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A guy I don't like knows where I live..
Okay a guy that's in most of my classes knows where I live. He lives REALLY close to me, only one complex away, and I'm just really scared about it. Not that he's a creep or anything, but I don't want him talking to my parents and stuff like that. About like a month ago, I was annoying him I guess and he said "Don't make me tell your dad you've been bad" or something like that. He said it jokingly, but I'm still scared that he might actually tell my parents something. I saw him walking around like in the front of my house today (I'm guessing he was just trying to get to his complex or something) but I don't know if he saw me or not. How do I deal with this? Without confronting him.
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Don't worry about him talking to your parents. As a parent myself I don't care what some other child has to say about my child. It would actually be quite annoying unless it had something to do with the safety of my child in some way. I highly doubt he would have the courage to approach your parents anyway. If you are annoying him in some way clearly you are dealing with him in some way shape or form. If you are afraid or uncomfortable with him for some reason you should distance yourself in every way.
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I don't really know how to answer the question, "How do I deal with this?" Because you really don't have anything do deal with. Unless he was stalking you or harassing you or something, you really have nothing to worry about.
He probably won't talk to your parents. You said he said it jokingly anyways. You might just be over thinking all of this and he probably hasn't thought about it since. If he was serious about it, he would've already talked to them.
So I think you should just forget about this. Also, maybe try not to annoy people. I mean if you're doing something that your parents wouldn't approve of, then you probably shouldn't do it.
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It doesn't sound like he's stalking you or anything so as i see it, there's nothing to 'confront' him about.
Since you live in the same neighborhood, same block, its natural for him to know where you live. It isn't a crime for someone to know where a schoolmate lives.
It sounds like you 're over thinking this and letting your imagination run wild with scenerio's that are very unlikely to come true.
If you could tell from the incident that he was joking, then why would you think he'd seriously come talk to your parents. This was a month ago? Seriously...if he wanted to say something he would have done so immediately. I don't know of any teens who normally go running off to friends or classmates parents and ratting on them. It's not something most teens do.
Now lets get down to what you actually did to him. Annoying him? Was he really acting annoyed, and what were you doing to pick on him in the first place. Unless you were copying and going along with the crowd and everyone was picking on him, if it was pretty much just you, I'd have to question your statement that you don't like him. One of the things teens do when they are interested in someone is pay attention to that person, whether it is positive or negative attention.
Picking on someone to tease or annoy is a way of acknowledging that you noticed they exist, otherwise most people don't even waste the effort or time to go out of their way to plan on what to do to someone they aren't interested in. Staring and glancing at a person often, finding excuses to be near a person and picking on someone are ways of paying attention when interested.
Soooo....either you've been lying to yourself that you are not interested in him, that you aren't even a bit intrigued and might like him,
...or you feel very guilty about how you treated him a month ago and are still feeling bad about it and can't let it go as he most likely has. If thats the case, go tell him you're sorry for whatever it was you did to annoy him, apologize and reassure him that you won't ever do it again.
then you can continue your life with a free conscience not fearing retaliation. Just in case theres a chance for friendship, there's nothing wrong with being best friends with a guy, even if you don't feel romantically towards him at all. Just make sure you make that clear early on after having become friends. Good luck dear
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