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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Does it last as long if you use tampons? (link)
It lasts the same amount of time regarless of what you use. :)


okay so i feel really stupid asking this but...how do guys get orgasms? i mean i have a boyfriend and all and he said he has them four to five times a week and i'm not even sure if i should be disgusted or what since i don't even know if i have anything to do with them... (link)
If he isn't having sex with you he is masturbating.
No need to be discusted it is a perfectly normal
thing for him to do. Here is a site that explains it all for you.

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


okay so im 13 and im pretty flat chested. KIND OF. is there any type of cream or product that can make make breast bigger like at least 3 or 4 inches bigger? (link)
My dear most 13 year olds are pretty flat chested.
Don't bother with any creams or lotions they are a waste of money.

So many young people are in a big hurry to grow up.
Just be patient they will grow. You have plenty of time and it doesn't cost a penny. :)


My best friend is on the pill because she has really bad cramps during her period. Well, I was thinking about going on it because I have them as well. The thing is though, my friend also had a long, heavy period. Mine is light and only last 3-4 days. But, during the 3 or 4 days I can't do anything, I can barely eat. So I don't know if I should go on it since my period is already light and short. What do you think?


16/f
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It wouldn't hurt if you went on it. It is a great way to regulate your periods. You KNOW when its coming instead of having to guess at it.

It works great for cramps too. You may still have them but not as bad. Not to mention that you are
already on it if and when you need it for birth control.

It shouldn't change your periods length or how light it is I don't believe. So, the benefits of it at your age far outweigh the negatives. I think if you are able to get on it I would. :)


I need some basic feng shui tips.
A website would work. (link)
Here is a website with feng shui tips.

http://www.fengshuitimes.com/


ok so here's the deal. me and this guy had sex on august 8. we didn't use a condom but he pulled out probably 3 minutes before and finished off in the bathroom..well here's my question, could i be pregnant? i don't get my period till the 20th or 21st and i really need to know if i'm pregnant or not. if i was pregnant, would there be any symptoms like aches or pains or anything like that on the first few days? (link)
It is possible you could be pregnant. You won't have any symptoms for a while if even them. Missed period is the big one. Here is a site that lists all the symptoms to watch for. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm


How far do you think is too far when it comes to changing for your boyfriend? Is it the hair, the clothes, the attitude & friends?! I need to know. (link)
If he likes you enough to want to be your boyfriend then why should you change at all?

I mean he either likes you or he doesn't. Don't change the way you are unless its something you want to do for yourself. Get a Take me as I am attitude! :)


Ima christian & at church with youth group we sometimes do this. The youth leaders will put questions on a piece of paper & you answer them.

First: she said answer these questions as if god was not standing right next too you.

and i did.

Second: she said now answer the questions as if god was not standing right next to you.

I know that god is with you all the time.

But this one question had me stumped.

--If a relative was in the hospital & could die any minute would you stay in the room with them?--

I said no to this because i couldnt bring myself to let someone die right next too me.

Would you guys of said the same thing or would you be able to stay in the room? Why?

Thank you:) (link)
If it was a close relative I would of course want to be there and hold their hand and talk to them until they were gone. Hearing is the last sense to go. I would hate for someone I loved to go out alone. :)



i just got a manual car yesterday and i can drive it pretty well. i just have trouble starting at stoplights and such. i put it into 1st gear and let out my clutch slowly while applying the gas. the engine starts revving really high, but when i start moving it goes really slow. it takes about 2 blocks for me to reach 25 mph. what am i doing wrong?

the car is a 2002 hyundai accent with only 60,000 miles on it, if that helps (link)
Shift. You need to shift it into second gear almost
as soon as you get going. You think it is revving to high then its past time to shift. :)


Okay so I have this friend who I horseback ride with and she's three years younger than me. Well, you wouldn't think that would matter because she acts more mature thatn she really is and it's almost like she keeps me in touch with my innocnet side. (at our age, 3 years is a big difference). However, every time I mention her, my best friend goes, "Ew, you're 5th grader?!" (going into 6th)So my question is is the age difference okay? (link)
Sounds like your best friend might just be a little jealous. You can be friends with anybody you like and have fun with. If they are younger it is not a big deal. So don't worry about the age difference. :)


I previously asked a question about "grunge" fonts". Somone gave me a decent site to go to
(http://grungefonts.8m.com) but i dont get the instructions,It says somthing about having to unzip the file. What does that mean? and it said to download somthing, but i do not want to... Can somone help explain the instructions.. I would very much appreciate it.
Thank you! (link)
Make yourself a new folder in my documents and name it whatever you like. Mine is simply "fonts".

Click on the font you like and browse to "my documents" when it asks where you want to download the file.

Here is a tutorial complete with pictures that explains how to unzip the file.

http://www.help2go.com/Tutorials/Windows/Open_ZIP_Files_:_A_Tutorial.html

To use your fonts just keep the folder on your desktop or you can lower it to your toolbar.
Your fonts should show up in any program you want to use them for. :)


Okay so i was wondering, if anyone could tell me how to get "grunge fonts" I dont know if you've ever heard of them. but i dont want to download them off of sites, because im worried about viruses.. So does anyone know where to find them without having to download them?
or if there is a virus free (for sure) site, you could tell me?
thank you. (link)
I am a fontaholic! I use them for making tags and
stationary.

http://grungefonts.8m.com/fonts.htm

This site is safe to download from.


Hello. I'm very nervous. Okay well me and my boyfriend have sex now. I'm 14 and he's 16, and he popped my cherry. We usually have sex, alot. We sometimes don't do it with protection. He pulls it out though. I'm just extremly worried. My period always changes though. It rotates, like some months I get it at the beginning of the month, and some twords the very end. Last month I got it at the beginning so I figured I would this month, I haven't. I'm scared, but I don't know what to do. I've been getting cramps, like you do from the period. Uhh, do you think I could be pregnant? What should I do!!!! Thankss. (= (link)
Using the pull out method is a sure fire way to get
pregnant. According to this article 25% of teens using this method will become pregnant the first month and 85% within the first year.

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm

You need a new rule to protect yourself. No condom =
no sex. The boyfriend can't afford a condom he sure can't afford to support a child. He can walk off if you get pregnant you have to deal with the consequences. So you need to say no to unprotected sex and take care of your own future. :)


Hey,
I just had a question about something concerning the site. I was looking over the FAQ page, and it said that you can know if you are the featured user of the day by clicking on the featured user option, where do i find this option?
Thanks in advance:) (link)
On this page you have to check the box saying you would like to be the featured user someday.

http://www.advicenators.com/settings.php

It won't let you know when you are the featured user
you just get surprised one day. It just picks one at random nobody makes a person the featured user. You also have to be active on the site before it will make you featured user. :)


what are different precautions that i can take to not get pregnant?? (link)
Here is a website that is full of useful information. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm


How do you put a tampon in?? (link)
This site will tell you exactly what to do. :)

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html


i rlly need help.my boyfriend does drugs and i hate it. he's lieing 2 me and saying hes not when i no for a fact he is,wat do i do?? (link)
You find a better boyfriend. :)

Really, if a guy is into drugs that is his girlfriend. It will always come before you and
he will lie, cheat and steal to get it. He will wind up in jail or worse and you are left to pick up the pieces of your shattered life.

As hard as it may be to leave him now, it will only get harder as time passes. If he is caught with drugs while you are with him you could also get in trouble. You don't need that.

I'm sorry I can't tell you something nicer. Just don't let some guy ruin your life. It is not worth it.

Good luck.


I have this big concern about one user. It seems like there's a domestic violence going on in her house and I gave her a number she can call for help. I told her to get out of the house but she's not allowed to. Most people who are in this position are too ashamed and afraid to call for help and I'm afraid she's one of them.

I would truely hate to see this domestic violence rising to a horrib le situation. I was wondering, if I show you the question, if you could send an email to her and help her through out this. (link)
We have all had sad questions like that. About all you can do is advise them to tell someone older and in authority.

If you think it is really bad though you could email dangernerd with your concerns. I don't know if he could do anything but maybe if she has an account we could watch it or something.


okay...so i want to do the lottery& im 14...& my 'parents said theyll get me a ticket..but everytime..we get a chance..they say no....i want to do it cause ive never done it before..and my real mom use to do it all the time...also sometimes ill guess the numbers for next day..& im right about the numbers most the time..twice i guessed the mega millions lottery correctly..and alot of times i guessed the cash 3 right i just started with this checking thing..so im a really good guesser,..also im great with numbers..when i first learned how to count..i learned all by myself..it came to me because i found a pattern..and thats how i figure out the next days lottery..its kind of weird..but i really want to try it for real..and win alot of money...so how can i 'really' convence my mom to get a ticket...or should i try to get sumone to buy me one??? i dont know..please help!!!!!
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Lottery is considered gambling and it is illegal for anyone to sell a person under 18 a ticket. The store would face a very large fine if they did. Plus, if you win you don't get paid.

So, since advising you would be encouraging an illegal act, we can't do it. :)

***EDIT

I suppose you could give your mom the numbers.
Thats up to her. So long as she is the one buying the ticket 'for herself' that is probably OK.


ok so a couple of weeks ago i was at the movies with a couple of friends. one of which i really like. so we started making out and "feeling" on each other. then he undid my belt and i sort of kicked him. and he was like "oh sorry is that too far?" and i said i dunno. so he
re-did my belt (it was the cutest thing ever) and we proceded with the "kissing and feeling". im 14. so my question is...should i have let him into my pants and such? (link)
I don't think so. Go with your first reaction. When you are ready for all that you will know. Until then don't feel pressured into it. A good guy won't go anywhere because of it. :)




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