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mom and her fiancee
ok my mom just came out of a 12 yr relationship and jumped into another one.. well they have been together for a yr now and i don't like the guy at all. the other day he proposed and she said yes. now my mom and her boyfriend act like they don't want me around. and my half brother and sister will look at me and say i hate you.. and stuff like that .. and i don't wonna let them know it gets to me.. but it really does hurt me.. i live with my grandparents [[ her parents ]] but i still want to have a relationship with my mom. what should i do? b/c i really don't want them to have the satisfaction of knowing they hurt me.. but they really do. =[
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if they are living at your house move back in ok if its your house when your parents arent around take controll they dont run you yes your one person but if rosa parks didnt try to make a difference and ran to her moms every time people bossed her around people will still be sitting at the end of the bus take a stand if that doesnt work talk to your step dad and tell him about his kids i mean he is a dad he needs to take reasposability for his kids tell him what they do try to spend more time with him even though you dont like him i mean he took away the person that means the most to you try to see a good side and dont judge him by the cover maybe you will start liking him and it will turn out good
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your mother loves you and if you just talk to her about it im sure she`ll understand . but i dont know really . im not there to see anything . well i have never been in the same situation as you , my mom was never married. and she was with a guy that was like a dad to me but if i didnt like him i would tell him straight up . and your right don`t let them know it gets to you . its like waht they say to teenagers about people in school . they cant know it got to you or else they will keep doing it . just ignore any of them and stay living with your grandparents but call your mom every now and then . things will get better ♥
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hey,
First of all, this all sounds really tough, and i am sure that your not too happy with your mom's engagement and how she accepted to be with that guy without asking you first.
Second of all, i would like to clarify a point for you, your family( sister, half brother and mother ) ,they all love you, because they are your family and they were raised up with you, and care about you.
Third of all, i am sure that no one hates you and that its not about not wanting you to be around, but its just that they are probably to preoccupied,and excited about their engagement and being with each other. And most probably,your half brother and sister both like this new guy,and thats why they are mad at you because you don't like him.
Fourth of all, i understand that you don;t really like that new guy, but i suggest that you should maybe try and give this guy a chance, and get closer and try to know him better. And you may like him and find him interesting and actually fun, because sometimes, we judge people from how we see them from the outside and according to first impressions, but then when we get closer, and know them from their inside and their true personality, we find out that we were wrong about them.
So try to do what i said, because if you really did like him later on, your mother would feel much happier and would start involving you in stuff and paying more attention to you, because all your mother needed, is someone to congratulate her and feel happy for her and be with her when she takes a big step like accepting to be with him.
So try to consider what i said, and try to work on involving yourself in stuff some more, and give the guy a chance, because you may be wrong about him, and have some self confidence in yourself, and never have that feeling that someone hates you, especially if its a family member because hate is a really big word, they could be upset or mad, but they don't hate you.
So goodluck, and if there are any further problems, troubles, concerns, or worries, then please be free to contact me.
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