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need to get over this crush
F/13
Ok I have this crush on this guy for awhile and I really want to get over it .I'm not a feeling person nor am I someone who would tell someone I like them ,so I need help getting over him.every time I'm around him,I always end up saying something stupid.he doesn't even notice me ,the only time he would notice me is when I'm with friends.I know he doesn't like me because he hardley talks to me ,n when we do he seems to see me as a friend way ,I tried avoiding him at school but I don't I try to get him to notice me n I hate it .I just want it to be over.I try talking to new people but it doesn't work .please I need help
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Hmm, I don't know if I would try avoiding him, I actually would try to just be nice to him, and be his friend, in doing so you may find that maybe he isn't "all that." Also, don't assume that he doesn't like you, it sounds to me like he may not even know you that well, if he is your age, he's trying to figure things out as he goes, even if he plays it off like he is confident, trust me, guys at that age are anything BUT confident and cool on the inside.
If thinking about him is making you miserable, promise yourself that every time you think of him, STOP, do something else...paint your nails, read a book, call a girl friend, bake cookies, take a walk, ride a bike, play a video game, write a story, do something for YOU. Talking to new people is a good idea too, stick with it, and give it time....trust me, it gets better. Very few of us have met "the love of our lives" at 13.
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You just need to give it time. Sometimes having a crush sucks, you're 13 so you're going to have so, so many more crushes.
Besides giving it time, I'd say just use your time wisely. Don't give yourself time to sit there and daydream about him. Go out with your friends, have a good time and do your best not to talk about him. Maybe try new things. There are so many things you can learn and it's ten time easier to learn things when you're your age so go for it!
Try not to go out of your way to talk to him or anything either. I know you said you try to avoid him, but I don't think that will do much either. Just accept that he's going to be around and don't try to over think it too much. Just let it be and give yourself time to move on.
I'd also say that there is something about this guy that you really like. What is it? I mean besides the he's cute, nice and funny? Because you can find lots of guys like that. There are some specific qualities about him that you like, look for them in other guys and eventually you'll find yourself liking one of them.
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You're only 13. Over the next 10 years or more, you will find yourself crushing on guys all the time. Its a natural process, nothing that needs to be avoided or find a way to get over.
Unless the problem is that you are crushing on someone with your subconscious mind and your awake or conscious mind doesnt like this particular boy.
Another possibility, one that many teens suffer from is being a bit shy or not too self assured.
If you want to find a way to get over your attraction to him, and you can discover a way that works for you, will you continue to use it your whole life as a way to avoid changing some things about yourself as far as learning to overcome that awkward feeling when meeting others.
Most people tend to redirect their attention by focusing on a new hobbby or other interests and leaving no time to daydream about the crush. I can't say it works for everyone. Sometimes, these crushes just have to go through their time course...and eventually after some time gos by, you will find yourself get over him. But what happens if you begin to crush over another guy soon after, or the guy with whom no trick helps you to stop focusing on him. If you want to learn to become more self assured, less shy, there are many great videos on you tube. Let me know if you want a list of things to do to overcome your shyness or awkwardness in approaching people and talking to them. I'd be glad to send it to you.
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