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Friends or boyfriends first
ok i meet this guy through my friend and i'm really starting to like him but my friend told me that she doesn't want me to talk to him anymore b/c she's afraid he'll hurt me like he hurt her. i guess she really liked him and he just lead her on. but who's to say that he'll do the same thing to me? and i feel like i can't talk to her about it b/c when i ask her about it she just tells me noe to talk to him. i kinda think that she's jealous b/c he likes me alot and i like him alot. should i keep talking to him or respect my friend's wishes and not talk to him? plz help me! thx.
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okay so say you take your friends advice...and you stop talking to this guy..chances are you are going to end up wondering what wouldve been if you had just tried it..Part of life and growing as a person is learning things for ourselves often times through our mistakes..so even if dont listen to your friend and you are wrong at least you'll know for sure...id tell her that you respect very much her being honest with you and trusting you with that info, but let her know that you want to try it and even if its a mistake it ultimatly is your mistake to make..and if it isnt even better
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hey, well i think that you should politely tell your friends that you respect her opinion, but you want to give him a shot. you and your friend are two different people and he might be different towards you than he was with her. dont talk to the guy more than your friend tho. friends always comes before any guys.
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It sounds like she is giving you some good advice from her own experience.
What you should do is what you want to do, not what she wants you to do.
Yah, maybe the guy will be different for you than he was with her and you won't know that unless you give him a chance.
However, if he does you like he did her, well, who's mistakes are better learned from than our own?
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Even if your friend was hurt by him, I think you should do what makes you happy. Yeah, your friend is looking out for you & keeping you in her best interests, BUT you deserve to be happy & learn for yourself. You can't let people hold your hand & tell you what the lessons are. You need to learn them for yourself to become wiser & more alert. Nobody gets through life being babied. They'll never be ready for certain things & won't know how to react.
Also remember, if you guys go out, keep your friends close. You need to balance the time between friends and boyfriend. Don't spend more time with one than the other because it'll cause jealousy & arguments. Balance is a good thing to have.
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I think you should listen to your friend here. If she's had a bad experience with the guy, she's just looking out for you.
Friends first, always =]
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