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So it love
So lately my boyfriend and i of 1.5 years have been haning out each weekend if possible because we are kind of long distance. I noticed that weve been just having like heavy petting and intimate touching. And like we do talk about ourselves an joke around while we do those things. But yesterday he seemed to disrespect the fact that i wanted to wait until im out of school until i have sex. And then i started thinking and i was wondering if im being used because even though our relationship started out as those sweet days wherer we only joked around anf ay modt kiss, every since we started venturing further weve been doing less off the just talking to each other and more touching. And we broke up for 3 months and then got back together for a month already. And so i dont know ehat to do about my insecurities about his feelings for me and insecurities about myself. Plus my friend told me a story about this guy who wad in the perfect relationship with yhis girl but even still the guy wanted to have sex with my friend. And so it threw my over the edge.
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You need to be open and honest with him. You don't have to straight up tell him that you think he's using you but tell him that you feel like all you guys have been doing is messing around and you really want to have a real relationship where you do more talking and spending quality time together rather than messing around most of the time.
If he loves you and cares about your feelings at all, he will agree.
If you felt disrespected by him, tell him that. Tell him you care about him, but yesterday you felt disrespected about the fact that you want to wait to have sex and you don't want to feel any pressure to go more than what you are comfortable with.
If he tries to reason with you or push you to give in, he doesn't care about your feelings or your boundaries and that really is disrespectful.
Just talk to him. Communication is key to every relationship.
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