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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i'm usually really good at giving advice rather than accepting someone elses.

anyway.
for the past couple of days, i haven't been able to eat. Yeah, i'm hungry, sure it shows, but when i try to eat something, it never stays down.
it'll come back up hours later and i'm hungry again. i know its not a physical problem. its more like emotional. maybe i'm stressed so i get sick and it comes up. sometimes i dont eat because i'm not hungry, and then i eat when i do.
i'm not anorexic and i'm not stupid.
i just want to know, why this is happening, and whats wrong with me.

You should probably see a doctor whether you're doing it on purpose or not. It's rather unhealthy.

so how can i tell if this guy at work is into me.. well here's some things, he looks at me alot, he makes my mop water for me every night [when i first started i didnt know how the thingy worked but now he jus still does it] and told this other guy while i was standin there that im the only one he'd do that for bc he cant say no to me and anyone else he'd jus tell em to do it themselves, i wear necklaces everyday and he like pays attention and keeps up w/ which ones and one time i didnt wear one and he asked if i made it melt off [i dont know if that meant i was hott?], he tells other cooks there that im cool [yay lol], i just got a new old car and he asked for a ride in it and i was like uh sure where ya wanna go? and he said blahblahblah how bout you drive and ill pay for everything [i thought a ride meant like down the street, not TO somewhere ha], he and this other guy pick on me alot but we have like comeback wars haha so its fun.. and he does some more but i cant think of what else.. does it sound likes hes into me? the thing is im 16 and hes like 20something soo obviously if he is its not going to go anywhere because theres too big a difference and all and im not really interested in him anyway i just love being pursued i guess, and he's never made any suggestive moves on me or anything soo i dont think hes like that. but just curious, haha =]

Yeah, I would say he's into you. Ask him to lunch.

This was my last question,

I met this guy not too long ago. I'm 19 and he's 28. We started talking and we get along great. I think he has been very honest to me. He has a girlfriend he's been with for 4 years. She was away for work... but he told me he likes me. I started to like him a lot too. He started to ask me questions, like if I think he's cheating on his girlfriend by talking to me. I told him no, because we're not doing anything physical and I told him if he was starting to feel guilty that we could stop.... And yesterday morning he told me that he probably wasn't going to be able to see me anymore because his girlfriend was comming back. We started talking and he seemed pretty sad and I was sad... and I guess one thing led to another and we eneded up having sex...
I'm not the type of person that falls for any guy and i've always had high standards. It's really hard for me, But this time I found someone that was able to reach those standards... but he's taken. He kissed me and said goodbye. I don't think i'm ever going to see him again. I'm afraid of calling him, because his girlfriend is back... And I want to respect that and not get in the way.
Sorry this is so long. But I don't know what else to do, Any thoughts or advice?

... So he called me today and asked how i was feeling since we slept together, and he said he can't stop thinking about me. I asked him if it was a good thing, and he told me he really didn't know and that he feels a mixture of being worried and falling for me... so I just told him that I like him a lot and he told me he likes me too, but he called to make sure we don't lose contact... and that was it.

I don't know. Do you think his feelings are sincere or did he just want to have sex? I really think he's an honest guy and he really doesn't seem like the "player" type.
I care for him a lot and his happiess is important to me, that's why I'm trying not to get in the way of him and his girlfriend... But I don't know...

If he can have sex with you, then he's not in love with his girlfriend.

The both of you girls need to cut him short. He's an ass & who knows how many times he's done this before. You could be just another girl, and I'm betting you were.

Guys will say anything to get into someone's pants. Whether he's 28 or not.

what is it exactly
i looked at google
but they use big words
ahahah
so can anyone tell me like what it is
what are the symptoms
is it life threatening
does it go away
i just wanna know
thanks

If they use big words, look them up.

I am 19, female. A friend of mine (20 years old) has just applied for a job at a massage parlour, where the masseuses are topless, but there is no sexual activity - it's more of an erotic massage experience. She will be paid $80-100 an hour, and earn $1000 a week for a day and a half's work.
As a student, I could really, really use that kind of money, and personally, I wouldn't have any problem with the work. The job sounds reputable and if she enjoys the job, it could be very tempting - however, I am not sure whether I would regret it on a moral basis or not? In theory, I have nothing against it. But something inside is telling me it's wrong? And yet, that kind of money could open up a whole lot of opportunities for me within a short space of time.
What should I do?

Try it out and if it doesn't work out for you, then quit.

Okay, so my friend and I are singing Girl Next Door by Saving Jane.

Does any one know where, hopefully on the internet or itunes, we can get it with out the lyrics? Or a way to edit the lyrics out. Or what to type in on itunes or google to find it. But I would really apprectiate it if you were to tell me a place where we could get it.

Go on Itunes & search Girl Next Door Instrumental.

ever since Sanjaya was voted off the show i've been wanting to get into contact with him so badd. does anyone know his email address or something? thanks so much!

I doubt he'd put it on the web. There are pyschotic people that would stalk him.

ok im 15/f and me and my mom like CANNOT get along anymore. i cant take it. shes always yelling at me, she always drinks, she dosnt let me have anyone over anymore. i have a boyfriend and he lives with us now but he wont get a job and i get yelled at for that too. and i dont no what to say to either of them. like my mom is trying to make me get a job too and im too young. what should i doo?

I'm not sure where you live, but depending on the laws where you are, you can't work until 16 or 17 years old simply because labor laws & such. You need to explain that to your mother, and try to get it through to her as best you can. =) It'd help a lot.

Also, please urge your boyfriend to get a job. I'm not sure how old he is, but if he's old enough make him get one. He lives with you, so he has to lead a normal life at your house. He doesn't live with his parents anymore, so he's no longer under their rules, & he has to learn responsibility sooner or later.

When your mom yells though, ignore her. If you get pissed & do it back, you're just feeding into it which will cause her to do it more. When she drinks, make sure she doesn't drive because not only will she be in danger, other people will be also.

I need help. I am 13/f and I'm having trouble finding bathing suits. I'm small so when ever I look at bathing suits that fit, they are kiddish. I am a 10 in tops and bottoms. If you can help, please do so.

Thanks in advance.

I'm not sure what brands would help, but I can list stores:

Wal Mart. Even though you'd need the kid ones, they've got some cute ones. Or, try to get smalls in the ones for juniors. Pac Sun has good ones too, as does Zumies & places like that.

im 16/f and my b/f thinks im too clingy but i don't know how iam help? what should i do?

Ask him what you're doing wrong & what you're doing to be "clingy." Then try to fix it.

Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know if I am getting my period period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. OKAY HERE IS THE STORY! On Sunday, I noticed some blood when I was going to the bathroom, I decided I would worry about it if it happened again, then when I went to the bathroom yesterday there was a little bit of blood, and that happened again today. It is not that much blood though so I am not sure if it is my period or not, or is it a sign my period is coming? PLEASE HELP OR IF YOU DO NOT KNOW JUST TELL ME YOUR IDEAS! PLEASE, THANKS!

Yeah, you've got it. Wear a pantiliner & get some midol. When your period starts getting heavier, then use thicker pads. It shouldn't be heavy though.

Also, don't freak out & think you're abnormal when you don't get your period for a few months. Your period will be irregular for the first couple of years, but it'll eventually regulate itself.

do masturbating and sex have the same feeling? idk. i saw someone ask something like this. but not with masturbating. and would a doctor ever be able to tell if you masturbate. btw im 13/f.and i really cant have my mom/dad knowing if the doctor DOES find out.

A doctor can't find out about masturbating and neither can anyone else unless you tell them or get walked in on. Doctors can find out if you've been sexually active though. You've got nothing to worry about.

i honestly ened to start thinking about colleges. but i have no idea what i want to do. how can we find out what we may liek to do? im liek so mized up in so many things. like being an architect, teacher, designer, etc. help

Learning to type & spell would be a start.

But honestly, most kids don't know what they wanna do when they first go to college, so they try basically anything & see what they like to get a feel of it.

I'm Christian and when i masturbate i feel like I'm sinning from what I've seen on here (people on here say it is) Christians aren't allowed to. is that true. also I'm presbyterian not catholic so i don't have confessionals to confess if it is.. so if it is how can i un-sin lol.

Dude, whack it all you want. You're not sinning. It's a natural, healthy act.

im am a serious needle phobic. like i know its not a fear. like if i hear someone say i need a shot or that im getting a needle or blood shot i go ballistic. like yo udont know how scared i am of them. im a 14/f. last summer i didnt need one thank god. but the year before i did. and it was crazy. they had to have 10 nurses in the room.. they had 5 on top of me..i kicked my doctor in the balls (but that was by accident haha lol) i start crying and everything and i hyperventalate to the point where they have to stop what there doing and help me breathe. liek i cant get a shot! and its horrible. i got my blood test done where they had to put the needle in my arm once. my mom hasnt taken me back yet because she was hugging me and i grabbed her hair and ripped part of it out. like i cant stand needles. what can i do to not be soo afraid of it?

As much as needles suck & hurt, they're nothing to be scared of. I'm scared of them too, but when it's time to get the things I need done, I suck it up.

Just try & laugh off the pain or talk to somebody while they give you the shot. If you concentrate on something else, you won't be focused on the pain & it won't scare you as much. The best way to eliminate a fear is to face it.

Every day after school, I get on the computer. I talk to this guy that I like. (He can only stay on the computer until 5:30 PM.) Before I met him, I would work out every day at 4. Reccently, I've been starting working out later, like at 4:30. Whenever I tell him I have to go, he always says, "Don't leave me." or "I want you to stay!" I really want to stay and talk to him, but I know I'll be sorry if I don't work out. Do you think I'm right to sign off at 4:30? I like him, and I like to exercise, I really don't want to give up either. (Unfortunately, we do NOT live in the same state so "hanging out" is not an option. And the only time I can talk to him is between 3:30 and 4:30.) Am I just wasting my time?

I feel bad about leaving him at 4:30, because I really do want to stay. But I like it because it leaves him in suspense and makes him want to talk to me more. Any opinions?

He doesn't live in the same state as you, so yeah -- you are wasting your time. Besides, he could be like this 50 yr old lonely guy who's idol is Michael Jackson & who gets fiesty with himself from child pornography.

If you know for certain he's not -- which I doubt you do -- just exercise after he signs off.

my mom says i dnt love her but i show it in my own way wat do i do??

Do something for her that she'd never expect from you.

My friend always has these giant parties. Its a sleepover and what my mom doesn't know is that well.... there may be boys coming for the night. There are 6 girls so she invited 6 guys, one for each of us. Obviously her parents are out of town. The boy I like is coming but I don't know what we're going to do. Anybody know?

age: 14/f

Probably making out, playing games, prank calls, talking, watching tv/movies, eating, walking around..

What are some sad songs?
NO EMO BANDS!

I'm leaning more towards R&B songs.

Please don't tell me to Google it.
I have already.

R&B wouldn't know sad if it came up & slapped them in the face & then dug them a grave & danced on top of the tombstone.

Click search. Or try:

www.musicmademe.com

my cell phone doesnt charge anymore. when i plug the charger into it a sign comes up saying "Unable to charge."
This has happened before, but normally I just turn it off and back on and it'll work...

I have the motorola e815, verizon. would they replace my phoen? and for how much??

You need to take it to the store. They may be able to fix it, but if not, then they will replace it. If your plan is close to being up, you may upgrade, but you need to ask the store how much that costs because I'm on Cingular.

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