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did anyone get the hpv shot? and like how many do you have to get and how long are the intervals in between them? and do they only work if you arent already sexually active? (link)
There are three shots. You get one then two months after the first shot you get a second. Then six months after the first shot (it would be four months after the second shot) you get the third one. The vaccine will still work if you are sexually active only if you don't already have the hpv virus. It is not a cure for hpv and it will only HELP to prevent it. I hope I helped.


i'll make this short (13/f)
one of my guy friends (goes to a different school) and i are really close. we met in camp a few years ago and we were friends since. for the past 2 years i didn't go to camp with him, but we stayed in touch. now he admits to liking me, but i don't exactly feel the same way. i care about him a lot, and i think i'm afraid that it will ruin our close friendship. should i give it a go? or stay true to my feelings (i'm not even sure if i like him)?
help is highly appreciated.

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You should tell your friend that although you value him as a friend, you don't want to be anymore than that. Make sure you don't say something like "I like you, just not that way." He won't hear the part about not that way, he'll only hear the I like you part and you'll give him false hope. But make sure he knows you don't want to lose him. He may be a bit distant at first because of the rejection but if you keep acting the same way he'll realize that things don't have to change just because he confided his feelings for you.


my bf is coming home from job corp after several months of not seeing eachother at all. im so fucking excited. but my mom don't like him too much, and he can't be in my town. he lives in a town half an hour away, but i don't know if i could see him, cuz i have to work too. how can i see him and still do everything i need to, and how do i have a good time with him... ALONE. LOL
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You should both set aside one day each week (the same day, of course) that you can be together. For example, you could both ask to have all Saturdays off and use the entire day to spend together. You could rent some movies and do a marathon so you won't be with a bunch of other movie-goers at the cinema and you can talk too. You could also find a nature trail near your towns and pack a picnic lunch and just play outside. If you need more ideas just send a reply and I'll try to think of some more.


so theres this guy who im really good friends with, and we both really like eachother. but his parents hate my guts. they think im a bad influence on him. hes 16 and im 14. (please dont tell me it wont work because of the age.)
they hate me because me and him were aguing about the difference between some inappropriate things, and his sister, whs a total bitch read the IM and told his parents. now im not allowed to chill with him at all, in order to go out we have to sneak around and bend rules all the time and im so tired of it.
what are some good ways to get his parents to let us hang out? id really like some fast tips, cause im going to universal next friday and i really want him to come (link)
Talk to his parents and tell them that acting that way towards you is kind of unfair seeing as how their son was talking about the same things with the same sort of language.


I get so scared when I babysit this kid named Tommy. Whenever I go over there, this person always calls saying, "Nice outfit," or "Is Tommy asleep yet?" I have told the parents, and asked them if anyone has called like that but they think I am joking. Assist please! (link)
The absolute next time that this happens try dialing *69 to check what the number is. It is possible for the caller to block the number, but if they're cocky, they'll forget. If it is blocked though, call the police immediately. They can trace the call.


Yesterday i went to a party and i met a girl ahe gave me her number but the problem is i dont know how to talk to a girl over the phone please someone help me? (link)
First of all, relax. She obviously already likes you or she wouldn't have given you her number. When you're talking on the phone pretend you're talking to her face to face. If you really don't want to talk on the phone for that long for fear of embarassment, call and ask her if she wants to hang out. But be prepared with a plan for when she says yes. Since you called and asked her out, it's your responsibility to have something fun to do. But if she really wants to talk on the phone, brush up on some funny facts and find some jokes on the internet that you can relay to her. That way if there's an awkward silence, you'll have some way to fill the space without talking about the weather or something that you have already talked about twice before. For some jokes go to funnyhumor.com or jokesnjokes.net.


I really love the show Bug Juice. Does anyone know where i can watch them online (or buy them/download them). I have found a few websites, but they all have the same 4 episodes.

Thanks so much!!
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try myspleen.com


iam 18 years old and a 15 year old asked me out and was stupid enough to say yes becouse i don't know weather i can go to jail or not if iam an 18 year old girl can i go to jail for dating a 15 year old boy? (link)
You can't go to jail for dating him but if you engage in sexual acts with him and an adult finds out you can be persecuted.


This may be long, so bare with me.

Okay. So it's my senior year and I have very acute chronic migraines. I go to a neurologist every 2 weeks to try to control my migraines with medication and I've been doing so since I was 14.(I'm 18 now.) Nothing has helped. My migraines are a hindrance to being able to live a normal life. There are many days when it's so bad that I can't even get out of bed.

So my main problem was the fact that I got really sick and apparently missed too many days to graduate this year. I've never thought I'd have this problem because I have almost a 4.0 gpa. Well now I'm doing an independent study course for the 1 class that I needed to graduate. My main concern is for after I finish my English IV course and I get my diploma.

I don't know if I should try to attend a university or if I should take online courses. I found a university that offers online courses so I can get my associate's degree.

My question is whether doing my college classes online will be better or worse for someone in my situation? If I went to a university, I'd have to worry about when I could see my neurologist because he isn't open past 1 PM and he is the best neuro in my area. Then I'd take the risk of getting really sick again and missing a lot of days. Or I can try online courses and I can do my work when I am able. I'm worried about what my future worry about when I could go to the doctor because employers will think of getting an associate's degree online. (link)
Taking onlind courses may actually make your migraines worse and more frequent. Long hours of staring at a brightly lit computer screen will cause pain for someone in your position. Even with your migraines, it would be better to take courses in the classroom. You should be sure to tell your professors about your problem and they will work with you to get you your assignments if your migraines are too bad for you to go out.


Okay I am going to say my biggest fear....I am afraid of death. I'm scared of dieing. What can I do to stop thinking about it?? (link)
Everyone is a little bit scared of death whether they want to admit it or not. But the trick is figuring out a way to not let it stop you from not being afraid of life because death is a part of it. Instead of thinking about dying, think about what you're doing to live and what you're living for, who you're living for.


Do you think it's wrong to take a picture of your boobs for a guy you're not dating?


p.s. I like him. He says he likes me. If that helps. (link)
Most often if someone asks if something they did or are going to do seems wrong, they think it is wrong and just want someone to tell them they think so too. I guess it just depends. Did he ask you to take the picture or did you just decide to do it yourself? If he asked you to take the picture but isn't dating you, he's just taking control of your feelings for him. That's why he also told you he liked you in the first place. It's not that he likes you or doesn't like you exactly, he wants to take control of your body or what you're willing to give him. If that's not the case, and you decided you wanted to take the picture yourself, think about this first. Do you really want a relationship to start with the physical instead of the emotional connection you have? If not, then my answer is yes.


what are some different bands that aren't really heard about that much? i like bands like brand new and manchester orchestra -but i'm not too picky. i like indie, screamo, expiremental, etc. (anything really) any others that not every body has heard every song by them yet? that'd be great!
ps. i've tried to look around and not really much luck. (link)
misfits, crass, the sounds, the clash, silversun pickups, tv on the radio, gym class heroes, augustana


My friend kept it quiet that i was cutting because she loves me, but when it got so bad she told. i completely hate her, is that alright to hate her? now we dont even talk... i stopped cutting, so i guess she stopped my pain.. so i still love her..? (link)
Your friend didn't keep it quiet because she loved you, she kept it quiet out of loyalty. She told because she loves you. She didn't want to see you in pain anymore. Now, do you hate her?


Ok so there is this guy i like and we've known eachother for 1 month.We talk all the time on the phone and just now are starting to hang out in person.He said he likes me alot and would date me.I've been totally ditched and forgot about by two guys and i told him that i didnt want it to happen again.He told me that he will never forget about me and that yea there will be a few days we dont talk because we got stuff goin on but i will never forget about you.He was like im not like those guys and i go well thats what the last guy said about the first and he says just trust me i love you.and thats the first time he said i love you.but anyway with what i just told you how long do i have to wait for him to ask me out?

-sierra (link)
If you like him, don't wait for him to ask YOU out, ask HIM out.


okay so i recently got my first kiss at 15(i know kinda late right butt...) and i liked it and all but i'm not dating this boy and if my parents found out they would freak so how do i let this boy know i like him but to limit on the kisses till the coast is clear with the parents and all????? (link)
Okay, about your parents. Tell them that there's this guy you like and you'd like to date him if they think it would be okay. You don't have to tell them you kissed if you don't want to. For the boy, tell him that you like him but you had to get permission to date him from your parents first. If he's worth dating, he'll understand that.


hello my name is rick barton
heres how it all started i have a freind who helped me out with two things the frist one was when i like a girl i mean really like her until she broke my heart she knew i like her, she said she would go out with me i kept on asking and she said no all the time. then one night when alica was over we were talking then meghan text me from my phone and told me that i don't want to ever go out with you and we should just be freinds. well i was devasated. and i relized she was using me. i ask her to go out and she said no but she asked me for something and i said yes. alica was there and told me you don't desirve her, your a nice guy and shes a female dog. just forget abouy her. then she told me if i needed anything just let her know. then i had problems with my dad. see my mom and i left him because he was very abusave. any way monday he said something so bad i cant even repeat it. i was very hurt. i needed to talk to someone i could trust. it was alica. she help me that night. so that night i texted her saying thanking her for her help. then i told her after talking to her i didn't want to take my own life. she said i'm glad your a nice guy i would miss you terblity if you would do that. i said really. she said yeah i love being arouind you. i told her i loved being around her. from that point i wanted to be more than just freinds.
you may think well thats not so bad. well heres the f up situation i always find myself in. she has a boyfreind who just happens to life at my house. i know its wrong. i say no but my conscious says yes. i also kno that its wrong but i pray to god that they break up. see he can get a girl quicker than a fatman eating a hotdog in a hotdog eatan contest. me no i havent had a girl freind in six years. in that time span hes had 10 girls, 3 to 4 kids and two broken incagements. thats why i pray to god for them to break up.
she tells me that she sick of him being over effectioate. she hates it she tells him to stop but he don't. also she hate the fact that he is a mamas boy. when we are haning out when he come around it looks like shes annoyed. when he leaves she says thank god. i go he annoys you dont he. she goes yeah. is that a good thing for me? owe yeah the other night the three of us were playing truth or dare she asked me on a truth these questions would you quit smoking for a girl that you went out with (cause she wants trying to quit smoking) and i go yes. then she said would you ask me out. i said yes, she answered i would say yes. does that mean she is inteasted? i really like her. i never felt this way before. i'm 21 years old and lately i've been crying because i want to be with her. the fact that the next day they break up he will have a new girl. i pray saying why can't you just have them break up. and i know thats jelously. but i'm 21 years old. i never cry. i make her laugh, and as i said we enjoy each others company. but i don't know what to do should i leave it along or go for it? if it wasnt for her i would have killed myself cause of my dad. im just so confused. i never had these feelings for a gorl like this. please im begging you for your help!

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Well first of all, you need to tell Alicia the way you feel about her. If she's always complaining about her boyfriend to you but stays with him anyway, it could be because she gets to see you when she visits him. Look, you won't risk anything by telling her. If she really wants to be with this guy then she'll stay with him but if you tell her what you're feeling and she feels the same way, then you could get the girl. The worst thing that could happen is that you get a black eye or a broken nose as a gift from your buddy. Even if she feels the same way about you, Rick, you could lose the friend but if you're willing to risk that to get the girl, then I say go for it.


ok me and this girl have been best friends for a year and we can tell eachother everyhting doesnt matter what but we recently figured out we have a little thing goin on with eachother and we have so much fun toghether and we get along good and we dont know if we should be more than best friends or stay best friends becuz if we have a relationship we wonder if we would still be as good of friends we were before we went out

ps. were teenagers (link)
Think about it this way. Relationships that start out as friendships turn out to go much better than if you had dated first. You never know, you could turn out to be even better friends than before.


ok well this is kinda a dumb question but i need to know. so if you have a tampon in (when you have your period, obviously) when you have to go to the bathroom do you take it out? and what if you don't have any extras with you, do you put it back in?

thanks in advanced (link)
No you do not have to take it out. When you urinate the tampon will not absorb it. As long as it doesn't need changing it's safe to keep in.


What is the correct method of washing hair! like how long do you keep shampoo in, how should you massage conditioner into your hair and what not!
Thanks (link)
You can shampoo regularly massaging it into your scalp. You only need to do it once because repeating can actually dry out your hair. Rinse the shampoo out and wring out your hair as much as possible. Doing this will help the conditioner sink in. Only put conditioner in about two inches from the roots and down and leave in about two minutes. Rinse with cold water.


hey i am 15/f and i am a really depressed person i have a really really low self esteme and i don't know why i mean i am not ugly but sometimes i feel like i am and feel that i can't go anywhere because of the way i look i feel like i would look grose to people even though there is nothing wrong with me and alot of people like me and alot of people think i am really pretty but sometimes i just don't see it
can you help me find someways that will help me see that i am not ugly
how can i look at myself and actually like the way i look for once (link)
You should try getting a makeover. You don't have to do anything drastic, unless you want to of course. Try getting a haircut, or dying it. You could also try some new makeup styles or buy a new outfit.




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