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Cutting, and she told
My friend kept it quiet that i was cutting because she loves me, but when it got so bad she told. i completely hate her, is that alright to hate her? now we dont even talk... i stopped cutting, so i guess she stopped my pain.. so i still love her..?
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Your friend didn't keep it quiet because she loved you, she kept it quiet out of loyalty. She told because she loves you. She didn't want to see you in pain anymore. Now, do you hate her?
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I'm afraid whether you can love someone who you feel betrayed you is a matter no one else can settle for you. You're the only one who knows how you truly feel about this friend. If you found out right now that she had suddenly died, what would your first feelings be?
She did what she had to do to save you from misery, didn't she? She was loyal to you as a friend because she was a true friend to you, even though she was not loyal to your wishes. Do you think she knew that you would be mad at her? I think it took great courage and sacrifice for her to put your life and mental well-being above your feelings about her.
Sometimes people have to sacrifice a relationship in order to do the right thing. Your friend is brave enough to do that. But you shouldn't let her. You shouldn't make her choice of taking care of you mean that she has to sacrifice her friendship with you.
It's in your power to fix this.
Sabine
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ABSOLUTELY.
she is a great friend if she told. you could have hit a vein or something - so in a way she saved your life. you should never cut yourself, and like the person under me said, the only thing she did wrong was not telling sooner. sometimes you do stuff you don't think is that bad, and that's why you have friends - they help bring you back to reality.
you should tell her you're really sorry you were mad at her and you know she's a true friend. you're really lucky to have a friend like her.
hope i helped
hayybayy
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No. It's not alright to hate her. Your friend did something most people are scared to do. She told somebody & tried to get you help. You shouldn't be mad at her, she saved your life. If you would've kept cutting yourself, you would'v died especially because it was getting bad. Instead of hating your friend, try thanking her. She did it out of your best interest.
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You need to thank her for telling someone. If your cutting was truly getting bad, then it was her responsibility as a good friend to tell someone. I've been in your situation, and I understand why you may resent her for telling someone about your problem, but you have to understand the situation that you put her in. You tried to have her choose whether she could keep a secret that was hurting you, and watch you hurt yourself, or (even worse), tell someone and risk you thinking she betrayed you.
Trust me, she did the right thing, and even if it takes a little while, you'll figure that out. Please try to rebuild your friendship with her -- you've got a great friend, and I'd hate to see you lose her.
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I've never been in this sort of situation, so this is just my opinion.
I don't think you really have a logical reason to hate her. You were self harming and that's NOT good no matter what way you look at it.
She's not a bad friend because she told...that's why she's a GOOD friend. The only thing she did wrong was not tell someone sooner.
Self harming is a mental condition that NEEDS to be cured. You can't just ignore it and keep doing it. There's no way you could think it's "okay"...because, after all, you WERE hiding it....so if you know that you should know that you need help.
Your friend probably stuck with you until she realized that you weren't going to do anything about your condition without some help from her.
If you ask me, you should be thanking her.
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