about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

ok i meet this guy through my friend and i'm really starting to like him but my friend told me that she doesn't want me to talk to him anymore b/c she's afraid he'll hurt me like he hurt her. i guess she really liked him and he just lead her on. but who's to say that he'll do the same thing to me? and i feel like i can't talk to her about it b/c when i ask her about it she just tells me noe to talk to him. i kinda think that she's jealous b/c he likes me alot and i like him alot. should i keep talking to him or respect my friend's wishes and not talk to him? plz help me! thx.

Even if your friend was hurt by him, I think you should do what makes you happy. Yeah, your friend is looking out for you & keeping you in her best interests, BUT you deserve to be happy & learn for yourself. You can't let people hold your hand & tell you what the lessons are. You need to learn them for yourself to become wiser & more alert. Nobody gets through life being babied. They'll never be ready for certain things & won't know how to react.

Also remember, if you guys go out, keep your friends close. You need to balance the time between friends and boyfriend. Don't spend more time with one than the other because it'll cause jealousy & arguments. Balance is a good thing to have.

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My boyfriend and I just recently started having sex, and we were both virgins before hand. I had given him handjobs before and he fingered me, and he only lasted a few minutes when i gave him a handjob. I heard that when a guy first has sex with a girl, he doesnt last very long. My boyfriend lasted about 2 minutes. Is that normal? If it is, then how long will it take for him to last longer? Is there any way I can help him last longer?

Guys usually don't last too long their first times, but the more you go at it, the longer he'll learn to control it & last in bed.

Also, remember to wear a condom.

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i just saw a question on here about marlyn monroe, who is that?! i always here that name!

Marilyn Monroe was a famous model/actress & singer. She was very beautiful, and very talented.

You can search her on Google. =) She's my role model, and my favorite actress.

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ok ive never really been "skinny" or "fat" either but then suddenly one summer i just couldnt take it anymore! i was OBSESSED with being skinny. thats all i could think of.My parents are divorced so i would go out with my dad and he would be like hey you hungry?and i would say no i ate with mom,and i would do the same thing with my mom.they didnt notice...untill i started loosing ALOT of weight.but they didnt get all that worried.i just said im trying to stay "fit" i never made myself throw up though,i jus wouldnt eat.i stopped as soon as i started school again because i knew people would notice.the good thing was i was actually able to control it at the time.It just made me so happy how many compliments i would get and how much more guys started talking to me and liking me.And it practically felt like they were waiting in line for me.It felt good,but at the same time i felt that they just liked me because i was skinny,and i dont mean to be conceited or anything but im not ugly or anything. Now its happening again. My mom works late so she doesnt know what im eating or not eating. i just lie to her. This is so hard. Its seems like whatever! just start eating and youre fine.believe me ive tried. Oh you guyz dont even know how much ive tried to eat something..at least a banana or something,but i just cant.Would this be considered bulimia?My mom is very understanding and i talk to her about absolutley EVERYTHING.its just this one thing i cant seem to talk to her about.I have a boyfiend who really loves me and cares about me and i think he noticed my problem,so he asked me if anything was wrong and i didnt tell him but he told me that the first time he saw me he couldnt resist me because im alwayz smiling and lafing or making someone smile and he thought i was so amazing an that my body was no reason why he was with me.that helped me so much but im still...i dont like to call it starving myself,but i guess thats wut it is.The funny thing is im still the loud crazy happy gurl ive alwayz been,its jus this one problem.please guyz help me!i dont no wut to do with myself anymore

It's not considered bulimia, but it is anorexia nervousa. You need to get help for this because eating disorders are serious business, and nothing to take lightly. You're slowly killing yourself, and your body is going to eat itself from the inside out. You already can't eat something as simple as a banana, and when you're pursued to eat, it'll take you longer to do so than it would a normal person.

See a doctor, see a counselor & talk to your parents about it. You're killing yourself & you have a higher chance of dying than someone else does right now. Get yourself help sweetheart, this is dangerous.

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what is a blow job, hand job mean? also what does giving head mean?

Blowjob and head are the same thing. You basically suck off a guy down there.

A hand job is just wacking him off.

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im new at my school, and i mean yano its great. EXCEPT this one girl. i really really really liked her in the beginning, like me and her could tottaly of been the best of friends. but, shes like really mean. as im finding out. like example today, i forgot my lunch money, i never ever do that, and always have atleast 10 dollars on me, so, today i was like, can i just borrow like 2 or 3 dollars? and ill promise ill pay you back. and shes like wellll, this is my lunch money for the week. [she gets like 20 dollars] and im like, ill pay you back tmrw, i promise. shes like well you might forget or something. and making these lame excuses. and i was like so mad. so i didnt even get to eat lunch. and i ended up passing out in like my study hall later that day. i was so mad. because i skip breakfast. i dont like it, i never will like it. and i can go usually just fine intill lunch.

so yeah. im still pretty mad. because the whole passing out thing, was pretty freaking embarrassing. and i mean, i saw she had a ton of money. she couldve spared me a couple of dollars. and its not that shes poor or anything, she lives in like the 2nd nicest development in my town. and i live in a really really rich place. and she gets her nails done every week and everything. so its not that shes poor. and she cant possibly think, that i wouldnt pay her back, since i live in a million dollar home + i needed 40 cents one day, and i asked the other girl at my table, and she said sure. and i paid her back the next day.

so shes obviously just selfish. or whatever.
how do i fix this?
we cant switch lunch tables..

and she was even telling me about her boyfriend in highschool [were in middle school, 8th.] and all she talks about is him, and how she says she finds it funny to hurt his feelings and show that she has the power?!!!!

like what the heck. yeah. I NEED YOUR HELP.
what do i do!?!?!?

You're right, she is selfish. You're obviously the nicer girl, and that's good. And you have an advantage.

For one, more people will want to be around you, and you're more trustworthy. You're nicer, so people will automatically wanna be around you because they know you won't be rude, or bitchy. And they know you won't hurt their feelings on purpose.

As for your friend though, people won't like her since she's rude, and she's selfish. Nobody wants to be around a person like that. Just explain to her that what she did caused you to pass out. You can sort of send her on a guilt trip. Also honey, it's best to eat breakfast. You need at least 2000-2500 calories a day, and you might not get that without breakfast. Even if it's something light like some toast or a bagel, the littlest thing counts. It also helps to bring your grades up & your focus more on tact.

Just talk to her about it, and just remember that you're a better person. Not necessarily better, but people will tend to like you more. =) Good luck.

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what was the best book you have ever read when you were 13? or best book in general... that a 13 year old could read and comprehend? i feel like i've read all the good books. i've always loved reading since i was little.. im not like a geek/nerd or anything, some are just really good. uh.. my favorite kind of books are ones that are about kids like around my age.. doesnt matter the gender, going through life and etc, and... just like are good page turners. i dont care how long it is.. just not like 300 pages please! here are some of the books im already interested in and have read (uh.. i forget alot of others though lol)

- Shug by Jenny Han
- Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
- The Clique by Lisi Harrison
- How to be popular by Meg Cabot
- Avalon High by Meg Cabot
- Princess Diaries series by Meg Cabot
- Hoot (the novel)
- harry potter series
- a wrinkle in time
- any book by roald dahl
- junie b. jones - barbara park (haha i love these)
- any babysitter's club book
etc.

and please dont say like gossip girl, the it girl, a series of unfortunate events, and the chronicles of narnia.

THANKS!

PS: why do so many kids of today hate reading so much, anyway?

When I was 13? Hmm, I really liked Speak. That book was super good, and something someone could relate to. I also liked Breathing Underwater, and NIGHT. I think if you check those out, you'll like them. =)

Also, there's nothing wrong with reading. Just look at it this way -- while most kids are on the computer getting chunky & not doing anything to better themselves, you'll be smarter. You'll have a better vocabulary, which means better grammar & the way you speak. And you'll know what these words mean without looking them up. Keep reading, you're bettering yourself. You won't be the one who doesn't know jack squat about what someone else is talking about. =)

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is biniker a word? if so what does it mean??

Nope. I checked www.dictionary.com & it's not a real word.

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17/F I know I should be happy for my best friend who finally got a boyfriend..like today for the first time EVER..but I'm not. I've never had one either..and I've just feeling very very upset with her that now I have to make room for her boyfriend..and I hate sharing. I know, I sound crazy, jealous and everytime I talk to her, I get really mad because all she does is talk about him now. Seriously, what can I do to stop feeling this way because I don't want to keep feeling like a REALLY bad friend..I'm the only single one now..and it sucks being single all by yourself. Help?

It can be hard being the single friend when one of your friend's isn't. Especially if you guys are close.

Your friend is just happy right now, and this is only a phase. It'll pass, but you need to talk to her about it. Just pull her aside & say "I've got no problem with your boyfriend, or your happiness, but don't talk about him so much because I'm single, and it sorta makes me feel bad." She might not understand, but if she's your friend, she'll take what you say into consideration & do something about it.

If you don't talk to her about it, then it won't stop & she'll forever be getting on your nerves talking about her boyfriend. But don't worry, you'll find a boyfriend & you'll probably be the same way. I get happy just knowing the guy I like likes me back. =) Good luck.

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there is a rap song that goes "the way i live" over and over. what is it called? or who is it by? i've tried google. but i cant find it

It's called "The Way I Live" by Baby Boy Da Prince. It's my ringtone, haha. =)

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I am a 17 year old female, im 5'1" and i weigh 105 pounds.. and i know what your probably thinking, average or below average, well im not. Im not calling myself fat, but i do believe im holding more fat than my body should handle. I am happy with my arms, legs and everything because i have a lot of muscle.. my stomach is what bothers me. I feel bloated constantly and im completely embarassed of myself. I feel like i have to constantly suck in and now that summers comming i cant hide behind a hoodie anymore. Ive had frequent thoughts of aneroxia but as i read more into it I completely broke down. Im not asking for suicide or for mental health problems but i have no motivation to run on the tredmil or do situps because flat out im lazy. and when i try to lie to my friends when i say im not hungary they say your the perfect wieght your so skinny. but they dont understand how much i try to make myself look thin and it just does not happen. im completely depressed and i feel like i have no intentions on eatting again. and when i tell my parents its like they're not even listening to me. and when i tell my sister she says "yeah your stomach is big" ...im crying and i cant stop please help me...i just need someone to talk to...

Honey, you shouldn't feel this way about yourself. Your friends are right. You're a good weight for your height, and you don't need to lose any weight. You can just tone up, and try eating a little healthier.

What do you usually eat? When you're hungry, instead of going for chips, go for an apple, or maybe an orange. Your habits are not hard to change. When you're thirsty, don't go for soda. Go for water, or maybe some juice instead. Make sure it's 100% though. You don't want any added flavors. Everything should be natural.

When you feel yourself going to the computer, read a book and have an apple. When you get bored, don't resort to eating junk food. Instead, do some situps, or try a run. You don't have to run fast or far, just go around the block with your ipod & jog. Instead of driving everywhere, try walking to the places that are somewhat close to you. It's healthier for you. And instead of having huge meals, cut them in half & have a light one. Maybe a salad, or some grilled chicken. Try eating wheats & fruits. Vegetables are good for you too. And try to stay away from fast food. If you do, get a salad since some places serve that now, or maybe get some yogurt & an orange juice.

These things can all be changed if you just focus on it. You can tone up, & change your eating habits. You just need to be persistent & you need to put effort. Anorexia is not something you want. I used to starve myself, and it sucked. I lost weight, but I was really unhealthy, and it was sort of hard to find the right clothes. Just lose weight the healthy way, and you'll be a whole lot happier. As for your sister, ignore her, and if you need someone to talk to, you can IM me, or talk to a friend. My screenname is on my column.

If you'd like to email me instead email these:
- whoaitstinaxx@aol.com
or
- christina_curbstomp@yahoo.com

I'm more available to the first one. Good luck sweetie.

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I'm moving next year and i was talking to my friend that i was worried that me and my friends wont talk that much anymore cause i'm moving to a different state. so my friend Terrie said "dont worrie we will keep in touch, we are best friends. and i make sure we will still be friends forever" that made me feel all warm inside.
Till yesterday i said the same thing to my friend Sally, i told her i feel bad and worried that we wont keep in touch, sally didnt say anything. She was quite and i was hoping for her to say something like terrie did to keep me not worring.
now i feel like sally will not keep in touched. we were friend for 7 years. why wouldnt she say anything?
is she mad that i will leave?

She could be upset, and she could be shocked. She didn't see it coming, so she didn't know how to react or what to say.

Just talk to her about it again, & make sure that you guys stay in touch. Moving is a tough situation, just make sure you guys stay close.

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but i like her, and im good friends with both of them, but my otehr friend told me of a 6 month rule that you cant date a friend's gf when they break up... so i have no idea what to do? do i keep liking her? move on? o and i touched her butt today kinda random though. can someone tell me

Rules shmules. I don't go by that. If I like someone, and my friend dated them, then I'm gonna do what makes me happy. Yeah, I will ask my friend first if it's alright to avoid unwanted drama/tension, but other than that, I'm gonna do what makes me happy.

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Well I was born from Canada but my parents were originated from somewhere else. I didn't know how to speak english when I was born but as soon as I learned it in kindergarden I could talk english fluently but my brain just somehow forgot how to speak the language I was born with.

There was a school for people of my lanuage to learn how to write it but I couldn't learn it even though I really tried. Like everything the teacher said, I'll raise my hand up and say what does that mean? Like as if I wasn't even originated as that race. I'm 15 years old now and for 11 years I kept trying but I couldn't. It's like when I learned english I can't soeak anything else or get it in my head now.

It was pretty sad and akward at school sometimes throughout the whole year from grade 1 to grade 8 because people would be like OH COOL YOU'RE _____ HOW DO YOU SAY THIS IN ____? And I'd go "I dunno.." And some people would think something's wrong because I'm that race yet I can't speak the language.

My family and relatives go really hard on me. I can speak better english then they'll ever can and my marks are so academically high but they treat me really bad because I can't speak my language.

Up til now, my dad treats me very hard. My mom and I don't get along well but it has nothing to do with my disability but she doesnt' really care about it. My dad always went high about me and have so many high expectations and it hurts me so bad because I just work so hard with almost straight A's and everything just to please him but it just isn't enough. And a lot of times he won't talk to me because he's like I'M SORRY, I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOU!

I knwo people who answer this will probaby be like, don't think about it or dont' take it seriously into heart but I do because it's such a big deal in my family for some reason and I guess it makes my family look bad. I have two younger siblings and because of me probably that's why they have the same problem as me.

Like right now my siblings are so young yet they're gonna go through the same trouble as me. Like if noone can help me, then atleast let a miracle come for my two siblings because I don't want them to go through the same thing as me because I'm almost pathetic to die right now: I'm ugly, othe rthen ym brain I have nothing really cuz I sacrificed the will to have friends for school to please my dad, bad hair, at my age half my hair is already filled with white hair, and more. But those tow have a good life ahead and they're happy and have friends.

I just don't know what to do anymore..and where we live there's no places really so no counciling and I can't drive and I dont' go outside so counciling isn't an option

I realize you're young, and pleasing your dad is important, but you're stressing yourself out so much that you have white hair. You need to relax & loosen up.

I also realize you're worried about your younger siblings, BUT you can't worry about them. Because you have what you do, it doesn't mean they will too. Some people just have a harder time learning things. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them, but certain things don't come easy. They can excel in every other subject, but things like don't come as easy. It's fine.

My father never taught my Spanish when I was little & learning to talk. My main language is English. In 7th grade, I tried to learn Spanish, and I was alright at it, but it got harder for me, and I decided I wasn't meant to speak it. Yeah, I'll always have to be constantly asking "What are they talking about?" but if I can't do something, I'm not gonna keep trying. I'm not telling you to give up, but if something doesn't work for you no matter how hard you try, and how many times you try, you probably weren't meant to do it. I wasn't meant to speak Spanish.

Just keep doing what you're doing academically, get some friends & have fun. If your father can't accept you for you, then that's his own deal, & you shouldn't worry about it. Live your life, & stop worrying & stressing out. It's bad for you. You're 15 years old, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Good luck!

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i haved asked many ques. and i get a resonse link in my email, but it only brings me to my ques. how do i get to the answer!

When you ask a question, and you get an answer, go to Welcome, where it says your name, and go to Your Questions, and then there will be a number, like a 2 for instance.

Click the two, and you'll see your answers.

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okay...I'm seventeen and my girlfriend is sixteen.. two weeks ago my girlfriend and i tried to have sex...(with a condom).. it didn't go to great... we didn't get anything done because she was too tight.. well, a virgin.. we eventually stopped and she got on top of me..(without a condom).. i felt her vagina on my penis, but it didn't go in.. it might have lasted four minutes.. i didn't cum, not even close, but i might have precum.. is there a good chance she could get pregnant?

Yeah, there's a chance. I would talk to her about it & advise her to get a pregnancy test. I suggest that next time you use a condom. You're 17, she's 16. You're nowhere close to being ready for children.

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alright. well. me and my boyfriend have done the whole makeout thing for a while and i think were ready to move on... if you know what i mean. to "next base" i guess.

he has already gone up the shirt so im not talking about that. how do i let him know im ready without actually telling him??
thanks!

You could always just shove his hand down your pants.

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what does BIFF stand for?!

Supposively it stands for best friend.

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Posted Thursday April 12 2007, 2:23 pm
how can you edit the information you've given about yourself here? like when you change ur screenname on aim or something? and how can you write something "about me" ?? cuz every1 has it , i just don't know how 2 do that???
help?

Log in, and go into your Profile Settings.

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To be breif,
My mother is forcing me to go swimming tomorow..

I have a few reasons why I dont want to to..
*Im really self-conscious
*I hate swimming
*I self harm and im covered in scars

How am I supposed to get out of this without resorting to breaking my arm?
Cause I know EXACTLY how to do that if needs must.

Thanks

Leave your swim suit home or whatever. I use to self harm, and am sort of self conscious as well, but I still go.

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