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I need a guys opinion please...old bf back in my life
I am talking to a old bf i used to have 5 years ago. We have been talking for about a month and the sparks are flying high for one another. A couple of days ago he had asked me for a picture, so i gave it to him. Yesterday he had asked me for another one, I said no because I had 0 and he had 1. He of course pleaded and begged me to give him one. So I asked for my friends advice and she said just to give him one. I ended up giving him 3 pictures b/c my friend said they all looked nice. I was waiting for him to give me one of him but he never did. that night he called me just wanting to talk. While we were on the phone he was texting someone, for some reason I have the feeling that he was texting another girl because what guy at night while he is talking to a girl be texting a guy? Am i right?! LOL I pretended like it didn't bother me or i didn't notice. While i was on the phone with him all of the sudden it went silent like i was placed on hold...so i just hung up ...After my night shift ended and i was driving home thinking about what happened last night i feel like the idiot that gave him 4 pictures in total when i don't have any! and the texting thing while i was on the phone also bothers me....I'm so mad and so hurt that i just started to ignore him...well i guessed he noticed because now his text says why are you ignoring me? and idk what to reply!!
Please help...btw I know for a fact he doesn't have a gf
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Well, you don't mention how old you two are because that could be a factor. But even without that info, I can give you my thoughts and hope they will help.
I wouldn't think the fact that he asked you for a single photo or even a few is strange at all. He might want them to use as his computer background or cell phone wallpaper or something along those lines. Maybe he even wants to show the photos to his friends rather than just talking about how much he likes you.
On the other hand, I do find it a bit strange that he hasn't been willing to send any to you. That would make me a little leery.
I can tell you from personal experience, there have been times when I was on the phone with a girl and doing other things like emailing or messaging with someone. Sometimes there just aren't enough hours in the day to not have to multi-task. A lot of the times this happened to me was when I was dealing with something for work.
I've also had girls do the same to me.
Personally, I wouldn't be overly suspicious about there being another girl. However, if it bothers you, I'd try to mention it is a subtle way.
You said he's being texting you asking why you have been ignoring him. Maybe you should respond to those texts saying something like - "I left like you might have had something else on your mind during our conversations. What's going on?"
Basically, don't accuse him or anything but make your feelings about his lack of attention toward your conversation be known. See where things go from there.
Good luck.
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You are over thinking the situation
You both aren't dating, If he wants a picture of you don't give him one. You are not obligated to give anything to him nor do you owe him anything. If he IS interested in you, Then he will make you a priority and effort to contact you. I would maybe hold off on how much you give out to him, Hold off on what you tell him etc. There shouldn't be any rush, I disagree with this friend of yours. Sparks don't fly out of revealing pictures of yourself. Sending photo's maybe will make him want you more and if it does, Then you know it was for all the wrong reasons. Don't give yourself out to be easy or desperate, If he is ignoring you then fuck him all together. It could be possible that he has a girlfriend or someone else he is talking too. If you really want to know if he likes you for you then hold off and see if he reaches out too you. Stop contacting him and wait too see if he comes around, If not then move on. If you both end up meeting up, Take things slow. Taking it slow is how you will find out of he is really into you or not or if he is playing you while he has another chick on the side.
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You are making conclusions when none are there. You're putting too much thought and feelings into pictures and a text you know nothing about. This is causing you to punish an ex you seem to like and that seems to like you.
Are the pictures really that important? If so, tell him. Is the text really all that bothersome? If so, tell him instead of ignoring him. I can pretty much guarantee you that you are the only one putting all this thought into this. He likely doesn't know why you're hurt and he is asking you why you're ignoring him, so he at least cares that much.
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