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Tempted
I am 19, female. A friend of mine (20 years old) has just applied for a job at a massage parlour, where the masseuses are topless, but there is no sexual activity - it's more of an erotic massage experience. She will be paid $80-100 an hour, and earn $1000 a week for a day and a half's work.
As a student, I could really, really use that kind of money, and personally, I wouldn't have any problem with the work. The job sounds reputable and if she enjoys the job, it could be very tempting - however, I am not sure whether I would regret it on a moral basis or not? In theory, I have nothing against it. But something inside is telling me it's wrong? And yet, that kind of money could open up a whole lot of opportunities for me within a short space of time.
What should I do?
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I don't think you should do it. Thats tottaly like no morals. Even if you have to work at mcdonalds, to earn some money, atleast you can do it with some dignity, right?
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In my next life I'm coming back as a woman! Most of us have to work our f__king asses off for 8 or 9 dollars an hour!!!!
Enjoy it while you can hun.
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Wait it out, and see what your friend has to say about in a week.
If it continues to look like a good thing after talking to your friend a week or two into the job, then apply. It’s great that the company seems reputable and safe now, but I think it’s definitely worth it to wait until you can get that information from a source you can really rely on.
If it still seems good in a week, and your friend feels happy and safe, I would say absolutely go for it. If you don’t feel comfortable, you quit. No harm, no fowl. I’m sure a lot of girls quit that place after a week or so saying “Nope. Sorry. Just not for me.”
It sounds like you are comfortable with the idea of job, and that (and your safety) is really all that is important.
Yes. You may regret it in the future. Or you may laugh about it and count it as one of those funny events in your life. Regret and a bit of guilt are okay things, they guide us and teach us, but we can’t live our lives missing out on things because of them. If you regret in a months time, smile to yourself and think “Well, I’ve learned not to do that again!”
All of this advice however, is based on you discovering from your friend that this is actually a safe and positive work environment. Those places run a high risk of not being. Make sure before you step in.
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I'm a 19 year old student too, putting myself through school, so I definitely understand your situation. I'm working 12-14 hours a day, 7 days a week this summer just to make ends meet.
I'd say you should think long and hard about whether or not this is something you could handle in the future... if your husband asks you how you made it through school, would you be comfortable being honest with him?
However, I agree that the pay is amazing. Sometimes you have to do something you disagree with just to make ends meet.
If I were in the same situation, I would probably take the job. Just make sure that you find a plausible answer for when your parents ask you how you're making so much money!
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Try it out and if it doesn't work out for you, then quit.
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I have a 20 year old daughter and I really do not think that I would like her to be in that sort of position. The club may have a really good reputation, but can they really protect the girls against unwanted attention? There are many strange people out there and it only takes one idiot to make life very uncomfortable for you.
The very high money is a great temptation but when you are older and look back at this time, how do you think you will feel about it? Imagine you had a daughter and write down all the pros and cons for this type of work. Will it come back to haunt you? What kind of contract would you have to sign? Would it lead into "other" offers? How far removed from prostitution is it really?
Please listen to your inner voice that is telling you it is wrong? Always go with gut reaction and feelings with anything that comes up in life, because more often than not you will be protecting yourself. I hope that as a mother I have given you some insight into how your Mum might possibly feel, and how you might feel if you ever have a daughter. If there is any other way of earning money other than this way, then please try. I wish you all the best with this problem, but if you do decide that it is a good way to help out with fees, then please protect yourself with every possible means. Take care.
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