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I am 16 years old and have this wanting of sex...My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 3 months now...We have talked about it and both really want to do it. ... But were scared of gettin pregnant...and scared that our parents will find out and we want be able to date each other any more..what do we do?
Signed, Wanting


There is one way to prevent pregnancy, and if you use it right, it will work...

the condom.

or if you've both been tested and none of you have aids/clymydia/warts/crabs/whatever, you can use the Pill.


I doubt your parents will find out unless you tell them or someone else tells them or unless they accidentally walk in on you. And anyway, what are their chances of discovering your evil secret? It's all in a bedroom, riiiight?


hope i helped!!!

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I'm sorta chubby, and i have been invited to a pool party. anybody have anty good ideas wear to get a suite for a c36 5'5" 160pd girl?

please i really don't want to look like a fool!

A one-piece would probably look better on your figure than a two-piece, depending really on how chubby you are. You can use your good judgement on that.

Also, from personal experience, you will only look like a fool if you act like a fool. Just stay (or at least act) cool about it. My best friend Lana is kind of chubby, but she's the most popular girl in school because she's so nice to everyone and she's so cool about her slight chubbiness.

hang in there, babe!

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ok i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. and the other day he questionedme about my arm.(i used to cut myself about 5 months ago) and then after i told him about it he told me that about 6 months ago his firend which i hate to death(i hope she chokes and dies) took advantage of him when he was drunk.she really likes him and she cant seem to understand that he is mine. i would kick her ass but me and my boyfriend are in a long distance realtionship so bascaially i cant do that. my boyfriend has yelled at her about and all but she still doesnt understand. i dont know if i should be mad at him or her? i know he didnt mean what he did becuse even with the distace he sends me flowers, and candy. he has even sent jewler to me. can some one please help me! i am confussed and i love this guy and i cant leave him.

I can see why you wanna kick this other chick's ass. She sounds like a bitch to me. Just don't confront her because you could also make an enemy. Everyone has an enemy, I know, but if it's your boyfriend's friend, you'll have your man in the middle of it all, he'll feel pressured to choose between the two of you, and that's not good, so try try TRY not to get be mean to her if you can help it. He might think you're being a jealous jerk so do it for him, not for your own sake unless she does sumthing bad to you. then you can bite back. Even with her on his back, it sounds like he likes you, not her because he seems to think of you even though you are in a distant relationship.

You don't need to leave him. Just ignore that girl.

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I want this one Japanese movie that has English subtitles. Problem is NO ONE has it. If you could name stores or websites that carry the movie, Battle Royale. Please help me out. I will rate high.

Go to www.battleroyalemovie.net

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i want to go on a diet. every is like "no you are so skinny!" which is true, but i want to stay skinny! im not trying to loose weight, im trying to maintain it! so please help me out on ways to do that!


If you're skinny, consider it a blessing!!!

You don't need to go on a diet.


Just eat a lot of fruits and vegetables.

Cut down of foods with trans fat and
saturated fat.

Eat SmartBalance butter instead of
margarine and butter. It's healthy and
recommended by doctors.

Don't eat fast food!!!!

Don't eat a lot of fried foods
If you like French Fries, chop the
potatoes, brush them with olive oil,
and bake.

Use semolina flour in your cakes (whole
wheat flour is kind of prudish)

Exercise. If you hate exercise, try
dancing ballet/jazz/tap/hiphop! Or
cheerleading if you're really preppy.
It's a lot of fun!!!

Eat pretzels instead of potato chips

Vegetarian chili over rice is REALLY
good (and healthy)

Pasta has less carbohydrates

Eat popcorn instead of corn chips

Eat rice puffs istead of Cheetos

Eat poultry instead of red meat (beef)

Avocados are very fattening

If you're a vegetarian, eat steamed soy
beans instead of meat. It sounds nerdy
and prudish, but it's actually really
good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fresh or frozen peas taste a lot better
than canned.

Hope I helped!!!

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i know this is gross but is it bad if your poop is really green? (two days in a row)



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im 13/f and i like a guy that is 16. i have known him since i was born and he was my sisters friend, but then we moved to dallas and now he still lives in seattle. so i just saw him a couple of days ago and now i like him ALOT and like idk wat to do. ive known him my whole! life! and like...he has a gf in california and hes had her for like a few yrs and like they see eachother every month! and like i want to move back to seattle not only b/c of him but my old friends and stuff too. so is there ne thing i can do to like make him like me or stay in touch. BTW i dont have his sn but my sister will get it but like i dont want to tlk to him on that b/c i never really talked to him. HELP!
p.s this is my sn if you can im me for more help! ilove50centmore and that is on aim! plzz help!!!

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My guy friend is mad at me. I called him a couple days ago to apologize and he didn't listen to me...I didn't even do anything!! I just said something after he pissed me off! But I've known him sooo long and I don't wanna ruin our friendship over something as stupid as this! Should I apologize again??? Help!


I think he just overreacted. He needs time to cool off. Wait a while and try again. If he sincerely considers you a friend, he'll get over it.

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Hey i love my jeans with holes in them and i have a couple pair of jeans without holes in them. i was wondering how i could put holes in them so it looked natural not like i just took scissors and just cut a hole in them. thank you! xoxo_*

cut your pants, then pull out the thread so it looks frayed. :)

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ok so help plz c the problem is i have a big nose brown hair and eyes and a small upper lip and i always keep my hair down i wanted to know what kind of makeup to wear what kind of clothes to wear and what kind of hair styles i should do. thanx love ya


Big noses should be complimented with black eyeliner. Wear eyeshadow in dark hues. And if you're old enough, wear dark lipstick with lipliner. But if you're not at least 15, it can make you look like a whore. And don't wear it with eyeliner, either. It looks overdone. Just wear one ot the other.

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ok my BEST guy friend might like me. i'm not sure if he does because his close friend-who is also my close friend-says that he probably does like me.
the reason i don't think he does or that i'm like, pessimistic about it is because we are like, so close as friends that i don't think that we would be anything different.
but the reason why i think he might is because: 1) his/my friend thinks so 2) he called me randomly just to talk (and he usually doesn't do that) 3) he said (while on the phone) 'oh i see ------- (his friend) he's gonna ask me who i'm on the phone with and i'm gonna say a hot girl...cuz its true.' 4) after he said this (and he said it like--seriously) i was like oh i'm sure (me=no self esteem...so i DON'T take compliments well) and he was like 'i love you' and i didn't hear him so i was like what? and he was like 'i love you!'
can you tell me what he might be thinking or feeling...thanx in advance
p.s. sorry for the length


Yeah, he probably likes you. If a guy flirts so outrageously, he usually likes you.

...But as I AWLAYS say (it's a lil old now, but it's true) NEVER assume a guy likes you unless he tells you. Directly. Even if your 99.9999% sure. You might spill the beans to a friend, and she'll tell someone else, and gossip gets around FAST and he might be embarassed. So just be on your guard.

Hope I helped :)

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okay so in advance im sorry if this is long but please read and help anyways.

okay me and my boyfriend went out for 10 months and we had a good relationship but last weeekend was my birthday and my party .. it was a campout and well pretty much the whole time he was with one of my best friends, theyre friends too but shes a girl and they were cuddling, and all this stuff, well i guess she kissed him on the cheek and i got mad cuz like it was my bday and he was with her so we fought about it and he said i was jealous .. well then since we were fighting he would barely talk, so i left a message on his AIM away and said that if he wouldnt help and talk with me to work it all out then i was gunna give up cuz i was sick of trying to fix it by myself, well he took it as a breakup .. but i didnt..and i want him back but hes comfused he says and he says that its hard and everything and hes not sure if he wants me back or to be friends but he really cares about me still and loves me alot he said but he said alot more but i cant really type everything it would take a long time but i guess im really wondering is what do you think i should do..?


sorry its long but i cant do it on my own and i really love him.

btw im 15/f


Green-eyed monsta taken over you, huh?


Maybe he was just cuddling that other chick becuz he was her friend and friends cuddle sumtimes and maybe she likes him since she kissed him on the cheek (I can see why u r pissed about THAT), and maybe you took it a little too seriously.

That could also be a sign (hate to break it to you) that he's onto a new girl and he doesn't know how to say it to you, or feels guilty breaking up with you for another girl

Pull him aside and talk to him where you have privacy. You could reuinite. Or not.

Just keep your eyes open. If he still bobs around that other girl and won't talk 2 u, break up. If not, you can go from there.

hope i helped

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ok well my best friend died in a car accident last year and last friday i like, saw him. like a ghost or something, idk. but the weird thing is, i see him all the time now. but only when my best freind whos a guy is around. i was afraid to tell my best friend this, but i did and he said that my friend who died might think hes being replaced by him.. what do you think? am i going totally crazy?


No, you're not goin crazy. I think that you just miss your friend and you've been hallucinating cuz your alive friend is a guy and reminds you of "him."

But if you're superstitious (I'm not sry), I doubt that your friend's ghost would think he's being replaced, cuz if he did, you'd see him elsewhere.

hope i helped :)

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what do you do if you broke up with ur bf because of family problems and u still really like him a lot and you want to go back out with him but hes afriad you'll break up with him again? ill rate high!


Give it a chance. If you don't, you'll have a 0% chance of going with him again, but if you do, you'll have at the very least a 1% chance (or more!). Tell him that you didn't mean it and that you still like him, and If he doesn't want to go out with you anymore, than you can go from there.

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Hey, does anyone know the recipe and directions for Orange Julius?
I made it in home ec and i loved it and i wanna make it again. i rate, thanks


An Orange Julius is where you blend orange juice, crushed ice, and honey all together. It's really good. Hope I helped.

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but he's one of the reasons i faight so hard to stop the dumb habit. i hadn't cut in almost 6months n the 2months i've been really happy. should i end it cause one fight???
thanks


First of all, don't fight so hard to stop because of him. Fight hard to stop for yourself. Do it for your own good.

Second of all, what he did was pretty bad though, I'm sorry to say. Laughing at you hurting yourself (saying u were cute when u were mad)means that he doesn't care about you. If he really cares about you, he would've apologized and tried to help you.

You can tell a lot about a person by one fight. This guy is not worthwhile. Break up with him.

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I always seem to ask my self this question..

Why is it that im only visible when people need something to do?

Its seems to always be true that people are really nice and stuff to me only when they actually need something to do..why is this?
thanks a bunch! ill rate you for a good answer!


People are just really rude. If you're not like everyone else, or you have something that others don't have, they just use you when they need something. When this happens, don't do what they want. Just find a real friend.

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My bf and I just had a big fight. I'm a pretty emotional person, and i warn him a lot about that. Well he started pushing my buttons said i was lazy (after all i've done today was work and clean) and that i didnt try hard enough in school cause i didnt get straight A's cause of French and a 11th grade math class (only a freshman folks) and it upset me to the point where i picked up a razor set it down. took tumbtacks n stabbed my wrist with them. i stopped cutting awhile ago. i was gona break up with him cause i dont wanna start cutting agian. but he really usualy makes me happy. then he had to go n i was a bitch n said like hell u do. and im upset that i got so mad at him. did i have ne reason to?
Also, i told him to go away leave me alone n shit put up aways but he kept pestering me. saying i was cute when i was mad. or it was funny or sumtin.
why so emotional??? or is he being a dick?


Yes, I think he was totally being a pig. It was very wrong of him try and make you feel bad for not getting straight A's, especially since u r only a freshman and he doesn't know the circumstances. Just don't try and hurt yourself! You should try to control that. Hold your breath and slowly count to 10. Then break up with him. Why would you want to be with a guy who purposely pushes your buttons????

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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.


His friend keeps on looking at you, huh? that could be a good sign, but then again, it could mean that he likes you, or you had a piece of gum on your face.

Does he like you? I'm not really sure. Guys don't usually express that they have a crush on you by staring. My personal experience tells me that usually they express it through talking to you a lot, or teasing (not mean teasing) or flirting. But then again, not everyone is alike...

Here are some ways.



1. When he's going to his next class, stand aabout 7 feet away from him and lock eyes for 5
seconds. If he likes you, he might blush or smile. Or he might do other things. You can use your good judgement on that.



2. Have a friend go up to him and say that you just got a boyfriend. Have her tell you about his expression. This way is not always the most accurate way, because you are finding it out indirectly, or she might be exaggerating.


But whatever you do, NEVER make the assumption that he likes you unless you are 100% sure (I mean unless he tells you personally. Friends can sometimes exaggerate things.). Once I was totally in love with this really cute guy. He asked me to dance at the Winter Ball and sent me a carnation for Valentines Day. I was so thrilled and I accidentally spilled the beans to some friends. Gossip went all over the grade. I discovered that he had only delivered the carnation for another guy. He had a g/f, I hated it, and he hates me to this day. So don't make that mistake.

I hope this helps. Hang in there, babe!




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Okay, I'm 13, weigh about 160, and am about 5'1". I have a flabby tummy and legs and I'd really like to get rid of this as fast as possible!!! Can someone either give me a list or show me to a website that has a list of foods that are healthy for me and would help me lose weight? I know about fruits and veggies, but what about other snacks? I've heard pretzels are ok, but what else? Oh, and what are some good streches and exercises? Thank you guys so much!!!!


here are some healthy snacks:

steamed soy beans (sounds yucky, but it's actually pretty good)

there are these packets of powder (i forgot what they're called, you can get them at Costco) that dissolve in water and it's carbonated, but it has lots of vitamins and things and they're really good.

popcorn. popcorn has lots of fiber.

pasta without butter. pasta is more nutritious than most carbohydrates

Odwalla SuperFood. It's like a smoothie made by Odwalla which has lots of green vegetables blended in.

there's this kind of butter which doctors recommend that is healthy and tastes just the same. I forgot what it's called, but the name is like Health-something. Check it out at the supermarket.


hang in there babe!

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