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Okay so I was on Twitter. I came across someone's account and there was a picture that said: "Most people marry their 7th-12th grade love. Since you have read this, repost this or the worst week of your life starts now". I've told myself not to believe this kind of junk, but I retweeted it (I hope it's the same as "reposting"..) because of my paranoia. Well anyways, are these actually real? I hate these and I hate always running into them, but I sometimes somehow believe them. (link)
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No, chain letters aren't real.
If they were, I'd be having an awful life and wouldn't have ever gotten a boyfriend. But I have a great life and I had a few boyfriends since.
They're dumb so just ignore them.
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I'm a 16 year old girl anf there really is never a time where I don't want to have sex with someone...is this normal? Or am I just an odd kid? (link)
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You're normal. Hormones can be crazy around your age, some people get it worse than others.
Obviously, you shouldn't go have sex with everyone but just keep it under control. Masturbation is your friend.
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Hi im a 14 year old female, i know , young. But i have a boyfriend of 2 months and i like him alot but i feel like im starting to loose feelings , like i wanna be flirty with other people and not tied down, but if i do break up with him i dont wanna miss him. He gets mad over the littlest things and hes grounded so how am i supposed to have feelings if we can barley talk ?! If you were in my situation what would you do?
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Ok so you're with a guy that you don't really have feelings for anymore. Why stay with him then? Not only is it bad for you, it's bad for him. It's not giving him the chance to find someone who's a better match for him too.
You will probably miss him when you guys break up. It's a natural thing but sometimes you have to do what's best for both of you.
And just a heads up, you can have feelings for someone when you don't talk a lot. I mean there are people who have their partner in the military and they barely talk so..it's not a weird or uncommon thing.
The truth is, you just don't like him like you used to. The excitement of the beginning of the relationship has worn off and you just don't want to be with him anymore. So let it go and find someone else who makes you happy or be single and enjoy it and let him find someone else who is better for him too.
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My mom won't let me have a bikini how do I get one without her knowing and I can't drive! Please help and I'm 15 (link)
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So you're asking us to help you lie and go behind your moms back?
No..dumb idea. She probably has good reasons as to why she doesn't want you wearing a bikini. I don't see why you feel the need to have one anyways. There are lots of cute swimsuits that are one piece and two piece, just look around.
You're only 15. Until you turn 18, you have to do what your mom says. It sucks not always getting what you want but sometimes you just have to follow the rules.
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My boyfriend won't touch my boobs I know he wants to but how do I get him to touch them! (link)
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Just straight up tell him or put his hand there.
If he doesn't want to, you can't make him. Maybe he's just not ready for that yet.
The best thing to do is to let him know that you would like that.
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So lately my boyfriend and i of 1.5 years have been haning out each weekend if possible because we are kind of long distance. I noticed that weve been just having like heavy petting and intimate touching. And like we do talk about ourselves an joke around while we do those things. But yesterday he seemed to disrespect the fact that i wanted to wait until im out of school until i have sex. And then i started thinking and i was wondering if im being used because even though our relationship started out as those sweet days wherer we only joked around anf ay modt kiss, every since we started venturing further weve been doing less off the just talking to each other and more touching. And we broke up for 3 months and then got back together for a month already. And so i dont know ehat to do about my insecurities about his feelings for me and insecurities about myself. Plus my friend told me a story about this guy who wad in the perfect relationship with yhis girl but even still the guy wanted to have sex with my friend. And so it threw my over the edge. (link)
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You need to be open and honest with him. You don't have to straight up tell him that you think he's using you but tell him that you feel like all you guys have been doing is messing around and you really want to have a real relationship where you do more talking and spending quality time together rather than messing around most of the time.
If he loves you and cares about your feelings at all, he will agree.
If you felt disrespected by him, tell him that. Tell him you care about him, but yesterday you felt disrespected about the fact that you want to wait to have sex and you don't want to feel any pressure to go more than what you are comfortable with.
If he tries to reason with you or push you to give in, he doesn't care about your feelings or your boundaries and that really is disrespectful.
Just talk to him. Communication is key to every relationship.
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She has a boyfriend...I know I'm such a bad guy for this and she's such a cheating girlfriend for this too but we have sex almost every week. We're classmates, we eye contact like ALL the time in school during class or recess time. During our sexual activity we always pause. And have this frozen romantic moment. We also kiss each other in a very cheesy way after we're done.
Last night we were smoking after sex and I mentioned our moment and she said she loved it. Then we cuddled lying down on bed all night long and went to school together the next day.
I NEVER get enough of her. During school we're like 24/7 eye contacting and flirting or talking about our sex and stuff...
I don't know if she has feelings for me but I do for her. A lot! She means a lot to me. I think she'd pick her boyfriend over me though...
Any clue if she has any sort of love like feelings? (link)
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I don't know her, so I wouldn't know if she has any feelings for you at all. But you did say you think she'd pick her boyfriend over you so..that kinda shows she'd rather have him.
The thing is, if she were to break up with her boyfriend to be with you, then she could very well cheat on you too. Or she wouldn't be having fun with all the secrets so she wouldn't really care much for the relationship.
You guys made the decision for no feelings to be involved, but now they are and once that happens, that's when you end the sexual relationship.
So either you tell her how you feel, knowing that she might not feel the same or might not leave her boyfriend and knowing if she does, you might not want a girl who could possibly cheat on you.
Or you just stop the sexual relationship.
Either way, it's going to hurt since you have feelings for her. This is a complicated thing you guys have going on so you might want to put your feelings aside and think logically about this.
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Hi everyone, id appreciate that if the person reading this would understand my points of views, my decisions and to try to understand how I think. Me and this guy really hit it off, we've been good friends for about 4 months and 2 of those months we started dating. We had intense chemistry, it was insane..we'd talk about how weird it is that we both feel so strongly about one another in such little time and how were shocked that we got close so easily. Now i know that some people believe that 2 months isnt a long time, and your right its not but this expirence taught me that no matter how little time you had with someone, sometimes 2 months can have more of an impact on both your lives than 2 years. What happened was that he was really affectinate and loving in the begining of our relationship, then he randomly stopped calling or being as sweet with me. I wont get into details because i dont feel its neccasary, he just randomly called me asking me to meet him cause he wanted to talk, so i said okay and went then he tells me he isnt happy, he feels like we arent sweet with eachther anymore Ofcourse i let him know that its his fault, and that im the one whos always trying to be cute and call and do and say sweet things but he never budges (which is completely true) so then i asked him this : I was like, "Do you love me, or do you just have some feelings for me, because i really do love you, a lot" then he was like "Look i have feelings for you for sure, but im not crazy about you, i think your more inlove with me than i am with you thats for sure" Honesty is the best policy, and i dont blame him for being honest, HOWEVER i am not the kind of girl that can be with someone that i love more or care for more, someone who believes he has the upper hand in the relationship ( and he has shown me that he thinks he does in many ways) so i ended it, i told him that i dont deserve that and that i should be loved in the same amount in return, why should i love someone any less? and why should he be with someone that he wants to feel more for? it makes no sense to me. Our break up wasnt terrible, we were both sad. But i made sure he knew that my dignity was above everything else and that no matter how much i love him, ill always love myself enough to walk away from anything that i feel isnt fair to me. He contacted me after a few days (4 to be exact) asking how i was, i said i was fine and he said he was great and the conversation just ended. You guys, i am so inlove with him i cant even explain, i dont know what to do or how to act anymore, i dont even know what hes thinking or have an idea about it, im really hurt and would love some guidance, please tell me what i should do? do you think him seeing how strong i am and independent will make him think twice ? Thank you all for reading this and please no harsh judgement :) (link)
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So you did what was right for you. Breaking up is always going to hurt, whether you were dating for a month or for 5 years, it will hurt a lot.
Him seeing how strong and independent might make him regret it, but he can't help that. You can't keep hoping to get back together with him.
The reason you guys broke up wasn't because of an unhealthy relationship or a problem going on. It was because he didn't feel the same as you did, he can't change that no matter how hard he tries. So you just need to let go and do your best to let him go.
So what you do now is to keep yourself busy, go out with friends, meet new people and try new things. It's going to hurt for awhile, it's going to be really hard but you have to do what you have to do.
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I am 18 year old girl, i have had sex several times and have been fingered several times (all with my current bf). We have ben together for awhile now, but every time we have sex or he fingers me i always bleed. i have been able to keep it a secret this far but tonight he found out.
my question is 1.) what do i do about the bleeding?
And 2.) how do i calm him down, he thinks he "broke" me.. (link)
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If you bleed every time you have sex or do anything sexual, then there's a problem. You're not supposed to bleed.
So it's either something else going on down there and you need to see a doctor just in case it's an infection or something. Or it could be that you guys aren't using enough lubrication or he's too rough.
If you guys are using enough lubrication and he's not too rough, then you need to see your gynecologist and figure out what's going on.
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So technically i fell in love with a guy who is one year younger than me, but he like hangs out with my friends and he is very mature for his age thou. I love him. We have been dating for 2 months and i knew i could trust him with literally my life. Like we were getting to the point where it got INTIMATE in our relationship.So,I told him that I USE to smoke ciggerates, cause apparently he smocked weed. But i was wrong... he didn't and i eventually ended up telling him my secret which he seemed cool knowing about. After like a day thou, we were alone together, he told me that he couldn't do it anymore and he wanted out of our relationship because i USE TO SMOKE! and let me Emphasis on the word USE. AS IN LIKE A YEAR AGO! HAVEN'T GONE BACK TO IT SINCE. I've even like explained that to him but he wont listen, he keeps saying hes sorry and everything like that.. i've been crying and throwing up for the past 4 days and i cant even stand to see my now ex boyfriend. How do i stop thinking about him, i think i've tried everything..
Sincerely,
Nobody :'( (link)
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To be with someone, you have to accept who they are and who they were. If he has a problem with someone that smokes, that's fine, then he doesn't have to date them. But you're not smoking anymore and he doesn't care enough to accept your past and that's not someone you want to be with in the first place.
Heartbreak sucks, it's going to hurt like crazy. It's going to hurt even more knowing that he didn't want to try hard enough.
You won't stop thinking about him for a long time. I just got out of a relationship right now after 2 years and it hasn't been easy. So believe me, I know.
The best thing for you to do right now is to let yourself heal. So that takes time, you won't stop feeling for him for awhile. So in the mean time, go out with your friends, don't talk to him, don't hang around him, try new things, ect.
You've done your crying, now it's time to get your head back up and let him go. Don't listen to sad love songs, don't watch chick flicks, just have a good time and show him that he's missing out.
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Ok I have this crush on this guy for awhile and I really want to get over it .I'm not a feeling person nor am I someone who would tell someone I like them ,so I need help getting over him.every time I'm around him,I always end up saying something stupid.he doesn't even notice me ,the only time he would notice me is when I'm with friends.I know he doesn't like me because he hardley talks to me ,n when we do he seems to see me as a friend way ,I tried avoiding him at school but I don't I try to get him to notice me n I hate it .I just want it to be over.I try talking to new people but it doesn't work .please I need help (link)
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You just need to give it time. Sometimes having a crush sucks, you're 13 so you're going to have so, so many more crushes.
Besides giving it time, I'd say just use your time wisely. Don't give yourself time to sit there and daydream about him. Go out with your friends, have a good time and do your best not to talk about him. Maybe try new things. There are so many things you can learn and it's ten time easier to learn things when you're your age so go for it!
Try not to go out of your way to talk to him or anything either. I know you said you try to avoid him, but I don't think that will do much either. Just accept that he's going to be around and don't try to over think it too much. Just let it be and give yourself time to move on.
I'd also say that there is something about this guy that you really like. What is it? I mean besides the he's cute, nice and funny? Because you can find lots of guys like that. There are some specific qualities about him that you like, look for them in other guys and eventually you'll find yourself liking one of them.
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I am a boy of 23 and My girlfriend likes me since past 7 years and we had been in commitment since last 4 years but due to her fear of being in relationship she breaks with me within 15 days or a month and comes back after 6 months or some gap because she miss me every time also she has been the only girl ever in my life. initially i didn't knew how to handle my relationship and was too much of possessive about her but after 3 years of relation i have changed a lot and want to be with her for rest of my life but again like before her fear for being in relationship haunts her how can i make her understand that i can be the perfect guy and would make her feel special all the time and she need not to be afraid of relationship anymore? (link)
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I'll first tell you to sit down with her and talk to her. If she has some issues about the past between you two, then you guys need to work that out. You can let her know things are different and tell you you'd like to really be in a relationship with her. If she agrees, then tell her you're not happy with an on and off relationship. You understand she has problems but you've changed and if she wants this, she needs to work on her problems.
If it ends up happening again, don't get back together until she seeks help. She might need professional help with this situation.
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Hi, I am a 20 year old from Nevada. So I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He would not mention his one ex because he thought that I wouldn't know her. Finally, I asked for him to show me whether I knew her or not. He showed me and she was the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She is tan, curvy, fit, thick long hair, gorgeous smile, perfect green eyes, and everyone seems to love her. He says that her beauty is fake and created only by makeup. He also said the reason why he broke up with her is because he had found out that she had sex with all of his friends. For some reason I can't find myself to believe him. With a girl as beautiful as that, I feel like a downgrade. I feel more insecure than ever and I don't even know. What do I do? How should I even feel? What now? (link)
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You shouldn't be feeling this insecure. He's with you now, he wants to be with you, not her. He finds you attractive and it doesn't matter whether her beauty was created by make up or not. You don't personally know her, you don't know what she's really like. Even if she was the nicest girl in the world, you need to start working on your confidence or else you'll lose your boyfriend just because you thought his ex was better than you.
Believe it or not, looks aren't everything. He's happy with you, let it be and don't try to ruin what you guys have.
So my advice is to start working on your confidence, forget this other girl, and enjoy what you have with your boyfriend.
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Please help! I'm a teenager and my parents just got divorced. While they were still married, I found out that my dad had been cheating on my mom, and she knew this too. He had been calling 'the other woman' in secret and buying her lots of fancy things we can't afford, taking away from my childhood needs such as the books I wanted for my birthday but never got. (I also asked for these for Christmas but still didn't receive them). This other woman knew that my dad was married but went on cheating with him. I am so mad about this; as a parent, who can say that they did this? Imagine the hurt on the kid! How can I get revenge on the 'other woman'? Please help. BTW, my mom is really hurt by this. So, once again, revenge ideas, please? Thank you. (link)
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Divorce is hard no matter what the situation is. It's ten times harder when there is cheating and betrayal involved.
Rahzie already listed the reasons why betrayal won't work. Even though we'd like it to work out like it does in the movies, it just doesn't happen that way.
Cheating is selfish. And parents don't realize how much it ends up hurting the children involved.
Even though you're mad at this other woman, getting revenge on her won't solve the problem. I mean it's more your dads fault than it is hers. I mean he's the one who had a family and a wife, not her.
I think you need to talk to someone about this instead of trying to seek revenge. You'll still be angry about it when you do whatever you planned on doing and it won't change what happened. So you should talk to your parents. Let your mom know how upset you are by this, she'll comfort you and talk to you. She's hurt too but she's not seeking revenge. You can also talk to your dad and tell him how angry you are. You have every right to be angry.
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So my best friend (Let's just call her Lucy) and I have been close for nearly 5 months. It may not seem that long, but she means a lot to me. Well she recently moved to a different school a few weeks ago and came in contact with one of her old best friends (Let's call her Gina). Ever since she moved, Lucy has been telling other people and making statuses on Facebook and stuff like that saying Gina is her best friend and that she would die for her.
Well..... A few days ago, we got in a fight (Just a stupid tiny friend argument) and she started calling me names and stuff. Well she texted me recently and we had a good conversation and stuff, but I just don't want to lose her. Any advice please? (link)
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It's ok for her to have another best friend, it's pretty much natural since she spends more time with this other girl now.
Even though it sucks, it just happens that way. You'll feel closer to people who you're with more often.
I think you should try to keep contact with her and put effort into your friendship. Although it will take ten times more effort since you guys don't see each other as often, if you want to keep this friendship going, you're going have to work extra hard. So text her every few days, try hanging out on weekends, ect.
If you're feeling insecure about losing her friendship, then let her know. Tell her that you love her and you value your friendship and you don't want to lose her as a friend. I'm sure she'll assure you that she cares about you just the same.
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Please my girlfriend is a virgin and is 19 years old.I wanted to have sex with her but she keep on telling me that she will not do it until we got married.How should I convince her to have sex with me (link)
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You don't.
If she doesn't want to have sex until she is married, you respect that because she is your girlfriend. If you try to convince her to do otherwise, you're not respecting her wishes and her boundaries and it would make you a bad boyfriend.
If you care about this girl at all, you'll drop trying to have sex with her and let her come to you. If she changes her mind, she will let you know but you need to be patient and not try to pressure her or convince her to have sex with you when she's not ready.
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Hey there! I'm asking for my friend here for some advice. Her ex and her broke up last Tuesday and she still can't get over him. Then today, my best guy friend (who had a crush on her) asked her out and she said yes. She doesn't know what to do now. She still can't get over the other guy but has a new boyfriend? What can she do? (She likes my best friend though but can't get over her ex) (link)
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She wants to move on. But obviously, this isn't the right way to do it.
If she's asking for advice from you, then tell her that she should explain to her now current boyfriend that she's not ready and she said yes because she really does like him, but at the same time isn't over her ex. So just tell her to ask him for some more time because she's not ready for a relationship yet.
I'm sure he really likes her, so he'll understand. Jumping too fast will just mostly end in heartbreak for the both of them.
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I was badly burned in an accident. Im recovering but I have noticed that I miss a guy greatly. We were friends and started getting in a relationship but it ended before it started. Its been years but I think we should give it a shot. But we mainly talk in texts. And when I dont get a reply I get really anxious and sad. I feel like its unhealthy.could it be that I need some sort of comforting. I dont want to get attached. Any advice? (link)
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I would tell you to go ahead and give it a shot. But before you decide to make that move, I'd get yourself straightened out first. You're interested in him enough to be anxious and sad if he doesn't reply, and I wouldn't say that's a good thing because that will lower your confidence.
So first remind yourself that if he doesn't reply, he's not that interested and just leave him alone and not try to continue talking to him.
I'd say when you guys are texting you should just say we should hang out. Or better yet, have something in mind like a time and place. Because when most people say, "we should hang out", it never happens.
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here goes: last week my boy friend told my that he cuts.and i dont know how to react. should i be cool or spaz out? (link)
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You shouldn't freak out about it. That wouldn't be the right thing to do.
What you should do is talk to him. Let him know you care for him and that you are always there for him and you're there to talk to him whenever he needs you. But you also need to encourage him to talk to an adult. Cutting is a serious problem that should not be taken lightly. I mean he may not be trying to kill himself, but if he accidentally cuts a vein, he could end up dying. So he needs to stop because his health is in danger.
If he doesn't tell an adult, then you should. He may get upset or mad at you, but it's better to have him alive and mad at you than hurting himself or even dead. You don't want that, so you need to let either your parents know and they can talk to his parents, or you can tell his parents, or you can talk to a teacher or school counselor and tell them what's going on.
Eventually he'll realize that what you did was because you care about him. Don't freak out on him, don't be mean or anything. Just tell him that you're there for him and ask him to tell an adult. So if he decides not to, you should do it.
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Okay a guy that's in most of my classes knows where I live. He lives REALLY close to me, only one complex away, and I'm just really scared about it. Not that he's a creep or anything, but I don't want him talking to my parents and stuff like that. About like a month ago, I was annoying him I guess and he said "Don't make me tell your dad you've been bad" or something like that. He said it jokingly, but I'm still scared that he might actually tell my parents something. I saw him walking around like in the front of my house today (I'm guessing he was just trying to get to his complex or something) but I don't know if he saw me or not. How do I deal with this? Without confronting him. (link)
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I don't really know how to answer the question, "How do I deal with this?" Because you really don't have anything do deal with. Unless he was stalking you or harassing you or something, you really have nothing to worry about.
He probably won't talk to your parents. You said he said it jokingly anyways. You might just be over thinking all of this and he probably hasn't thought about it since. If he was serious about it, he would've already talked to them.
So I think you should just forget about this. Also, maybe try not to annoy people. I mean if you're doing something that your parents wouldn't approve of, then you probably shouldn't do it.
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