to move on, i mean, for heaven sake, we all get crapped up in problems and our lives get so messed up, and sometimes our loved ones even die, not only do they break up with us, but they die, so you have to be grateful that this person is still a live . And you should try to be reasonable and senseable about it.
You have to move on, its time to move on, start a new life , meet new people, occupy your time with work or activities or sports or whatever it is, make new friends, go and date someone else, there is alot in life that you still don't know , so go out there and live your life, instead of drawing an ending line for it because of one relationship that could be replaced and it could be an even better person,who will be with you forever and won't break your heart,and if you wanted to lose weight,then go to the gymnasium and run the track and go for long walks and make a healthy food plan.
Listen, you should always look at the bright side of everything and take advantage of the good things, and always be optimistic and cheerful and strong willed. And always know that you are a good person and that millions of people wish to be with you,so don't starve yourself to death and waste your health and life on one problem .. one relationship,or should i say, one problem that has a solution, and if you try to consider what i said and think about all this, you'll see that the solution is right there in front ofyou, and that is,simply to move on with your life .
" Hope is there, believe it or not, but sadness can control alot, don't let it get you, don't let it beat you,and let faith grow from the inside"
I know that it sounds a little childish, but its the only thing that made me move on with me life.So please try to sit alone and think about all what happened, and about your relationship and all the memories you had, and how it didnt work out because it was simply not meant to, and think of what i said, and that you should move on, and change and start over.
Thats it for now, so i will leave you a chance to think things over, and if you need any more advice or help, you can send me a personal message or email me at alaa.abuali@hotmail.com, and i will give you all the advice you need.
so goodluck :) and please try to look at the bright side and be optimistic, because there is alot in life out there, that you are missing be sitting there at home ,feeling miserable and depressed and hopeless. I wish you goodluck and i hope that things would be better.
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well im one of those girls who care about there weight 24-7! im so sick of feeling i have to be pretty,smart,athletic,and more improtanly SKINNY. sometimes when i see junk food its just there so why not eat it rite? ik its bad to eat it but it taste so good and i like it. then i do the worst thing ever look in the mirror and go gross im fat! it like duh you were just eating junk. so everytime i go to a party i go its just food think of it as garbage. doesnt work im also one of those people who like starve themselves and my friends know it because one time in school we were watching this movie that talked about crap like that and i looked so sad but i didnt care so they know! and well im 5'5 and like wiegh god who knows now probally still 123 and i dont like that if i ever get to 130 i will kill myself no like so what im trying to do is like l00se the pounds b4 november my next checkup so if i see a 130 something i will really no lie kill myself i dont like that so if you guys would help me any sugestions that would be great!! (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and i understand how you feel and what you are going through inorder to lose this weight. Therefore i can tell you some suggestions that can help you with your problem,
First of all, you have to be really serious about losing this weight, because if you are, that would help you in resisting junk food and all those stuff.
So, 1- You should do some exercises and stretches when you wake up every morning.
2- you should go the gymnasium everyday, and consult a trainer to help you lose weight and be fit in the same time.
3- you can consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan without any food containing sugars or fats,and you should completely quit junk food.
4- you can go for long walks or run the track at the club
You can do all these stuff, and you can do them everyday , only if you are serious about this and if you are determined and strong willed, and i am sure you are.
And if you follow this plan,and work on it hard, you can lose weight in less than a month.
All you have to do is to have some self confidence in yourself, and work hard.
Besides, there are much more important things that you can occupy your time with instead of obsessing with your appearance, and no offense meant, but i am just telling you that for your one good. YOu can take up sports, activities, and hang out with friends, and concentrate on studying..etc. So don't worry your self with your looks to much, because i know that you are a beautiful person, and if you don't believe me, just believe that you are at least beautiful from inside you with a great personality,and let me tell you something, that there are many people who are so fat, and yet they are prettier than any pretty skinny hot girl.
So consider what i said, and try to think about it, and if you need any more advice or help, or if there is anything else that is bothering you or causing you trouble, then please be free to contact me.
oh! and one last thing that i forgot to tell you about , that killing your self , is never the solution to anything, because in my opinion, people who give up quickly and lose hope, and just think that committing suicide is his ticket out of life, and out of his problems, then he is nothing but a coward,no offense meant, and he is simply running away from his problems, instead of dealing with them. But i do respect the fact that you came here on this site and asked for help instead of killing yourself.
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Hey what is spooning? (link)
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Hey,
Spooning is to Kiss and caress amorously.
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ok so theres this guy i really really like and he really likes me too. like every time i we say bye he tells me he loves me and he says the cutest stuff. and everytime i tell him i love him he says no i love you more and adorable stuff like that. so anyways hes friends with my ex that i went out with for 3 months. me and this guy tried to go out but my ex got really pissed off (because i was the one the broke up with him). my ex also hated me then. so i had to break up with this guy that i really really liked. this was about a month ago. now i am friends with my ex again and i still really really like this guy and he really really likes me and we talk every single day on aim or texting or the phone. i was gonna go to overnight camp and i told him that i wanted to be single for that but now im not going anymore because im going to colorado so i think he might ask me out but im really good friends with my ex now and i think my ex actually likes me again because he gets mad every time i talk to the guy i like and i say to my ex.. well why do you care its not like you like me or anything and he said well.. im not sure if i do or not. my ex also calls me every night just to talk.. which i think is a little weird. well if the guy i like does ask me out what should i do because i really wanna go out with him but i dont want him to lose my ex as a friend and i dont wanna lose my ex as a friend either. thanks sorry it was so long (link)
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Hey,
i've read your problem and i have some opinions that i'd like to share with you.
First of all, this new guy seems really nice and he loves , and cares about you and treats you in a really good way and tells you all those great stuff. Moreover, you also like this guy, and you really want to be with him and to go out with him.
Second of all, your ex is exactly how you call him, he's your EX. and that means that you once loved each other, but things didn't work out ,so you broke up and each one of you moved on with his life,and then you say that because you are the one who broke up with your ex, that he really hated you since then. And so suddenly, when he found out that you are about to date a new guy,he got so obssesive and over protective, and doesn't want you to be with anyone else. Who the hell is he to tell you what to do or who to be with?
Third of all, you are totally absolutely definitely completely wrong,because you are allowing him to involve himself in your relationships and to tell you what to do. For heaven sake, he is supposed to be your ex boyfriend, and you fought with him for whatever reason it was, you didnt mention, but it was probably something that messed up your life, and thats why you didn't want him anymore, and you broke up with him, and you probably also regretted ever being with him. And now what, you are suddenly back with him, and you can't dare give up the 'NEW' friendship between you and him.
There is someone out there ,who loves you and cares about you and is crazy about you, therefore, you should take advantage of that and hold on tight to it, and love him back, and agree to date him and be with him.
Because that is the kind of guy that deserves an incredibly terrific girlfriend as you, so be with him, and if your ex fights with you and tells you that he will not talk to you agian, then tell him this" who are you to even come and talk to me and call me on the phone every night and hang out with me and do this and that after what happened between us and to our relationship" and just turn your back on him and walk off with that new guy, who deserves a better treatment from you, so instead of wasting your time and wasting a fantastic chance as being with someone who adores you, and wasting it all on an obssesive over protective freak,then make a move and make it with the new guy that you love and that you want to be with,and your ex is your past, but now we are in the present and the past is simply forgotten, because we do things and we know people, but then sometimes there comes a time when we have to break up these things and move on forward and not backwards.
So please consider what i said, and i hope i really helped you, and if there is anything else that i could advise you with, or if you are facing any problems, troubles, worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me. :)
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it was my friends bday today but im not gonna see her until monday so thats when im gonna give her her gift. shes turning 14 and shes also leaving for overnight camp on tuesday does anyone have any ideas of what i could get her???
i was thinking of getting her a gift card or something but idk.
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Hey,
Thats really easy! You can get her alot of stuff, for example a cute teddy bear and a necklace, and you can put it around the teddy bear's neck, and with the card and all, it will be really cute. Other than that, you can get her a perfume, you know, all those girly stuff.
So good luck:)
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i have talked to my mom about everything.. and she just ingornes it and says i'm over reacting.. as far as getting to knwo the guy i've known him for years... ..they used to be just friends.. and i have never liked him.. he touches me way to much.. and treats my lil brother and sister like crap.. they don't even like him.. he's really a lot younger than my mom and really immature.. his own sister doesn't want her kids around him unless my mom is around.. and his mom told my mom she needs to get out while she can.. i mean thats got to say somethin.. but i never had a relationship with my mom b/c of her ex. and then we actually got close.. and now he's taking that away from me again.. and it really upsets me.. .. and he thinks everything is about him.. i have an eating disorder and my family knows about it.. so i don't eat sometimes.. well the other day he got in my face yelling at me saying that me not eating wasn't gonna get rid of him.. and i just looked at him and asked him if he ever thought everything wasn't about him.. so he grabbed my arm and jerked me up from the couch and tried to make me go to my little sisters room.. and i said something to my mom and she said there was nothing she could do .. like she was scared.. how is that supposed to make her happy ? (link)
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Hey,
I am really sorry the advice didn't work out last time, but its really nice of you to come and tell me what happened, therefore i thought of something else, and i want you try it out, and please try the things i tell you, because it could work.
Now you may have talked to your mom and she said that you are overreacting, and your mom maybe afraid of that new guy and can't control him to treat you guys better. But on the other hand, your mom still loves you and cares about you, and i am sure that she wouldn't dare make him raise a hand on you or hit you or slap you or anything of such,So please don't worry.
i think that maybe this guy has either never dealt with children before, or he just totally hates children, but either ways you still have a chance. Listen to me, there isn't a person who you treat really well, and respect him and obey him, and he'd just hate you and hit you and yell at you and be mean to you. I don't think thats possible, except in movies and fantasy life.
So maybe if you be extra nice to him, and trying getting him something nice, as a small gift or something, maybe even your sister and brother could join in to help you with the gift, and you'd tell him how happy you are that he is joining your family, just say anything that can please him, and try to sit with him, and talk with him.
And about your mom, tell her that you are not over reacting and that you are really upset about all that, and its making you feel down, and that you are trying hard to make him be nice to you and to like him, but he's jut not giving you that chance that you are giving him.
So,consider what i said ,and if it didn't work out, please be free to contact me, because i have a suggestion i could tell you about ,but only if what i said didn't work.
Goodluck :)
P.S: you sent me the letter 3 times, so i will only answer once.
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ok my mom just came out of a 12 yr relationship and jumped into another one.. well they have been together for a yr now and i don't like the guy at all. the other day he proposed and she said yes. now my mom and her boyfriend act like they don't want me around. and my half brother and sister will look at me and say i hate you.. and stuff like that .. and i don't wonna let them know it gets to me.. but it really does hurt me.. i live with my grandparents [[ her parents ]] but i still want to have a relationship with my mom. what should i do? b/c i really don't want them to have the satisfaction of knowing they hurt me.. but they really do. =[ (link)
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hey,
First of all, this all sounds really tough, and i am sure that your not too happy with your mom's engagement and how she accepted to be with that guy without asking you first.
Second of all, i would like to clarify a point for you, your family( sister, half brother and mother ) ,they all love you, because they are your family and they were raised up with you, and care about you.
Third of all, i am sure that no one hates you and that its not about not wanting you to be around, but its just that they are probably to preoccupied,and excited about their engagement and being with each other. And most probably,your half brother and sister both like this new guy,and thats why they are mad at you because you don't like him.
Fourth of all, i understand that you don;t really like that new guy, but i suggest that you should maybe try and give this guy a chance, and get closer and try to know him better. And you may like him and find him interesting and actually fun, because sometimes, we judge people from how we see them from the outside and according to first impressions, but then when we get closer, and know them from their inside and their true personality, we find out that we were wrong about them.
So try to do what i said, because if you really did like him later on, your mother would feel much happier and would start involving you in stuff and paying more attention to you, because all your mother needed, is someone to congratulate her and feel happy for her and be with her when she takes a big step like accepting to be with him.
So try to consider what i said, and try to work on involving yourself in stuff some more, and give the guy a chance, because you may be wrong about him, and have some self confidence in yourself, and never have that feeling that someone hates you, especially if its a family member because hate is a really big word, they could be upset or mad, but they don't hate you.
So goodluck, and if there are any further problems, troubles, concerns, or worries, then please be free to contact me.
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OKAY, here it goes...! K, i fell down the stairs at my school last week, on Monday. I dont think i really broke or sprained anything, but i hit my head really hard on the tile floor, and the stairs( i was at the top and fell to the bottom). Now, almost a week later, i feel lightheaded, and dizzy... is it from the fall? should i consult my doctor?! (link)
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hey,
i read your problem, and i think that its all really tough what happened,and i am sorry about the way your fell.
i am sure that its not going to be something serious,i hope, but i think that you should definitely consult your doctor, and tell all about what happened at school, and about how you feel, and that you think that it might be connected to the accident that happened when you hit your head hard. So goodluck, and if you need any other help,please be free to contact me.
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My boyfriend and i recently got into a huge fight (again). It started because he was joking about buying cars, then said he would by me a hummer. He completely ignored the fact that my cousin was killed by one only 2 years ago. He claimed that he didnt know about it, but we've been together for almost 14months now, its almost impossible that i never told him. anyway, from there he got really pissed off at me and everything hes been mad at me for started coming out. He told me that he hates that im working full time, going to summer school, and preparing for my moms wedding that is in 8 days. His biggest complaint about them was that i have no time for him. He also told me that he doesnt want me hanging out with people from work. (we worked till 3 am one night then went out to denny's for food) He kept saying things like "i do so much for you, i always make time for you, i try to please you so much and i get nothing back" which is a total exaggeration. At that point i asked him, do you want me to quit my job? drop out of summer school? im not asking you to please me, i just hoped you'd love me. Then he said the big line, "I dont know how to love you"
What do i say to that? how am i suppose to react to him now?
we havnt talked for a week. he keeps going on about how much of a wreck he is, but ive been crying every night. I realize that we are both at fault for this, but i dont know how im supposed to feel about hearing that after he told me he loves me so many times before.. (link)
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Hey,
First of all,what you are doing right now, that you are not talking to each other,and are both mad at each other is totally wrong. Moreover, the fact that you cry day and night and how he keeps going on about how much of a wreck he is, is agian a wrong action.
On the other hand, the right action that should be taken now is for both of you to sit down together and talk about everything that happened and everything each of you said to hurt both your feelings. And you have to know that you both are wrong in this situation just like you said that you were both at fault.
And i have an opinion about everything that happened and was said.
First of all,about what he said at the very beginning that started the fight was kind of mean and really cruel,but no offense meant,but you may be dating for 14 months now, but i am sure that you yourself don't remember if you told him about your cousin thing. Because when you come to think of it yourself, why would your boyfriend, the person who has been with you for 14 months,loving you and caring about you, just suddenly get a cruel idea of making a joke and hurting your feelings. You were wrong in one thing, and that you kept accusing him of knowing about what happened to your cousin, when you weren't even sure if you told him.Therefore, the first thing you should tell him is that it was wrong of you that you exaggerated and kept accusing him of knowing about him and stuff, and say that you didn't really mean it,but its just that this topic really hurts you when you think about it.
Second of all,about your job and summer school and all these stuff you do. you have to explain to him how important it is to you, and how you must do it to earn money for yourself, and that its necessary,but then you have to tell him that you will do your best to spend all the time possible with him ,and instead of finishing work at 3 in the morning and going out with the people in your work, you could go out with him. Because he was right, i mean... you sit with those people from your work all day long and you see them more than you see him, so try to spend more time with him.
Third of all, he was wrong that he totally exaggerated and babbled alot of things that had no meanings.But just as you are willing to make a comprimise, and see what is it that bothers him, he should make an effort to be better to, and not to open topics that would hurt you.
And when you do all that, and try your best to spend more time with him, then he will do his part,which is to love you. Because when he told you that big line, he just meant that he doesn't see you that much anymore and that you are always busy, and thats why you aren't around anymore ,so he doesn't know when or how to love you, he just can't find the time.
So talk to him and do your best to please him, and he will give you all the love and care you want, but don't throw a relationship of a year and 2 months, because of some fight which may really hurt and which you may cry about , but it also may be settled down and worked out in less than half an hour. Therefore, all it needs is someone to be reasonable and sensible, because you guys love each other, and all he wanted from you is for you to be there with him much more, and he was actually trying to say that he loves you and wants you there for him, but in his agressive and harsh attitude.
So give him a chance, and give yourself a break, and try to figure out what i said, and consider some of it, and if you have any other problems, troubles, worries or concerns, and you need help and advice, then please be free to contact me.
Goodluck :)
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Okay I need some major help here:
I have really skinny little boney legs.. and I want to make them normal sized! They're soooo skinny it's embarrassing! My arms are skinny too, I've just always been this way. I eat alot and whenever I eat, I eat until I'm full. I don't eat many vegetables, mainly fatty things...but it's weird because it goes to my stomach and nowhere else! Is there something wrong with my metabolism or something? Because it seems like my food doesn't distribute properly...or is there anyways that I can build up my arms and legs? Is it just a muscle thing, or an eating thing? Thank you so much for any feedback!! (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem, and i understand what your going through, because i know other people who have that problem, and i have it too.
Its called mal-absorbtion. And its like when you eat something , it goes down as urine, therefore your body doesn't absorb the food you eat.
Thats why even if you eat alot,it all goes down immediately.
But don't worry, alot of people have that problem, and some of them just leave it like that,or there are certain medicines you can take for mal-absorbtion,but consult a doctor first.
And try to eat healthy, and eat things that can make you strong, (such as honey).More and more, you should take some vitamins again to give you energy.
Another thing, is that you can make a blood test to know if you have anemia or not, because it could be the reason that makes you weak and skinny.
So try to think things over, and consider what i said, and if you need any further help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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okay so i am about 107 . i got a little fat in the stomach area . i`m not embarased of it at all . i just want to get more flat stomach . any excersises? that would do it in a short time . thanks ♥ (link)
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hey,
I read your problem, and since i have answered alot of questions about this topic before, i will give you some suggestions and you could consider working oh some of them, but you have to be a hardworker and serious about losing weight and being fit.
1- you should go to the club everyday, first of all, run the track, second of all, go to the gym and work out, you can also consult a trainer there that can help you and point out some good exercises you can do.
2- you should work on some exercises and stretches when you wake up early in the morning.
3-You can go for long walks everyday
4- you can consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting of the four food groups
5- Quit junk food completely and any food that contains sugars and fats
Other than that, you can refer back to my advise column and read the answers to similar questions, and if you are serious and worked on this hard, then you will lose the weight you want in less than a month.
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