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if i try weed/ a cig
will i get addicted the first time
of do you get addicted if you do it more than once?

ciggs... from hardcore smokers i know... it took like one or two to get addicted.
weed... i know everyone says yeah you get addicted after one and become a pothead blah blah - not so. anyone that says that can fight me about it. yes, some people do get urges and feel the need to be happy and stuff but its nothing like a cigg addiction because its not an addiction at all.

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where can i find jeans with pockets but NO BRAND NAME what so ever on the butt (pockets.) thanks.

my friend had some on today... i'm pretty sure she got them at the gap...maybe old navy?

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Ok my boyfriend and i are ready 2 have sex and neither of us are virgins but instead of plain sex he wants 2 have a threesome at first i was okay with it but then he went and asked my best friend if she wanted 2 be the third person and she said yes and i have always known that she had a crush on him but i never cared until now and i dont know if i should Go through with it now i have no problem with the threesome but having my bff in it i dont know and i dont know if this is her way of getting 2 have sex or give head 2 him but i just dont think i should Go through with it now can somebody pleez give me advice and thanks in advance(f/16)

threesomes usually end up ruining happy couples... really. i've heard of it happening and i just read it in glamour the other day. my advice - don't do it. it will be weird. talk to your bf about it... if he doesn't understand, suggest that HIS best friend joins you..

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have you ever been cheated on or anything to do with cheating?

I just have a small situation. My friend Sam cheated on her bf Allan with my bf's best friend and his brother. She made out with both of the guys and gave on of them head. Her bf allan is good friends with me and my bf and we decided we should tell him-- so we did the next day.

Sam and I weren't completely good friends but we were close somewhat. But if he did this to her, I would probably tell her too. So she's pissed and she has all my friends against me. Even my bffl. But i know i did the rite thing. All this time, past 2 weeks I've been there for Allan; even pickig him up at midnite because he was so depressed and taking him 2 parties to help him get his mind off her. And she does everything she can like for example- she cuts hereself- for attention. Allan and her are supposed to talk 2morrow and i want to kick her ass so bad but I'm not going to be there.

there's only one lil thing that i messed up on. at the party i told her to go for--to cheat. and when i told my bffl the story i admitted i told her to go for it.....and allan doesnt kno that. i told him i never said that and he believes me. but now sam and kayla my best friend have this against but my bf was there but will tell alan that it never happened, but im still afraid he'll beloieve her. he want to be with her but knows he shouldn't.

what do u think i should do now? kayla keeps telling me to back off when sam from the beggining said she was gonna break up with him.kayla and sam never even liked each other? everyone feels sorry for her because all she does it cry and they give me stuff like "you have no idea how much she has been thru" blah blah when this is all for attention and i'm not stupid.

now i really don't know what do or even say?

wow. the whole time i was sayin "oh shittttt" over and over again. honestly, as bad as this is right now, it will blow over once the attention is driven to something else. It's not your fault that she cheated... it kinda seems like it but first off...who hasn't been told to cheat...doesnt mean that they will/should. kissing is cheating and she went furthur that than so she can't blame you. that's just crap. she didn't just cheat once either. if she had just kissed one guy after you told her that then yeah she's the victim blah blah but 2 guys and gave one head... that's a little much for a "victim". talk to your closest friends like one on one. tell them what happened and how cheating with more than one guy is just ridiculous and even if you did say go cheat it's still not your fault. people should come around once they realize that she's just being retarded about it. if you need anything else, let me know!

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I'm a teenage girl who is about 20 pounds overweight (5'2 1/4" and 154 lbs) and I always wear one pieces but I'm going to a resort in a few days and I would really like to try wearing a bikini because I feel liek I actually look better in one because it shows off these feminine curves that I have better.

Do you think people would stare at me because I'm not thin? (i do have the hourglass body type) When I sit down my stomach sort of has these rolls and it hangs over my waist... So that makes me uncomfortable...

I just don't know what to do. I don't want to be gawked at...

Also- what kind/color of a bikini should I get that will make me look thinner?

thanks

they won't stare at you... i've seen all kinds of people wear bikinis. i used to wear only one pieces and they just squished my boobs down and made me look shapeless. as for rolls, most teenage girls have some kind of fat there that they are not happy with. when you sit, have a towel around you and when you layout, bend your knees a little so took leaner.
the color doesn't really matter... just get something that fits you well... doesnt pinch looks unflattering. if you have a big bust, look some a supportive top. if you need anything else, let me know.

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i have this project at school where i have to make a collage on things that relate to me.. and i want to put pictures of me and my family and friends, but also put clippings from newspapers.. like i like sports like soccer, volleyball, basketball, dance.. and i like other cute girly things too, and etc. where can i find magazines that have stuff i can cut out and put in my project? i really want it to be like 3D and not just the collages where you paste everything on Microsoft word or something. THANKS I LOVE YA!

i love collages!
17, teen vogue, cosmo girl even american girl magazine usually have picture of those things.

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i live in hillsborough new jersey. where can i find soccer clubs and stuff around it.. because im not THAT good at soccer, and im not playing now.. i signed up for the team next year and tryouts are tough. i know because i didnt make the cut last season.. and now im moving on to 8th grade soccer.. and its gonna be even harder. im already running alot with my friend, and running isnt that hard for me... but i really need skills since in my entire life i have only played 3 seasons. but i love soccer so much that it would mean alot to me if i can get on the A team.. not even the B team next year. i know its really far fetched but im ready for the challenge. i wanna do maybe camp or something for alot of the summer since tryouts are at the end of summer about, before school starts around the beginning of september. THANKS ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU FOR HELPIGN!

Try South Brunswick Rec. soccer. (that's pretty close correct? unless i'm confusing it with plainsboro) i think it's like $30 more for being out of district. you could try jersey knights too but i'm not sure how competetive that is..

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This is a question for teenage girls. My daughter and I have always been very close. She's always been very open with me and willing to share things about school, friends, boys, etc. Now that she's 13, though, things have changed some. Sometimes I can tell she's upset about something, but when I ask her what's wrong, she doesn't want to talk about it. I realize this is normal, that she wants some privacy and doesn't need her mom butting in on everything. But I also know it sometimes helps to talk about things instead of keeping them inside. I want her to know that I'm here for her and that she can tell me anything. Should I keep trying to get her to talk, or should I just leave her alone and hope she'll open up if she needs me?

just be there for her when she needs to talk... asking her about it might do more harm than good. if something bad happens and my mom reminds me or makes me talk about it again, i usually end up in tears. most things usually just blow over soon enough, no need to get more people involved. you can just reassure her that if there is something bugging her, you can be her best friend (that won't tell anyone) about her issues.

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i was in english and i got a text from my girlfriend and it said " im in gym and i got my period i need tampons" i just said "ok" i dont know if she meant to send that to me. im pretty sure she meant to send that to someone else. and i dont wanna be like hey are you on your period because that would make her feel uncomfortable. but what should i do. thanks

oh that kinda sucks... she probably realized it after you said ok.. she'll be a little embarrassed about it, how much depending on her age. if she's a younger teen, just don't bring it up unless she does. no biggie.

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ok. so this is prolly like the weirdest question around, but o well. so i'm 14. my birthday was in january. i really want to get my learners permit, i have the book and everything, but there is one problem. i don't want to get it because of my weight. cause, ya know, they put your weight on the lisense, well, i weigh a lot more than most people think. and when i get it all of my friends will be like OMG!! you got your lisense, let me see!! blah blah blah... so anyways, i don't want people to make fun of my weight, but how else will i ever drive?? help!!! thanks!!

a lot of people lie on the weight part of that... my mom got her liscence in one state 13 years ago when she was much lighter and when she would renew it, they would ask her if that changed and they didnt care than it was still the same... women subtract pounds and men add to their height... seriously. so i'm not saying just lie to the person because lying is good, no, what i'm saying is that it doesn't really matter. if you weigh like 140... you could be 125. you could ask around and see what people think you weigh (just don't get offended by it!) and see what you can get away with. don't let it stop you from driving... either way, if you have a car, i don't think anyone will even care.

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13/f
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months. He has been asking me if i could go places with him over the weekends. But the big thing is i CANT! i am not allowed to go anywhere with any guy until im 16! Its a religous standard. But i dont know how to break to him. I am afraid he might break up with me. I dont know what to do! He keeps suggesting going to the movies, hanging at his house, watching a movie at his house, or going to a relay for life walk. i feel like crap for canceling. Also i dont even want to go, im to scared it would be completly akward and stupid. But also im not aloud to. Im scared and lost. haha

thank you for all the advice.
it really helps thank you :D

just tell him you're not allowed to until you are 16... it's gonna come out sometime and he'll dump you anyway if you guys can never be together. i think you guys should break up because you're not comfortable with each other and never hang out... but that's just me. you can try going with a group of friends but that's about it. if you need anything else, let me know.

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which tampon brand do you prefer... (plastic)

PLAYTEX GENTLE GLIDE

or

TAMPAX PEARL?

just want to know which kind works the best for you, thanks.

I've always used pearl and they work great for me.

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How old do you have to be to get a drivers permit in the state of Pennsylvania? I've heard many different answers. Is it true you can get it 6 months after your 15th birthday?

Let me know

Thank you.

It's 16 and a half but you can take classes (like driver ed at school) when you are 15.

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whats a cute chant i can teach 4th graders
that i cane make up some reallyyy cute motions to.?


for explain;the original jump shake your booty cheer.


:] thanks.

My softball team back in 4th grade had a cute one that you can change the words for to fit your activity...
1 person: hi my name is jessie and you know what i got?
rest of team: what do you got?
1 person: i got a team that's hotter than hott!
ROT: how hot is hott?
1P: grandslams & homeruns too
ROT: uh huh uh huh
1P: we're gonna be the whoopsie(?) outta you!
ROT: alright ok!

haha lame but it was cute.

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okay i have these two hideous moles on my body,one on my stomach and one on my back. i want to get this tattoo
http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f101/candy320/like.jpg
because i really like it and so they wont be so noticable and i wont be so self-concious to wear a bathing suit.
but my problem is i would love to be a model, and all of my friends and just people i know say i would be great for it, but will people not want me to model their clothes because of the tattoo? or do you think they wouldent care and think it was neat?

The tattoo would probably limit some of the modeling you could do. You should probably just get the moles removed... it's safer and a permanent good thing.. not something that could limit your career.

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two fridays ago, i had sex with my boyfriend. we used a condom, but he cummed in my underwear and i put them on. the next day i got my period. the following monday, i felt natious, as well as tuesday, and a couple of other days. the thing is, we`re disecting pigs in bio, and i have it the first period of the day, so that might be triggering my nausia ? is there still a chance i could be pregnant even though i got my period already ? sorry, this info is kinda mixed together.

hmm i'm pretty sure you are not pregnant. there's a chance you could be but i highly doubt that you are. yes, disecting could cause nausea.. its not just a sign of pregnancy. since you go your period i'm almost positive you are not pregnant. be more careful next time so you won't have any more of these situations.

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does anyone know the age you can get your temps in ohio? it was 15 1/2, but then i think they changed it till youre 16 if youre born sometime after '92. Ive heard anytime after '92, spring of '92, and summer of '92. i tried looking online but didnt find anything. anyone know? thanks!

I'm pretty sure that rumor is a bunch of crap... there's people saying that aobut every state and it hasn't actually happened. there are a lot of changes being made in Ohio driving laws tho so it could change in the future but yeah i'm pretty sure it's still 15 1/2.

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k so ive never had a boyfriend.
but if i were to get one, and he were to come over my house..
what would we do?
like, wouldnt it be a little awkward?
like he would walk in and you guys sit down on the couch...hahah i have no idea.
so yeah what would you do?

well most people don't start doing that until they know each other so its not awkward. the first couple times, plan activities like tennis or board games and movies. as you get more comfortable, just play it by ear.

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i dont want to make my mom upset because i am. My family is moving in 2 weeks, i tell my mom im alright with it because i dont want to seem over whelemed(sp). but i know my feelings will come out sooner or later. i find myself almost crying on the smallest sad or happy things. i dont know whats wrong with me. i really dont want to leave all my friends, im really about to cry. wat do i do?

i just moved lke 14 hours away recently so i understand how you feel. have fun with your friends for the next 2 weeks and dont dwell on the fact that you are leaving. i know you dont want to make your mom upset...you can cry and stuff just dont blame her or get mad at her. just let it all out then go out there and have a good time with everyone.

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i'm going to a new school next year, and there's a dress code. i usually dress pretty preppy anyway, but can anyone tell me brands that people will be wearing? i know like, vera bradley and uggs and everything. but i usually don't pay that much attention to what i wear and i wanna look good and trendy. what stores have clothes like j.crew, a.eagle, and hollister? what other kinds of shoes and bags will people have? thanks

Hollister & A&F jeans/skirts/shorts
Hollister & AE & A&F (sometimes A|X) shirts/tanks/knits/LAYERS
^^ totes from any of those or vera bradley
bags: juicy, coach, vera bradley, D&B, victoria's secret
shoes: old navy flip flops!! in brown, white, blue & khaki.
jewelry: beaded necklaces, tiffany anything, simple beachy stuff.
dresses: mostly from hollister and A&F sometimes from other places too.
tanks under shirts, layers..
this is just this year tho..
aeropostale... most people here are embarrassed to wear stuff from there but basics are fine.
gap .. only for the (red) stuff.
j.crew.. not really but i've seen bags from there.
anything else, let me know.

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