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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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I'm writing an essay in English concerning the different life styles of teenagers in high school. If you guys could answer a few questions just to give me a few ideas, I'd totally appreciate it. :)

1. What kind of things do you do? (Sports, clubs etc.)

2. Do you have 1 best friend that you spend a lot of time with or a group of friends you spend all your time with?

3. Does your school have lockers outside? Anything cool about your school-block schedule? Stuff like that.

4. Are drugs and drinking big concerns at your school?

5. Finally, is your high school life fun? Do you spend most of your time studying or hanging out with friends? Do you go out with friends every weekend? What kind of stuff do you do?

You can answer some or all of the questions, I'm just trying to get a few different ideas. Thanks!

1. My school's all about sports. We have a Robotics team [it sounds nerdy, because quite honestly it is, but its great] and other very small clubs like an art magazine and Bible Club. There's also a SEA Club [Environmental stuff], Leo Club [community service] National Honor Society, and more.


2. I have a couple best friends, and we all hang out together in smallish groups. Like 6-8 people. We usually keep it kow-key and just hang out at someone's house, play Guitar Hero, MarioKart, Apples to Apples, etc.


3. The school is amazing [our school leads the nation in "going green" and we've been featured on the news before] but the layout SUCKS. Because it's a technical school [hard to get into, less than 50% get accepted] half the lockers are in the shop areas- which means they're too far away to use during academic classes.


The coolest thing about my schedule is that I only spend half of the school year in normal classes like math and history. Every other week, I go to shop. It's basically a weeklong selective that prepares you for a job. Like, instead of taking home economics and a cooking class, you'd be in culinary arts.


4. It's not any worse than your average school. A Lot of people drink, and it's ridiculous. I'd say that not as many do drugs as drink.


I live in a relatively safe part of my state, and there's always police patrolling & we have IDs and all that. How much it actually helps, I'm not sure. But nothing bad has happened. Besides the occassional chopped off finger, but that's to be expected with careless people around large knives and guillotine-style cutters =P


5. I can't complain. My life is good. Once I have time to get a job it'll be even better =D


-LM
[17/f]

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When i upload songs from my mixed cds it comes up on itunes at "track 01"
how do i change it?

Ive tried right clicking, but there is no option to where i can choose rename.

Heeeeeeelp.

Right Click, go to "Get Info"

From there you can type in whatever you want =)

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ok so when me and my boyfriend like start rubbing against each other with our underwear on...either im on top or he is. orr when he fingers me...ohhhh....or licks me. i want to moan and just ohhh....like sooooo badd... but i kinda cant cuz his parents are usually right downstairs. what to do? ohh and can i get pregnant by this?

Sperm can go through clothes, so there's a small chance. Very low, but the risk is there.


Anyway, you could put a pillow over your head (obviously not for very long, haha) or put loudish music on.

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Hi, I have no idea what my bf can get me. Like I honestly do not know and he doesnt know either. He refuses to get me clothes becuase I need to try EVERYTHING on. I am so focused on school and financial issues that I don't think of what I want. But I want something! I was thinking of jewellery because I don't have real gold earings or a bracelet, but he just bought me a new like 300 dollar cell and I don't want him spending alot. My phone has music so I don't need a mp3 player. I was thinking of a past time, something I can do by myself because I constantly find myself at home alone and BORED! I have a couple computer games and I am not a big fan. I have a ds. I don't want new games because I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I LIKE! I was thinking of like spa coupons or a certificate. I do not know...please any ideas????

If you need to try clothes on, why not go shopping together, try on whatever you want, and then have him buy the item(s) you liked?


Spa massages and facials are always really nice too. If he wouldn't care about buying you a giftcard, he could get you one to a store you liked, but make sure you use it ASAP because stores could go out of business. Or just get a money card like American Express or Visa.


-LM
[17/f]

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15/f about to go on pill. I am not sexually active but want to go on pill for benefits such as no cramps, since mine can get bad, and shorter n lighter periods. But I want to know if you think the pill will kind of encourage me to have sex, like make it seem like its not a big deal because im protected. My friends say im very sexual, because I say a lot of sexual things, like who i would and wud not have sex with, how and why, sex jokes, and kinky things i guess. I'll admit i kind of want to but at the same time i dont want to take the pill if Im going to get Motivated to have sex.

Nope. You'd be better off anyway, because you're more protected. I've been on the pill for months & my morals/opinions on sex haven't changed a bit.

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sorry, I didnt know what this went under
but, I started breaking out
bad around my mouth, when I rarely even
get pimples. I just got over my period so that's not it,
my diet hasnt changed (if anything I eat better) my
face wash, makeup, or anything else hasnt changed.
I was just wondering if anyone had an idea why this
is happening, thanks. oh and I smoked squares Saturday
for the first time in a few months, if that contributes? Idk

15/f

Have you used a different kind of toothpaste?
That sometimes causes breakouts around your mouth.

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14/F.

me and my friends all did the ouijea board together. i kind of didnt trust the owner of the board cause i thought she pushed it . because everytime she'd ask something everything would always come out good & it lied a couple of times when we asked about future events. But i decided to push it just to test if anything bad would happen and then after we kept feeling cold spots all over the room. was it bad that i pushed it ?

No, just don't destroy them or leave them "open".

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http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?id=prod4102981&CATID=100293&skuid=sku4101851&V=G&ec=frgl_538168&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=sku4101851

or


http://www.walgreens.com/store/pickcolor.jsp?id=prod3067847&CATID=100293&skuid=sku3066677&V=G&ec=frgl_580361&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=sku3066677



does the primer work 4 the second one?

Makeup primer works for all types of makeup.
Doesn't matter which brand you use.

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hey there :)

so i heard of this foundation, from phyisicans formula called mineral wear foundation..and i just have a few question's about the product.


1. does the foundation cover well?
2. does the foundaton cause breakouts?

3. I have normal skin..but latley it's been breaking out a little bit. i have an oily t-zone. so should i use the liquid foundation, or the powder foundation?

4. over all..is it a pretty good foundation?

thanks for all your help :))

1. I've used other products by Physician's Formula, and the results have been amazing. It always looks natural and doesn't irritate my skin.


2. It shouldn't unless you're allergic to the ingredients. Mineral foundation in general, and the entire brand's line, is designed specifically to prevent irritation and breakouts.


3. I'd get liquid foundation and use pressed powder on top. Powder alone might rub off too easily and not cover your skin all day.


4. I can't answer this one, because I've never used that specific product.


-LM
[17/f]

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hi I am a wife and a mother mother of four great kids. I love my family to death but they say that I am onesided and to hard on them. I however dont see that way. I just think i want the best for them. Now mind you 3 of my kids are handicapped and this puts alot of stress on me. it seems at times that I am the only parent in the house. my husband works and I stay home with the kids. I cook,clean,help kids with their things and try to be a loving wife. but when he comes home if feel i need a break and it is his time with them. we do share so household chores. but when it his day to do something he useally doesnt do or only half way do it. and i feel if you start something you need to finish no matter what. he says that i have to have my way about everything and that i dont care what he feels or how it makes him feel. he also says that I have a way of doing everything and if i see someone doing it diffrent then its wrong. plus he say I have a spot for everything and that the house isnt going to stay clean and I should let it go sometimes and chill.he also state that no matter what he does it doent please me. Now I feel that you should have a clean house and keep it nice but i now its not going to stay clean but if you see something out of place put it away this makes it easier on me.should i chill? i have a very bad temper and we get into fights not hand to hand but yelling matches and sometimes i feel that i am not tiring my best to stop the fights and that im overbearing and out of control what should I do? i feel sometimes that it would be easier to be by myself.

mylife

I'm only seventeen, so I've never been married, but I can help you with the cleaning/organizing part, because my parents act in a similar way.


It's totally normal that you want everything in the right spot. "A place for everything, and everything in its place". You spend a lot more time in your house than your husband, I assume, so any sort of mess drives you crazy. He comes home from work, understandably tired, and is satisfied with an "organized mess".


So, the best thing here is - you guessed it - a compromise. I'd suggest having one room in the house that you keep as clean as YOU want it to be. Maybe your bedroom, or a home office, or even the laundry room. Tell your husband & kids that messes aren't allowed there [move their stuff elsewhere if they leave it in there and it shouldn't be], and organize it to your heart's content. Now, try not to get too upset if the dishes pile up in the sink, or if the living room is disorganized. And let him have a part of the house to keep as he likes, too. In my family, the basement is 95% under my dad's control- he can have a workbench piled with two feet of stuff and decorate the pool room as he pleases, and we can't touch it or complain.


My mother thought of a really clever system for when we started remodeling our bathroom. She bought inexpensive plastic bins and a shelving unit, and we quite literally throw everything into the containers and put it on a shelf. This way, we don't have to organize everything per se (we can just toss it in a bin) but it LOOKS incredibly neat. She uses it in the laundry room, too, and sorts everyone's socks, underwear, etc into their own container. You could apply a similar philosophy to the entire house - a big basket near the door for shoes, a magazine rack in the living room, a pretty bowl for incoming mail in the kitchen. You could use a system like this to keep kids' rooms looking less like the aftermath of a hurricane, too. And plastic bins with holes work great to eliminate laundry piles on the floor.


But don't be too hard on yourself OR your husband. You're both working hard, and sometimes tempers run short. Also, it's a house, not a museum. It's okay if you go a few weeks without dusting ;]


Best of luck =)
-LM
[17/f]

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when i checked my ATT phone for its data usage, it said:

Data Remaining as Of : 12/01
TXT/IM Overage: 346
Pics/Videos Overage: 13
MEdia Net/Internet(MB) Overage: 0.6

CAN SOMEONE BREAK DOWN WHAT THIS MEANS?
ONLY ATT USERS PLEASE.

The only reason I'm asking is because I'm confused because it says 'overage', but I have unlimited texting..and when I check my bill balance, it is the same everytime : $149.55

Call customer service. Get to a real person [I've heard that using obscene language during the automated menus gets you to a real person faster, haha] and ask what's up. It's possible that your unlimited texting got cancelled or removed from your account by accident, and they should be able to clear up any issues.


Also, it's possible that your unlimited texting applies only to other Cingular and AT&T customers, and you sent 346 texts and 13 pix messages to someone with Verizon or Nextel or another service provider.


Internet overages, at least for my phone [Verizon] apply to airtime used to buy ringtones or games from a downloading service.


-LM
[17/f]

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I have been breaking out more than usual lately. I have combination skin (oily t-zone, normal cheeks) and have little pimples on my forehead and jawline/chin area-- some are reddish, others are skin tone. I cleanse twice a day with Neutrogena Fresh Foaming wash, and use Witch Hazel (facial formula) astringent, neither of which is irritating. I also use a basic clay mask about twice a week, or when I remember to. I don't want to use overly harsh products, but things that are relatively gentle and effective. My face care regime is not irritating my skin, but is not clearing it up either. Any recommendations on what products (either homemade or store bought) I can use to clear up the pimples?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=510619


You'll really like Jack's answer, because what's more natural than a lemon?

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so i heard this song awhile ago, i dont remember any of the words... but its this guy singing it and its a really relaxing song and then there's this girl moaning at the end.... if anyone knows what im talking about then please tell me what its called and who its by
thanks :)

Check this out:
http://www.vh1.com/shows/dyn/the_greatest/106857/episode.jhtml

For some reason when I read this question I immediately thought of Joan Jett and the Blackhearts.


-LM
[17/f]

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15/f
in 8th grade all i did was straighten my hair.. & in 9th grade all i did was scrunch my hair.. haha i've now realized how bad it is for your hair so i haven't been doing anything to my hair besides a bit of gel and hairspray.. from the past my hair is split, dry and frizzy. what can i do? btw whats worse scrunching or straightening your hair?

Get a haircut and cut all the badly damaged parts of your hair.
trust me, it seems bad now, but splits only get worse, so fix them now.


In the future, use restoring shampoos and conditioners, or at least leave regular conditioner on for a few minutes. Hair masks help too - Pantene, Garnier, and Bed Head make them. They're basically deep conditioners in nifty jars, that smell like fruit[Garnier] and peppermint [Bed Head]


Straightening is worse, because it's so damaging due to all the heat. Blowdrying striaght beforehand reduces the time you use your straightener.


-LM
[17/f]

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Does anyone know where i can watch (online) Painted Babies at 17?? (the original title in England is: Painted Babies Growing up)

Thank so much!
*I already checked youtube.

- http://television.aol.com/show/painted-babies-at-17/10305609/main


I can't check if the videos actually work, because I'm at school. AOL is pretty good, though.


-LM
[17/f]

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Is there a specific title for a person who works on layouts for magazines.

Also, what kind of classes would you take in college for that, and what would you major in?

Thanks!!

http://www.collegeboard.com/csearch/majors_careers/profiles/majors/50.0409.html


CollegeBoard.com has so much information. Instead of copying&pasting random courses for you, find a college you'd want to go to, and it'll tell you the courses you'd take. I'm guessing it'd be photography, design, art, and such.


-LM
[17/f]

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My boyfriend goes to college a state away from me. For the holidays, I wanted to get him things he may need while he's in his dorm. I want to get him things associated with the things he enjoys though.. for example, I got him a south park beer mug because when I visited his dorm I realized he only had a small cup that he reuses.

I want to get him other things he may need too. Maybe some posters to cover up his walls, or something of that sort. Things that will make him feel like he's at home.

The thing is though, my limit is 50$.. I got him expensive presents for his birthday, and our anniversary, so I need to calm down with the spending. I want to get him nice things that he'll actually use.. not things he'll just pack up and forget about... or things that will crowd up his space.

Anyways, any suggestions will be very appreciated. Thank you!

Get him a blanket if it's cold in his room. He'll appreciate it a lot on cold nights =) And from past experience with relatives, college students love food. Fill a box/basket/storage cube with his favorite cereals/snacks and drinks.


-LM
[16(for a few more minutes)/f]

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I had a dream that I almost had sex twice with my best friends boyfriend. And then like lateer in the dream he was like caring about what I was doing at this party. And like 2 weeks ago I went to their aunts house with my best friend and her family. And well he was obviously there. And he kept looking at me like that look like ugh, I don't know how to explain it. So what does that mean? Oh and he's like 2 or 3 years older than me.

Sex dreams are totally normal. Unless you want to screw up the relationship you have with your best friend just put aside that dream and pretend you never had it. It's just that- a dream. I wouldn't suggest making it come true =P


-LM
[16/f]

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so when i grow up i want to have a career in event planning. and if all fails then interior design. but in the best situation wedding planning. when people ask me what i want to do, and they ask me how i am going to achieve it im not sure. i dont know what i should do and what to major in in college. i dont know a whole lot about the topic and i want to learn. i would love something that mixes interior design and event planning but i know not everything is possible. is there anything that anyone recommends or any web sites. also is there any careers that are successful. so like any websites or college majors that you recommend. i want to be successful, and start my own business and so forth. so yea please help.

A hospitality major would be perfect for you.
Johnson and Wales University immediately comes to mind.
http://www.jwu.edu/college.aspx?id=19598&linkidentifier=id&itemid=19598


If you aren't in high school yet, going to a technical school and choosing culinary arts is a great start to what you want. Good luck!


-LM
[16/f]

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help, please read all the way through.
i care alot about my appearance and how i present myself. i don't like my nose. it's okay, but at one angle [from the right], it's a little indented because i broke my nose playing soccer. so i want to know is there a such thing as a fake nose[like plastic or something] i could wear, or strong makeup to hide the dent? im kind of pretty but when people look at me at that angle, i feel so ugly. i can't have surgery on it till im a little older. . .

thanks in advance, id rate any help :)

I'll second what the first columnist said, if you wear a fake nose you'll look like you're wearing a costume. Think of those joke glasses with the nose attached- that's all I can picture.


Anyway, I strongly dislike the shape of my nose, and I use CoverGirl TruBlend loose powder with minerals. It has shiny specks in it, and they reflect light. I like how it looks a lot, and it seems to help disguise the shape I dislike so much.


-LM
[16(for 4 more hours)/f]

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