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cheating?
have you ever been cheated on or anything to do with cheating?
I just have a small situation. My friend Sam cheated on her bf Allan with my bf's best friend and his brother. She made out with both of the guys and gave on of them head. Her bf allan is good friends with me and my bf and we decided we should tell him-- so we did the next day.
Sam and I weren't completely good friends but we were close somewhat. But if he did this to her, I would probably tell her too. So she's pissed and she has all my friends against me. Even my bffl. But i know i did the rite thing. All this time, past 2 weeks I've been there for Allan; even pickig him up at midnite because he was so depressed and taking him 2 parties to help him get his mind off her. And she does everything she can like for example- she cuts hereself- for attention. Allan and her are supposed to talk 2morrow and i want to kick her ass so bad but I'm not going to be there.
there's only one lil thing that i messed up on. at the party i told her to go for--to cheat. and when i told my bffl the story i admitted i told her to go for it.....and allan doesnt kno that. i told him i never said that and he believes me. but now sam and kayla my best friend have this against but my bf was there but will tell alan that it never happened, but im still afraid he'll beloieve her. he want to be with her but knows he shouldn't.
what do u think i should do now? kayla keeps telling me to back off when sam from the beggining said she was gonna break up with him.kayla and sam never even liked each other? everyone feels sorry for her because all she does it cry and they give me stuff like "you have no idea how much she has been thru" blah blah when this is all for attention and i'm not stupid.
now i really don't know what do or even say?
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Ok. I've done stupid stuff like that too. Just the best thing to remember is: If your don't admit it, you still have a chance.
Make sure that no one knows you told her to do it. If you tell people the your lie before they hear her truth, they will believe your lie because it's what they hear first. Normally, someone who is lying about something would avoid the topic, so that's why you need to make people believe your lie, but say something like this. "Omg, that chick is fucking crazy! She's spreading rumors about me just cus she hates me. She's saying that I told her to do it and all this other shit that isn't even true!" This technique works. I've had to use it before because of 1 stupid thing I've done.
Also, to avoid Allan from believing her, simply get to be really close with him. Doing this, it will get really easy for you to manipulate him into thinking his ex is a total bitch. Therefor, he will believe you.
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wow. the whole time i was sayin "oh shittttt" over and over again. honestly, as bad as this is right now, it will blow over once the attention is driven to something else. It's not your fault that she cheated... it kinda seems like it but first off...who hasn't been told to cheat...doesnt mean that they will/should. kissing is cheating and she went furthur that than so she can't blame you. that's just crap. she didn't just cheat once either. if she had just kissed one guy after you told her that then yeah she's the victim blah blah but 2 guys and gave one head... that's a little much for a "victim". talk to your closest friends like one on one. tell them what happened and how cheating with more than one guy is just ridiculous and even if you did say go cheat it's still not your fault. people should come around once they realize that she's just being retarded about it. if you need anything else, let me know! <3
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All i can say is that you did the right thing for the most part and don't worry about her b/cuz she shouldn't have done it in the first place and she brought that on herself
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Wow, lot of drama. It seems like sam is trying to get a lot of attention. Who would cut themselves, just for attention? Anyways, i think that yes her bf did have the right to know he was cheated on but now i think he thinks that u r really nice and cool for telling him, even though you actually told her to go on and do it. I think you should write him a note or tell him yourself that you actually did tell her to do it because you don't want to lie, that just makes you one of the others. The other stuff with your friends, i really dont know what else to say but after you tell him the truth (which u really need to do), i would step off like kayla said. Let them handle it and get through it by themselves. Then hopefully you will have nothing to worry about! Good luck!
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ok you were a good friend for telling him but now your getting bit in the ass because of it i personally did the same thing and i still do i just want my friends to be happy so when someone is hurting them so you know it's shit i know but they don't they've probably never been in the situation and they need to give you a break you were just trying to help maybe to get them to believe you set her up for something or just go and talk to her say your sorry and record something that she says that proves you're right they'll never know and just say you wanted to prove your point but of course being right is always the best well i'm sorry if i didn't help you that much but at least i can say i tried
♥Katie
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You were a great friend to tell now you are suffering the consequences for telling.If Allan appreciates it you did a good thing. Now about that little white lie you told you could either come clean and possibly have Allan mad at you or you could sit back and hope he doesn't find out but if he does he might be more upset because you lied. Think before you react. And please no kicking her a** I am sure you want to but what will this really solve besides a nasty fight and possibly more hurt feelings and lost friends. As far as Sam goes I hope she gets help cutting herself is not healthy mentally or physically. Sit back, count to ten, and think before you make any sudden decisions the consequences could be worst than the ones you already are facing. Good Luck :-)
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