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I think my best friend found a new best friend..
So my best friend (Let's just call her Lucy) and I have been close for nearly 5 months. It may not seem that long, but she means a lot to me. Well she recently moved to a different school a few weeks ago and came in contact with one of her old best friends (Let's call her Gina). Ever since she moved, Lucy has been telling other people and making statuses on Facebook and stuff like that saying Gina is her best friend and that she would die for her.
Well..... A few days ago, we got in a fight (Just a stupid tiny friend argument) and she started calling me names and stuff. Well she texted me recently and we had a good conversation and stuff, but I just don't want to lose her. Any advice please?
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I know how you feel, I've been through the same but it's just life maybe try to talk to her, tell her how you feel because you can't keep bad feelings inside you forever !!! But if your feelings get really really bad this May sound a bit crazy but try to move schools to where your best friend is . I know that sounds crazy but sometimes feelings can get worse!!! But try not to think about it try and find another new best friend in the school that your in ! If she was mean to you try and find a better friend and maybe talk to them about it!!!
I hope my advice helped :)
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It's ok for her to have another best friend, it's pretty much natural since she spends more time with this other girl now.
Even though it sucks, it just happens that way. You'll feel closer to people who you're with more often.
I think you should try to keep contact with her and put effort into your friendship. Although it will take ten times more effort since you guys don't see each other as often, if you want to keep this friendship going, you're going have to work extra hard. So text her every few days, try hanging out on weekends, ect.
If you're feeling insecure about losing her friendship, then let her know. Tell her that you love her and you value your friendship and you don't want to lose her as a friend. I'm sure she'll assure you that she cares about you just the same.
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This is my opinion. I think just because she is with Gina more, doesn't mean that she has replaced you. People can have more than one best friend.
If you feel replaced by your best friend then you should tell her how you feel.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Its much easier to feel close to and develop a closer relationship with a person that you have more contact with....this principal is how it works whether for best friends and for dating relationships and marriages. A healthy friendship relationship is going to need quality time spent together which is pretty much impossible with your friend having moved to a different school. It is just natural to gravitate toward the person that is more easily accessible. Life brings changes like this that we can't anticipate. Also, as we mature and grow, we tend to develop new interests that might take us in a different direction than our friends, or one moves away to college in another state and meets and marries someone there. Keeping in touch with someone you were once much closer to is a good thing to do...simply to share whats going on in your life and update each other. I have done that with people who were once real close and have for one reason or another left my life due to new jobs, new homes, new schools, and eventually new relationships or interests that took up even more time. Its all part of life. We have to learn to flow with the changes and cope with how we feel like emotionally. Its not a situation your friend could help, the moving away part, so do not hold it against her or blame her for the changes that are happening because of her living elsewhere and picking up with an old friend. Try not to be bitter or jealous. Negative energies like these if you choose to wallow in them will send out an invisible shield that others in your school will sense and feel and tend to not want to approach you as a friend, tending to make you feel even more despondent and lonely. Keep up a cheery friendly attitude and look for someone who currently doesnt seem to have many friends, or perhaps someone new to your school. Let the school office and counselors know that you'd be glad to be a buddy and helper to any new students coming to the school, help them find classes, that sort of stuff. Some you may find things in common with.
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