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lesbian or bisexual
i have a friend named mandy and ive known her for about 3 weeks and she is lesbian. well in the past three weeks, ive gotten to know alot about her and before that i was trying to figure out if im straight or bisexual or lesbian. and now, im pretty sure im bi, cuz i really like my friend mandy. we have alot in common we talk for hours. the other night me and my sister were talking about bisexual and stuff like that and she thinks she is attracted to girls and guys too. i wanted to talk to her soo much about it but i didnt want her to hate me or anything. so yeah, im still somewhat confused about me being bi or not.
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I am bisexual, and even I think that spending a lot of time with a lesbian would get you wondering if theres an attraction between you.
But you said that you were questioning your sexuality BEFORE that friendship, so I would venture to guess that you do have feelings for females. You could try dating a girl for a while, maybe even your friend.
I think the next step is to figgure out how you really feel about guys, and if you are bi.
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i definetly dont think your bi,just cuz your freind is doesnt mean YOU are,you seem to be getting influenced by her though.mabey you like her a lot but as a freind and you just dont know in which way you like her.i think you like her as a freind only and that you arent bi.if you were bi you would go around calling other girls hot and check them out
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Hey,
I have read your problem, and i have a point of view on that. Not just because a person has a friend which he likes so much, then he is for sure a lesbian or a bisexual. i know alot of girls who have girls has friends, and they love each other so much, actually crazy about each other, and they kiss on the cheeks and hug alot, and always walk hand by hand, but they know that they are not lesbians or bisexuals,and everyone else also knows that.
But in your situation, i think that it could be because mabye you feel a little strange when your around mandy. i mean i know that you are good friends and have alot in common,but what i meant is that , since she is a lesbian, then maybe you get these weird feelings about yourself , that you could be one too. But a person has to be self confident about himself, and you shouldn't let people affect you. Because before you knew her, you would have never said about yourself bisexual or a lesbian or anything of such, and the thought wouldnt' have even crossed your mind. YOu are a good and straight person, but all you need is some self confidence in yourself and what you want to be.So you could be great friends and share alot in common and go out together and talk on the phone and do all you want, but when it comes to holding each other and moving to a higher level, then i think you'd enjoy it more in the arms of a boy,somone who would really love and care about you and be there for you, and people wouldn't have weird thoughts about you. Because i know alot of people who are against lesbians , and wouldn't want to be seen near them.
So i have given you my point of view, so goodluck and if you need any further help , please be free to contact me.
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You are not bisexual. Don't get confused. You like Mandy because she is very nice, and a very good friend. You probably don't like her more than a friend you're just getting confused. If she makes you feel incomfortable then you should not be fridns with her. Hope I helped.
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I know that you're confused and all but that's normal. A lot of people wonder about their sexuality. You might be bi but even if you are, I don't want you to feel bad or guilty about it. Why would she hate you? You should just be honest with your feelings and don't try to make them go away. Just expirience things until you find out what you really are. Don't be in a rush or anything. Take the time and don't worry about what other people think. There are always going to be haters.
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Its normal when youre a teenager to be confused. Once you get a little older it will be clear to you what youre orientation is.
So,as of now you can experiment and see what you like best =]
good luck
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It is VERY COMMON in your teen years to wonder what your sexual preference is. There should be no rush to label your self right now. Over the next few years your decesion will become clearer to you. Just have fun and do whatever you think is right. Also, think long and hard before you act on anything, wether it be having sex with a girl or a guy. Just make sure it's not going to be a decesion that you will later regret. Good Luck.
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