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Heartbroken from ex ... new guy already?
Hey there! I'm asking for my friend here for some advice. Her ex and her broke up last Tuesday and she still can't get over him. Then today, my best guy friend (who had a crush on her) asked her out and she said yes. She doesn't know what to do now. She still can't get over the other guy but has a new boyfriend? What can she do? (She likes my best friend though but can't get over her ex)
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Tell her that this is normal. She needs to have time to heal before jumping into a new relationship. Dating guys is what she should be doing now. Eventually she will get over her ex because she will develop feelings for her new boyfriend. But it's honestly just going to be really hard to forget about her ex the first couple months because she was probably really close to him and she might still have lots of feelings for him. She needs to stay busy because then she won't think about him that much. But if she wants to continue this new relationship, she shouldn't give herself to this new guy and make it go really fast. She should take everything easy. If she wants she can tell the new guy that she and her ex just broke up. Probably talk to your best guy friend and let him know whats up. Be there for her like a sister because she will need you more than ever right now.
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She wants to move on. But obviously, this isn't the right way to do it.
If she's asking for advice from you, then tell her that she should explain to her now current boyfriend that she's not ready and she said yes because she really does like him, but at the same time isn't over her ex. So just tell her to ask him for some more time because she's not ready for a relationship yet.
I'm sure he really likes her, so he'll understand. Jumping too fast will just mostly end in heartbreak for the both of them.
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When trying to get over a breakup, sometimes the thing that works well for lots of people is to find something to distract them, take their attention off of thinking about the ex. For some, it's a new activity or hobby, I suppose for someone else, a new friend or boyfriend.
If she said yes cus she wants the distraction, but isn't emotionally ready and may not continue to date the guy once she's finally processed through her breakup, then she needs to be honest with your best friend, tell him right up front that:
She isn't emotionally ready to get into another dating relationship, so she's trying to be honest and not get his hopes up that anything real may come from it. Since she's on the rebound, she's not even sure if she would really be interested in a dating relationship right now. She doesn't want him to feel disappointed when she can't be fully there emotionally and otherwise with him. She does like him as a person but whether it eventually could turn into a true honest dating relationship, she isn't making any promises.
If he is willing to just be a friend to her and be there to help keep her mind off her ex, no matter how it turns out, then thats good. If he was hoping for a girl fully ready to Date him, without hurting over the breakup, and can't handle her mourning for an ex while hanging out with him, then he needs to back out and be honest and tell her he likes her alot but couldn't handle that. He will wait for her until she is over her ex and then ask her again to go out.
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