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how do i start that conversation
15/f
ok so i told my best friend(a guy)that i liked him alot. he didnt say anything back. we've both tried to have normal conversations but they always end up akward. i know he likes two girls right now. one of them is a girl from another school but he wasn't sure if he really liked her and i dont know who the other girl is. i want to ask him and normally if i hadn't told him i liked him and our conversations weren't so akward he would have told me. so i dont know how to ask him who he likes, his guy friends don't know. he's my best friend and i want our conversations to go back to normal. so how do i get normal conversations and how do i ask him who he likes???
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i would first like to say that i have been in this situation t and it sucks because theres a friendship at stake. w myhen i confessed my love guy friend kindly told me he loved me like a sister..which SUCKED but our friendship remainded the same and we never acted any different-and through our whole friendship i waited patiently for the day that he would see me in the right light or the right outfit and it would hit him that he loved me too...that never happened. I swore to myself i would never do that again..Here's my advice..Talk to him. Be calm and bring it up casually-the more relaxed and casual about the conversation you are the more he will be. The less of a big deal that you make it the less it will be. Your 15 you have to save face-your still in high school, and i assume he is too so professing your undying affection my not quite work-How about saying simply"You like so and so and someone else right..can u just tell me who it is because if it isnt me-i'd like to move on" casual and not a big deal..if its not you then say "good then stop acting so wierd around me like you want me or something" joke about it you are friends..you can do that and if its you then great..I know this is prob some controversial advice but no matter what his answer i would assume you want the wierdness to stop more than anything..i think this is the best way to do that..Whatever you do-dont be that girl i was sitting there waiting for him to realize how incredibly amazing you are..because you may miss out on someone who already knows.
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Hi.
Admitting to a friend that you like them more than just a friend can be difficult specially with what happens afterwards if they don't feel the same.
I would imagine (thinking logically) that if he felt the same then he had the perfect opportunity to say so when you had told him how you felt about him. On the other hand he might be afraid of what might happen with your friendship if he tells you that other girl is you - I can't be certain.
Thing is this though, at the end of the day you were both friends who could talk to each other. So, talk to him about it. Tell him you took a risk telling him what you told him so you'd like to know if he has anything to say about it. If he says he doesn't then I guess that wouldbe your answer in which case you can tell him then he should forget what you had said and you want them both to be friends again. Hopefully in time then you may find out who this other girl is.
The reality of the situation is that it might not be you in which case it's his loss because it does take a lot of guts to do what you had done but if it is you then you have given him the chance to say so and to confess. If he decides not to do that (after two chances infact) then it may just be time to move on I'm afraid.
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ok...haha. well it sorta sounds like my situation. umm you dont mind me asking who u are or what school do you?! sorry. it just seems like my sitch. ANYWAYS. if i were you i'd act not interested in him anymore. talk to him every once in a great while. other than that let it be. if he likes you then he'll come to you other than that act like you never even told him that you liked him. maybe something will develop. live it up girly it's life. plus we're only 15! there'll be more guys! magine only now we're 15! magine how many guys we will have liked when we're 19 keep ur options open!! not just him.
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