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ok, well my friend and i were really close. We had some troubles in the past but we always got through it. We finally went back to normal and i did something stupid. I kissed the guy she really liked and now she hates me, what should i do?

Well the first thing I would do is like apologize a million times. Tell her that you would do anything to make it up to her. But then you have to think: what do you want more? Something with this guy.. or a friendship to be ruined? Cause if you go with the friendship ( which you should cause you can't ruin a friendship over a guy ) just tell her you won't do anything more with that guy you promise ( i mean in ways of kissing,dating,etc. ) cause I mean you should still be abel to talk to him at least. And then give her time to think about everything, and give her some time to cool down, and then just call her back after a few days and apologize again and ask her if she has forgiven yet. And then if she says no, then just be like," Okay... I understand. Just once again, I'm sorry and I want to be friends again more than anything...I know I went behind your back, I'm sorry..just, please call me whenever you forgive me so I know and I won't be bothering you." ( or something like that ) so she understands how important the friendship is to you and yet you don't want to annoy her at the same time. But if you do want to go with this guy, then just try to explain to her how you feel about him. Just be like," I can't help it. I'm so sorry.. it's just I really like him, and he likes me back and I don't know what to do, because I want to be your friend still, but then again I like him...can we please just be friends still? Because I don't want to lose you ; but I don't want to lose him either." ( or something like that ) and if she does forgive.. don't really bring him with you guys anywhere for awhile or don't do anything with him in her face cause you'll only make her feel bad again, wait awhile and see if she's happier and feels better again ( maybe if she likes another guy ) cause then that means she's probably starting to get over it. I hope I helped!






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MELii

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okay, i really really like this guy. ive only hung out with him twice, he used to go to my school before i moved, but was in the next grade up & we didnt personally know eachother. well, he & his friend came over to my friends house one day while i was there. usually im pretty shy around guys, but since i didnt know him and didnt like him at the time i wasnt too worried. we had a lot of fun, and the next day the guys invited us over, well we ended up only getting to stay about 30 min because he had to go home. that was about two weeks ago and i havent seen him since, i live an hour and a half away but im constantly going back and visiting, so theres a possibility it could work out. which he even mentioned that. he says he likes me, and he knows i like him too. usually we dont have much to talk about, and im afraid ill lose my chance with him if i wait any longer to go to the next step. hes very very hott and i know he could get a lot of girls just by his personality (hes soo sweet) i want to hang out with him more & possibly eventually go out.. what should i do? ill rate high for good advice

Well that's good that you know you like eachother, so then whenever you do possibly ask him out/ he asks you, you'll be confident cause you know you like eachother and stuff. Just do what you said you wanted to do: hang out with him alot more..just hang out with him a few more times and then ask him out! =) Because it CAN work..my one friend and his girlfriend live like an hour or so apart too and they dated for almost 6 months! You guys'll just have to work harder at it, and if you're constantly over there now, it shouldn't be a problem anyways. And sometimes long-distance relationships are good because it shows that you guys care enough about eachother to want to make it work, which makes it even nicer =) I hope I helped!!






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MELii

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Okay, I'm 14 years old -female- and I need some advice. I got a job at this restuarant for the summer and theres this guy there that I like(16). He's just all over a really cool guy. He's really nice, and has a great personality, plus he's good looking, but I can't tell if he likes me back, and i don't know if I should give him my # or ask him to a movie or somethin. I do have this feeling that he likes me because of a few insidents such as: three days ago he was helpin me out with dishes (cuz it makes it alot easier to have 1 person loading and the other unloading) and I had gotten some tips from the servers(cuz im a hostess)and he said to me,"You have some money stickin out of your back pocket." I was just like "oh" and pushed it in some so it wouldn't fall out and then he said to me," It's Kinda sexy." I was shocked I didn't know what to say. So I picked up one of the buckets to wash it out and then I said," I see where your lookin." and he just laughed a little and said yeah. Plus he askes me about five times a day: Wazzup? or How's it goin? ( since I bus tables a lot and go in and out of the kitchen). I don't know what to do. I've had guys like me but I've never gone out with anyone, and I don't know how to act. Help me please. I need to know what to do, summers almost gone and my job will be over and i won't see him anymore.I need to let him know that i like him. I need help, badly.
Thanks a bunch,
Lioness

Well it sounds to me like this guy likes you -- I think you should ask him out! Just next time you see him just ask him! Oh and make it a horror so then you can be "scared" and move closer and stuff =P and it'll be something you can both enjoy since he's probably not gonna like a chick flick. But I'd also definetley get his number too so whenever the job's over, you can still contact eachother! Hope I helped!!




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MELii

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Hey Im really like my best guy friend and he knows i like him! I really wanna go out with him but i dont think he likes me back what should i do?

~*~ A friend of yours ~*~

(jade) lol
Mel i love ya ur the best freakin in the whole intire world!

Hey Jade! lol i love ya too! =) well here's your advice now haha:

Well what I might wanna try and ask a friend ( if any of them know him ) who he likes or what he thinks of you and see what he says. Or trying flirting with him and see how he reacts. See if he flirts back, cause then that obviously mean he must like you at least some ( unless he's just a flirter, but I don't think most people are like that ) but then again, I think if he knows he mighta done something, but then again, he just might be shy too. Just try having a friend ask or you could just ask him yourself. Just be like," Hey, I know you like me and I just wanted to know how you feel. If you feel the same will you go out with me? If not, then can we still at least be friends? Cause I don't want this to create anything awkward between us, I just still wanna be friends then." ( or something like that ) cause then if he says no, then at least you're still near him and talking to him and stuff and that's better than nothing, and it might be a little awkward at first, but it'll get better soon =) ( i was just currently in a similar situation, and everything is completly normal.. like it never happened ). I hope everything works out for you and I hope I helped!! =) =) =)






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MELii

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13/m hey i need advise on askin a girl out. im about to ask her out but then i get chicken. HELP!!! And i have never made-out with a girl and im 13. do most kids make out b4 13? And when will i no wen to kiss her?

Well if you're trying to ask her out whenever you're online or talking to her or on the phone with her or something then I can see how you can chicken out. You'll get very nervous and maybe not know what to say. So another good way is maybe telling her friend and having her friend tell her. Or another good way is to write her a note and give it to her, so she's not right then technically whenever you're asking her and there's no pressure except in waiting for a response...and I have never made-out with a boy.. I've never even kissed a boy yet and I'm 14..so it's completly normal if you haven't yet. How to know when to kiss her: Just wait until the right moment.. you'll know. =) I hope I helped!!







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MELii

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ok so i really like this guy *&& im pretty sure he likes me..and i want to ask him out or have him ask me out but i dont know how...do you have any ideas to get him to ask me out? (i hate asking out guys)

Well there really isn't a way to GET a guy to ask you out, he kinda has to do it on his own... the only thing I can really think of is to maybe have a friend talk to him. Just have her call him or something and be like," Hey do you like ___? ( he'll say yes .. ) Well she likes you too..I think you should ask her out cause you guys would be so awseome together!" ( or something like that lol ) because if not that then the only other thing I can suggest is you asking him out, or you can have a friend do that too. Just have her be like," ___ was wondering if you wanted to go out with her, but she's having me do it for her cause she's a little shy.." ( or something like that lol ) I hope I helped!!







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MELii

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is it bad that i am an independant person.. when ever i get a boyfriend i dotn like it when he spends any money on me because i dont like it when girls use guys to buy them shit. but anyways my best friend is makin a big deal about it and my boyfriend doesnt like the idea. he thinks i dont like him when i dont let him buy me anything.. can someone please either help me change my point of view on this?? or do you think it is a good or bad that i am independant?? thanks

It is good to be independent, but sometimes it's not good to be VERY independent.. sometimes people want to buy stuff for other people to show how much they really care for them and they just want to be nice and do something nice for them. So just let your boyfriend buy you gifts every now and then. Even if you don't like it, just act like you do, cause that'll make him happy that you're "happy" about it. So kinda just balance everything out. Here's a really good suggestion for like next time you go to movies, eat, etc. Split the cost. So he's still "treating" you, and you're still being independent all at the same time =) I hope I helped!






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MELii

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Last night i went to cousin's wedding. we were all having fun and stuff.(obeying all the rules)
but later into the night, I got risky but still being a good kid, I asked my dad if he thinks it is alright if I got some drinks. He said yes,i was now 15 and I could handle myself.
So... I drank a few glasses of wine with my parents and friends. my parents didn't object.
then I left with my friend's and got some beer.
My mom caught me drinking the beer and she got really vexxed. She said how I betrayed her trust and all sorts of crap like that.
I didn't tell her that dad said yes otherwise that would cause family disruption.
No I am in trouble for drinking 1 beer. 1!
and I want to know how I could apologize to my mom.

thanks for the tips.

I would just explain to her the whole story, cause there's still some parts of the story that she doesn't know which if she knew she shouldn't be as mad at you as she is. Just maybe talk to your dad about it, and ask him if he'll explain to her how he let you have a few drinks. But don't just have him do everything...just be like," Mom, I'm sorry I betrayed your trust and stuff, but it's just Dad said it was okay if I had a few drinks and I promise all I had was one. What can I do to gain your trust back?" Because I know you don't want to tell her about your dad saying yes, but there really is no other way I can think of to let her know the whole story cause then maybe she'll be more forgiving, and maybe she'll be mad at your dad for a bit, but hopefully she'll get over it. And maybe even "punish" yourself to show you mean business whenever you say you want her trust back. ( or let her do it ). I know it'd suck being punished, but getting her trust back would be worth it, don't ya think? I hope I helped!!





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MELii

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Wow guys OK i have a probelm. My "best friend" is a boy stealer. Every guy i have ever liked has started liking her. And everytime i confront her about it shes like "Oh i didnt do anything to make him like me". But everytime she talks to a guy shes real flirty soo they start to like her.And it gets on my nerves a lot because i like this guy named eric and she always talks to him on aim and myspace and even the PHONE! i meen does she not get it??? and so his best friend thinks he is starting to liek her and sooo i am really pissed at her...becasue she was like i dont like him an dhow can u let a boy come between us .i know she does you shuld see the messages on myspace..but am i being too overreacted here or what?? please help i rate high!!!

14/F

Your friend needs to realize what's happening .. does she either want to have a boy like her that she doesn't like back? Or possibly ruin a friendship between you two, cause after awhile that will probably happen. She just might not realize how sometimes flirting with alot of guys can be a bad thing..

- makes the guy hurt ( cause she really doesn't like them )

-can make her friends depressed ( because the guy they like likes their friend instead and that ruins friendships.. which is your situation..)

.. and stuff like that. She just might be a HUGE flirter adn not realize it or maybe she wants to be the girl that has " every single guy in the world like her"..because if she doesn't like him like that, I don't see why she always flirts and always talks to him on the phone. I would try talking to her again and explain how you like Eric and that how every guy likes her and if she could just please not flirt with the guys you like and let her know that you want to be friends with her still, but if she keeps that up, that might not continue. I don't think you're over reacting at all. If you want to talk to me more about this, please, just IM me at:

MELii x MARiiE

...I hope I helped!!







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MELii

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ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
14/m

I think you should go into a relationship with her, but not just yet. I mean you said so yourself.. you've only known her for two days. See if your feelings change at all...cause I remmeber whenever me and my boyfriend broke up I liked like the next guy that talked to me haha..so maybe you just might like her cause' you guys just broke up and you're single and stuff... so just wait a while, get to know her better, but drop her hints and stuff to let her know your still interested and such and see if she gives any back ( cause you didn't mention if she liked you back or not ) but I don't see why you shouldn't get in one with her ; you and your ex broke up which means dating different people which is exactly what you're doing. And the other reason for waiting is maybe your ex still has some feelings and she might get hurt knowing you already have another girlfriend because even though people break up, it doesn't necessairly mean they're completly over them. So.. just wait awhile. I hope I helped!!






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MELii

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I used to be friends with a guy named Sam in elementary school and i just found out his s/n because I cheer for his football team *&& my friend gave it to me and i IMed him telling him it was me and he's like i dont care and blocked me...whats up? i mean does that mean he never liked me...or what? HELP! I want to be friends with again! HELP!

Hmm I don't know ; did you do anything to him ever to make him mad at you? I would try having a friend talk to him or try calling him and asking him whats up. And tell him if you did something wrong you apologize and you just wanna be friends with him again. IM me afterwards and tell me how everything went! I hope I helped!!





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MELii

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okay so there are like 4 guys that im talkin to and i dont know who to pick...
#1 is gonna be a senior (and im gonna be a freshman) hes supersweet but everyone says he's using me and im too blind to see it.
#2 is one of my ex friends exes and he flirts with everyone and keeps tellin me he wants to date me. i wanna date him too but im just not sure.
#3 is just a big sweetie that i met at my friends church lockin and turns out hes a sophmore at my school. we really wanna get to know eachother and hes sucha sweetheart and always knows what to say and calls me all the time just to see whats up and all that .. and hell come up to me at school when im with all my freshmen friends and like put his arm around me and ahh its so cute
#4 is just ... amazing. the other night we were outside at like midnight with our foreheads just pressed together and hten he just kissed me. not like tongue er anything just a sweet nd simple kiss.. and he can always make me laugh .. ALWAYS. and he wants to get to know me and then he really wants to date me. he's like perfect. he'll hold my hand and do the sweetest things for me. yeah problem is - he's popular. i've never been like really popular but now all of a sudden all these guys wanna date me (im not namen all of em lol) and yeah. but like TONS of girls want him. and he's dated so many girls and he's cheated on a few but i mean i really like him i just dont wanna get hurt. he's absoloutly amazing .. but im not the only one who thinks so. he's also the kind of guy that has sex nd stuff .. and im still a virgin and i dont wanna loose it. how do i know if he likes me fer me er just wants me for a lil while until he gets what he wants

who should i choose ? please help me and tell me who i should choose and who not to choose and why please omg
xOo__MOUSiiE x3*

First of all, go you! lol, you got all these guys after you you lucky girl =P I wish I was you lmao!! Okay about..

#1- well it sounds to me like you don't have maybe as strong feelings for him as you do for #3 and #4. So maybe just kinda forget about this guy cause also if he's just using you.. why would you want him anyway?

#2- if he flirts with everyone- definetly don't. Cause then that screams possible cheater. He might have already cheated already before in his other relationships. Who knows if he could be trusting?

#3- Awwww he sounds like a total sweetie which is awseome! =P and it sounds to me like he really is just being sweet and he doesn't want to use you for anything more, if you know what I mean. He sounds like he would be a really great boyfriend whose caring and nice and etc. So I would seriously think about choosing this one! =)

#4- He sounds really nice and sweet too - but the " he has sex nd stuff " factor kinda brings up some thoughts. Is he just using you for sex? Will he be a pressuring kinda boyfriend who expects you to do stuff for him " if you really love him"? That might not be sucha good idea then. And if he's popular and all the girls want him - that's kinda not good either. He could cheat, and you even said so yourself, he's cheated on a FEW. not just one like where he realized his mistake and stopped but a FEW as in, he realized what he was doing each time and who knows if he'll do it again? So he's kinda a ehhh you'll need to trust him ALOT kinda relationship.


.. all in all, I think #3 sounds really great and sweet and nice. He's the one I would pick if I was in this situatioon, which I wish I was lmao! Once again, lucky! =P Anyways, I hope I helped you in making a choice! =)





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MELii

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i have had many thoughts of suicde. for stupid reasons what do i do?

Okay, the number one rule..JUST DON'T DO IT! I mean think of what would happen! I mean for one, you could possibly DIE. And then whenever people think about commiting suicide because they're in pain and they think that'll make it go away, just think of who you are leaving in pain whenever you commit it. Your family, your friends.. everyone you love and that loves you. What I suggest is that you talk to someone.. your mom, dad, friend about this before you start to get more serious. And maybe even suggest going to counseling and getting some help there or going to a talk group. Because commiting suicide is not the way to solve anything. You should be here adn alive and experiencing life, because people always think," Oh I'll never be able to get through this, I wanna die" etc. And really, if you try at it and stuff, you can get through it. But you said for stupid reasons which I kinda don't understand, like something dumb that you shouldn't even think of suicide for happens but you think about it? I don't know.. but seriously, just talk to someone about this immediately. Because if you are in pain and stuff, letting it out by beating a pillow or talking to someone or something really does help a whole lot better than suicide. I hope you get better and I hope I helped!







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MELii

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heyi need some help,.... i have this friend that i really like and she likes me to (im a guy lol) but her best friend also likes me and whenever her best friend talks to me she tells me how much she likes me but i want to go out with the other girl and i dont want to make the other one hurt...

ok i was wondering if you were a guy or girl for a second lol.. anyways.. hmmmm that's a really tough situation. You just have to think: do you REALLY REALLY wanna go out with this girl? Because then maybe I might suggest not dating her, because:

-it'll possibly ruin the relationship you have with her

-it'll possibly ruin the relationship the girl you like has with her


.. but if you guys really want to date eachother ; then I would try sitting down with this girl and just calmly explaining to her how you like her best friend more, and how you would just like to be friends and how you all are gonna work on making it not as awkward as possible and just going back to normal because you all really wanna stay friends and stuff. Because no matter what you do here ; you're kinda gonna make someone hurt, and I hate these situations, and I'm sure you hate it more. You're gonna hurt the one girl for dating her best friend, and the other for maybe NOT dating her. You just kinda have to think about this really hard and do what feels right. Because even though you might hurt her, you have the chance to fix the relationship with her, and you'd be dating that girl in the process. If you'd like to talk to me about this more, please just IM me at:


MELii x MARiiE


..hope I helped!!







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MELii

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hey, i been going out with this boy for about 3 weeks now. before going out, we were "together" for about a week. about 3 days into us being "together" he tells me he loves me -&- then he asked me out.
problem: i tell him i love him back, because yeah i do love him, and i care about him, and i wanna be with him. but im not IN love with him.
he tells me constantly like everyday that hes in love with me, that i mean the world to him, and im the only good thing in his life and all that jazz.
i like hearing it, but i feel horrible because im not in love with him and when i tell him i love him, i dont mean it.
i like him ALOT i mean our relationship is great
other problem: my parents. they wont let me go to his house, and now that they found out he stopped by mine to say hello when i was babysitting and they were out, they say hes not allowed at my house for the rest of the summer.
what should i do? i explained to them what happened and everything and they wont listen.
im afraid my parents are going to ruin the amazing relationship i have with him.
any advice? x3 thanks alot for listening.
~*brittney

What I suggest doing is try getting them to listen more. Just "attack" whenever they aren't doing anything so then all their attention will be on you. Just explain to them how nothing was going to happen that night whenever they weren't home ; he just came over to say hi. And how you'd really like him to be trusted by them two, and maybe trying to have him over for dinner sometime so they can. Because if they don't trust them ; then you probably aren't going to be allowed to do much with him. Other than that, if you don't wanna do that, then I guess maybe just try...hiding it from them or something? If you want to talk more about this with me, please IM me at:

MELii x MARiiE

.. hope I helped!!





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MELii

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Why are boys so... i dont even know what word to use.. i mean they tell you they love you just to get in your pants! and they are sooo confusing, they bring so much pain but i still want them! ... grrr, am i making any sense? all i truley want is this...
i want a boy---
who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything.
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with me and remember each one.
a boy who notices girl's haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will bring me seashells
from the beach.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesn't send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
who saves his genuine, big smiles for me.
a boy with deep eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.

who wears baseball hats and
lets me wear his too.

who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dad's handand look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me i'm beautiful.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who suprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who tells me i have a nice laugh,
and a smile that lights up the room.
a boy who's simply mine to hold."
that is exactly what i want!
why cant i get that?

Aww that is so cute! =) I wish I had a guy like that too ; yeah most guys DO just want to get in your pants... but believe it or not there actually are guys out there that ARE just like that. This one guy I know Shane.. he is SO sweet. He's always complimenting and being nice and stuff like that...he's just so nice and he doesn't try anything..but we're just friends...for now lol ;-). Anyways, I know it seems like EVERY guy is like that now, but whenever you get older and they get older they'll realize they just want someone to hold and etc, and they'll get more mature ( hopefully. ) But that was just the cutest thing I've ever read!! =)






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MELii

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I met this guy on the internet and he's coming to pick me up in an hour or so. EVerything seems all right and my intuition tells me its a go but everyone always says to be careful so I thought I'd ask. Don't be too hasty to answer cuz I'm really for going.

Just be VERY VERY careful. Before you get in the car, try asking him for his driver's liscence ( sorry don't know how to spell that ) and see if he's really that age he told you. Because I've heard all those stories about girls getting kidnapped on the news lately and stuff, and I don't wanna hear another =/ Just be VERY careful. IF something doesn't seem right then get out of the area very quickly. And be sure to keep your cellphone next to you at all times. And if he suggests taking you home, just get out of the car, and get someone else to pick you up. Just be very careful, alright? I hope I helped!






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MELii

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can anybody suggest a really good men's cologne for me. I'm 15/m and i'm looking for something masculine, sexy and powerful, and it has to last. My price limit is $100.

Ok ; something that I love alot is men's Hollister perfume ( I don't know if your preppy or not or anything ) but that's smells sooo good. Alot of my friends love it. Another good thing is Ralph Lauren ( I'm not sure if Ralph Lauren's over $100.. ) but that also smells really good too. Another good kinda is Armani Mania. I hope I helped!!




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MELii

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Hey All.

My boyfriend is coming over in a few hours, and we have to stay outside. He will only be here for about an hour. He has a car, and he can drive, but we can't go anywhere. What are some things that we could do? (like games or w/e not nasty stuff)

Thanks in advance!

I'll rate and leave feedback, if that helps!

Oh, Its our 18month anniversery today, too.

-SLeK-

Maybe just sit out on your porch ( if you have one ) and just listen to music. Or if you can't bring a radio outside, then just sit in his car and listen to music. Or if it's getting dark just sit outside on a blanket, talk , and watch the sunset/stars which is really romantic. Or maybe just try taking a walk around your block together. I hope I helped!!





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MELii

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ok i had asked a question this morning buti have to say something else that i need advice on that happened tonight...

ok well i just gto home from a party and this guy tommy asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he called me a tesse and alot of other guys called me a tease b/c i wouldn't let them do ne nasty stuff to me the tommy took me into a room and put duck tape on my mouth and then un zipped his pants and mine...and then he took the rest of my cloths off and made me stand on the bed naked he was just lookin @ me...then he fingered me and raped me and he told me that if i told ne one that he would do it agian and kill me...there was no way for me to go b/c hes a football wresaler and really strong...by the way im 16 and he was 18...i don't want to tell neone because hes on of my moms ex boyfriends son and she treats him like a son and i would never think that he would do nething like that...HELP what should i do?

You NEED to tell the police right away! Because I know you might be afraid because he'll do something to you if he finds out you told someone, but he won't be able to do anything if he's in jail ; which I'm absolutley positive is where he'll be going. And then maybe even try going for a restraing order to so if he ever did get out in his life, he wouldn't be able to go near you at all. I'm so sorry this has happened to you and I hope I helped you alot!




Love,
MELii

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