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Confussed..
There's not much more I can take.
Well my boyfriend (almost 10 months.) and I aren't doing very well anymore. It's just we are very extremly close and since I went back to school because we don't go to the same school, he does cyber school well since September things have kinda changed because he is EXTREMLY jealous. I am too, I know what it's like but he doesn't have contact with anyone anymore. Pretty much the reason he did cyber school was me. Well i'm 14 -- 8th grade (should be in 9th.) and he's 17 -- senior, so he's pretty much done. He want's everything to be about him. It already is. I don't hang out with ANY girls, and I skip school ALOT to be with him, and we've been thru alot. He pretty much told me though he wants me to quit school. I CAN'T. I told him 9th grade I'm going to cyber school to be with him too. I just want him to understand I can't fail 8th grade just like I did for 7th. He doesn't understand how much I care, and would do everything but that is just out of the question. There's so many consiquences. Uh. I love him more than anything and am so attached and I really NEED things to work. I need help, please?
I understand this question is semi hard to understand, and I'm sorry.
tyyyy in advv.<3
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Well in your question is part of your answer-letting this relationship affect your education anymore than it already has IS out of the question..and to elaborate on a previous piece of advice you are trying to hold onto this guy who in his selfishness is giving you nothing to hold onto. And a healthy relationship is one where you want to be with someone who wants to be with you-not one where you NEED someone and as far as sacrificing your friendships-i heard once when you make someone your everything if they leave you are left with nothing..My advice if you arent ready to leave him..Work on yourself a little bit. When your at school focus on building relationships and friendships there dont spend the entire day worrying or thinking about him use that time to let go of that and focus on yourself...You may find a little independence that way..and from there you may not feel that you "need" him anymore...or and who knows not even want him for that matter...good luck..
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Yikes. No, no, no. This is wrong. You should not be with someone who cares more about himself than he cares about your future. That is not love, no matter what he says or what you think. When you love someone, you want the best for her. Love is not selfish. Love is not demanding that your girlfriend be there for you 24/7. Especially since you're only 14 and you've already struggled in school. School is the key to a successful future. If you do not graduate school, you will likely end up working fast-food.
You say you need things to work? What would happen if they didn't work out between the two of you? You'd graduate, socialize like a normal teenager, and get on with it. You'd feel sad, but you'd live. His behavior is NOT loving!
Here's the truth. No one is responsible for making sure you are successful in this life. The decisions you make now directly affect how successful you can be and you have to make the best choices for yourself. You need to put all of your effort into your education. If the boyfriend can accept that, then it's great. If he cannot, then he does not have your interests in mind and you should not be with him. Believe me, you will pay later if you give up your future for this man. The more you give, it seems, the more he demands of you. You say he doesn't understand how much you care. That is because his need is a bottomless hole which you cannot fill no matter how much you give.
My advice is to stop giving everything you are and all of your hopes, dreams, wishes, and future, to hold onto this man.
Sabine
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