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I'm a 17 year old guy. I have been dating this girl for a long fun while now, and we have an awesome relationship. We talk and joke around like best friends and get jiggy with it as lovers do. The only thing is that a road block just recently popped up. Throughout the relationship she had been telling me that she was a virgin and never saw a penis before and all that stuff. Then we were wasted one night and she decided to give me this big confession that infact she wasn't a virgin. She had touched, licked, and sure enough had sex with an ex that before this point she always spoke lowly of him. A lot of the time she would even bring him up in common conversation. So, now she tells me this and first I feel betrayed because I have been lied to for so long. Second, I feel confused because you think she wouldn't talk so bad about this guy if he took her virginity. Third and lastly, I feel scared because thinking that she was a virgin, we fooled around a little without a condom. That brings up worries of STD's and so forth. What should I think or say or do? Am I mad at her? When she says she regets it do I believe her? Does she still of feelings for this guy (who, if I might say myself is 100% full of nasty)? Should I trust that she isn't keeping anymore lies from me? (link)
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i'm a firm believer in honesty being the best policy especially in relationships...your girlfriend absolutly should've been honest you about her sexual past and i completely understand how that trust between the two of you is lost. However, if you really like her and despite this lie she told you-want to make it work i suggest trying to see why it was she felt she needed to lie in the first place. I sincerely doubt she still likes her ex. Have you considered that her talking bad about him and not wanting to admit sleeping with him means it was just a bad experience for her and that she may be a little regrettful about that decision? And if that is the case it was HUGE for her to finally admit to you what happened. It means that she felt safe enough with you to tell you the truth. Again coming back to honesty being the best policy-You feel a little betrayed and you have some concerns that you should absolutly bring up to her-can i make a suggestion though-Your approach in this situation is everything-if you come at her all pissed off about lying she will close right back up and that feeling of safety and trust she had will be lost. I suggest first thanking her for coming clean and trusting you with that info-but then let her know that in the future you wish she'd just be honest from the start-that you arent there to judge her-and that you did feel a little betrayed about her having lied to you to begin with. Also let her know that safety is important to you and had you known she had a sexual history you would've taken measures to protect her and you. Again approach is everything and TOO much focus on STD's is going to make her defensive and feel like your calling her dirty (we're girls we totally get overly defensive and overly sensitive)bottom line you've lost some trust for her and she is the only person who can help you get it back-and she can't help you get it back if she doesnt even know its gone...
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ok i meet this guy through my friend and i'm really starting to like him but my friend told me that she doesn't want me to talk to him anymore b/c she's afraid he'll hurt me like he hurt her. i guess she really liked him and he just lead her on. but who's to say that he'll do the same thing to me? and i feel like i can't talk to her about it b/c when i ask her about it she just tells me noe to talk to him. i kinda think that she's jealous b/c he likes me alot and i like him alot. should i keep talking to him or respect my friend's wishes and not talk to him? plz help me! thx.
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okay so say you take your friends advice...and you stop talking to this guy..chances are you are going to end up wondering what wouldve been if you had just tried it..Part of life and growing as a person is learning things for ourselves often times through our mistakes..so even if dont listen to your friend and you are wrong at least you'll know for sure...id tell her that you respect very much her being honest with you and trusting you with that info, but let her know that you want to try it and even if its a mistake it ultimatly is your mistake to make..and if it isnt even better
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Hi Carrie. I have a bit of a problem. I have brocken my sidekick 3 and i have insurance so t-mobile sent me a new one. I now have both. I need to send the old one in by tomorrow. I have all of my old pictures on my old phone.on my old phone, i could have 200 oictures and i could group them into different files. Now, i can only have 20 pictures, and only one file! Do you have any idea how i can gan more space for more pictures and get my groups back? Also, how can i get my pictures from one phone to another? All of my information transfered itself, exept for my pictures. When i had a sidekick 2 and broke it, and got another one the pictures transfered themselves, so why didnt they this time?
Thank you so much!!!
Yes i know i brake a lot of things. Not all of the times was my failt! (link)
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same thing hapd to me with my tmobile razor phone i had so many pics on my old one and really there was no way to send them to my new one unless i sent them to a friend and had my friend send them back to me once i had the new phone..or i just clicked send to my album and then i have them online..other than that i dont think there's anything else that can be done unless you call them and they let you keep the old one just for your pics which they might do cuz tmobile is pretty customer svc oriented...good luck
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Hey, I'm looking for some songs that have to do with the girl loving this guy but him being so oblvious and not understanding how much she likes him and how she wants him to notice her. Ne type of music is fine. Thanks! (link)
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you dont see me-its on the josie and the pussycats soundtrack which may sound cheesy but it is a beautiful song
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what's a song that's about liking somenoe that has a girlfriend? or wanting a guy and his girlfriend to braek up? or liking someone when he's perfectly happy with his gf? or wanting them to break up becuase we could have a chance for something great?
NOT teardrops on my gutair.. kthx (link)
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crush by mandy moore soo girly though it was me by paula deanda sorta fits also very girly
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what songs make you want to be a better person, motivate you, make you feel determined, or inspire you? (link)
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i like unwritten by natasha beddinfield it makes me feel like anything can happen and is possible a friend of mine likes float on by modest mouse cuz no matter what we'll all float on okay
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Ok! Soo... there's this guy that i like. he's 18, 19 in June. He's really hot. really nice. yet a big asshole sometimes. I like him a whole lot, but im trying to get over him. Im not quite sure how. He's always on my mind every minute of everyday. & even when i go out somewhere to forget him something reminds me of him. Im not sure what to do.
sincerely.
The Confused. (link)
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of course you like him we LOVE the assholes dont we! Something about the thrill of the hunt i think..You already realized you need to get over him right..thats why you are trying to in the first place..so whats the point in sweating him?..no really-everytime you start to dwell on him think to yourself-whats the point...he's an asshole-(can i say that on here?)I definatly suggest hanging out with someone else even a guy friend-also I used to think to myself-if i had let go of him two weeks ago id be over him by now..but if you can just let go two weeks from now you wont have to think that..you wont be thinking about him at all
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ok so i told my best friend(a guy)that i liked him alot. he didnt say anything back. we've both tried to have normal conversations but they always end up akward. i know he likes two girls right now. one of them is a girl from another school but he wasn't sure if he really liked her and i dont know who the other girl is. i want to ask him and normally if i hadn't told him i liked him and our conversations weren't so akward he would have told me. so i dont know how to ask him who he likes, his guy friends don't know. he's my best friend and i want our conversations to go back to normal. so how do i get normal conversations and how do i ask him who he likes??? (link)
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i would first like to say that i have been in this situation t and it sucks because theres a friendship at stake. w myhen i confessed my love guy friend kindly told me he loved me like a sister..which SUCKED but our friendship remainded the same and we never acted any different-and through our whole friendship i waited patiently for the day that he would see me in the right light or the right outfit and it would hit him that he loved me too...that never happened. I swore to myself i would never do that again..Here's my advice..Talk to him. Be calm and bring it up casually-the more relaxed and casual about the conversation you are the more he will be. The less of a big deal that you make it the less it will be. Your 15 you have to save face-your still in high school, and i assume he is too so professing your undying affection my not quite work-How about saying simply"You like so and so and someone else right..can u just tell me who it is because if it isnt me-i'd like to move on" casual and not a big deal..if its not you then say "good then stop acting so wierd around me like you want me or something" joke about it you are friends..you can do that and if its you then great..I know this is prob some controversial advice but no matter what his answer i would assume you want the wierdness to stop more than anything..i think this is the best way to do that..Whatever you do-dont be that girl i was sitting there waiting for him to realize how incredibly amazing you are..because you may miss out on someone who already knows.
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There's not much more I can take.
Well my boyfriend (almost 10 months.) and I aren't doing very well anymore. It's just we are very extremly close and since I went back to school because we don't go to the same school, he does cyber school well since September things have kinda changed because he is EXTREMLY jealous. I am too, I know what it's like but he doesn't have contact with anyone anymore. Pretty much the reason he did cyber school was me. Well i'm 14 -- 8th grade (should be in 9th.) and he's 17 -- senior, so he's pretty much done. He want's everything to be about him. It already is. I don't hang out with ANY girls, and I skip school ALOT to be with him, and we've been thru alot. He pretty much told me though he wants me to quit school. I CAN'T. I told him 9th grade I'm going to cyber school to be with him too. I just want him to understand I can't fail 8th grade just like I did for 7th. He doesn't understand how much I care, and would do everything but that is just out of the question. There's so many consiquences. Uh. I love him more than anything and am so attached and I really NEED things to work. I need help, please?
I understand this question is semi hard to understand, and I'm sorry.
tyyyy in advv. (link)
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Well in your question is part of your answer-letting this relationship affect your education anymore than it already has IS out of the question..and to elaborate on a previous piece of advice you are trying to hold onto this guy who in his selfishness is giving you nothing to hold onto. And a healthy relationship is one where you want to be with someone who wants to be with you-not one where you NEED someone and as far as sacrificing your friendships-i heard once when you make someone your everything if they leave you are left with nothing..My advice if you arent ready to leave him..Work on yourself a little bit. When your at school focus on building relationships and friendships there dont spend the entire day worrying or thinking about him use that time to let go of that and focus on yourself...You may find a little independence that way..and from there you may not feel that you "need" him anymore...or and who knows not even want him for that matter...good luck..
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i'm looking for some new bands, any good ones?
i listen to bands like sublime, slightly stoopid, bob marley, jack johnson, matisyahu, ub40, 311.
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the fratellis are new and really good!
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what are some good songs about depression. please tell me the the song and band. thanx.
also some good 80's songs (link)
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colorblind-counting crows
two beds and a coffe machine-savage garden
your guardian angel-red jumpsuit apparatus
the long day is over-norah jones
plenty-sarah mcLaughlin (love this one)
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